FabSwingers.com forum: living with multiple conditions !

By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

SUM FUE PEOPLE..think that if you are living with multiple conditions you shood not be on hear.

I disagree.

And I think a lot of you will to.

Hears my list

Dyslexic

Asparagus and if pushed can leed to anziyitey and a panik atak.

Epilepsy (dormount)

Frustrashoun

And

Depression (not in atm)

Wots your list ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, you've started about a dozen threads on this subject...it's getting a tad tedious.

Just enjoy the site the best you can and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As GreedyThump says, enjoy the site the best you can

We all have what we have, are what we are, in many cases we can't change that so there's no point worrying about it!

If there's anything that might influence the decision of someone whether to meet you or not, best to disclose that early so they can make an informed decision about whether to proceed or not.

Then go enjoy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone has a right to be on here.

Would I choose to meet with someone that had multiple conditions that may impact my enjoyment? No. I wouldn't.

Yes it's selfish. Yes I'm probably missing out on meeting some lovely people. But if i find the initial communication complicated and hard work that's a big turn off and in my eyes not worth pursuing. If the conditions someone has aren't apparent during our communications then they aren't really an issue.

I don't have any conditions to list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got a few issues,but you just have to get on with it,no good worrying about things,as to be honest there is nothing in this world worth worrying about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people here i find are mostly open minded- we are more than aware of your conditions as you state it in your profile (as well as here) and you arent alone i can assure you - you draw way more attention to it by keep posting here but thats your right and we can choose to reply or ignore for sure - i feel anybody that met you say for a social would just end of chatting about those issues rather than why we are here as they seem to consume you more than anything else- relax and enjoy the site for what it is - and maybe go on other support site forums to discuss other issues -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are more than just a list of things that you see as 'wrong with you' either you can let that rule you and define you or you can get on with things and just be yourself.

I know people that by all rights should be a gibbering wreck with the issues that they have but everyday they get on with things and I take that as a lesson. Writing lists of what's wrong does nothing, it just gives you an excuse

Beard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not quite sure why you keep posting about your conditions, we are all aware and you have had positive replies, all you are doing is drawing more attention to your conditions.

Frankly it's no one else's business what you suffer from and up to you if you disclose to a potential meet. Everyone has a right to be here.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

We all deal with the cards we are dealt the more of a issue you make them the more of a problem they become

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

My doctor recently diagnosed me as a hypochondriac. Great. Soemthing else to worry about

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."

those who wont understand dont matter - everybody else is agreeing with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."

No one is disagreeing. ...and so what if they are? Everyone also has the right to their own opinions. They aren't all going to be the same as yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."
..I think everyone understands OP,but each and everyone of us have issues,some more serious than others,but we just get on with our lives,thats why we are on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You appear to have made your point repeatedly and at length. All you appear to be doing is labouring over it now.

So now you've made it abundantly clear that you've as much right as everyone else to do what you like...get on out there and do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."

Mate, some people won't meet people that are married, or have cocks under 8 inches, or who are over 45 years old, or are over a size 12 or whatever. Their prerogative.

The key to enjoyment on the site is focus on those that you ARE compatible with - there will always be people that don't want to meet and trying to get them to change their _iews won't work.

Good luck my friend

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

No one is disagreeing. ...and so what if they are? Everyone also has the right to their own opinions. They aren't all going to be the same as yours. "

Yes Everyone has the right to their own opinions but wen its like you shoddount do this or that cos of you have this and that its mor of a disskrimoun act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

Mate, some people won't meet people that are married, or have cocks under 8 inches, or who are over 45 years old, or are over a size 12 or whatever. Their prerogative.

The key to enjoyment on the site is focus on those that you ARE compatible with - there will always be people that don't want to meet and trying to get them to change their _iews won't work.

Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is perfect."

I'm pretty close though.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Posting about vulnerabilities can attract the wrong sort to you, they exploit them.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."

I don't think anyone is disputing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is to stop telling people about all the negative and difficult things going on in your life and concentrate on messaging positive things about yourself to people who interest you.

