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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey angel move on you deserve better.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Tart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hey angel move on you deserve better."

Thank you, I'm floored... I'm thinking I need to hide any and all verifications incase the men get offended by them and put off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tart "

I know! Get me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

This happens to my friends too..as if they have 'rights' to you and no one else must dare meet you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More a forum site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

This happens to my friends too..as if they have 'rights' to you and no one else must dare meet you!! "

I'm amazed. Do they / you hide verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pffft , this is no place for promiscuity!

How dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Lol, it's ridiculous but definitely not the first time I've heard of that happening.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Tart

I know! Get me! "

Fancy a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and shag the guy you shagged yesterday in protest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tart"

Sorry bladey you beat me to it...

Still stands

Tart!

((Welcome to the club.. membership is free but the joining ceremony can be a bit rough))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a site for adults, so some men really need to get out of the cot, wake up and smell the coffee i say.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tart

I know! Get me!

Fancy a fuck "

I got laid, I'm done. Ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss....does that mean you have a spare evening??!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go and shag the guy you shagged yesterday in protest "

Great idea

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Wilk he have sex with you if you shag someone different tomorrow?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tart

Sorry bladey you beat me to it...

Still stands

Tart!

((Welcome to the club.. membership is free but the joining ceremony can be a bit rough))"

Oh I joined ages ago, just first shag on *this* profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look on the bright side of it. The one before didn't cancel because you'd had a social

Having met, plenty more wiser fish will come looking that the one that swam away xx

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Tart

I know! Get me!

Fancy a fuck

I got laid, I'm done. Ta "

Bloody time waster. Block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its a site for adults, so some men really need to get out of the cot, wake up and smell the coffee i say....."

Yep. It'd seem so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Dirty laundry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tart

I know! Get me!

Fancy a fuck

I got laid, I'm done. Ta

Bloody time waster. Block "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you telling us?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

Dirty laundry. "

Oh geez. See you in 48 hrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Crazy fool.

Him not you.

Your Snarffff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tart

Sorry bladey you beat me to it...

Still stands

Tart!

((Welcome to the club.. membership is free but the joining ceremony can be a bit rough))

Oh I joined ages ago, just first shag on *this* profile. "

That's the problem with Tart Club... we can never know who the other tarts are in case one of us gets caught... shit..posted in the open forum again

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

If you replied to more than one of his messages..... yes I'm sorry he does own you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you telling us?"

Please ignore my posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you telling us?"

Oooooowww.

Meow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look on the bright side of it. The one before didn't cancel because you'd had a social

Having met, plenty more wiser fish will come looking that the one that swam away xx"

Cheers both, I guess I'm just shocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The level of judgement on this site never ceases to amaze me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

If you replied to more than one of his messages..... yes I'm sorry he does own you "

Silly me.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

It is for us. We don't do drama. Just fun.

If it's not fun . It's no point.

MrsSB

Fancy a fuck op?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! ! "

I'm clearly in good company x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did he expect, did he think your a virgin lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is for us. We don't do drama. Just fun.

If it's not fun . It's no point.

MrsSB

Fancy a fuck op? "

love you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! ! "

Fair point tho!

We all know dances are hussys.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Maybe you're just that good they don't want to share. Take it as a (really weird) compliment. It's never happened to me.

They just cancel because they suddenly can't make it, and I don't get given a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your honest and fun lady enjoy life.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

its the reason why most people (me included) hide their verifications

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

When is everyone going to realise........men also get jealous!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! !

I'm clearly in good company x"

Bunch of tarts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the age old problem of the warm public toilet seat. It's nice to sit on, but you don't really want to know who made it warm.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! !

Fair point tho!

We all know dances are hussys. "

I deny everything. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Id want you to have sex with someone if I was going to meet you . But then I do like greedy girls . And on this isn't a swingers site . Too many of us single guys on here .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe you're just that good they don't want to share. Take it as a (really weird) compliment. It's never happened to me.

