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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll be the first to admit I'm not the most convincing CD around, but I was a bit taken aback earlier tonight with a friends comments

Its a young lady I've known a few years, we have met up in the past ( platonic) , she now lives a fair distance away and although meeting is improbable, we talk a lot via email

So tonight, I finally told her my CD secret, and she was quite cool about it and asked if I had any photos.So I sent her a few... and she doesn't believe its me! She thinks its either my wife or another girl I'm seeing! I felt quite brave telling her and showing her the pictures, now I feel totally deflated, or should I feel flattered that I've somehow managed to be more 'convincing' than I thought?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be the first to admit I'm not the most convincing CD around, but I was a bit taken aback earlier tonight with a friends comments

Its a young lady I've known a few years, we have met up in the past ( platonic) , she now lives a fair distance away and although meeting is improbable, we talk a lot via email

So tonight, I finally told her my CD secret, and she was quite cool about it and asked if I had any photos.So I sent her a few... and she doesn't believe its me! She thinks its either my wife or another girl I'm seeing! I felt quite brave telling her and showing her the pictures, now I feel totally deflated, or should I feel flattered that I've somehow managed to be more 'convincing' than I thought?"

Yes! Isn't it more important though to talk to her about her reaction and how it made you feel, if she's important/close enough to share this with, then be open and ask her. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've tried to talk to her about it, but she's just like "lol, that's not you!"

Of all the possible reactions, its the one I least expected!

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

You should have a conversation with her over her phone ... the problem with email and text is that emotions can and will be taken the wrong way ...

Pick up the phone and have a chat with her ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I speak to her regularly on the phone anyway so will maybe get a bit more reaction then.She seemed accepting enough but maybe thinks I'm just winding her up!

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

As you've already opened up ... you just need to be honest with her about it next time you speak to her. What else can you do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its not so much about talking honestly, because I don't see it affecting our relationship, its just that I feel I've made a massive statement to someone I care about and got little more than a shrug in return

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Then maybe she expected it all along ? And you'd just confirmed her suspicions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should be flattered...

She is comparing you to other women rather than other men who dress as women ...

I'd take that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you should be flattered...

She is comparing you to other women rather than other men who dress as women ...

I'd take that "

Thanks, the more I think about it, the more I'm coming round to that point of view!

Hopefully when I speak to her, I'll have a bit more clarity as to how she feels about it.Ideally I'd love to surprise her by meeting her when dressed up, but she's in Newcastle lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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I think too much emphasis is put upon being so-called convincing. I never wanted to convince anyone of anything - I just wanted to be myself. Allowing others to be themselves is something that I love doing - when we live in a world that tries to convince people to be insecure.

I digress. I'd just let your friend know again that it's you and that you'd like to discuss it by phone conversation - you could always do skype etc instead. She's not fully accepting atm as her way of dealing with it.

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