FabSwingers.com forum: Wife feels guilty chatting to guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just got my wife on here she feels guilty chatting to guys on line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well don't force her into it unless she's happy to do it. If she's uncomfortable about it, let her do her own thing at her own pace.

Was it her choice to join?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We chatted about it for a bit said we look at it see what it like I've been on here a bit add some good sexy chats wanted to see if it would make her horn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We chatted about it for a bit said we look at it see what it like I've been on here a bit add some good sexy chats wanted to see if it would make her horn"

Has she joined because she knew you were here? Or were you already here with her blessing? It's difficult to say, but the information I can see is that you've had a profile for over a year. And now you're posting about her. She's not reaching out for the advice herself. And she feels guilty.

Maybe she'll get into it but it does feel like you're pushing her into something she's not comfortable with. Do you have a couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does she feel guilty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did at first as it was all new etc ( hubby knows etc so all good) but once I got into it, it all fell into place x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we do now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She just into sexy chat and she feels she leading guys on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find miss chatting guys up in bars/clubs very exciting.

Even leads them to the dance floor, dances, grinds, gropes/gets groped.

Has even brought some back over, took them back to a hotel and well, you know.....

Massive turn on, because we are BOTH into it, both enjoy it and both get turned in by it. It isn't just for me or just for her.

Mutual enjoyment and participation....

Maybe she just needs practice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She just into sexy chat and she feels she leading guys on"

Basically a time waster then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She just into sexy chat and she feels she leading guys on

Basically a time waster then?"

Not at all, if they tell guys they just like dirty chat.

Each to their own.

We know guys who just live to be talked dirty to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes think that's right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what we put on profile just for sexy chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong will a little dirty chat as long as every one knows that's all that's going to happen, I had a few and enjoy them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what I've told my wife some guy get off just having dirty chat

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not being argumentative here but why are you asking from your single profile? Your wife might feel less guilty if this was a joint activity (trust me plenty of men enjoy chatting to just the woman in a couple) and the element of doing something behind your back was removed.

It could also be that she doesn't really want to do it.

Again I would say you need to communicate with her...not us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not being argumentative here but why are you asking from your single profile? Your wife might feel less guilty if this was a joint activity (trust me plenty of men enjoy chatting to just the woman in a couple) and the element of doing something behind your back was removed.

It could also be that she doesn't really want to do it.

Again I would say you need to communicate with her...not us.

I agree with this

I wouldn't feel guilty if I had a singles account, but I definitely feel more free with a couple's account (I'm not sure if I'm making sense here...). I chat and flirt with guys and Marc sees it because it's our joint profile and he loves it. It makes it more fun for me, too. I know it's different for everyone, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was naturally loyal in relationships so if i'd had someone who gave me permission to get sexual with other guys i probably would have felt guilty too.

i agree with the above in trying to make this a couples activity, and you're probably gonna have to take some time to convince her that you enjoy it and want her to get off on it too.

you might also have to accept that this isn't going to work and she might be loyal naturally and this kind of thing will never do it for her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would never push her into it it something we are slowly trying she says she likes it just the guit thing of leading guys on thinking they are going too meet when she just wants sexy chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh, that's different. i agree that's not fair to lead them on, although some will also be pretending to want to meet as well.

there are a lot of guys who enjoy sexy chat only, she should be able to find those guys easy enough. if she got kik i reckon she's have a lot of success with that, but i think they'd expect pics as well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I would never push her into it it something we are slowly trying she says she likes it just the guit thing of leading guys on thinking they are going too meet when she just wants sexy chat"

Then she should just explain that on her profile and in first messages.

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By *ornyredheadedmaleMan
over a year ago

carlisle

"Just got my wife on here she feels guilty chatting to guys on line "

I'm happy to talk to her if it helps.

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By *ornyredheadedmaleMan
over a year ago

carlisle

"Just got my wife on here she feels guilty chatting to guys on line "

What's her name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got my wife on here she feels guilty chatting to guys on line "

I would imagine you will have a much bigger issue if your wife stops feeling guilty.... Proceed with extreme caution

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Is it her way of saying ......... I don't want this ? Stop asking me to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She just into sexy chat and she feels she leading guys on

Basically a time waster then?"

not if she says straight off that she's only looking for sexy chat, then it's up to the guy if he wants to continue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got my wife on here she feels guilty chatting to guys on line "

Lol good wife!

Jokes aside, alot of guys are horrid.. what about talking to ladies?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"" we are slowly trying" "

OP you have been on for over a year now. Are you sure she really wants to continue trying?

Sally

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I would never push her into it it something we are slowly trying she says she likes it just the guit thing of leading guys on thinking they are going too meet when she just wants sexy chat"

Not sure it is fair leading guys on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what is said on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never push her into it it something we are slowly trying she says she likes it just the guit thing of leading guys on thinking they are going too meet when she just wants sexy chat"

She can just say that's all it is , just chat. Then they know from the start, reflect this in her profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can you chat to someone here using this broken messaging system?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we have done said just sexy chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's not enjoying it why is she doing it?

If she feels guilty for leading men on she should stop leading them on and be totally clear she isn't here to meet, at the beginning of the conversation. Don't rely on anyone to read it on her profile.

If she's only doing it to please you, you should let her leave and you do the chatting. No one will be any the wiser.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"That's what is said on profile"

What is her profile name?

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