They just cancel because they suddenly can't make it, and I don't get given a reason. "

Probably intimidated by that perfect bum of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is all about enjoying hearing the experiences of others, as well as enjoying the experience.......its all about finding what you want through the journey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! !

I'm clearly in good company x

Bunch of tarts "
gotta be a collective for that? A jam of tarts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you telling us?

Please ignore my posts. "

Good tip!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

its the reason why most people (me included) hide their verifications "

I think I'll follow your sensible lead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he sounded like a jealous person keep away.x

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"It is for us. We don't do drama. Just fun.

If it's not fun . It's no point.

MrsSB

Fancy a fuck op?

love you x"

Love you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lady in my friend list who i met got the hump when i met a younger lady a few weeks back and got nasty calling her a young trollop and wished us all the best as i explained its a sex site and she for all her talk never seemed to like that fact and as im a free agent if the opertunity arises where i get to meet someone i might be interested in i will take it and if we have sex then so be it and if she chooses to have lots of meets who am i to judge after all its not pof

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By *az__42Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Your absolutely right, wtf. Some people have issues and unrealistic expectations, especially as this is a swingers site and not a dating site.

Best advice is block, move on, & have lots of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lead to believe this site is only here to debate the pros and cons of bareback sex and to try to scare Sydney University off from stealing photos of badly taken selfies.

You ought to be ashamed of yourself meeting up to have sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well sounds like he probably wasn't worth meeting if he's going to get all funny about stuff like that.

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "
Human nature is odd, very odd. Just viewed your profile wow..!

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid


"Maybe you're just that good they don't want to share. Take it as a (really weird) compliment. It's never happened to me.

They just cancel because they suddenly can't make it, and I don't get given a reason.

Probably intimidated by that perfect bum of yours "

That smell didn't come from me. I promise! I think there's a farm or something nearby...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

its the reason why most people (me included) hide their verifications

I think I'll follow your sensible lead "

1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is?

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By *lbi niceMan
over a year ago

romsley

Brilliant. Absolutely laughed me socks off at this.

The guys off only fools and horses.

A right plonker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm lead to believe this site is only here to debate the pros and cons of bareback sex and to try to scare Sydney University off from stealing photos of badly taken selfies.

You ought to be ashamed of yourself meeting up to have sex! "

Duly noted I'll get that nuns habit...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?"

Please ignore my posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

What you had sex with someone. SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!

Oh for goodness sake what did he expect? It's a swingers site after all and people do meet to have sex!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh well sounds like he probably wasn't worth meeting if he's going to get all funny about stuff like that."

Yes, you're right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a meet just to make the idiot jealous i say, you will have the last laugh then

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By *ryme101Man
over a year ago

wiltshire

No accounting for some people lady t, seems there are a few people on here who are a little possessive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?

Please ignore my posts "

I wasn't addressing you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

Crazy fool.

Him not you.

Your Snarffff

"

That's very nice of you

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I once got called a hussy on a voicemail cos I didn't answer the phone for half an hour one evening - I was at a dance class! !

I'm clearly in good company x

Bunch of tarts gotta be a collective for that? A jam of tarts? "

A gaggle I think. Or maybe a herd in my case

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?

Please ignore my posts

I wasn't addressing you. "

Nevertheless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pmsl.....tell him he's on the wrong site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?

Please ignore my posts

I wasn't addressing you.

Nevertheless "

So please ignore my posts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have a meet just to make the idiot jealous i say, you will have the last laugh then "

Blimey, short notice but I'll do my best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yet again. Half of a story. And would you be white knighting a guy?

Please ignore my posts

I wasn't addressing you.

Nevertheless

So please ignore my posts."

With pleasure

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I thought it was a dating site.......

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is? "

Never show veris?

