FabSwingers.com forum: Deal breakers

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners... Costs nothing to be nice to people and cannot bear people that look down on others

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

"Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours? "

I don't swear

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

"Manners... Costs nothing to be nice to people and cannot bear people that look down on others"

Agree completely, people who look down on others or who are rude to people like waiters etc for no reason.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm the only one keeping the conversation going, while they sit there happily pontificating about themselves, totally uninterested in me. Or when the first question is 'what's with the wheelchair?'

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

"When I'm the only one keeping the conversation going, while they sit there happily pontificating about themselves, totally uninterested in me. Or when the first question is 'what's with the wheelchair?' "

Yeah the story toppers, or its all about me people.

For the record I would be really interested in you. You're a stunner ??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harsh demands on a profile... Capital letters to prove a point

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's me fucked then.

Height is my deal breaker - I feel too self conscious and like a massive big heifer if a bloke isn't taller than me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Rudeness/smugness etc... that goes for both genders.

For guys, tall and/or bald.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

long verified list is a huge turn off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours? "

For some reason I actually have you in my whatsapp contacts saved under casino, must've had your number either from here or pof a few years back!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours? "

The usual. People who do not read the profile or assume that our preferences do not apply to them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men with big egos who think they're gods gift

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

"Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours?

For some reason I actually have you in my whatsapp contacts saved under casino, must've had your number either from here or pof a few years back! "

Oh really.. Then I must have done something to break the deal! Ha ha

Or you did ?? Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socks and crocs.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smell. Either bad or severely over floral. Mr L.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and someone who only talks about themselves. Had a social meet, where the guy spoke about himself for two hours straight, every time I tried to get a word in, he'd steer the conversation back to himself. I just ended up smiling and nodding, and watching the clock till I could get my arse out of there.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *unkymancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Casual racism fucks me off. Swearing not so much.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"long verified list is a huge turn off "

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Women who behave and conduct themselves like their teenage daughter/niece.

Children speak coming from adults

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"long verified list is a huge turn off

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

that's different, but a quick read usually tells you if they've fucked half the site or not

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

"long verified list is a huge turn off

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

I think some get put off by the number, even though in fairness most will be social, most guys won't bother reading them and be put off by the number.

One woman on here has over 350!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I don't like people that are hung up on manners and call other people rude. It's a personal pet hate.

If you'd ever known or working with someone with autistic traits, you'd know how much mental and emotional effort it is to try and remember all these arbitrary meaningless rules.

Someone on here said "manners cost nothing" (grr that phrase sets my teeth on edge). They cost an awful lot to some people.

I like non-judgey, open minded people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no choice but to look down on most people...

Especially with heels on

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can's stand guys who tune out while I'm speaking to them. It's the ultimate sign of disrespect if he can’t be bothered listening to me when I'm speaking. It’s doubly insulting to get that treatment from a man you’re in bed with; someone who’s presumably meant to be interested. Mark my words, fellas: Men who don’t listen don’t last long.

And I don't like Chauvinism; men who consider themselves the superior sex belittling women.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one thing is pushy - or if we dont reply within a certain time - people do have lives besides fab

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like people that are hung up on manners and call other people rude. It's a personal pet hate.

If you'd ever known or working with someone with autistic traits, you'd know how much mental and emotional effort it is to try and remember all these arbitrary meaningless rules.

Someone on here said "manners cost nothing" (grr that phrase sets my teeth on edge). They cost an awful lot to some people.

I like non-judgey, open minded people.

I totally agree with you..

My son is autistic so he doesn't 'get it' most of the time... picking up on social cues for him are a nightmare

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just for fun.

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

It could be related to someone's profile or real life meets/ relationships

I've had a few uh oh moments when with someone.

I'll start with mine being casual racism and a woman that swears too much

What's yours?

For some reason I actually have you in my whatsapp contacts saved under casino, must've had your number either from here or pof a few years back!

