FabSwingers.com forum: How long do you wait for yoyr meet to show up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Read on another thread where someone daid why would you wait for an hour for someone to show up?

How long should we wait for our prospective meet to show before giving up and going home?

I think an hour is acceptable as there could be many variations as to why someone would be late but then maybe im too forgiving?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no message from them that running late, 10 minutes max

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 mins, maybe longer if they let me know they're running late.

I always have backup meets planned as well, very nice men on here offer to turn up if my meet doesn't.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We'll usually give them 30 minutes or so. If they've rang/texted and kept us updated, we might wait longer.

It just depends..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 mins should cover all eventualities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With notice or messages that they are going to be late I just play it by ear.

Without any contact, I would give it 15 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 mins should cover all eventualities "

Not with the traffic around here.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

10 minutes unless I get a text to say they are running late

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

30 mins max for us then it would be on to plan b, always got a plan b, we're having a great night regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd give it 10/15 mins if they have not been in touch, if they have then probably longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very early meet on here I arranged to meet at 4pm - arrived about 3.00, checked in and showered at hotel, then about 3.55 went to the local pub across the road where we agreed to meet first and sent a text to say I'd arrived. Waited. Waited. Nothing. Another text sent at about 4.20 - still nothing.

Got to about 4.40 and the realisation started to dawn that I'd been stood up. Hotel room all paid for - typical newbie mistake I thought and a lesson learned.

I was just typing the 'I'm heading off' text about 4.45 then I got a 'I'm here!!' message, and lots of profuse apologies but they were delayed in traffic and their phone was out of reach.

Had a fantastic social that turned into play meet so it's a fine line between when to leave and when to stay. Had I only waited 30 minutes I would have missed out.

I'd probably put an hour as my absolute limit - benefit of the doubt and all that.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I think it's different for couples, if we were out meeting someone then we wouldn't let it ruin our night - afterall I would still be sat next to a beautiful woman who was dressed to the nines.

If I were a single man, and I had managed to snag a potential meet, I'd probably stay until the landlord complained that my disconsolate sobbing was upsetting the other customers.

Like most things, it depends who, where and whether there's a 'why'.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I knew they were travelling some distance so could feasibly have been stuck in traffic or had problems on a train then 30-40 minutes. Otherwise 15 minutes or so.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Read on another thread where someone daid why would you wait for an hour for someone to show up?

How long should we wait for our prospective meet to show before giving up and going home?

I think an hour is acceptable as there could be many variations as to why someone would be late but then maybe im too forgiving?"

I wood give 1 hour. But if I wos traveling to the meet then just in case of a no show I wood also plan to do sumthing in that place on my own as plan B. So my time don't get wasted. It's 1 resoun y I want a social 1st for any meets.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Read on another thread where someone daid why would you wait for an hour for someone to show up?

How long should we wait for our prospective meet to show before giving up and going home?

I think an hour is acceptable as there could be many variations as to why someone would be late but then maybe im too forgiving?"

I'm never late OP I don't like lateness for one .

two I don't like the idea of a fern or a couple I'm meeting waiting around for me thinking is he going to turn up is he a time waster that sort of thing .

thirdly as most social will be in a pub or something similar I don't like the idea of a single fern having to walk into the pub and stand at the bar or sit down alone and wait for me.

for those reasons I often make sure I will arrive around thirty minutes early for the social or even a hotel play date .

I find thirty minutes plan early arrival allows for unexpected traffic to .

as for waiting for someone else to turn up I've never been stood up a have had people ring me saying look john I'm coming just running late for what ever reason .

my rule for a no show no message would be thirty minutes but thankfully such a occurrence has never happened to me .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im never late as far as humanly possible I hate being late and it causes me to panic so generally im there 15 to 30 minutes early.

I know things happen and people do run late. Its a case of how long do I wait.

Really nerve wracking when it gets to the point of is she gonna show or isnt she.

But once that hour is up thats it. Time to go home again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fifteen minutes if no explanatory "stuck in traffic" type text received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"10 mins should cover all eventualities

Not with the traffic around here."

I don't live round there...

I live in the middle of nowhere where the only obstacles on the roads are tractors and unmanned traffic lights guarding a hole in the ground.. 10 mins is plenty

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends for coffee drink, it would be until i drank my drink.

If coming to my house more leeway if they keep in contact. Had one person late and he wad 3 hrs late because he was stuck in snow just a few miles away and couldnt turn back if he wanted.

But with technology now when they get in the car they give me eta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I hadn't heard from them 20/30 mins max.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

It depends if it's a first meet, or someone you know and have met before

Goes back to one of those dreaded FAB words "Genuine"

If there's been no communication I'll wait maybe 15-20 minutes, but if they've been courteous to let me know they're running late, then a bit more

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