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By *on DezvousMan
over a year ago

Upson Downs

Might as well have sex with me tomorrow really piss him off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought it was a dating site....... "

I have that I want to date on my profile, but I think it's pretty clear that I'm not looking for monogamy, or maybe it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Meh..what can ya do eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is?

Never show veris?"

Nope... see you would have thought it was...

The 2nd rule of tart club is to ignore the angst, misery and jealously of the old clique as the new clique take over...

Funny old world... wish someone would have me near their clit.... nope I did spell that right

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

How odd .... cutting his nose off to spite his face comes to mind

Ms G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a meet just to make the idiot jealous i say, you will have the last laugh then

Blimey, short notice but I'll do my best "

hahahaha.....make him see red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

end of the day lady tiss your after sex and if you score good for you and if people don't like that fuck em and that's meant literally lol

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

His loss the idiot. You shouldn't have to hide your verifications. Just be you. Your gorgeous and sexy as you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

This happens to my friends too..as if they have 'rights' to you and no one else must dare meet you!!

I'm amazed. Do they / you hide verifications? "
i have had meets where the woman asked me to not leave a veri as men ask why she didn't meet them instead of me

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

And here's me with a message from a woman because she saw my verification on one of her friend's profiles and we will probably meet for fun.

Verifications can work for and against you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

There are some very odd people on here, I guess he has an inferiority complex, or maybe he knows the person you met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How odd .... cutting his nose off to spite his face comes to mind

Ms G"

he just as well cut off his cock with a attitude like that, comes to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!?

its the reason why most people (me included) hide their verifications

I think I'll follow your sensible lead "

it does save a lot of unwanted hassle..

what they don't know, they can't fret over

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is?

Never show veris?

Nope... see you would have thought it was...

The 2nd rule of tart club is to ignore the angst, misery and jealously of the old clique as the new clique take over...

Funny old world... wish someone would have me near their clit.... nope I did spell that right"

Much clique talk this evening. Who are these elusive members?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Have a meet just to make the idiot jealous i say, you will have the last laugh then

Blimey, short notice but I'll do my best "

In the words of John Inman......."I'm free!! "

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters"

Because sometimes it's easier, you end up being called a slag....funny thing is I haven't had a meet on here since the arc was built

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters"

The same reason I avoid the clique here, I don't want poison in my sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

How very dare you, OP!!!!!!!!

(Jokes, he's an idiot!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is?

Never show veris?

Nope... see you would have thought it was...

The 2nd rule of tart club is to ignore the angst, misery and jealously of the old clique as the new clique take over...

Funny old world... wish someone would have me near their clit.... nope I did spell that right

Much clique talk this evening. Who are these elusive members?"

Fecked if I know... I got banned from scouts and since then I get blackballed from EVERY club...the power of the scout movement... it has such a reach

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By *obby248Man
over a year ago

lee on solent

I'd actually find that a turn on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"1st rule of Tart Club. Never show veris.... can you guess what the second rule is?

Never show veris?

Nope... see you would have thought it was...

The 2nd rule of tart club is to ignore the angst, misery and jealously of the old clique as the new clique take over...

Funny old world... wish someone would have me near their clit.... nope I did spell that right

Much clique talk this evening. Who are these elusive members?

Fecked if I know... I got banned from scouts and since then I get blackballed from EVERY club...the power of the scout movement... it has such a reach "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boys are so possessive. He wanted to feel like the only man in the world to you. He wanted his ego stroked more than his cock.

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By *rey NomadMan
over a year ago

Calne


"Boys are so possessive. He wanted to feel like the only man in the world to you. He wanted his ego stroked more than his cock. "

This spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because sometimes it's easier, you end up being called a slag....funny thing is I haven't had a meet on here since the arc was built "
guess I'm a slag too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of day lady tiss do what makes u happy is best advice I can offer and at end of the day if your happy sod the morons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

His loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters"

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Maybe he thought you was a virgin and reading that very has shattered his world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could have told him you'll have a Dettol bath before meeting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters"

I wouldn't give people the satisfaction but to be honest I don't seem to attract that kind of drama so it's easy for me to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me but I only had a social arranged lol. From then on if a guy wants to leave me a verification, I kindly ask him to only mention what I'm like as a person in person. For example...Do I look like my pics? Was he comfortable around me etc etc but leave the sex out of the verification. I see it as it's not only no one else's business, but there are too many judgemental people on this site.

