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By *llgoodfun123123 OP   Man
over a year ago

st osyth

hi maybe this will make me sound stupid but just would like to know how majority of couples are when meeting single guys . been on here 6/7 months now ,met 4 single ladies but only last couple of months I've messaged the odd couple. I met a couple years back 3 times and just put me off a bit, couldn't kiss and just felt to false.yes parts where raunchy . am I being stupid to think it could just be free flowing and passionate and not like do this now, oh you can't do that etc.I know everyone is different,some like to join in and some like to just watch. lets say the man is just a watcher, could it be like you met a lady and having passionate sex and just got someone watching,maybe I could explain it better ,yes obviously got to have respect for both parties . am I making sense here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're making sense - to me at least.

It depends on the couple I guess - each will have their own rules, eg some will be fine with kissing, others won't. It isn't 'one size fits all'.

Having rules and boundaries isn't just a couples thing either and also applies with one on ones - but I get where you're coming from and I guess it's important to be clear at the outset what the ground rules are so you can all enjoy your time together as much as possible.

It's always going to be slightly different with a couple as they know each other really well and you're the 'outsider' in the threesome.

Anyway - keep at it and have fun!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You are making sense.

We have boundaries or rules and we expect any single man we meet to have them too, it can be really hard to find people with similar boundaries but as you say it's all about respect. Neither if us would want a single guy to compromise himself to meet us.

Good luck in your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes sense to me .

We are far from like the experience you had .

I enjoy seeing my wife enjoy herself with guys we meet . Kissing and passion are the key ingredients , and we have no rules so to speak . The guy just goes with the flow , and so far so good .

Just avoid those couples with rules that don't suit you. And you will have so much more fun .

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Yes OP, you are making sense. Many couples seem to have extra rules that swingles don't seem to, ranging from "must full-swap" to "must not kiss". It must be quite daunting for the single person who I feel is already at a disadvantage by virtue of being alone in the company of two people in an established relationship.

Sometimes the rules appear to disclose issues between the couple - even we tend to stear clear of them (you can normally spot these easily from the profile)

But there are also plenty of couples who are more considerate, you just need to find the ones with whose dynamic you are comfortable.

Good luck

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boundaries and rules are part of swinging isn't it? Safety and respect?

I have my own boundaries, and also expectations. If they don't fit yours or theirs, its probably not going to feel great if you do meet.

This is just my pennies worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are making sense, but it's about communication, discussing things first and making sure you are all on the same page.

That's another reason why a social is a great option as it means you can flirt, get to know how easy going the couple are etc first before the meet itself

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

As a single playing with a couple you have to respect their wishes..

It's a whole different dynamic to being with a single person, it's far more complex..

From my experience with the two couples I have met, take your lead from the lady..

Even when the female is the submissive of the pair.

The man may wear the trousers but it's the lady that tells him what colour and style they are.

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By *llgoodfun123123 OP   Man
over a year ago

st osyth


"You are making sense, but it's about communication, discussing things first and making sure you are all on the same page.

That's another reason why a social is a great option as it means you can flirt, get to know how easy going the couple are etc first before the meet itself "

yes totally agree ,the couple I met . first meeting was pretty much a social but she did pull me out in the park next meeting at there house was all good,shared a long passionate kiss,3rd time they had obviously had a chat between themselves and we couldn't kiss,that just felt so unnatural to me,I didn't chase a 4th time.the main thing is everyone feeling comfortable, couple of my mates have wanted me to join them with there partner. to me that just didn't feel right as they were good good friends,half way through I stopped myself because it just didn't feel right. if my mate left the room I would be fine but guess thats not how it works lol concerning the first part I personally feel if a man is secure enough to let another man pound his lady in front of him ,is a kiss any worse. you could say thats a connection thing,but then isn't all sex about a connection thing,well unless your a gimp I suppose

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I hear you and understand exactly what you're saying. I am not yet comfortable meeting or playing with couples, although I would like to change that.

