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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply = not interested.

That's an answer.

It's like a message, but it doesn't take up the other persons time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Don't look at your sent mail

If you get a reply, happy days

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I bloody hate it when people haven't read the faq's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

You are not entitled to a reply just because you messaged someone looking for sex.

You are not entitled to anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Interrupted85, but following this logic maybe all of us should copy and paste standard message? I think it's quite rude, even simple "no thanks " will do, don't you think? I guess when you receiving 100 emails per day it's might build up your confidence that you don't have to replay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people obsess over their sent mail? Just take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont ask for sex straight away

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

Because we then get a reply of Why ? Or you're a slag or whore etc, it's in FAQ, delete means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

Coz they get 300 of the same message.

Being polite would take all day, then they wouldn't have time to look for people they ARE interested in.

It's a numbers game.

Dry your eyes, wipe the snot bubble from your nose and.........

move on.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Women are inundated with mail from guys..

There just ain't enough time to reply to everyone..

Just take a no response as no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with Interrupted85, but following this logic maybe all of us should copy and paste standard message? I think it's quite rude, even simple "no thanks " will do, don't you think? I guess when you receiving 100 emails per day it's might build up your confidence that you don't have to replay."

I reckon it proberbly takes me about 15 seconds to click back onto a message, reply 'no thanks' to a mail, send it, and then go back to my mailbox.

I currently have 85 unread mails.

About 80 of those I estimate will be ones I don't want to follow up.

That's 20 minutes of writing 'no thanks' in replies.

I suspect about 30% of them will email me back asking me to reconsider or asking to explain why I'm not interested.

etc etc.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Because I can.

It's my choice, don't have to read every mail that lands in my box the first line tends to act as a good filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because we then get a reply of Why ? Or you're a slag or whore etc, it's in FAQ, delete means no"

This, why ask why if you are turned down, do you really want to know why? Let's face it if you get a reply it's not going to be pleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't message anyone then your never disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me sending a "no thanks" to someone I'm not interested in is a waste of my time in writing it and a waste of their time in reading it. If deleting makes me "impolite" I'm fine with that. I'm impolite and with time to spend messaging those who I *do* want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't message anyone then your never disappointed

What's with the cone head?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

No reply means no, as per the FAQs ..

Just suck it up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

Because they did not ask for your message and, presumably, do not like your profile.

Read the FAQ. Complain after you have made that effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

Because if the woman or couple reply at all they get pestered to keep chatting.

. If you read the 753 posts on the same topic the answer is always the same.

And "Hi, how r u?" Is not a message. It's an insult.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Do you reply to Stanna Stairlifts, Anglian Double Glazing or any of the unsolicited junk mail that drops through your letterbox every day explaining why you don't desire their products or services? Bet you don't and that's the same thing as your unsolicited message asking to meet...The recipient doesn't desire your services either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hate it when people spell annoying with an M!

I really hate it that everyone expects a reply! I get hundreds of messages. If every message had a reply I'd need to pay a PA.

I really hate entitled people, that expect a reply when all they send is .. Hi...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

Its called ... following the site rules !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't message anyone then your never disappointed

What's with the cone head?"

just how my hood rucked up

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By *xoticMermaidWoman
over a year ago

NORTH WEST

Why dont u create a female profile n lets see how many messages u receive n see if u reply to every single one...which also includes

Hi how are u

Hi u look stunning

Hi love ur profile

Hey how are u

Hey u look stunning

Hey love ur profile

Oi oi

Hello

I wanna fuck u

Free to meet now

Are u free now

Hi free to meet now

Hey free to meet now

...get the picture???

One answer to all the above **delete** its not rude...its cos guys cba to READ!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single ladies get inundated and the site rules say, no response means not interested. Plus if a message simply says "Hi" would you bother replying?

Just move on and maybe the next person will reply? Would you prefer it as it is, or an inbox of no thanks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you are right ... 20 minutes its a long time.. I think it's down to person to be frank some times you will get a polite replay "no thanks" sometimes you will not.. but does it actually change anything? I don't think so.. all of you are right LOL. what's really interesting is when people write on their profile "please read" , "do not copy and paste" and other crap , and then don't bother to replay but I guess its normal. ok fuck the system ! and for those how replayed . thank you

and let's have lots of fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message deleted?

Pissed off because of it?

MAN THE FUCK UP PRINCESS!

You're welcome

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

Pursnley I agree. even if its a no as it wood be nice to no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

You would ask why, dislike her reply...then get nasty....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. save your own time, and don't send messages. Wait for them to come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is another option, which is to go into the chat rooms and begin chatting to women on there, either private or in the room itself.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

Because responding to messages to say no thanks means that when I turn my filters back on they can message me again. If I don't reply then they can't, which means they don't waste their time again and I don't have to waste mine explaining why I'm not interested in any invariable follow-up message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op. save your own time, and don't send messages. Wait for them to come to you.