Crazier still I had a woman message me asking what one of my meets was like. She claimed she met him but he refused to kiss her. She wanted to know if he kissed me and what else etc. I was shocked then blocked her. Funny old world is this fab malarkey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure after this thread your inbox will be bulging!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there

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By *kpartystartersCouple
over a year ago

Chester

It happened to us too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there "

You're honoured?

Interestingly enough, is your stance really that much different to the other guys? The fact that you see sex as something to be attained? Or an "honour"?? I mean we all do it as guys, but considering the whole act is so commodified...can we really be surprised that men will feel slighted by women who they think "give it away easily"??

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Lady T after your comment on the girthy thread I looked at your last veri, I presume it was the chap you mention in your OP. Perhaps your coffee meet did to and thought 'omg how can I compete with that?'

You know what I'm saying......

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there

You're honoured?

Interestingly enough, is your stance really that much different to the other guys? The fact that you see sex as something to be attained? Or an "honour"?? I mean we all do it as guys, but considering the whole act is so commodified...can we really be surprised that men will feel slighted by women who they think "give it away easily"??"

Well where have you been hiding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there

You're honoured?

Interestingly enough, is your stance really that much different to the other guys? The fact that you see sex as something to be attained? Or an "honour"?? I mean we all do it as guys, but considering the whole act is so commodified...can we really be surprised that men will feel slighted by women who they think "give it away easily"??"
your missing the point if a lady is willing to look past my defects then yes I am honoured even if it's just a coffee and a chat I proves I'm not a loser and yes I have left a good imprint on that person

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable. "

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"Happened to me but I only had a social arranged lol. From then on if a guy wants to leave me a verification, I kindly ask him to only mention what I'm like as a person in person. For example...Do I look like my pics? Was he comfortable around me etc etc but leave the sex out of the verification. I see it as it's not only no one else's business, but there are too many judgemental people on this site.

Crazier still I had a woman message me asking what one of my meets was like. She claimed she met him but he refused to kiss her. She wanted to know if he kissed me and what else etc. I was shocked then blocked her. Funny old world is this fab malarkey "

and

for the second paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there

You're honoured?

Interestingly enough, is your stance really that much different to the other guys? The fact that you see sex as something to be attained? Or an "honour"?? I mean we all do it as guys, but considering the whole act is so commodified...can we really be surprised that men will feel slighted by women who they think "give it away easily"??your missing the point if a lady is willing to look past my defects then yes I am honoured even if it's just a coffee and a chat I proves I'm not a loser and yes I have left a good imprint on that person"

Defects? You're in good nick. Why do you think its not the womans honour to be graced with YOUR company. This mentality guys have towards sex is kinda perplexing on here. They say there is a "cliqueish" feel to the forum and that alot of it is essentially about appealing to female sensibilities. In fact, swinging is a pretty female centric activity. But there is female centric and self flagellation which seems to be becoming rather commonplace here. We, as guys, have a right to set our own standards and have opinions on female sexuality. Sex-positivism does mean you can have expectations for yourself and your partners...even on a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way I'm thankful

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Jealously is one emotion that should left at home on here ... His loss ....

If only I lived 97 miles closer to OP !!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

I would have met you and asked you to tell me about the sex - I am a perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site ."

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I hear stuff like this I'm so glad I'm here as part of a couple, therefore don't have to put up with possessiveness from my lovers.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site ."

Nooo u got it all wrong... ur first meet is in the registry office at 9am on a Monday morning!!! Get it right!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?"

