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By *ayd2pink OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

TENTERDEN

I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

People dont want to show what others have put, could be too much info that the person feels comfortable with sharing to everyone. Or just because they dont want to and can choose to show what they like

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Privacy, social meets, repeat meets, veris that mention your name or other identifying factors, graphic veris, personal choice not to show them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think they're embarrassed if they don't show mine. And what really pisses me off is when they show every one else's who has verified them but mine. I've no problem if they hide them all but when it's blatant it doesn't feel good

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I hide mine sometimes when I get grief off men who I've said no to and I get a new one, or more often women who see I've met someone and get all possessive and start sending me abuse because he's "theirs"

I think there should be different coloured ticks for meet veri and Webcam veri so you can hide them. when needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if people didn't get jealous of folk meeting folk they have their eye on i'm sure so many woukdn't hide them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hid mine after people were messaging the guys I'd met for me to get in touch as I've blocked everyone. This wasn't fair on them and to be honest, who I meet is my business and no one else's. I don't care much for veris anyway and cannot receive them anymore due to my age filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone goes UNLOS (leaves the site) who you had been verified by, it shows in the number count but the comment goes. That can also be a reason.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?"

Anything I find "off putting" is just another filter for me. How others use the site is of no consequence to me.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We show recent ones because they are more up to date than ones 12 months ago

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"People dont want to show what others have put, could be too much info that the person feels comfortable with sharing to everyone. Or just because they dont want to and can choose to show what they like"

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just don't want to fill my page with veris. also some guys message your meets to ask hem about you or to slag you off for rejecting them.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

We stopped posting verifications a long time ago, mainly because people (mainly guys) started to contact those who had left us verifications to question them about us.

We just keep two or three on our profile to show we are genuine....

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Ours are all hidden because they've all left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Piss take ones or ones that are very personal

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do what i like with mine. But when i had them on show not once in 10 years have i had a bitchy comment from a woman. They would soon get told/laughed at

I do just what i like with my verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to hide ones that were old, repeat versus or were a little too graphic etc. I also know though that some people do it simply so that people don't know who they've met or what they've been up to. Just like anything I guess it can be used for nefarious purposes

Beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cannot begin to tell you what bother some people cause by getting in touch with verified friends - hence all hidden now - not how its preferred but so much easier

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?"

We hide ours most of the time now. Why, because we got fed up with all the bitching and the moaning. Such as...

Oh, you've met them or attended those parties.

Oh, you've met them so that means you'll automatically want to meet us.

Oh, you met them, why did you not message us for another meet.

Far easier not to show any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We hide ours most of the time now. Why, because we got fed up with all the bitching and the moaning. Such as...

"

^ THIS exactly why I hid mine and mine remain hidden now.

On my last profile it got too much.

It just became a pain in my arse and the people in question got pretty fucking vindictive and just sucked the fun out of it.

I say that loosely.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?"

I've shown my summary but shown very few of my verifications. Why? Because some tosser was hassling one of my meets along the lines of 'you shagged him, shag me' when clearly he had the personality of a dead slug.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We show all ours but the number count is different as a number of those who left us veris have since left the site not a lot we can do about that other than hide the counter

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

It's no one's business but mine, as to who I have met.

And I don't care about verifications anyway.

If someone doesn't like that, then that's their problem, not mine.

And I don't want messages saying " you met X, tell me about her".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tetchy cock and jealous pussy the reason I don't display mine. Don't like the attention, good or bad that they generate. Still like to get them though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ours are all hidden because they've all left"

This, I have a couple that don't show as the people that left them have left the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left or never really amounted to anything so I don't see any point in publishing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show repeat veris as it's pointless really, and I do have a few regular meets.

I've also hidden my veris on occasions when nosey buggers have contacted them asking about me, when I've got grief from guys about meeting someone else instead of them, and when a female started trying to meet everyone I had.

When I do hide them though I'm always happy to show if asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there are some right fucking fruit loops on here and I'd rather they not know my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there are some right fucking fruit loops on here and I'd rather they not know my business "

that's the up and down of it.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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One of mine is hidden because quite frankly I don't like what they wrote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are hidden, people can be very jealous and nasty on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?

I've shown my summary but shown very few of my verifications. Why? Because some tosser was hassling one of my meets along the lines of 'you shagged him, shag me' when clearly he had the personality of a dead slug. "

stopped showing that as well - used to get messages oh you met last night then -who where how good etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines hidden cos he's famous!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Personally I couldn't care less if someone shows all, none or some of their verifications.

Each to their own... and many have good reasons to hide verifications.

We tend to show the most recent and a selection of others.

Nita

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Mine are hidden, people can be very jealous and nasty on here."

Can't they just

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


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I've also hidden my veris on occasions when nosey buggers have contacted them asking about me, when I've got grief from guys about meeting someone else instead of them, and when a female started trying to meet everyone I had.

When I do hide them though I'm always happy to show if asked."

Exactly why I don't show mine. I got some really shitty messages from a woman on here and tbh I don't need that kind of drama!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?"

You've had 5 meets with 5 people but only show 4 veri's .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because quite simply it's no one business who I have met !

The only reason for a verification is to say your real and you showed up . Green rick is there for that ..

If a person does not want to meet me because I won't show verification them move on I won't lose sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find this to be more off putting in a profile than having none at all.

What do you think and what could the reason be not to publish?

You've had 5 meets with 5 people but only show 4 veri's ."

Maybe one left the site so the veri disappears. It still registers in the summary though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hide a % of our as if not people say we have too many veris . Can't win either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have hidden mine because some women set out to meet every guy that I have and it just gets weird. I am not precious but I try not to encourage the crazy in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide mine because isn't anyone business who I meet.

I lived so many years without verifications!I don't care if is,off-putting my profile my rules.

Furthermore I would say I don't agree with it! Because we must to be exposed and to entertain people curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are hidden re privacy,mainly because my name is mentioned and I too in the past have had other members messaging people who I had met asking for information about me.

I don't kiss and tell and wouldn't leave a second veri with details for anyone to get a kick out of.

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By *irkby coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirkby

We hide ours because it's no one else's business what we have done and who with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are not a log book for sex.

Not every encounter is from here either.

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...

I hide any of mine that are too detailed, it's not for people browsing to know how good my skills are,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd show them if someone wanted to see but we hide most of them because there are some crazy people on here.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently hid all of mine because of a guy who was being a bit of an arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are hidden as I'm not meeting, so I don't need to show them.

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By *ayd2pink OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

TENTERDEN

Thank you everybody for opening my eyes to the possible reasons. must have lived a sheltered existence not to have experienced some of the bad things mentioned here.

Must keep an open mind

must keep an open mind

must keep an open mind

etc

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Mine are hidden as I'm not meeting, so I don't need to show them."

Our thoughts too.

The usual pissy pants we expect when we start meeting again will rear their heads we suppose. Ah well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine are hidden as I'm not meeting, so I don't need to show them.

Our thoughts too.

The usual pissy pants we expect when we start meeting again will rear their heads we suppose. Ah well! "

You wear pissy pants when meeting? That's quite a fetish

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Maybe they are too graphic,or they have had people get jealous in the past?

You could always ask the person to display them briefly for you,if you are interested.

For us ,they just show someone is real and turns up.

Miss

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