It just seems so complicated compared to a single man or woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spoke to the male of a couple earlier today he sent pics to my phone so weve text. Said he would show his missus and let me know.

Im still waiting and this was supposed to be a meet at mine tonite.

Oh well if I get another offer I will take it not gonna put off a meet just in case

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I mainly meet m/f couples and usually where the guy is bisexual so it's all very easy and free flowing. I love watching couples having sex and I love being watched too so all good from my point of view.

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By *llgoodfun123123 OP   Man
over a year ago

st osyth


"I hear you and understand exactly what you're saying. I am not yet comfortable meeting or playing with couples, although I would like to change that.

It just seems so complicated compared to a single man or woman."

got to be completely different for single ladies meeting couples thou I would of thought. especially if your bi ,I'm straight so not really the same,as long as you get on with the female I wouldn't worry x x thats the main thing on my wish list having 3some with 2 bi ladies. went to Thailand for 2 months last year could so easily of ticked that off the list. but met girl after 3 days and she was jealous as fuck so it weren't gonna happen lol . I wouldn't worry if I was you. the ladies have total control on here and your a fine lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of meeting couples has been very good in the main. I see the fact that many have rules or boundaries as a good thing. It means that they've not only discussed it between themselves but have taken the time to communicate to you, removes the chance of an awkward situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find I get much interest from couples which is unfortunate as it's something I would like to try more of, I would be happy with just soft play if that's what they wanted but there just doesn't seem to be the demand around here. That being said I never message or approach couples first either for fear of being considered a nuisance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

Are you leaving the site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite yet, as I still host parties........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another.

Are you leaving the site ?

"

Sorry forgot to quote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another.

Are you leaving the site ?

Sorry forgot to quote "

Does your vanilla man know your on here ?

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By *llgoodfun123123 OP   Man
over a year ago

st osyth


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

I don't really agree with you there!

Even thou if I was in a relationship I would never want to share my lady with another,to me love and sex is a special thing between the two of you. I for sure would feel insecure about it.But everyone is different! some people obviously feel totally secure in there relationship and its just a bit of extra fun. It is a turn on to watch people or have 2 men on one women or 2 women on a man. there are people who are solid as a rock together but just won't to spice things up.yeah bound to be the odd one here and there who are not totally happy with there partner and want more, but you can't judge every couple on here like that. Not that I agree with it totally but watched something while back on tv and they said more intelligent people are more open to it because they are more mentally stronger and together I guess.yeah I know that's not gonna cover every couple lol no offense ment to anyone! but as I say everyone is different and end of the day its there lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are making sense, but it's about communication, discussing things first and making sure you are all on the same page.

That's another reason why a social is a great option as it means you can flirt, get to know how easy going the couple are etc first before the meet itself

yes totally agree ,the couple I met . first meeting was pretty much a social but she did pull me out in the park next meeting at there house was all good,shared a long passionate kiss,3rd time they had obviously had a chat between themselves and we couldn't kiss,that just felt so unnatural to me,I didn't chase a 4th time.the main thing is everyone feeling comfortable, couple of my mates have wanted me to join them with there partner. to me that just didn't feel right as they were good good friends,half way through I stopped myself because it just didn't feel right. if my mate left the room I would be fine but guess thats not how it works lol concerning the first part I personally feel if a man is secure enough to let another man pound his lady in front of him ,is a kiss any worse. you could say thats a connection thing,but then isn't all sex about a connection thing,well unless your a gimp I suppose "

As you said yourself you wanted kissing as its passionate you will see a lot of people on here say no kissing or no kissing with the opposite sex. Some people feel that kissing while having sex is more like love making. As down to the fact they had changed there mind the second time one or both were not happy about the kissing and that is up to them. Better off finding couples who have met other single guys as they will already know what they like.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Could you explain this a bit better for me

"I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another" "

(I've always taken it to mean "my husband had an affair, and although it was me who decided to end it, I'm still bitter about the whole thing, so now project my feelings onto everybody else, especially anyone able to decouple sex from love."