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I hear stuff like this I'm so glad I'm here as part of a couple, therefore don't have to put up with possessiveness from my lovers.

Mrs"

Watch out, don't be a smug couple now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would it have been the same if it was a dildo or a woman with a strap on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm astonished. Are you saying you have not been saving yourself just for him?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count ."

No but yours do,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

No but yours do, "

Oh, we would be long past relationship then. Which school did you want to send Stephanie into again?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

No but yours do,

Oh, we would be long past relationship then. Which school did you want to send Stephanie into again? "

Whichever you like. You are the boss here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

No but yours do,

Oh, we would be long past relationship then. Which school did you want to send Stephanie into again?

Whichever you like. You are the boss here."

I believe the mother should have a say in her daughter's education, I'm a gentleman like that.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

No but yours do,

Oh, we would be long past relationship then. Which school did you want to send Stephanie into again?

Whichever you like. You are the boss here.

I believe the mother should have a say in her daughter's education, I'm a gentleman like that."

Not in the bedroom though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought the first meet is NSA, 2nd is FWB, 3rd being relationship and 4th marriage.

I must be on the wrong site .

Wait are we in a relationship now? Can we carry on swinging?

We're not even NSA. Your fantasies don't count .

No but yours do,

Oh, we would be long past relationship then. Which school did you want to send Stephanie into again?

Whichever you like. You are the boss here.

I believe the mother should have a say in her daughter's education, I'm a gentleman like that.

Not in the bedroom though "

You promised not to tell anybody . I couldn't help myself when you put on that avocado costume .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc? "

Fuckin' hope so or I've been doing something very wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go and shag the guy you shagged yesterday in protest

Great idea "

Seconded

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

How very dare you have sex with someone else whilst planning to meet HIM? Don't you realise that he wanted to propose to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable. "

That's a good point about tact, however there not much room for that nicety on somewhere like fab. And nor should there be. However, I won't be showing verifications in future to avoid this happening again. Oh, and although the social (and he knew it was only a social) was today, two days after the other meet, it wouldn't matter of it are only an hour after.

You seem to be putting the blame for his insecurities, on women (me in this instance) being sexual beings, however they choose to express that. His insecurities are just that.

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

I don't blame you for not posting veris they can cause more grief than they're worth at times, I for one wouldn't have been put off because someone had a meet prior to me and all I can say is that it's his loss. X

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable.

That's a good point about tact, however there not much room for that nicety on somewhere like fab. And nor should there be. However, I won't be showing verifications in future to avoid this happening again. Oh, and although the social (and he knew it was only a social) was today, two days after the other meet, it wouldn't matter of it are only an hour after.

You seem to be putting the blame for his insecurities, on women (me in this instance) being sexual beings, however they choose to express that. His insecurities are just that.

Apologies if I've read you wrong ."

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I hear stuff like this I'm so glad I'm here as part of a couple, therefore don't have to put up with possessiveness from my lovers.

Mrs

Watch out, don't be a smug couple now! "

Oh I'm not being smug, I was touching on some observations that I've made, that as a married woman I can get away with more. Eg can have multiple lovers without it being questioned or there being any expectations, because ultimately I'm married so these men know from day one there is no point in pursing more, when my husband is the Alpha in the arrangement. Whereas with a single lady, maybe there is a psychological instinct to become the Alpha male. All boils down to our primeval instincts.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't this match.com?? Shit I'm on the wrong site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Yep. Sounds about right. I've heard this goes on and just about figuring out the amount of jealousy around.

It amazes me. I understand what swinging is. Or at least I thought I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter? "

Agree with both these statements.

Don't change your ideals and values because others place expectations on them. Be you.

If they don't get that then don't meet them. It's a great filter.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Actually joking apart, there still remains that double standard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't this match.com?? Shit I'm on the wrong site ."

They way some people act you'd think it was wouldn't you?

