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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? " this.. the trawling up of a rape victims sexual history is rightly not deemed relevant unless as in this case it is 'exceptional'.. would imagine if the woman in this case had made other accusations then her history and behaviours would be relevant but each case surely must be judged on the evidence relating to the allegation in question.. bit like saying she can't have said no to the 10th guy that week because she had said yes to the other 9.. | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after " | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after " Am I mistaken with the bit where she apparently stated, or gobbed off on book face about what car she was going to buy with her pay out?? I am sure this was reported just after this all kicked off! | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after " To be fair she never said she was raped just that she had no memory of it. I don't really understand why some seem to need to vilify her. From what I understand it's more to do with changes in the law that put more emphasis on positive consent. Thankfully the days of 'why didn't you fight back more?' are behind us | |||
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"The 2 new witnesses allowed to testify at the retrial who were not allowed to testify at the original trial had also been sexual partners of the girl making the accusation, one of them fucked her 2 days before the night she had sex with C Macdonald and Evans , (so that's 3 guys in 2 days) and the other fucked her not long after Macdonald and Evans and presumably not long after she had accused Evans of rape, so she was hardly sat at home being a "victim" and mentally scarred by the whole incident of having 2's up in the hotel that night when within days she out fucking someone else. Couldn't remember what happened that night........ arrived at her friends house in tears....... what's that odour I can smell? Oh yes a great big load of bovine excrement....." I haven't read thread one. I haven't read or heard the latest except that he has been found not guilty. This post , however , seems to be saying that as the woman had sex with other men before and after Evans that she must be loose and therefore no one can possibly be accused of raping such a fucking slut. I do hope im wrong. | |||
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"Put the whole thing about trawling up sexual history into context for a moment. Just imagine if it was one of the forumites here who was assaulted in such an inebriated state. The defence then find out that this person regularly meets different people for sex and even goes to swingers clubs. This is then used in court to discredit the victim. If that was you how would you feel that you can be treated in such a way? How would you feel if people think that it's ok that you were assaulted because after all, you go out and have sex with random strangers? Also, a jury cannot be told of previous convictions or accusations during a trial but can be told about the sexual exploits of the victim. Is this fair? I acted as juror on a rape trial and before sentencing we were told of this man's previous convictions for sexual assault and a previous withdrawn accusation of rape. When told we were all extremely relieved that we gave the verdict that we did" I believe 2003 criminal act allows for 'bad character' evidence in which previous convictions can be introduced by only under certain circumstances. | |||
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"The girl never said she'd been raped. She just said she couldn't remember. How that can translate to a rape case in court is astounding. Btw those who insist some police never make things up or exert pressure on witnesses or "victims" is sadly living in cloud cuckoo land. I bet the girl never knew whether she'd given consent or not by the time they finished taking her "statement" (ie what they wanted her to say)." So if she was too d*unk to rember consenting to sex, then she is too d*unk to consent... That equals rape... A not guilty verdict, means they were found not guilty, it doesn't mean that they didn't do it... There have been plenty of people found guilty of crimes they didn't commit but I bet there have been a lot more guilty people found not guilty... | |||
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"Put the whole thing about trawling up sexual history into context for a moment. Just imagine if it was one of the forumites here who was assaulted in such an inebriated state. The defence then find out that this person regularly meets different people for sex and even goes to swingers clubs. This is then used in court to discredit the victim. If that was you how would you feel that you can be treated in such a way? How would you feel if people think that it's ok that you were assaulted because after all, you go out and have sex with random strangers? Also, a jury cannot be told of previous convictions or accusations during a trial but can be told about the sexual exploits of the victim. Is this fair? I acted as juror on a rape trial and before sentencing we were told of this man's previous convictions for sexual assault and a previous withdrawn accusation of rape. When told we were all extremely relieved that we gave the verdict that we did" My understanding is the witnesses testified because the situations and mannerisms of consensual sex were similar in all three cases. The point wasn't top diminish her character but to compare specific actions and phrases. If anyone looks at that evidence and concludes she's couldn't have been raped because she had sex again soon after is a fucking moron and can get right in the fucking sea. I do hope that this evidence wasn't bought. | |||