Please keep in mind that most folk on here will realise that you are misunderstood and we don't mean to appear hostile. We understand that you are working hard to reach out to others. Most people are trying to be reassuring and are expressing support for you. But constantly posting on the Forums about it will not help you meet people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is to stop telling people about all the negative and difficult things going on in your life and concentrate on messaging positive things about yourself to people who interest you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My advice is to stop telling people about all the negative and difficult things going on in your life and concentrate on messaging positive things about yourself to people who interest you.

This; focus on the positive.... I think confidence has a huge role to play in how much enjoyment you get from the site and the many and varied people that make it

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Agree with other replies.

Just make the site work for you and enjoy it.

Honesty and transparency is best .There's a niche for everyone ,I,m not to everyone's taste but that's cool.

Lot of peoples have conditions or wish differently of what they have that natural.Does,nt mean there not apealling or sexy to others.

Hang on in there bud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same shit different day pal. Starting to look like a 'look at me thread.

If your looking for a swinging lifestyle, your in the right place. Good luck.

If your looking for therapy or help with your issues, see a doctor.

Harsh I know.

But my issue is, I get bored easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SUM FUE PEOPLE..think that if you are living with multiple conditions you shood not be on hear.

I disagree.

And I think a lot of you will to.

Hears my list

Dyslexic

Asparagus and if pushed can leed to anziyitey and a panik atak.

Epilepsy (dormount)

Frustrashoun

And

Depression (not in atm)

Wots your list ?

Frustration is not a medical condition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els."

It should not matter to you. You cannot make everyone understand. To be frank, why should they if you don't impact on their lives. Most people I know have something going on and haven't the time or energy to take on board that which doesn't concern them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you brother I really do but this environment is not the most forgiving I have had the pleasure of so I would draw breath before you ask this type of question.

On the positive side for you that is you are young, healthy and not been battered with the ugly stick although a passing resemblance to a Sasha Cohen character could put some off.

All in all I would say live life and enjoy it to the full seek help if you need it from professionals and I am sure all will be good in your world.

Peace bro!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our crosses to bare so you just have to get on with it

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It's like being diagnosed with insomnia.

It's no fun admittedly. But really.

Is it worth losing any sleep over?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have one condition it has many facets. There wouldnt be enough server space. I fight to lead a normal life evety day

I get on with it

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

If you present someone with your negatives as a first impression, and no positives, it's not selling yourself.

I could list a billion and one thing's wrong with me here and no one would want to meet me.

Or I could tell people fabulous things about me and they'd meet me.

And when they find out the bad stuff, it's too late to escape isn't it. Buahahahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem you face on this site, is so much communication is lost when only in black and white.

All the para verbal skills that people don't get to see, which actually accounts for more than what is said, gets lost.

It is said, more is understood and interpreted from how something is said, not what is actually said.

Like body language, facial expression, hand gestures, tone of voice, pitch of voice, volume etc etc etc.

That my friend is going to be you're ball and chain on here.

My advice, get to social meets and clubs, where people get to see you as a person and are able to interpret what you are saying far more easier than the written word only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think OP has a genuine point that if you have issues it is difficult to meet. People put on a liberal face but are actually are prejudiced. But that point is countered by the point that people are on here for fun and life is too short to have to try hard or in their intimate life counter their prejudices. This is the 'me first space' and whether anyone thinks it's wrong the prime rule must be no interference in people's intimate space. I say this as someone who lost their voice for 8 months and it took 6 to diagnose it. I would prior to that go to parties and chat to people. When I lost my voice l discovered that couples and single women who do not know you give you 1 minute to connect then the shutters come down. I was blown out so many times after the initial contact it got painful and upsetting. I then realised what it is like for people with heavy foreign accents or speech impediments. In the end I gave up swinging for 6 months. However even in my lowest ebb I kept in mind people are out for fun not to be social progressives, and that is life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok, i have a serious illness, ive started or posted on numerous threads over the years.