Honestly, the mind boggles at the amount of people who don't get what swinging is actually about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had similar.

I do have some verifications listed, because they're lovely. Just not the summary any more.

I had a couple of sly comments about something and it took me a while to realise why... my most recent veri took a week to arrive. So when I said I was home with the kids people made their own assumptions.

I think that there are a lot of fragile egos here, as anywhere. I returned to this site realising that, and that it's not my place to make them better. As a result I seem to meet beautiful people with their own gentle confidence which is the sexiest thing of all.

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable.

That's a good point about tact, however there not much room for that nicety on somewhere like fab. And nor should there be. However, I won't be showing verifications in future to avoid this happening again. Oh, and although the social (and he knew it was only a social) was today, two days after the other meet, it wouldn't matter of it are only an hour after.

You seem to be putting the blame for his insecurities, on women (me in this instance) being sexual beings, however they choose to express that. His insecurities are just that.

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter? "

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable.

That's a good point about tact, however there not much room for that nicety on somewhere like fab. And nor should there be. However, I won't be showing verifications in future to avoid this happening again. Oh, and although the social (and he knew it was only a social) was today, two days after the other meet, it wouldn't matter of it are only an hour after.

You seem to be putting the blame for his insecurities, on women (me in this instance) being sexual beings, however they choose to express that. His insecurities are just that.

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter? "

Interesting points here, but I realise the OPs situation is different from mine. For us we would not dream of hiding verifications to make us look less promiscuous. We're swingers, so as far as we are concerned it is normal to have sex with a variety of people. The majority of our verifications are party/club related, and everybody we know who attend parties tends to have similar verifications. It would be considered totally bizarre to get uppity about soneone having sex with one else on the same night at a party. However I appreciate that outside the party/club scene, the concept of sharing is not so understood. I do independently have a number of off-on lovers. I've no idea if they mind having to share me, and it's never been said. And I have to share them too with other women. We won't hide our verifications in order to preserve someone's feelings, and I think I would rather make it obvious what the deal is. And those who don't like having to share me can then go and join a dating site if they want an exclusive arrangement. The only thing I have done to be considerate to someone's feelings, was delay the timing of a verification. I once squeezed 2 men in on 2 consecutive days. Although they both knew I had other lovers, I felt they didn't need to know that the timing of meets was rather close on that occasion. I don't know what I would do if I were single though.

Mrs

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over a year ago

Everyone registered on this site has different perspectives on what swinging is, many profiles even say they are not swingers! We would guess that some people are put off by our many verifications for example. The point is it all works as a great filter, those that don't match your expectations of swinging are people you don't really want to meeet x

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable.

That's a good point about tact, however there not much room for that nicety on somewhere like fab. And nor should there be. However, I won't be showing verifications in future to avoid this happening again. Oh, and although the social (and he knew it was only a social) was today, two days after the other meet, it wouldn't matter of it are only an hour after.

You seem to be putting the blame for his insecurities, on women (me in this instance) being sexual beings, however they choose to express that. His insecurities are just that.

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him "

Fucking a man with a fragile ego.....doesn't sound like a great combination to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

Agree with both these statements.

Don't change your ideals and values because others place expectations on them. Be you.

If they don't get that then don't meet them. It's a great filter."

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT........

.........

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him "

Op. your profile somewhere says your 'looking to date'

Maybe a guy expected more from you. Maybe he's looking for more than swinging?

Just my pennies worth.

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable. "

A lot of what you said makes sense.

Within normal circumstance. Swinging is not normal circumstance (by general societies standards, morals and upbringing)

The idea of swinging is to break from those chains, open the mind, and freely explore the world of sex within ones owns preferences and standards, and within the social circle of the swinging scene, such things are going to be hugely diverse.