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"Put the whole thing about trawling up sexual history into context for a moment. Just imagine if it was one of the forumites here who was assaulted in such an inebriated state. The defence then find out that this person regularly meets different people for sex and even goes to swingers clubs. This is then used in court to discredit the victim. If that was you how would you feel that you can be treated in such a way? How would you feel if people think that it's ok that you were assaulted because after all, you go out and have sex with random strangers? Also, a jury cannot be told of previous convictions or accusations during a trial but can be told about the sexual exploits of the victim. Is this fair? I acted as juror on a rape trial and before sentencing we were told of this man's previous convictions for sexual assault and a previous withdrawn accusation of rape. When told we were all extremely relieved that we gave the verdict that we did" Some extremely valid points and while I've been hearing all morning that this is an unusual case and bringing up a victim's sexual habits is exceptional, the same tactic will no doubt be used in future by the defence in rape cases because it was a Court of Appeal decision and therefore deemed higher law! | |||
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"I'm confused? If she didn't report him for rape because she couldn't remember what happened what did she report him for or why were policy involved" She went to the police because she lost her handbag or something. The police were concerned about her lack of recollection about the evening a so started their investigation. Or so I'm lead to believe. | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after " The case was pursued by the CPS not the woman in question and it was based on the legal matter of consent not on ghe wonan playing victim ... People should really read up on things before they comment | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after The case was pursued by the CPS not the woman in question and it was based on the legal matter of consent not on ghe wonan playing victim ... People should really read up on things before they comment " So why didn't she tell the cps or the police that she didn't want it to go to trial ? | |||
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"So can she remember giving consent to the other guy in the threesome? Did he get charged????" Yes he did , and was found not guilty . | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after The case was pursued by the CPS not the woman in question and it was based on the legal matter of consent not on ghe wonan playing victim ... People should really read up on things before they comment So why didn't she tell the cps or the police that she didn't want it to go to trial ?" They dont need her permission to prosecute ... Which is where i think this all started to go wrong ...both lives have been ruined and i believe its because the police knew this case would pick up a press following and it would heighten awareness of "consent" | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after The case was pursued by the CPS not the woman in question and it was based on the legal matter of consent not on ghe wonan playing victim ... People should really read up on things before they comment So why didn't she tell the cps or the police that she didn't want it to go to trial ?" Because it is not always down to the alleged victim. A victim can be ordered to court or face jail time... | |||
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"The 2 new witnesses allowed to testify at the retrial who were not allowed to testify at the original trial had also been sexual partners of the girl making the accusation, one of them fucked her 2 days before the night she had sex with C Macdonald and Evans , (so that's 3 guys in 2 days) and the other fucked her not long after Macdonald and Evans and presumably not long after she had accused Evans of rape, so she was hardly sat at home being a "victim" and mentally scarred by the whole incident of having 2's up in the hotel that night when within days she out fucking someone else. Couldn't remember what happened that night........ arrived at her friends house in tears....... what's that odour I can smell? Oh yes a great big load of bovine excrement....." Way to go with victim blaming! Her sex life really has nothing to do with whether she could get raped or not. | |||
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"To have sex with other you need consent simple if she never give consent it's rape simple...if she slept with a 1000 people before and all had consent it's her right to nobody should judge her past...but if ched Evans wasn't a footballer do you think he would get not guilty People with loads of money think their a different justice system and to be fair their is...look at all cover up gagging orders always the elite rich...their no fair justice " So how do you explain the original guilty verdict when he was still a footballer? | |||