You'll see it displayed more commonly on the 'dirty cheater' threads)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

I'm sorry but WHAT?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite yet, as I still host parties........"

You're openly dissing couples.

Not very clever business move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our only rules are no anal and the 3 p's other than that it's anything goes

And I have discovered that I like to take a back seat now and again and watch l getting fucked which is something I vetjp thought would happen

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

Your suspicions will be correct in some cases but wildly wide of the mark in others. Love and sex are two very different things and love isn't about ownership.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally understand your point. It is a case of different strokes for different folks. For some there are the rules that are agreed upon. Usually it is about certain things just being for the husband and not for other guys.

But for us, if you place restrictions it leads to a far less organic experience, there is more awkwardness. So, when we meet a single guy the only rule is that he can do anything to L, within her own discretion, as with any single female there are things she likes and things she doesn't. I am happy to watch, but will join in if asked. If the guy is a bit nervous I will leave the room until they get going.

The end result is a relaxed and enjoyable experience. But, each to their own.

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By *3tro_AnnyaWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

I think it depends on the couple, I have met many couples where I have felt like I was constantly treading on egg shells round them and the experience has not been good, but I've also met a few couples where they have been very relaxed and laid back and its been great

I think you can tell by somebody's profile what kind of people they are, obviously not always, I tend to just avoid profiles with lists of do's and do not's and in your face capital lettered words all over the place

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

Shit! We've been rumbled....

Yep, we're really here looking for a replacement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

That's total rubbish. We get turned on by watching each other play and carry out fantasies that so many people would like or cheat on there partners to do no one could make us feel how we make each other feel. We have things in the bedroom that we only do with each other and love is totally different to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another.

Are you leaving the site ?

"

You can't view this profile

This profile is not available for you to view!

This can be one of three things: User's account is suspended by admin, user has blocked you or you have blocked user.

Did a see this coming ? funny after being on here for 10 years you know how the threads are going to pan out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "
see that's rubbish.. it takes a very secure and loving couple to do this.. and while my experience if doing it with someone that I care for is limited to the one person.. I have to say its enhanced what i have got out of this lifestyle so much. Seeing the man who means the world to you pleasuring and being pleasured is well.. words fail me to describe how sexy and amazing it is.

I dont need others now ( strange for a girl who couldn't not cheat previous) but i do enjoy that we share this together.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another.

Are you leaving the site ?

You can't view this profile

This profile is not available for you to view!

This can be one of three things: User's account is suspended by admin, user has blocked you or you have blocked user.

Did a see this coming ? funny after being on here for 10 years you know how the threads are going to pan out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been with a couple, or pursued one, but I find it interesting that more couples than anyone, have looked at me on here...none have messaged though!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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You can't view this profile

This profile is not available for you to view!

This can be one of three things: User's account is suspended by admin, user has blocked you or you have blocked user.

"

I've recently discovered a way to find out which it is as well.

Good old admin

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from safe sex we don't have any "rules" and avoid anybody that does. We prefer things to be nice & relaxed.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Yea I know I've banged on about it before, I was a swingle for 2+ years, now I've met a vanilla guy, and never want to share him, nor to I feel the need for another man............love is love, I have always suspected these couples are not truly in love. Just an excuse to find another. "

I wasn't sure about couples either, until I met the man of my dreams I totally connect with and I know for certain that nothing he does or has with anyone else comes close-up to what we have, so neither of us are threatened by it. No other man or woman will take him from me or me from him. If we meet others it's fun, together .... nothing more or less. We don't do the stifling love, we grow together. We aren't static and never say never .... if you're new partner suddenly came out with it, he's like to swing, what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not quite yet, as I still host parties........"

Oohhhh dear a have been here too long UNLOS another bites the dust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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You can't view this profile

This profile is not available for you to view!

This can be one of three things: User's account is suspended by admin, user has blocked you or you have blocked user.

I've recently discovered a way to find out which it is as well.

Good old admin

Mr ddc"

Can You Tell me

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