FabSwingers.com forum: Help needed....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I get that I come from the least popular demographic (single guy) but what am I doing wrong....

It's not just here I am about to give up completely. I never get messaged and I hardly ever even get a reply if I message someone and an actual meet seems to be something of a myth, please help all feedback welcome as long as it's not just spiteful and rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest going along to some socials in your area,also you could attend a club night and both might lead to fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I get that I come from the least popular demographic (single guy) but what am I doing wrong....

Sorry to be brutal.

Your profile text is boring and reveals nothing about you.

Cute dog, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound extremely unsure of yourself in your profile text.

And also the first line could be worded better.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I didn't think pets were allowed in pics

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"I didn't think pets were allowed in pics

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They're not allowed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Stinkfist - Thanks I'm looking into doing something just kind of new to this scene, I have in my head it seems single guys are not very welcome though I need to get over that I suppose. Thanks.

Hants-smiles - hey, if brutal works then great, I'm not sure what I should be revealing though lol I thought I love women but will try anything was kinda in there lol, didn't mean to be boring though I'll rework it. Thanks and she is lol.

Greedythump - I am unsure of myself, this is all new to me it's kinda daunting but message received I shall look again, thanks

Kinky-minx it was my first approved photo but I'll look at removing it thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search the forum for profile advice there is loads of useful help.

You do have to be patient your vastly outnumbered by women and couples. And being bi does sometimes put couples off (i think they maybe under the impression you cant play straight

If you are confident get yourself to a club or a social they are a great place to meet people and are usually a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stinkfist - Thanks I'm looking into doing something just kind of new to this scene, I have in my head it seems single guys are not very welcome though I need to get over that I suppose. Thanks.

Greedythump - I am unsure of myself, this is all new to me it's kinda daunting but message received I shall look again, thanks

Kinky-minx it was my first approved photo but I'll look at removing it thanks

Read what you have put in your profile. Does it stand out? Would it attract a lady? Does it describe your character? Does it make someone want to know about you?

The answer at the moment is that it doesn't.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I would consider your photographs. Are they showing you in your best light?

How do you look dressed for an evening out for example? Have a look at some of the popular men here and compare your approach and presentation to theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all I will be following your advice when I have some peace (kids in bed) except removing my dog, don't want to remain breaking the rules haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't sound too sure of yourself. Maybe that's because you're not? You seem to be very nervous about the idea of an MMF threesome. If it doesn't appeal to you then that's perfectly fine, but there's no point in pursuing something that that you are not comfortable with. Have a think about what you want from the swing scene, then have a think about what you can offer your target market.

Nice to see a face pic, and you are a nice looking guy. The second picture is not flattering. Have pictures that make you look sexy and appealing to women. They don't have to be naked, they just have to show sex appeal

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I am not nervous about mmf I have been in that situation a few times, the only thing I haven't done is bi mmf and I would like to. I have no attraction towards men but that doesn't stop me having fun with them . I am intrigued by fun with men but would just be more comfortable if I was having fun with a woman too, I was in a mmm situation once and they we're a couple but jealousy was an issue i just dont really want fun with only a man/men, that was what i was trying to portray, im not sure how to reword it to get that across, I am very comfortable with just women or a mixed couple

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've not read your profile text.. my 2p

Be yourself, portray that in your text, you can't please everyone, so you're better trying to inform and attract those folk that you do want to please... folk can only offer generic advice after all we don't know you,

Read your profile through the eyes of your audience..

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Sorry, but you are just one of many single guys, who I think occasionally get a raw deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the welcome advice all who have taken the time to reply x

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