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We are hoping to get to some clubs to maybe meet people and get a feel for things! But if you've any advice or tips on anything & everything & on places to go please let us know..
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"Hi all! We have finally been verified so we would like to introduce ourselves & maybe get to know some of you. We would also welcome any advice you guys may have for couples who are new to this? We are new to this lifestyle & are just finding our boundaries & learning what we both want to do or not to do
We are hoping to get to some clubs to maybe meet people and get a feel for things! But if you've any advice or tips on anything & everything & on places to go please let us know..
"Get out now. Seriously. Gettttt outttttt. Before anyone notices you were here. Come close... Closer........ Give me your ear........ *whispers.... "They're all quite mad you know." 
Welcome to insanity.
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"Hahahaha thanks guys. Wasn't sure on creating a post, but it gets us out there a little. Shows our "faces" sort of speak " Always nice to see new faces in the forums. You'll find the vast majority of the forums to be damn fine people, very welcoming and helpful. Just a little tip, let us know which of you is posting, gent or lady. Have fun. | |||
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"Hi there, warm welcome from us x We offer very little advice as we are still finding our feet ourselves...... but just be wary of anything that seems too good to be true . Above all else just enjoy yourselves xx "Hey! Thank you! Yes we've agreed we need to be wary! That's a definite. We've only just been verified so we've not spoken to many yet | |||
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"Hi there, warm welcome from us x We offer very little advice as we are still finding our feet ourselves...... but just be wary of anything that seems too good to be true . Above all else just enjoy yourselves xx "There are lots of those "too good to be true" moments on here x | |||
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"Hi there, warm welcome from us x We offer very little advice as we are still finding our feet ourselves...... but just be wary of anything that seems too good to be true . Above all else just enjoy yourselves xx
There are lots of those "too good to be true" moments on here x"But then........ Perhaps some things are everything you hope and lust for - only one way to be sure 
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"Sorry for being a Debbie-downer, but why wasn't this posted in the 'Introductions' forum? "Because it's not just an introduction, I've asked for advice, tips, and I've mentioned we would like to get to know people. I felt that it may be better here where it's a little more "general" not solely one a "hello" | |||
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Welcome to the madhouse..
Last thing I remember, I was
Running for the door
I had to find the passage back
To the place I was before
"Relax, " said the night man,
"We are programmed to receive.
You can check-out any time you like,
But you can never leave! " | |||
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"Sorry for being a Debbie-downer, but why wasn't this posted in the 'Introductions' forum?
Because it's not just an introduction, I've asked for advice, tips, and I've mentioned we would like to get to know people. I felt that it may be better here where it's a little more "general" not solely one a "hello" "My advice from what I've seen is couples where the male half can't play with any women or men as they're straight, they struggle on here. Single females don't really want to meet couples where they don't get to play with the guy, think they feel like performing seals, and meeting other couples how does that work if only you can play? Does he get his enjoyment from watching you have a 3some with another couple? Sorry I don't get it but there's couples on here that are more clued up than I am, but welcome anyway | |||
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"Hi there, warm welcome from us x We offer very little advice as we are still finding our feet ourselves...... but just be wary of anything that seems too good to be true . Above all else just enjoy yourselves xx
There are lots of those "too good to be true" moments on here x
But then........
Perhaps some things are everything you hope and lust for - only one way to be sure
Get out there and meet them !! "Yes do that! | |||
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"Sorry I sound like a downer as well now, just writing things based on threads made by other couples "Not at all, you make a good question. We are new to this completely. We are open minded about everything & we aren't 100% sure on boundaries yet. He would like to watch her with another woman, and he feels maybe a another man too. He would like to see her with another woman & then perhaps get involved with "me" I am not 100% sure how I feel about another woman being with him. So it's hard to lay down a boundary because in short "I just don't know" We are happy to do everything in front of others, we have discussed me with another male whilst he plays with me.. but I'm not 100% on the idea yet. I think we just need to discover what we are or aren't comfortable with. That's one reason why I've reached out a little. To see what other couples do, how they fulfil their fantasies etc. We are looking to go to a club first to perhaps get a feel of things? There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? | |||
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"Sorry I sound like a downer as well now, just writing things based on threads made by other couples
Not at all, you make a good question. We are new to this completely. We are open minded about everything & we aren't 100% sure on boundaries yet.