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" Way to go with victim blaming! Her sex life really has nothing to do with whether she could get raped or not. " Sorry, but it actually does. Once again "advocates" seem obsessed with poisoning the narrative by coming up with complete nonsense like these. Her sex life has EVERYTHING to do with and, quite frankly, any lawyer worth his salt will tell any witness/complainant that promiscuity will be looked down upon provided the evidence is admissible in court. And why was said evidence admissible? Because, quite frankly, sexuality and sexual expression does not exist in a vacuum. Peoples experience and decision making will color any accusations they make or judgments against them. Especially when it has been suggested that the plaintiff made very, very similar accusations before. | |||
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" Way to go with victim blaming! Her sex life really has nothing to do with whether she could get raped or not. Sorry, but it actually does. Once again "advocates" seem obsessed with poisoning the narrative by coming up with complete nonsense like these. Her sex life has EVERYTHING to do with and, quite frankly, any lawyer worth his salt will tell any witness/complainant that promiscuity will be looked down upon provided the evidence is admissible in court. And why was said evidence admissible? Because, quite frankly, sexuality and sexual expression does not exist in a vacuum. Peoples experience and decision making will color any accusations they make or judgments against them. Especially when it has been suggested that the plaintiff made very, very similar accusations before. " | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after " Rape is about power, when you are raped your are scared and violated it's not sex and not fun | |||
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" Way to go with victim blaming! Her sex life really has nothing to do with whether she could get raped or not. Sorry, but it actually does. Once again "advocates" seem obsessed with poisoning the narrative by coming up with complete nonsense like these. Her sex life has EVERYTHING to do with and, quite frankly, any lawyer worth his salt will tell any witness/complainant that promiscuity will be looked down upon provided the evidence is admissible in court. And why was said evidence admissible? Because, quite frankly, sexuality and sexual expression does not exist in a vacuum. Peoples experience and decision making will color any accusations they make or judgments against them. Especially when it has been suggested that the plaintiff made very, very similar accusations before. " So she's had sex before therefore she's up for it with everyone - really ? Are we in the middle ages | |||
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"To have sex with other you need consent simple if she never give consent it's rape simple...if she slept with a 1000 people before and all had consent it's her right to nobody should judge her past...but if ched Evans wasn't a footballer do you think he would get not guilty People with loads of money think their a different justice system and to be fair their is...look at all cover up gagging orders always the elite rich...their no fair justice " | |||
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"To have sex with other you need consent simple if she never give consent it's rape simple...if she slept with a 1000 people before and all had consent it's her right to nobody should judge her past...but if ched Evans wasn't a footballer do you think he would get not guilty People with loads of money think their a different justice system and to be fair their is...look at all cover up gagging orders always the elite rich...their no fair justice " | |||
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"I'd like to hear what Jessica Ennis Hill has to say now he's been acquitted ..... " I would hope she says nothing. She doesn't have to demean herself to talking about Evans anymore. | |||
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"Funny how the so called "feminists" and "progressives" seem to be allowing us to sleepwalk into a new age where due process no longer counts but the feelings and emotions of the "victim". The case fell apart because of an unreliable witness...only in rape cases do you have delusional, broken women (masquerading as feminists) here to proclaim that any and all rape accusations "MUST BE BELIEVED". What on gods green earth is happening in the west? The very tenet of our judicial process (in a country where the rule of law is respected) is one that dictates that all accusers are innocent until proven guilty. The evidence in the first trial was flimsy at best and even prior to the conviction the fleet street rags seemed incessesant on providing their housewife readership with a convenient boogeyman. Everything about Ched Evans strikes me as odious. A clear lack of self awareness and decorum, the price he will pay will be a stagnant career if he should ever fall foul of his girlfriends family (who, for some reason, have been bankrolling him). BUT that does not mean he should be languishing in prison for a d*unken, poorly conceived liaison with a damaged attention seeker. The fact that post modernist female centric mainstream rhetoric should be worrying...for all of us. The institutions (and respect for them) is one of the few things left holding this society together. " . This guy nailed it.... Case closed! | |||