Oh really.. Then I must have done something to break the deal! Ha ha

Or you did ?? Lol"

Just checked it was on my old phone that got ruined with shampoo in a swimming bag so would've been before may 2015. I remember your pictures but not your penis so maybe it was from pof, 2014 time I was on there.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who just talk about themselves.

Guys who ask exactly what we do when we meet others for sex, they are just after wank material.

Guys who stink.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"one thing is pushy - or if we dont reply within a certain time - people do have lives besides fab "

Oh yes this too. Pushy slightly panics me to be honest and then I'm too scared to meet/play.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can's stand guys who tune out while I'm speaking to them. It's the ultimate sign of disrespect if he can’t be bothered listening to me when I'm speaking. It’s doubly insulting to get that treatment from a man you’re in bed with; someone who’s presumably meant to be interested. Mark my words, fellas: Men who don’t listen don’t last long.

And I don't like Chauvinism; men who consider themselves the superior sex belittling women."

Sorry you were saying? Mr L

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

The ones who put how they look above everything and everyone. A couple once told us how lucky we were to be receiving a message from them as they're considered by others to be exceptional, how arrogant!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushy people, people who lie. People who aren't honest about their situation. I'd rather know what I'm getting into and make my own decision to continue!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who can't / won't meet for a social .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

"The ones who put how they look above everything and everyone. A couple once told us how lucky we were to be receiving a message from them as they're considered by others to be exceptional, how arrogant! "

Really! That happened?!

I can believe some people on here that believe they are better than anyone else and look down on people! Fab is like an alternative universe sometimes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Lack of attraction.

I know it when I see it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

No kissing.

I couldn't imagine having sex without it....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who make demands about what I wear and what sort of make-up I use. One bloke was very insistent that I paint my nails before meeting and mentioned it over and over despite me saying that I probably wouldn't. I didn't meet him.

Also, people who send first messages with detailed descriptions of what they are going to do to me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Smokers is the one for me..

The smell of ciggies on their clothes and kissing them..nope, not gonna happen..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

No kissing.

I couldn't imagine having sex without it...."

This too... I wouldn't meet someone who stipulated no kissing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Really! That happened?!

I can believe some people on here that believe they are better than anyone else and look down on people! Fab is like an alternative universe sometimes "

Absolutely did. Have to give them credit they we're in very good shape but came accros cosmetic and materialistic, we didn't find that attractive tbh.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manners... Costs nothing to be nice to people and cannot bear people that look down on others"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"long verified list is a huge turn off

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

I think some get put off by the number, even though in fairness most will be social, most guys won't bother reading them and be put off by the number.

One woman on here has over 350! "

Mine are mostly social.. My veris will get larger.. Its sad you find it off putting. I'm really nice

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smokers. Bad breath. Stained teeth.

Overly needy guys.. scares me off.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar to above, adults speaking as if they are teenagers or Yanks....all this "rocking up" to a club speak....really!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they words like no. That's a mojo killer. Or 'get off'.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the biggest turn offs for you or deal breakers?

No kissing.

I couldn't imagine having sex without it....

This too... I wouldn't meet someone who stipulated no kissing. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Height, or lack thereof! Especially if we actually meet and he's lied about it.

Oh. And on that note, lies and liars in general!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The chat. If the conversation isn't flowing or all they want to talk about is sex I rapidly lose any interest

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"long verified list is a huge turn off

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

that's different, but a quick read usually tells you if they've fucked half the site or not

So how many sex partners in one year sits comfortably with you?

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking like a drug dealer....I'm not into Hugo Boss trainers tight jeans and a Boss t shirt that tight ya steroided up physique is a warning to others and a signal to girls that the 'Cokes Here's

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lack of common sense can drive me insane, if you can't figure out why you're late because you've turned left and it was actually right seven times you will definitely get on my nerves. I think common curiosity of others is a must as well. There is nothing wrong with being polite and pleasant even if you're not getting what you want.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they kiss and its obvious they haven't cleaned their teeth for a very long time. XXX

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they kiss and its obvious they haven't cleaned their teeth for a very long time. XXX"

I once kissed a man on a d*unken night out (he was d*unk, i was d*unk) who had just eaten a takeaway chicken curry and a bit of the chicken got transferred to my mouth.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than the obvious (cleanliness, attraction, etc.) my deal breaker would be having a beard. I'm just not a fan.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"long verified list is a huge turn off

Even if they are social ones? I've got a fuck load. 50 ish? Prob less than 5 play veris

I think some get put off by the number, even though in fairness most will be social, most guys won't bother reading them and be put off by the number.