He would like to watch her with another woman, and he feels maybe a another man too.
He would like to see her with another woman & then perhaps get involved with "me"
I am not 100% sure how I feel about another woman being with him. So it's hard to lay down a boundary because in short "I just don't know"
We are happy to do everything in front of others, we have discussed me with another male whilst he plays with me.. but I'm not 100% on the idea yet. I think we just need to discover what we are or aren't comfortable with.
That's one reason why I've reached out a little. To see what other couples do, how they fulfil their fantasies etc. We are looking to go to a club first to perhaps get a feel of things?
There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? "Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... | |||
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"Sorry I sound like a downer as well now, just writing things based on threads made by other couples
Not at all, you make a good question. We are new to this completely. We are open minded about everything & we aren't 100% sure on boundaries yet.
He would like to watch her with another woman, and he feels maybe a another man too.
He would like to see her with another woman & then perhaps get involved with "me"
I am not 100% sure how I feel about another woman being with him. So it's hard to lay down a boundary because in short "I just don't know"
We are happy to do everything in front of others, we have discussed me with another male whilst he plays with me.. but I'm not 100% on the idea yet. I think we just need to discover what we are or aren't comfortable with.
That's one reason why I've reached out a little. To see what other couples do, how they fulfil their fantasies etc. We are looking to go to a club first to perhaps get a feel of things?
There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok?
Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman.
It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame.
Bodies get entangled and hands stray..."Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? | |||
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" There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? " That's a very sensible way to start. Do what feels best for you. Just watching at a club can be a very intimate and sexually charged activity. | |||
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" There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? That's a very sensible way to start. Do what feels best for you. Just watching at a club can be a very intimate and sexually charged activity. " Thank you!! I'm glad you think so! I'm hoping it would be a good night! We are definitely looking forward to it | |||
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" There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? That's a very sensible way to start. Do what feels best for you. Just watching at a club can be a very intimate and sexually charged activity. " Would agree that a club is a great way to start. We did, it worked great for us and is still our preferred way to meet new people. There's no pressure to do anything at all. I would suggest that you have a look at the club section and see which ones sound of interest. Feel free to pm if you want. Nita | |||
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" There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? That's a very sensible way to start. Do what feels best for you. Just watching at a club can be a very intimate and sexually charged activity. Would agree that a club is a great way to start. We did, it worked great for us and is still our preferred way to meet new people. There's no pressure to do anything at all. I would suggest that you have a look at the club section and see which ones sound of interest. Feel free to pm if you want. Nita " We are hoping to go to Cupid next week. It's not too far from us & it looks lovely inside! Pleased to hear it's what's worked for others! | |||
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" There's no easy or quick way to explain all that In a bio is there haha. I hope I've explained that ok? Sort out how you feel about anything happening with him and another woman. It's not fair to other couples or women coming into your relationship if you find you can't handle it as, rightly or wrongly, the other woman usually gets the blame. Bodies get entangled and hands stray... Yes I agree with what you are saying. It's why we are trying to go to clubs first, wouldn't be fair to arrange a meet then change our minds or anything! A club is a little more neutral. People in general are mixing & socialising so we feel that's the best place to start? That's a very sensible way to start. Do what feels best for you. Just watching at a club can be a very intimate and sexually charged activity. Would agree that a club is a great way to start. We did, it worked great for us and is still our preferred way to meet new people. There's no pressure to do anything at all. I would suggest that you have a look at the club section and see which ones sound of interest. Feel free to pm if you want. Nita "
Read the re_iews and find one that feels right for you. Also, don't expect too much from a club. Each night is different depending on the people in on that night.
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" Would agree that a club is a great way to start. We did, it worked great for us and is still our preferred way to meet new people. There's no pressure to do anything at all. I would suggest that you have a look at the club section and see which ones sound of interest. Feel free to pm if you want. Nita We are hoping to go to Cupid next week. It's not too far from us & it looks lovely inside! Pleased to hear it's what's worked for others! " We like Cupids, but it is dress down so be sure that is something you will be comfortable with. It might be a bit full on for a first time, but only you two know what's right for you. Nita | |||
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