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"Funny how the so called "feminists" and "progressives" seem to be allowing us to sleepwalk into a new age where due process no longer counts but the feelings and emotions of the "victim". The case fell apart because of an unreliable witness...only in rape cases do you have delusional, broken women (masquerading as feminists) here to proclaim that any and all rape accusations "MUST BE BELIEVED". What on gods green earth is happening in the west? The very tenet of our judicial process (in a country where the rule of law is respected) is one that dictates that all accusers are innocent until proven guilty. The evidence in the first trial was flimsy at best and even prior to the conviction the fleet street rags seemed incessesant on providing their housewife readership with a convenient boogeyman. Everything about Ched Evans strikes me as odious. A clear lack of self awareness and decorum, the price he will pay will be a stagnant career if he should ever fall foul of his girlfriends family (who, for some reason, have been bankrolling him). BUT that does not mean he should be languishing in prison for a d*unken, poorly conceived liaison with a damaged attention seeker. The fact that post modernist female centric mainstream rhetoric should be worrying...for all of us. The institutions (and respect for them) is one of the few things left holding this society together. . This guy nailed it.... Case closed!" | |||
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"Funny how the so called "feminists" and "progressives" seem to be allowing us to sleepwalk into a new age where due process no longer counts but the feelings and emotions of the "victim". The case fell apart because of an unreliable witness...only in rape cases do you have delusional, broken women (masquerading as feminists) here to proclaim that any and all rape accusations "MUST BE BELIEVED". What on gods green earth is happening in the west? The very tenet of our judicial process (in a country where the rule of law is respected) is one that dictates that all accusers are innocent until proven guilty. The evidence in the first trial was flimsy at best and even prior to the conviction the fleet street rags seemed incessesant on providing their housewife readership with a convenient boogeyman. Everything about Ched Evans strikes me as odious. A clear lack of self awareness and decorum, the price he will pay will be a stagnant career if he should ever fall foul of his girlfriends family (who, for some reason, have been bankrolling him). BUT that does not mean he should be languishing in prison for a d*unken, poorly conceived liaison with a damaged attention seeker. The fact that post modernist female centric mainstream rhetoric should be worrying...for all of us. The institutions (and respect for them) is one of the few things left holding this society together. " I'd like to disagree with this but... nice tits | |||
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"Been a discussion on radio today....couple of high ranking barristers having a "debate". Turns out that during the session with Ched she was shouting "Oh yeah, harder, harder" . Even without the "new" evidence....if this can't be taken by a guy as consent...then wtf can?" Crikey, so how did he get accused of rape? | |||
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"Been a discussion on radio today....couple of high ranking barristers having a "debate". Turns out that during the session with Ched she was shouting "Oh yeah, harder, harder" . Even without the "new" evidence....if this can't be taken by a guy as consent...then wtf can? Crikey, so how did he get accused of rape?" She never made a complaint. Police decided to peruse it when she went to report a missing handbag. They asked who she had sex with....she couldn't remember who it was so they assumed there was no consent! Scarily similar scenarios on here! I had a couple turn up at mine last year. She came in with hubby and she was wearing scanties under a big coat and blindfolded. The blindfold was on until she left.....did I have consent?..... frightening isn't it? And you see plenty similar meets advertised on here....particularly in hotels. "Wife will be tied up and blindfolded...., you come in, fuck her and leave" type thing! . Maybe it's the police who should be answering questions? | |||
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"That's seems a bit of a medieval point of view. She'd had sex before and had it after so she couldn't be raped in between? If it's true, then I'd find it odd that someone who has been raped would want sex with someone else so soon after Rape is about power, when you are raped your are scared and violated it's not sex and not fun" And at no time was this part of any evidence in this case..... | |||
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"It scares the **** out of me that more than one person on this thread thinks that promiscuity can be used as evidence that a rape didn't take place. So all us swingers are basically fair game, come on, you can do what you want and get away with it! Remind me not to meet these guys. I had a scary as fuck experience in a hotel room with a guy from Fab. I didn't go to the police. I had what he probably thinks was consensual sex with him because I was too scared to leave the hotel room, and didn't want to make him angry because I didn't know what he'd do. Oh and he was a serving member of the police force. Basically not much I could've done. I had no evidence of what he did either. And from the sounds of this thread, I was right. I don't want to have my life raked over and slagged off for being a rape accuser. And I bet there's millions more women like me." Sorry to hear this happened , but it bears absolutely no relevance to this topic . She was aware of what was going on , and didn't feel violated . Her unfortunate situation has come about over the police and the cps wanting to take a high profile guy to task , and they fucked up . You can bet your bottom dollar she knew who she was with , and didn't want her reputation tarnished any more than it already was by naming names at the time . If she had simply said at the time her bag was missing that she had sex with him and his mate none of this would have happened . All I'm saying is that there are sometimes witch hunts on the wrong people , and Ched was the unfortunate one in this case . | |||
