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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been thinking about this for a while now but don't have a clue of how to go about it or even know were to start?

BDSM as always fascinated me but never been too sure if it would be right for me yet the more I think about it and a few conversations I have had are making me think that I need to find out one way or another, so any help or advice would be a great help, only considering the light stuff for now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you consider "light" stuff?

Do you want to be on the "receiving" end, giving or equally?

What aspects interest you?

If you don't know what YOU want...!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have been thinking about this for a while now but don't have a clue of how to go about it or even know were to start?

BDSM as always fascinated me but never been too sure if it would be right for me yet the more I think about it and a few conversations I have had are making me think that I need to find out one way or another, so any help or advice would be a great help, only considering the light stuff for now though."
Light stuff? Have you tried bdsm sites darlin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i no what you mean done in a playful way to start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

that's my point I don't know what I'm looking for, will have a surf around but it's ok looking but you never know till you try.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think i no what you mean done in a playful way to start "
yeah thats what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i no what you mean done in a playful way to start yeah thats what I mean."

pm see if its what your looking for

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Have a look at munches in your area. They are a good way to meet like minded folk without going straight into whips and chains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who doesnt know what its all about needs to be lucky enough to find someone they can trust enough to allow them to explore / push boundaries ... One step at a time... In safety...

BDSM is, above all, the most fabulously liberating mind fuck...

The masochist says "Beat me..."

The Sadist says

"No..."

Take your time... and good luck...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Someone who doesnt know what its all about needs to be lucky enough to find someone they can trust enough to allow them to explore / push boundaries ... One step at a time... In safety...

BDSM is, above all, the most fabulously liberating mind fuck...

The masochist says "Beat me..."

The Sadist says

"No..."

Take your time... and good luck..."
what a fab way to put it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you consider "light" stuff?

Do you want to be on the "receiving" end, giving or equally?

What aspects interest you?

If you don't know what YOU want...!"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Someone who doesnt know what its all about needs to be lucky enough to find someone they can trust enough to allow them to explore / push boundaries ... One step at a time... In safety...

BDSM is, above all, the most fabulously liberating mind fuck...

The masochist says "Beat me..."

The Sadist says

"No..."

Take your time... and good luck..."
I intend to be very careful not going to rush anything, this is why I've asked for advice.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Some great advice already,munches ,socials and clubs just like swinging are great places to dip your toes in the water.

The best way is to talk to others,but remember BDSM can be full off ppl telling you how you should be doing it (a bit like the forum on a bad day lol).If it works for you and turns you on,don't listen to anyone who tells you your doing it wrong.

Oh and the masochist can say beat me,the sadist say,you asked for it...there are no rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look for something different, you never know till you try hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their are quite a few clubs around country that have room set aside for bdsm, being dressed for the part helps leather, pvc etc. also str8 or bi/gay inclination makes for good roll play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some great advice already,munches ,socials and clubs just like swinging are great places to dip your toes in the water.

The best way is to talk to others,but remember BDSM can be full off ppl telling you how you should be doing it (a bit like the forum on a bad day lol).If it works for you and turns you on,don't listen to anyone who tells you your doing it wrong.

Oh and the masochist can say beat me,the sadist say,you asked for it...there are no rules. "

There are ALWAYS rules!!

BDSM is one of the MOST carefully planned of all the sexual adventures... Anything less WILL go wrong...

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"Oh, ever since my masochistic baby went and left me

I have nothing to beat but the eggs

Nothing to whip but the cream

Nothing to belt but my pants

etc etc

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Some great advice already,munches ,socials and clubs just like swinging are great places to dip your toes in the water.

The best way is to talk to others,but remember BDSM can be full off ppl telling you how you should be doing it (a bit like the forum on a bad day lol).If it works for you and turns you on,don't listen to anyone who tells you your doing it wrong.

Oh and the masochist can say beat me,the sadist say,you asked for it...there are no rules.

There are ALWAYS rules!!

BDSM is one of the MOST carefully planned of all the sexual adventures... Anything less WILL go wrong... "

Oh my,the lifestylers are awake.

life has rules,and we use our common sense and knowledge of others to negotiate our way through it.When you meet a fuckbuddy /date,Dom/sub/you agree what works for you both.Some do bareback,that breaks the rules of safe swinging,others meet without safe words,the fact is adults need to trust themseves not the rules imposed by others.

Oh and BDSM is at its most liberating when it is unplanned ,spontaneous and on the edge.

But that is something you move towards private,as an adult i would guess u knew that already though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some great advice already,munches ,socials and clubs just like swinging are great places to dip your toes in the water.

The best way is to talk to others,but remember BDSM can be full off ppl telling you how you should be doing it (a bit like the forum on a bad day lol).If it works for you and turns you on,don't listen to anyone who tells you your doing it wrong.

Oh and the masochist can say beat me,the sadist say,you asked for it...there are no rules.

There are ALWAYS rules!!

BDSM is one of the MOST carefully planned of all the sexual adventures... Anything less WILL go wrong... "

Can't help but think that you are taking that out of concept. I read that as there are no rules in the concept of what turns you on not within the concept of play.

But even then, like swinging the main rule is what works for you. My partner and I don't use safe words and our play is spontaneous rather than planned. But we talk a hell of a lot about likes and dislikes and what we want to explore. We also have absolute trust and that has taken many months to achieve. I know plenty that will shoot me down for saying that, but it works for us and as already noted their are plenty on the BDSM scene that think they know best...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some great advice already,munches ,socials and clubs just like swinging are great places to dip your toes in the water.

The best way is to talk to others,but remember BDSM can be full off ppl telling you how you should be doing it (a bit like the forum on a bad day lol).If it works for you and turns you on,don't listen to anyone who tells you your doing it wrong.

Oh and the masochist can say beat me,the sadist say,you asked for it...there are no rules.

There are ALWAYS rules!!

BDSM is one of the MOST carefully planned of all the sexual adventures... Anything less WILL go wrong...

Oh my,the lifestylers are awake.

life has rules,and we use our common sense and knowledge of others to negotiate our way through it.When you meet a fuckbuddy /date,Dom/sub/you agree what works for you both.Some do bareback,that breaks the rules of safe swinging,others meet without safe words,the fact is adults need to trust themseves not the rules imposed by others.

Oh and BDSM is at its most liberating when it is unplanned ,spontaneous and on the edge.

But that is something you move towards private,as an adult i would guess u knew that already though."

*Removes hat and bows low before the greater experience...* Your master will be proud of his teaching skills...

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