FabSwingers.com forum: Can Fab cheapen intimacy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was laid with my current lover the other day, really studying his features - and it dawned on me that's maybe a level of intimacy that most people could find difficult to find on here, unless you find a relationship in here.

I kind of feel that being on Fab without meeting or without having sex elsewhere could give someone a skewed view of sex too... if I thought I wasn't cut out for sexual meets anymore, I know I'm not now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what you want from a meet I guess and ensuring you meet people who are after the same.

I really enjoy sensual, gentle sex. Lots of kissing and teasing and so on. If someone appears to want rough and ready, throw me round a room sex, I won't meet them.

I've had some amazing experiences from here and some spectacularly shit ones that made me more strict with my criteria.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think I've become much more jaded around fab and sex for a long time hence why I haven't met anyone on here for fuck knows how long...I do miss the intimacy of a loving relationship...I'm a touchy feely and very affectionate...I understand why the majority of people use fab...to get sexual pleasure but without the commitment of a relationship..Don't get me wrong I'm horny as fuck at the moment but my head ain't in the game so wouldn't want to inflict that on some poor souls who's come on here for fun...

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I think it's different for couples. I have Mrs ddc to be intimate with, so we're only looking for sex, fun and a laugh when we meet others. (plus the practicalities of doing things you can't do when there's only two of you)

That's why when we swing with single people I feel we have to be especially sensitive to their needs, and why meeting married-singles can be simpler: because you know they have someone else to go home to.

(if that makes sense)

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all of the above make perfect sense to me. it hasn't skewed my thoughtson sex more like relationships, the amount of people playin behind a partners back, I can see I might find trust an issue now. I love long,lingering meets with lots of kisses etc, the "i will walk in,do you and leave" brigade just leaves me cold.

double edged sword sometimes this kind of site!!!

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I was laid with my current lover the other day, really studying his features - and it dawned on me that's maybe a level of intimacy that most people could find difficult to find on here, unless you find a relationship in here.

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fab is just a game we play when we want to .[not when others want us too] thats a pure simple thrillseek sex game .our time for us is top the same as most couples on here we guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I've become much more jaded around fab and sex for a long time hence why I haven't met anyone on here for fuck knows how long...I do miss the intimacy of a loving relationship...I'm a touchy feely and very affectionate...I understand why the majority of people use fab...to get sexual pleasure but without the commitment of a relationship..Don't get me wrong I'm horny as fuck at the moment but my head ain't in the game so wouldn't want to inflict that on some poor souls who's come on here for fun..."

Grr

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Some meets can be intense, depends on the connection. Also the reason I prefer to meet with fab friends rather than random meets. You get to know what each enjoys and become more intimate. Boundaries can be pushed and communication is easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think fab is whatever you want it to be. I guess it depends on what you mean by intimate. For me intimacy was entwined with love for a person. That was what made sex intimate. I'm sure for other people it's different.

Personally fab would not spoil intimacy, yet I can see how it could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't particularly want that kind of intimacy from a relative stranger from here.

I only do that with one of my regular partners occasionally, and it's nothing romantic.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think that there's such a good range of people here, each with needs that differ over time, that it's possible to get a broad depth of experience and fulfilment here.

Sure, quick slam dunk shag expectations from some people will abound but taking time to filter and to choose wisely - without rushing into action with people you've hardly communicated much with - will pay off with a different type of sexually focused relationship.

Some people will say what they think you want to hear but not really want to deliver the goods. They're usually fairly obvious. I've had fbs that I've met several times a week over several years - but we've not dated traditionally. The tenderness and care can still be part of this - and you'll know each other well enough to meet when you're not at your best.

We just have the chance to meet people here who can - if they choose - be more honest and open, than in many situations where you might meet new people. It's ok being upfront if you have a special taste for something, like a greedy girl or bukkake experience, or getting lust satisfied where there's no romantic thing going on. People can be open to accepting you as you are.

Some here do want longer term relationships too - so there's opportunity in that area. Many here say they like to take breaks from time to time. We each find own way here - it's a microcosm of how we each master our own lives.

It's always good though to take stock, to reevaluate what it is that we want and to align our lifestyle and approach, so that we're more likely going to be satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's different for couples. I have Mrs ddc to be intimate with, so we're only looking for sex, fun and a laugh when we meet others. (plus the practicalities of doing things you can't do when there's only two of you)

(if that makes sense)

Mr ddc"

Yep. ...i would agree with this. I prefer meeting attached people for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on what you're looking for, how you meet & who you meet.

The level of intimacy I shared with someone this week ticked all those boxes & for me that's what makes my meets special.

It's not for everyone but it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A matter of perception but I don't find intamcy in swinging, maybe others do but it takes me a long time and a lot of trust to allow that. Sex although an intimate act, doesn't always involve intamcy. Intamcy broken down to in-to-me-see, how much do we allow that happen here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've become closer and more intimate with my wife (who doesn't know I'm here) because I've taken the pressure off her completely.

With the very few ladies that I meet on here, I get very close and would describe what we do as close and intimate.

So no, in every way, I'd disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends on what you're looking for, how you meet & who you meet.

The level of intimacy I shared with someone this week ticked all those boxes & for me that's what makes my meets special.

It's not for everyone but it works for me."

The intimacy i share with my meets doesn't come anywhere close to the same sort of intimacy i share with my hubby. But it's certainly there nonetheless.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"It depends what you want from a meet I guess and ensuring you meet people who are after the same.

I really enjoy sensual, gentle sex. Lots of kissing and teasing and so on. If someone appears to want rough and ready, throw me round a room sex, I won't meet them.

I've had some amazing experiences from here and some spectacularly shit ones that made me more strict with my criteria. "

I can relate to both of these. You find the person that suits your needs.

A good mix of both works for me. I enjoy equally the intimacy of sharing a bath/shower and being pinned against a wall.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

(if that makes sense)

Mr ddc"

Makes absolute sense to us. We, like yourselves no doubt put real effort into ensuring the single person is equally if not more so catered for than ourselves, it just feels right to do so for the exact same reasons you've explained. We've not openly met married singles yet, something else we need to consider in our decision making.

Him

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