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"It scares the **** out of me that more than one person on this thread thinks that promiscuity can be used as evidence that a rape didn't take place. So all us swingers are basically fair game, come on, you can do what you want and get away with it! Remind me not to meet these guys. I had a scary as fuck experience in a hotel room with a guy from Fab. I didn't go to the police. I had what he probably thinks was consensual sex with him because I was too scared to leave the hotel room, and didn't want to make him angry because I didn't know what he'd do. Oh and he was a serving member of the police force. Basically not much I could've done. I had no evidence of what he did either. And from the sounds of this thread, I was right. I don't want to have my life raked over and slagged off for being a rape accuser. And I bet there's millions more women like me." That's an awful thing to have happened to you. And.... Made even worse by feeling there is nothing you can do about it. Must have been so frightening. | |||
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"Maybe take time and think about the accused. The prosecution can drag all his previous sexual activity to prosecute so why shouldn't he do the same to defend? Is that not fair balance of the scales. Also he was found not guilty so therefore he isn't guilty. " The argument that a woman's sexual history is relevant in a rape trial is abhorrent. As the girl's dad said "they may as well have just said that she was gagging for it" | |||
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"Maybe take time and think about the accused. The prosecution can drag all his previous sexual activity to prosecute so why shouldn't he do the same to defend? Is that not fair balance of the scales. Also he was found not guilty so therefore he isn't guilty. The argument that a woman's sexual history is relevant in a rape trial is abhorrent. As the girl's dad said "they may as well have just said that she was gagging for it" " Well said, imagine if one of the women on here was raped and they dragged up she was a swinger. Are they saying sexually active people can't be raped | |||
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"Maybe take time and think about the accused. The prosecution can drag all his previous sexual activity to prosecute so why shouldn't he do the same to defend? Is that not fair balance of the scales. Also he was found not guilty so therefore he isn't guilty. The argument that a woman's sexual history is relevant in a rape trial is abhorrent. As the girl's dad said "they may as well have just said that she was gagging for it" " From reading why her past sexual history was used, I think in this case it was relevant. | |||
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"Yes she should be taken to court and jailed " For what exactly? | |||
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"Maybe take time and think about the accused. The prosecution can drag all his previous sexual activity to prosecute so why shouldn't he do the same to defend? Is that not fair balance of the scales. Also he was found not guilty so therefore he isn't guilty. " By that logic if you are found guilty you are guilty, whether you did it or not is irrelevant... | |||
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"Maybe take time and think about the accused. The prosecution can drag all his previous sexual activity to prosecute so why shouldn't he do the same to defend? Is that not fair balance of the scales. Also he was found not guilty so therefore he isn't guilty. The argument that a woman's sexual history is relevant in a rape trial is abhorrent. As the girl's dad said "they may as well have just said that she was gagging for it" so its OK to drag up the accused history but in defense the accuser history is of limits? that is not fair and not justice. Did you know the vast majority of rape claims are false and proven to be before they get to court. Its rare but does happen that the person making a false allegation can be prosecuted. Her Father is not impartial and he is naturally going to be hurt that his daughter has been proven in court to have been a liar. Like wise what about the accused parents how do you think they feel. Rape is awful and genuine cases should result in prosecution however someone who cries Rape and is doing it for malicious reasons should equally be prepared for either police action or civil. Its a serious offence and should be treated with respect however if someone accuses someone falsely ..... " | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon." Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is" You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not. | |||
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"Yes she should be taken to court and jailed For what exactly?" This..... SHE did not bring the case. She did NOT claim she was raped. The COS and police decided to bring the case themselves. They cocked it up. The thing that seems to have come out of this is that she was already engaged in fun with one guy...they decided to make it a threesone with Ched. He was invited to come and join in. In much the way guys in here are invited to exactly the same scenario.....often by the guy in the "couple" ( not necessarily a married couple but maybe fb or fwb or even just two consenting adults). How many here (guys) have been in this situation? I know I have as I have often met couples ... in hotels/at one of their homes. I've been that third party....as I'm sure, many others here have. I don't think her past sexual record should have been brought up. Nor do I think it actually affected the final verdict of not guilty. The first verdict always seemed wrong. The best evidence in this case were the texts inviting him to join the "couple" for mmf fun. | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not." Except on the few released extracts from cheds questioning was "Did you gain verbal consent?" Answer given "no" this was in the papers during the 2nd trial | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not. Except on the few released extracts from cheds questioning was "Did you gain verbal consent?" Answer given "no" this was in the papers during the 2nd trial" See above where I said "implied, stated or not" | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not. Except on the few released extracts from cheds questioning was "Did you gain verbal consent?" Answer given "no" this was in the papers during the 2nd trial" I would take "Fuck me harder" as consent. | |||
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"To have sex with other you need consent simple if she never give consent it's rape simple...if she slept with a 1000 people before and all had consent it's her right to nobody should judge her past...but if ched Evans wasn't a footballer do you think he would get not guilty People with loads of money think their a different justice system and to be fair their is...look at all cover up gagging orders always the elite rich...their no fair justice " If she had slept with a thousand people before, Maybe it would have been relevant to ask, how many of those thousand people, she had the yes/no conversation with beforehand. My thinking is,even though it's law, it's still not a common conversation many people have before sex. | |||
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" Way to go with victim blaming! Her sex life really has nothing to do with whether she could get raped or not. Sorry, but it actually does. Once again "advocates" seem obsessed with poisoning the narrative by coming up with complete nonsense like these. Her sex life has EVERYTHING to do with and, quite frankly, any lawyer worth his salt will tell any witness/complainant that promiscuity will be looked down upon provided the evidence is admissible in court. And why was said evidence admissible? Because, quite frankly, sexuality and sexual expression does not exist in a vacuum. Peoples experience and decision making will color any accusations they make or judgments against them. Especially when it has been suggested that the plaintiff made very, very similar accusations before. " One day, I hope you have a daughter. Maybe then you will understand. | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is" Completely this. Maybe if consent was understood then there wouldn't be so many allegations of sexual assault and rape in the first place. Some of he comments regarding a victim's sexual past are the main reason why many people don't come forward in he first place. | |||
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"If people are going to comment on a case they should really read up about it and know the actually story. Because you just end up looking thick as shit otherwise. " I can't see that becoming a major trend on Fab, somehow | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not. Except on the few released extracts from cheds questioning was "Did you gain verbal consent?" Answer given "no" this was in the papers during the 2nd trial" So couples who say they were woken up by their partner giving them a blowjob or the man performing oral sex on the woman, is that sexual assault because they didn't get verbal consent beforehand? Consent can be given in lots of ways. | |||
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"Basically, either he or she is lying. None of us here know the truth. Rape is wrong. Falsely accusing someone of rape is wrong. That much can at least be agreed upon. Neither of them are lying about the basic facts. And he doesn't dispute how he came to be in the room. The issue is more about the understanding of consent. And personally I don't think a man who claimed during the trial things along the lines of 'all women want to shah footballers' and 'I could have pulled any woman that night' and who snuck in to a hotel room uninvited to join his friend who was having sex with a d*unk woman probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of what consent is You're assuming that she did not consent. I am not defending him. My point was that one of them is lying about that. Either implied, stated or not. Except on the few released extracts from cheds questioning was "Did you gain verbal consent?" Answer given "no" this was in the papers during the 2nd trial So couples who say they were woken up by their partner giving them a blowjob or the man performing oral sex on the woman, is that sexual assault because they didn't get verbal consent beforehand? Consent can be given in lots of ways." Can't be given,nor required,in lots of ways. | |||
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