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What does swinging mean to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are all here for very different reasons and all in different situations so what was it about the swinging lifestyle that struck a chord with you and made you realise this where you belonged?

For me it's almost like a social grooming/bonding experience. I've always been a touchy feely person, I crave touch, it calms me, but vanilla friends are very conscious of keeping distance in case lines are blurred, partners get jealous, someone gets the wrong idea. In swinging friendships physical bonding is positively encouraged.

Maybe I'm just still an ape at heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all here for very different reasons and all in different situations so what was it about the swinging lifestyle that struck a chord with you and made you realise this where you belonged?

For me it's almost like a social grooming/bonding experience. I've always been a touchy feely person, I crave touch, it calms me, but vanilla friends are very conscious of keeping distance in case lines are blurred, partners get jealous, someone gets the wrong idea. In swinging friendships physical bonding is positively encouraged.

Maybe I'm just still an ape at heart "

I love what you've written here, it resonates with me in many ways. There's an aspect for me of healing myself here too, but that's an internal thing.

(sorry had to correct typos, fingers not working today)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The option to play with my partner and others and occasionally without each other. But with consent rather than hiding it from each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I originally joined 4 years ago my reasons and intentions were completely different. Never did I think I would meet so many great people and eventually become friends with them, but I did. So now when I go out or meet new people, I do so with the intent of having a time which is relaxed and enjoyable. I never expect sex and if I find someone that takes my fancy and its mutual, then that's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means different things to different people. Hopefully, without too many judgements being passed in this community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its sheer lust and a desire to fuck with an urgent need and hunger. At others it's caring and tender, truly sensual and a moment of connecting and feeling both safe and giving that to another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging to me means I get a shag

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm a bit jaded at the moment with the whole swinging scene at the moment. I've met some great people but recent events had made me question myself and the whole lifestyle....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all here for very different reasons and all in different situations so what was it about the swinging lifestyle that struck a chord with you and made you realise this where you belonged?

For me it's almost like a social grooming/bonding experience. I've always been a touchy feely person, I crave touch, it calms me, but vanilla friends are very conscious of keeping distance in case lines are blurred, partners get jealous, someone gets the wrong idea. In swinging friendships physical bonding is positively encouraged.

Maybe I'm just still an ape at heart "

To feel free, that I'm not a weirdo for wanting what I do.

It's a relief to talk to and have sex with people who understand and encourage you to be open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married couples or established couples swapping partners, that's what swinging means to me me, that's why I'm not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging really is for couples and wife swapping as seen on ch4, us singles just shag around

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

group sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you say swinging I immediately think Louis Theroux documentary with middle aged couples with car keys in a bowl

For me personally though this site is a way of me and Mr A to invite singles to our home and have 3 somes.....friendship doesn't come into it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had boyfriends in the past but never wanted to settle with any. One I went out with for 8 months, we constantly got interupted by an ex of his, another ex came up to me and said he beat her up, she left him with their kids, he never saw him, etc etc... then at the Christmas he was supposed to be coming up and never appeared, he did call me though allegedly from a call box in glasgow so say the car had broken down... something told me he was lying, so phoned the number back, a lad answered and told me the call box was actually in Kilmarnock not far from ex's gran's house. He had infact just gotten married to the ex.

Another ex after another 8 months, began to put me down all the time, told me my cooking was shite ( i already knew that! but he was no better) when driving, I'd indicate to go a specific way and he's turn it off, and tell me to go a different way - so got rid of him, but kept his dog lol

so sorry guys, I don't want to be around you all the time, but I still crave attention and sex.... but happy living my life the way I want too.

apologies, didn't mean to rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you say swinging I immediately think Louis Theroux documentary with middle aged couples with car keys in a bowl

For me personally though this site is a way of me and Mr A to invite singles to our home and have 3 somes.....friendship doesn't come into it x"

I've met lots of people who I have really gotten on with and we have stayed in contact I wouldn't class any of them friends though

To me a friend is somebody that is part of your open life, somebody who you meet up with for a drink, invite to your home, knows your kids, knows where you live etc not somebody you meet on the sly because you don't want anybody else knowing your meeting them

I suppose you could call them swinging friends

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By *orny1970Man
over a year ago

Northwest Greater Manchester and lancashire

I joined to find like minded people who want to push their sexual boundaries. I have changed so much in the last few years about the things I like and crave, being on here is like a drug. I want to explore which is something that didn't happen in marriage.. I don't want to get old and have regrets about the things that could of been fun With people who enjoy the same things I enjoy

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Sex as social sport.

Like tennis. Some play doubles, some singles.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We see it as adult playtime and a way to provide angel's desire for women with the lady parts i can't provide, obviously i have to have sex with 2 women at the same time, which is just such a bind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you say swinging I immediately think Louis Theroux documentary with middle aged couples with car keys in a bowl

For me personally though this site is a way of me and Mr A to invite singles to our home and have 3 somes.....friendship doesn't come into it x

I've met lots of people who I have really gotten on with and we have stayed in contact I wouldn't class any of them friends though

To me a friend is somebody that is part of your open life, somebody who you meet up with for a drink, invite to your home, knows your kids, knows where you live etc not somebody you meet on the sly because you don't want anybody else knowing your meeting them

I suppose you could call them swinging friends "

Our swinging friends are a part of our open life, we don't do anything on the sly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps we should redefine the activity of swinging as recreational sex?

This would then include singles, couple and aliens form another planet?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Perhaps we should redefine the activity of swinging as recreational sex?

This would then include singles, couple and aliens form another planet?"

That is more what this website is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps we should redefine the activity of swinging as recreational sex?

This would then include singles, couple and aliens form another planet?

That is more what this website is about."
Aliens from another planet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex as social sport.

Like tennis. Some play doubles, some singles. "
New balls please!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have sex with who i like, when i like and how i like and dont have to answer to anyone

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Want to reed this latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex as social sport.

Like tennis. Some play doubles, some singles. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My _iews on swinging changes daily, it's certainly nog what I first thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex as social sport.

Like tennis. Some play doubles, some singles.

This. "

And sometimes everyone just piles on the court and joins in

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