This seriously this.

My best success comes when I've not been the one to message first.

You're dealing with 100's and 100's of guys and they are fucking bored.

If she message's you first, she's already made the jump in her own brain, rather than you interrupting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

1) lack of time

2) don't want to open dialogue as it only leads to more messages questioning decision.

3) because I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never an issue, tend to only message people I already know....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or go to a pub/club and chat/socialize with women there.....simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite

Pursnley I agree. even if its a no as it wood be nice to no."

If they dont answer it means they arnt interested in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably most people on Fab are here for their own selfish reasons. And I don't mean selfish in a bad way, and I'm certainly not promoting bad manners. More that people are looking to have their own needs met. People don't join Fab to meet the needs of complete strangers on the internet. My husband and I do try to be polite and considerate to a point, but and the end of the day we joined Fab to find fun. And the daily admin job of replying to messages from men we don't know who probably don't give a toss about us, other than to want sex with someone, does sometimes feel like a bore. So sometimes we think, we can't be arsed to reply to messages tonight - we'd rather have sex with each other, or watch TV, or anything other than replying to messages with a 'no thank you'. Does this kind of make sense? Fab is not a charity. Don't get me wrong, once we start communicating with someone we treat them with the utmost respect. But I think it really should be widely understood and accepted that internet etiquette doesn't require a reply. It just needs to be accepted whether you like it or not. In the same way that junk email doesn't require a reply - these are people you don't know, so rules of 'real' life don't apply.

Mrs

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??

Because they did not ask for your message and, presumably, do not like your profile.

Read the FAQ. Complain after you have made that effort."

Where are the FAQ as a matter of interest??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??

Because they did not ask for your message and, presumably, do not like your profile.

Read the FAQ. Complain after you have made that effort.

Where are the FAQ as a matter of interest??"

There's a link at the bottom of every page. Next to the Privacy Policy.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??

Because they did not ask for your message and, presumably, do not like your profile.

Read the FAQ. Complain after you have made that effort.

Where are the FAQ as a matter of interest??

There's a link at the bottom of every page. Next to the Privacy Policy."

It's not very obvious on the mobile site, being tucked away on the corner. I do think there should be some "stickies" on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite

Pursnley I agree. even if its a no as it wood be nice to no."

Why should we when it's in the FAQs?

It's far more polite than replying with a no thanks then getting a page full of abuse for our trouble...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite

Pursnley I agree. even if its a no as it wood be nice to no.

Why should we when it's in the FAQs?

It's far more polite than replying with a no thanks then getting a page full of abuse for our trouble...

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...you always reply to me on KIK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when I buy a lottery ticket every week and never win. Surely as I've bought a ticket I should win

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

I am a v polite person, but I haven't got the time to reply to everyone that messages us. It's that simple

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"I bloody hate it when people read ya message and delete straight away or dont even read it and delete it whats wrong with a simple am not interested message back like??"

But your own profile says if a person doesn't put something in the subject box, you'll delete. Is that not the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite

Pursnley I agree. even if its a no as it wood be nice to no.

Why should we when it's in the FAQs?

It's far more polite than replying with a no thanks then getting a page full of abuse for our trouble...

...you always reply to me on KIK

it would be rude not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It allows you to bypass filters at a later date if you receive a reply

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Doesn't matter if I say no thanks or not, they keep asking so I just block.

Oh wait, that's rude too...

*sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply delete. If I reply even thanks blah blah it means they bi pass my filters. Simpler to just delete. If it annoys people tough.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

All I have had today, is messages from people that do not meet my preferences on my profile, they are too old/young, not the build that I like, I have also had follow up messages because I haven't replied with questions like, why aren't you talking too me? Not in a chatty mood?

Or the other usual 'love your profile and pics' yet they have a 1 liner and a couple of cock pics.

No, I am not wasting my time replying to them, so suck it up buttercup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but why not just reply saying no thanks its called being polite"

No is called not wasting messages with who don't interest me!Nobody has obligation to reply !

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Because I removed my filters to allow men to mail me and if I reply then they can bypass my filters in the future, then the only way I can get rid of them is the block button.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Ok ladies, this one gets us a little, send a nice message,straight delete

Read/delete

understand those..Read and just leave it sitting there, why? Not talking days, more months maybe..surely it just clutters up your inbox??

Cheers

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sometimes just reading a few messages and _iewing profiles can take a lot of time - more than is available for someone - and they may be just from their current contacts.

The lack of replies is one absolute feature of fab that we all must accept and put it behind us, if we are going to be content on fab. If you can't, then it's not the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How fragile are some of the egos on here

You didn't get a reply

They read it but didn't delete

They deleted it straight away....

Get over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus not this again

Just man up and accept not every woman on here will drop their knickers after one message.

You have to bombard them with endless fancy a fuck messages they love it

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