As far as im aware know has not wanted to meet me because if it.

If im just doing a coffee social i dont mention it.

If i do a social with it possibly leading to more i brush over the basics.

If someone knows me better i explain more as anyone who gets to know me well infortunatly dont always see well me.

Also if when i was first contact with someone it might put them off, i start of a need to know basis

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I suffer from a bad case of intolerance brought about by contact with fools and idiots.

I solve this by switching off the computer.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"I suffer from a bad case of intolerance brought about by contact with fools and idiots.

I solve this by switching off the computer.

No you bloody dont, you're always on here!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I suffer from a bad case of intolerance brought about by contact with fools and idiots.

I solve this by switching off the computer.

No you bloody dont, you're always on here!

Not true

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I suffer from a bad case of intolerance brought about by contact with fools and idiots.

I solve this by switching off the computer.

No you bloody dont, you're always on here!

Not true

Nearly always only when your not fucking, cooking or in the bath.. Oh nearly forgot to add seeing your little old lady friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Multiple personalities schizophrenia isn't so bad .

Your never alone

Stay smiley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

No one is disagreeing. ...and so what if they are? Everyone also has the right to their own opinions. They aren't all going to be the same as yours.

Yes Everyone has the right to their own opinions but wen its like you shoddount do this or that cos of you have this and that its mor of a disskrimoun act."

OP from what I can tell, the responses you have received from people in the open forums has been very positive...so if you are saying that you get people sending you private messages telling you you shouldn't be on here for whatever reason, then you should report them to admin and block them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, the poster you're referring to based their opinion on your dating/swinging thread. It wasn't your conditions that caused him to make that comment, but the fact that you couldn't see the difference between dating and swinging. That may or may not be related to your conditions, but I don't think he meant that 'all people with multiple conditions should not swing'.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think that you can't really educate those who are not interested or concerned, in the tiny space of a thread post.

Op - your profile could say things that are important to potential meets. And you could add anything more in private chat.

Ultimately, you have limited time and energy - as we all do. Keep in mind what is your number one priority to achieve from Fab. And then question whether you're using most of your energy and focus to achieve it. If you're not, then revise your action. Most people you could meet do not use the forum. Effort here is lost on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to crack on OP! Crack on regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OCD, and it's not something to joke about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a right to be on here, just as everyone is entitled to their opinions. It doesn't mean that this is the right place for everyone, or that the opinions a person gives are correct.

OP I think that by now everyone on the forums is aware of your conditions - you've been very open and honest about them and started multiple threads discussing them. You've also imo been given a lot of support and a very easy ride compared to the majority of single guys who post the same old same old.

Concentrate on finding what you are looking for instead of going over the same ground...it is getting a bit tedious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had any conditions, I'd make potential meets aware if they needed to know, but wouldn't put it on here. To me it would seem like sharing too much info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see Borat is alive and well

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Thankfully I've no list

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

No one is disagreeing. ...and so what if they are? Everyone also has the right to their own opinions. They aren't all going to be the same as yours.

Yes Everyone has the right to their own opinions but wen its like you shoddount do this or that cos of you have this and that its mor of a disskrimoun act.

I Ge's i wos hopeing thay mite post on hear for all to see. But thay havount. So think I will now.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, have you considered using voice recognition for posts and online messages? You speak, the phone/tablet/computer does the writing for you.

Finding ways to manage conditions is how we all get through the day.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Im triying to mak a point to thos hoo seem to WONT understand that no matter wot condishouns we have we all have the rite to do wot we want just like every one els.

No one is disagreeing. ...and so what if they are? Everyone also has the right to their own opinions. They aren't all going to be the same as yours.

Yes Everyone has the right to their own opinions but wen its like you shoddount do this or that cos of you have this and that its mor of a disskrimoun act.

I Ge's i wos hopeing thay mite post on hear for all to see. But thay havount. So think I will now."

That's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have our crosses to bare so you just have to get on with it

I totally agree some more than others. You just have to take one day at time and keep smiling

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