One woman on here has over 350! "

Someone we know has 580+

Fair play, they're getting everything they want out of the site though.

Another deal breaker for us is the speaking to just one of us after we've made light reference that we'd like to addressed as a couple, but on it continues so we end the chatter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fawning.

It gets on my wick. Mainly because they're not fawning over me, but still...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People who are somehow disconnected from me, possibly they are focused on something else, such as technology, too preoccupied to not listen or want to hear etc.

Those who are rushed - I had an offer of 45 minutes from time of arrival to departure this week - I expect parking takes some of that, so it's insufficient and would debase it for me.

Those who try to change the terms of what's agreed - in life or meets.

There are the obvious such as poor hygiene, time keeping and communication. And any lack of respect for myself or others is a fail.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I don't like Chauvinism; men who consider themselves the superior sex belittling women.

Sorry you were saying? Mr L

Ha ha very funny...bog off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Deal breakers.

- smokers

- attached

- shorter than me

...and 95% of my messages have one or all of those.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dirty people

Smokers

Pressuring people

No profile

What to fuck you messages

Cock pictures

Single guys in action

Loads of verifications.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asinoLucky OP Man
over a year ago

North cardiff area

Some great ones in here. Another couple from me are user names like

Suckmebig69 or fuckmy@sstonight.

I mean come on. It's a swinging site but don't be crude.

If they use the word "moist" it's an absolute deal breaker. Cards are off the table lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely rudeness or pushy im a very happy person by nature and dont like negativity

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

men who say weird things, men who dont listen when you tell them something because actualy its all about what they want. Men who act like school boys.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh lots

Guys who aren't into kissing...guys who are given your kik and then think they need to be sent a new naughty pic every 5 mins....too keen as in messaging every 5 min....guys who don't say thanks for the meet/those who don't reply when I say thanks after etc

This was all on my single female profile now I've found Mr Perfect I can leave him to deal with it lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Saint here

I myself am far from perfect, I have actually let fantasy down on two separate occasions. I had reasons not excuses and made up plenty.

Turn offs or deal breakers for myself:

Lack of intelligence or false assumption of having it lol

Fucking partners as if they were meat than people.

Be proud of how you look but excess Vanity is a letdown

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe when they ask what is with the wheelchair they are actually showing an interest in you? You have photos up both in a chair and without so that's always going to be some sort of talking point.

I do totally agree though on the 'me, me, me' attitude that's common these days. That goes in one ear and out of the other.

Back to deal breakers.... Those that demand this and that and have rules, don't this, don't that etc. Life's short, we're here to enjoy precious little free time so why make things difficult.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Socks and crocs.

This should not go unpunished lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Narcissism

Bigotry

Bad personal hygiene

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the person not the disability.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My deal breaker is women who start going an about a possible relationship. Sorry not gonna happen I got hurt bad last time and there is no way im doing that again

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Poor personal hygine

Spitting

Poor manners

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure if its the inability to chat but we have met a couple of couples in the past that do nothing but talk about what they have- this big car - this place in spain - no need to work - good for them but comeon

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

For both of us, negativity is generally a turn-off. We often pass by couples on here who's profiles are negative/ranty or full of "Rules".

Cal

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who lack honesty and respect. Really irritates me.

People who smoke, and people who stink. I had a meet once with a guy that smelled so bad of BO I had to offer him use of my shower

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 15/10/16 08:51:28]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

If i think they are heavy drinkers or drug users, mental health problems.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread