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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else have a problem of not being able too cum? Not all the time but just now and again. Today i had amazing sex with all the extras but couldn't cum. She came and tried too help me with her mouth and hands but no success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I've had this problem in the past, where it would take perhaps an hour or more during which time I'd remain hard and it would all feel great. Often, the issue was greater for her than it was for me, that feeling that somehow she'd "failed". But some of the most intense sex for me, I've not cum at all.

If you masturbate a lot, that can actually make the issue greater!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah stop edging so much it can lead to a more intense orgasm or a dead bellend!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I used to fuck a guy who was on anti-depressants.

bit of a shit sandwich from the POV of his life but it took him AGES to cum, which from my POV was great.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Whereas, at the other end of the scale, I met some chap who billed himself as a great lover. Came within 15 mins.

I was soooo pissed off I spunked on his nice Armani suit and gave him such a bad review he's never been back.

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Whereas, at the other end of the scale, I met some chap who billed himself as a great lover. Came within 15 mins.

I was soooo pissed off I spunked on his nice Armani suit and gave him such a bad review he's never been back.

God I love you!

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I've been told once or twice I'm hard work as I don't Cum quickly. ....but with others I can Cum within minutes.....hmmmmm my problem or their technique I'm.wondering!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been told once or twice I'm hard work as I don't Cum quickly. ....but with others I can Cum within minutes.....hmmmmm my problem or their technique I'm.wondering!"

We should meet lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Whereas, at the other end of the scale, I met some chap who billed himself as a great lover. Came within 15 mins.

I was soooo pissed off I spunked on his nice Armani suit and gave him such a bad review he's never been back.

God I love you!

"If you sup with the Devil take a long spoon."

Prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paul tends to be like this with other woman- he was like it with me when we first met and even in 3some situations he can't cum. But on one to one situations with me he can cum easily- it's obviously mind over matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Paul tends to be like this with other woman- he was like it with me when we first met and even in 3some situations he can't cum. But on one to one situations with me he can cum easily- it's obviously mind over matter. "

Yes it most probably is mind over matter. She wasn't complaining but left me frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else have a problem of not being able too cum? Not all the time but just now and again. Today i had amazing sex with all the extras but couldn't cum. She came and tried too help me with her mouth and hands but no success "

Yes I can be a bit like that. I can't cum at all during oral or if they girl tries with her hand (not that either aren't pleasurable though) and if she doesn't like kissing it's not a big help either. I think women sometimes take it as a slight on them or think I haven't enjoyed myself, neither of which is true. Surely it's better than lasting 30 seconds though...

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

I have had guys who last seconds and guys who don't come..It is about enjoyment..coming doesn't have to be such a big deal .

it will come!

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Whereas, at the other end of the scale, I met some chap who billed himself as a great lover. Came within 15 mins.

I was soooo pissed off I spunked on his nice Armani suit and gave him such a bad review he's never been back.

God I love you!

"If you sup with the Devil take a long spoon."

Prick.

I have a very long spoon.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whereas, at the other end of the scale, I met some chap who billed himself as a great lover. Came within 15 mins.

I was soooo pissed off I spunked on his nice Armani suit and gave him such a bad review he's never been back.

Fortunately the dry cleaners were very understanding...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had this before on one of my first meets took nearly 3 hours for me to cum but i thinks its because i was nervous as hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only happened a couple of times on meets with guys we have met . Both times they said they were either very nervous or didn't want to cum too quick .

It's a shame for them but there's no way we would want to meet them again . We would far sooner meet with people who just go with the flow , cum when they want and enjoy it . A quick cum is way better for us than an edger .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"It's only happened a couple of times on meets with guys we have met . Both times they said they were either very nervous or didn't want to cum too quick .

You old romantics :P

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Hard to cum? Nah, I can cum when I'm soft

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Hard to cum? Nah, I can cum when I'm soft

Eww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met men where this has been the case. So long as they made me aware that's probably how it was going to go, so I didn't feel like I had failed, then it wasn't a problem.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Hard to cum? Nah, I can cum when I'm soft

Eww"

Essentially it just ends up as a bit of a sticky mess on ma belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's only happened a couple of times on meets with guys we have met . Both times they said they were either very nervous or didn't want to cum too quick .

Hello! I need a trip to Gloucester...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a guy earlier about this very thing. He said he had to quit wanking so much and watching porn as he couldn't cum. Apparently one month of self control and he's cured

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not usually an issue. The only times I've not been able to cum is when drinks been involved.

I don't really drink anymore though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never cum on meets.

I've been told some people sometimes get too horny beforehand and they can't cum. Fine by me.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I never cum on meets.

I've been told some people sometimes get too horny beforehand and they can't cum. Fine by me.

It would be nice to get the opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this problem in the past. I realised it was a mental thing - I was feeling the pressure to perform and never truly relaxed during sex. It took quite a few encounters to build my confidence to the point that I wasn't so nervous, and I could release. I used to wonder if I'd ever be able to cum with a woman, and it was having an effect on my partners too - the gut reaction of a female to this problem is that they're not arousing you enough, so they feel bad too. You will get there with the right person who shows understanding, and patience to help you relax.

I found that concentrating on things like kissing and licking helped me focus on pleasure rather than worries about whether I'll cum or not, and lo and behold it started to happen. Now I cum a lot, think my body is making up for my earlier encounters!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In 2011 I was shagginv a guy, the guy who introduced me to fab funnily enough, anyway (he's not on here now either) the first 5 or 6 times I slept with him he didn't cum at all. Absolutely horrible from my point of view, I didn't like that at all, made me feel like a failure. He said he rarely cums with anybody yet admitted to wanking 2 or 3 times a day, ranking to completion as well. I was like well stop fucking wanking then idiot, he did and then he did cum inside me, bleurgh eeew even thinking about it makes me want to scrub my fanny with a Brillo. Ahhh why did I start talking about this.

Anyway op, do you masterbate a lot, are you shagging with condoms cos that can decrease your sensitivity? Cialis can maybe increase your load and maybe get things going again maybe?

I like quick cummers, less than a minute then reload and good to go again for longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In 2011 I was shagginv a guy, the guy who introduced me to fab funnily enough, anyway (he's not on here now either) the first 5 or 6 times I slept with him he didn't cum at all. Absolutely horrible from my point of view, I didn't like that at all, made me feel like a failure. He said he rarely cums with anybody yet admitted to wanking 2 or 3 times a day, ranking to completion as well. I was like well stop fucking wanking then idiot, he did and then he did cum inside me, bleurgh eeew even thinking about it makes me want to scrub my fanny with a Brillo. Ahhh why did I start talking about this.

Anyway op, do you masterbate a lot, are you shagging with condoms cos that can decrease your sensitivity? Cialis can maybe increase your load and maybe get things going again maybe?

I like quick cummers, less than a minute then reload and good to go again for longer. "

Well said ... A great response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway op, do you masterbate a lot, are you shagging with condoms cos that can decrease your sensitivity? Cialis can maybe increase your load and maybe get things going again maybe?

I like quick cummers, less than a minute then reload and good to go again for longer. "

Amazing profile grumpy mood passed now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's either too much porn and wanking yourself feels better or Viagra...

I like to finish like a porn star but Shhhhhhh if I didn't I'd be fucking till the cows came homeor pigs started flying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this but usually only after a few drinks,then it can go on for hours.

Normally though it can be fairly quick if all my buttons get pressed right,but usually I can recover quite quickly and ready to go again.

Strange though that ide quite happily never cum,I get my kicks out of the other person getting off on what I'm doing to them.if I cum quickly I feel like I've disappointed them.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

As long as I get one or two in, I don't care if they come or not

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

"I get this but usually only after a few drinks,then it can go on for hours.

Normally though it can be fairly quick if all my buttons get pressed right,but usually I can recover quite quickly and ready to go again.

Strange though that ide quite happily never cum,I get my kicks out of the other person getting off on what I'm doing to them.if I cum quickly I feel like I've disappointed them."

Never ever feel this, I always take it as a compliment if the guy cums quickly! And often as I like doing it outside / in risky places then its got to happen anyways!

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Yeah, happened to me a few times......both ways, me not cumming or the other guy not cumming.

As said earlier though, doesn't mean it's bad sex, just less of a mess at the end to clean up.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I rarely cum when I play but that certainly doesn't spoil ny enjoyment.

I am very intense and I love to concentrate on my partner- I still have very intense feelings and orgasms myself but as chrissy for some reason cumming rarely happens.

I'm with above, u like a good repeater and fairly quick cummer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get this but usually only after a few drinks,then it can go on for hours.

Normally though it can be fairly quick if all my buttons get pressed right,but usually I can recover quite quickly and ready to go again.

Strange though that ide quite happily never cum,I get my kicks out of the other person getting off on what I'm doing to them.if I cum quickly I feel like I've disappointed them.

Never ever feel this, I always take it as a compliment if the guy cums quickly! And often as I like doing it outside / in risky places then its got to happen anyways! "

Nice to hear somebody say that.You've made my day,thank you

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