FabSwingers.com forum: Overwhelmed by fab

By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block all men then search for them yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm harsh. I only chat to those I'm really interested in. Everyone else gets ignored or blocked depending on how often they message me. I keep my friends list and my to do list very short and don't accept new friends until I'm ready to meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be a real headache lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm harsh. I only chat to those I'm really interested in. Everyone else gets ignored or blocked depending on how often they message me. I keep my friends list and my to do list very short and don't accept new friends until I'm ready to meet again. "

Oh and i don't do socials so i only agree to meet when we've chatted extensively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in the same boat but i tread caerfully and hope for the best x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just narrow it down. If i met everyone id be having three meets a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did at times but did something about it, blocked everyone and now search myself. Works a treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cba atm so that solves that problem.

xxx

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Use the private note facility to make notes about what you like about a guy, etc.

Use your filters so you don't get tons of mail.

Your profile states what you are looking for, so chat about that about mens previous experience regarding that.

Check if you like their face pics and other pics.

Relax and enjoy the chats and don't feel rushed to make decisions about whether to meet or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it's a social with a forumite, I can spend weeks, maybe months, talking to someone before we meet. Added to that I only meet those who I approach myself. All of the above narrows it down a lot.

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By *albec26Man
over a year ago

Great Yarmouth

We know how you feel OP and sometimes its hard to remember all conversations. We also use the private notes section to keep little notes on anything important x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?"

They make up their own mind and are selective. Or they just shag anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually only get into conversations about meeting with someone I have made the first step with. Anyone who contacts me, unless they have something really witty to say doesn't get very far otherwise I'd be on here all day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word: Filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can handle the deluge of messages

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Unless it's a social with a forumite, I can spend weeks, maybe months, talking to someone before we meet. Added to that I only meet those who I approach myself. All of the above narrows it down a lot.

I talk a lot before meeting as well. It acts as a filter too. Because those who don't chat and engage my brain, don't get to have sex with me. So my meets are few and far between. I think though if I ever went to a club, my little filtering system might not work

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Nope.

I only chat to those that interest me and only when I can be bothered to, this is just a part time hobby for me. When I have had enough of the crap that comes my way I just log out for a few days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely fussy and have a stringent selection process ...

I'm ruthless

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By *errible2sumCouple
over a year ago

london

We don't get too many messages so don't get overwhelmed.

Just filter out who you never going to meet

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't get overwhelmed.

I chat briefly and then, if I'm interested, ask to meet for a coffee social.

The genuine guys make a date to meet and the rest drift away naturally.

So I don't do that many coffee meets

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I only chat with 2 or 3 people at once otherwise I can't keep up. I get loads of messages and i ignore 99.9% of them. There has to be something that really catches my eye in both the message and profile to get me chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here as a single woman I blocked single guys and winked at the ones that I liked the look of as the amount of messages were overwhelming and I couldn't keep track.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some filters in place.

I only talk to people I'm interested in meeting (exceptions are those from the forum)

I've really hardened up re the bulk deleting of messages.

When it gets too much I hide profile ~ one sure way of preventing incoming messages.

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By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I feel like I'm potentially writing off some guys who could be good by ignoring everyone.

I've tried hunting myself and putting on all the filters but then I feel all neglected that I don't get messages.

#cantwin #firstworldproblems

#pickycowdoesntknowwhatshewants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've blocked non site supporters and people without a verification picture or haven't been verified.

Also by blocking single guys and find the ones we like makes it easy for us.

We can't understand why some people wouldn't like to support the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I'm potentially writing off some guys who could be good by ignoring everyone.

I've tried hunting myself and putting on all the filters but then I feel all neglected that I don't get messages.

#cantwin #firstworldproblems

#pickycowdoesntknowwhatshewants"

So what? That's not really your problem if you have enough to be keeping up with. You can't meet every potential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have pics then don't get much attention. I try to do the looking myself too.

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By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"I feel like I'm potentially writing off some guys who could be good by ignoring everyone.

I've tried hunting myself and putting on all the filters but then I feel all neglected that I don't get messages.

#cantwin #firstworldproblems

#pickycowdoesntknowwhatshewants

So what? That's not really your problem if you have enough to be keeping up with. You can't meet every potential. "

I don't though. I either get chatting and get bored. Get chatting, see a face pic and they aren't my type.

Or they are gorgeous but can't hold a conversation.

Or they are great to talk to AND gorgeous but married (I don't do married guys).

I am taking everyone's advice and trying to search myself again instead of just browsing messages. And you're right, I think that's definitely better.

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

"I feel like I'm potentially writing off some guys who could be good by ignoring everyone.

I've tried hunting myself and putting on all the filters but then I feel all neglected that I don't get messages.

#cantwin #firstworldproblems

#pickycowdoesntknowwhatshewants"

Waves hello from back of the que x

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

this where a tabbed version of the messenger would come handy. so you can have all single makes in one tab, grinds messengers in another etc.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I've taken to clearing out my inbox regularly (ooerr Missus). If I've not moved on to kik or WhatsApp with someone, then I'll delete the trash to make room for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?"

Yes! I get mardy and leave. Then I rejoin a week later. Now I just hide my profile. But folk still message me.

It gets on your tits sometimes but other days it's not so bad. I just thought it was me and my rollercoasting hormones.

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By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?

Yes! I get mardy and leave. Then I rejoin a week later. Now I just hide my profile. But folk still message me.

It gets on your tits sometimes but other days it's not so bad. I just thought it was me and my rollercoasting hormones."

Yay! Welcome to the club. There's counselling if you need it.

I think mostly it's cos the guys can be really demanding and I don't respond well to that, it stresses me out. I'm a bad combination of being a people

pleaser but also don't like to be rushed into things!

And a LOT of guys are "meet now, no chat" kinda guys. I met for a drink with a guy once and had booked a hotel room so he hassled me to finish the drink quickly. I went along with it but I wasn't happy about it.

Oh well, good luck to us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?"

I feel like this sometimes too. I find it doesn't help when I talk to so many guys and they don't have profile pics. I forget who they are.

I sometimes hide my profile and change my filters so I don't come up in searches.

Then I just come on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?

I feel like this sometimes too. I find it doesn't help when I talk to so many guys and they don't have profile pics. I forget who they are.

I sometimes hide my profile and change my filters so I don't come up in searches.

Then I just come on the forums "

Why waste time chatting to those with no pics? That's just making hard work for yourself. You need to help yourself on this site and be willing to filter them out.

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By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"Does anyone (single women mostly Im guessing) get overwhelmed by Fab?

I keep coming back here but I get talking to too many guys and it's overwhelming and I can't keep track.

I'm also rubbish at decisions and have a short attention span.

I think I find it hard to know I've found someone I'd like to meet unless I meet them.

And I can't do socials with everyone, I'd be out every night.

What do other women do?

I feel like this sometimes too. I find it doesn't help when I talk to so many guys and they don't have profile pics. I forget who they are.

I sometimes hide my profile and change my filters so I don't come up in searches.

Then I just come on the forums

Why waste time chatting to those with no pics? That's just making hard work for yourself. You need to help yourself on this site and be willing to filter them out. "

Not many guys have face pics on their profiles but are willing to send them. Yeah I guess you're right, I should ignore the no face pic profiles, to start with at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get overwhelmed and men get underwhelmed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to ask yourself, are you that bothered if you meet or not. Is Fabs your only source?

I ask that as I have found the more relaxed I am the better the site works for me.

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