So in that respect, my honest opinion is, if people don't get that, respect that, understand that, or cannot judge that, of themselves, or others, then they are absolutely in the wrong scene. And I would say that is true of many many people on here who don't break free of the chains, bringing their own expectations, standards and morals and expecting such of others.

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT........

.........

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him

Op. your profile somewhere says your 'looking to date'

Maybe a guy expected more from you. Maybe he's looking for more than swinging?

Just my pennies worth. "

Lady Tissingtons profile also says she not looking for monogomy.

In my book that suggests dating none exclusively?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own i suppose but if someone can't handle the fact yes you have had sex with other people and yes u have got verifications that's their hang up deal with it me personally I don't care of u got 1 veri or 100s it's none of my business all that matters is that u have let me into your life by choice and I'm honoured to be there

You're honoured?

Interestingly enough, is your stance really that much different to the other guys? The fact that you see sex as something to be attained? Or an "honour"?? I mean we all do it as guys, but considering the whole act is so commodified...can we really be surprised that men will feel slighted by women who they think "give it away easily"??"

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over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT........

.........

Apologies if I've read you wrong .

I don't think he's blaming, so much as saying men's egos can be more fragile than we think sometimes.

So looking at it from another perspective, if you don't want to deal with guys who are a bit sensitive, then maybe having your veris up is a good filter?

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him

Op. your profile somewhere says your 'looking to date'

Maybe a guy expected more from you. Maybe he's looking for more than swinging?

Just my pennies worth.

Lady Tissingtons profile also says she not looking for monogomy.

In my book that suggests dating none exclusively? "

whilst this is true we don't know the conversations that have taken place between her & the guy, maybe something was said that has been misconstrued.....

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over a year ago


"The idea of swinging is to break from those chains, open the mind, and freely explore the world of sex within ones owns preferences and standards, and within the social circle of the swinging scene, such things are going to be hugely diverse.

So in that respect, my honest opinion is, if people don't get that, respect that, understand that, or cannot judge that, of themselves, or others, then they are absolutely in the wrong scene. And I would say that is true of many many people on here who don't break free of the chains, bringing their own expectations, standards and morals and expecting such of others."

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whilst this is true we don't know the conversations that have taken place between her & the guy, maybe something was said that has been misconstrued....."

Of course, but at the moment that is supposition, where one can and should only base opinion on fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but why hide your veris at end of day if your happy with who u have met why pander to the haters

Because women on here wax about how comfortable they are with the swinging lifestyle but alot are not. Especially the single ones. I tend to find the most sane are the couples on here.

But, still, OP has a point. No guy should really be expecting chaste on here. Men always claim to "love sluts" until the moment those same sluts fail to conform to their own narrow view of "good" sexual expression.

At the same time though, I tend to find many women still dont really understand the thing you tend to learn as a guy when dealing with others...TACT.

No one really wants to hear about you banging other guys/girls..they especially dont want to hear it before meeting with you for a social meet. Contrary to popular post modernist opinion, sexuality is complex and can evoke irrational emotional responses in both sexes. The best thing to do is negate them, the problem with the faux sex positivism you find extolled on sites like these is that so much female expression seems to be obsessed with excessive baiting, ridiculous physical expectations or shaming ("I only want 10 FOOT DONGS!!!", "6ft+ only!!!", "NO WHITES/BLACKS/ASIANS"). A very false idea that sexual exploration for women must replicate the most vulgar aspects of "lad like" macho cultural expectations. So...yeah, a guy will get put off by hearing about you just having another meet the day before. Irrational it may be, but its understandable.

Its just like the many women on here who flake just before a meet. Its probably irrational, but considering the relative danger involved in meeting strangers on a sex site...its understandable. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whilst this is true we don't know the conversations that have taken place between her & the guy, maybe something was said that has been misconstrued.....

Of course, but at the moment that is supposition, where one can and should only base opinion on fact."

Did you just say the word 'fact' an a fab forum post?

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over a year ago


"whilst this is true we don't know the conversations that have taken place between her & the guy, maybe something was said that has been misconstrued.....

Of course, but at the moment that is supposition, where one can and should only base opinion on fact.

Did you just say the word 'fact' an a fab forum post? "

The man in question might read this & enlighten us all to his actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I see your point, however I'm not after a relationship, so it doesn't really matter of the guy I fancy has a fragile ego, I want to fuck him, not marry him "

Why post at all about it then?

He had a fragile ego. You didn't meet him. Move on to the next guy you want to fuck?

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over a year ago


"whilst this is true we don't know the conversations that have taken place between her & the guy, maybe something was said that has been misconstrued.....

Of course, but at the moment that is supposition, where one can and should only base opinion on fact.

Did you just say the word 'fact' an a fab forum post?

The man in question might read this & enlighten us all to his actions "

If it was me, I'd be wise enough to steer clear of this thread.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Op. your profile somewhere says your 'looking to date'

Maybe a guy expected more from you. Maybe he's looking for more than swinging?

Just my pennies worth.

Lady Tissingtons profile also says she not looking for monogomy.

In my book that suggests dating none exclusively? "

Non-exclusive dating? Tbf that doesn't sound like swinging either, that sounds like something else entirely...

(but I'm sure I'm wrong, natch)

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking el if a joe blog bloke wrote this he would get shot down!

DOUBLE STANDARDS MUCH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure we're all entitled to cancel a meet for whatever reasons we like. If others choose to take it as an affront, that's their prerogative.

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"I'm sure we're all entitled to cancel a meet for whatever reasons we like. If others choose to take it as an affront, that's their prerogative."

Not if you're cancelling on a woman...

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"I'm sure we're all entitled to cancel a meet for whatever reasons we like. If others choose to take it as an affront, that's their prerogative.

Not if you're cancelling on a woman... "

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Did someone leave a saucer of milk in this thread! Jesus.

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over a year ago


"

Op. your profile somewhere says your 'looking to date'

Maybe a guy expected more from you. Maybe he's looking for more than swinging?

Just my pennies worth.

Lady Tissingtons profile also says she not looking for monogomy.

In my book that suggests dating none exclusively?

Non-exclusive dating? Tbf that doesn't sound like swinging either, that sounds like something else entirely...

(but I'm sure I'm wrong, natch)

Mr ddc"

I would call it NSA dating. I tried it 15 years ago, when I was single, on a website that was popular back then called Dating Direct. I was honest and said that I didn't want a relationship, but I did find there was an expectation for exclusivity. I don't know what I would do now if I were single. The dating sites are presumably much the same, in that exclusivity is expected, but with the sex/swinging sites very few men want to date. And when the do it seems they start demanding exclusivity. Maybe the problem with one-on-one arrangements is that men are fine if it's just sex, but if it's more than that, i.e. a trip to the pub is thrown in, their Alpha male in them rises and they start to want exclusivity.

Mrs

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Mr ddc

I would call it NSA dating. I tried it 15 years ago, when I was single, on a website that was popular back then called Dating Direct. I was honest and said that I didn't want a relationship, but I did find there was an expectation for exclusivity. I don't know what I would do now if I were single. The dating sites are presumably much the same, in that exclusivity is expected, but with the sex/swinging sites very few men want to date. And when the do it seems they start demanding exclusivity. Maybe the problem with one-on-one arrangements is that men are fine if it's just sex, but if it's more than that, i.e. a trip to the pub is thrown in, their Alpha male in them rises and they start to want exclusivity.

Mrs"

It's a fine line, to me it sounded a lot like [thread closed]

Oh, buggar

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"You know, where the purpose is actually to have sex with people you like, without commitment etc?

A guy I have never met but had a social arranged with tomorrow, has cancelled because I had sex with someone yesterday! Wtf?!? "

Oh well! Plenty more fish in the sea...

This type of behaviour goes on alot. Women and couples are just as gulity of it.

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