FabSwingers.com forum: Is no reply a cardinal sin?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.

Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.

Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.

Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.

Seems you can't win, whatever you do.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why try and win..... just do what you feel is right.

it's nice to reply but there are people who will want to know 'why'...... spare yourself the drama and reply and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to reply, don't. Delete the message and block the sender if you don't want any further messages from them.

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Either way you cant win replying or not.

Some will take a no reply as a no thanks, others will pester if you dont. Same as if you do reply saying no thankssome will appreciate it, yest from others you may get abuse for saying it. Ive learnt that saying often causes less trouble but thats only my opinion.

Dont take it to heart and do what you think is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes if you reply, it opens communication, even if you just say that you're only browsing and not looking to play just now.

I'd ignore and block if they message you multiple times. I'm a newbie here too! (Waves)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no reply a respect. I respect the woman even more if they do reply and say no. I find that to be very polite. I like polite.

But that's me. I'm not angry if they delete without replying. That's their prerogative.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

The vast majority of the rude replies will be from unverified guys. Thier profiles will be deleted within a week either by themselves or mods.

Just report any rude mails.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes if you reply, it opens communication, even if you just say that you're only browsing and not looking to play just now.

I'd ignore and block if they message you multiple times. I'm a newbie here too! (Waves)"

Waves back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a polite reply even if it's a no thank you... i'm never rude back unless folk are rude to me. If folk just delete message and not reply i often block their profile as it saves me seeing them again. I sometimes forget who ive contacted before so it's better if i dont see them again.

It used to piss me off when folk dont reply as i think it is good manners...unfortunately too many folk dont have such manners and i dont have the time or inclination to rebuke their oversight

However a nice reply will always have my thanks

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

We don't reply to messages that have obviously had no effort put into them at all - the ones that are one liners saying "hi fancy meeting" or similar.

Where the sender has obviously taken the time to read our profile and string together something at least half decent but we're not interested in taking things further, we always reply with a polite "Thanks for your message but we're not looking to take things further. Good luck and happy Fabbing" - which being a closed statement discourages further messages.

Mr G

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Having seen the multitude of men that inhabit the chat rooms here I always figure when I message that I will be lucky to get any response. I know that I am not everyone's cup of tea. That said have had some really pleasant messages and chats in my time here so far.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"I prefer a polite reply even if it's a no thank you... i'm never rude back unless folk are rude to me. If folk just delete message and not reply i often block their profile as it saves me seeing them again. I sometimes forget who ive contacted before so it's better if i dont see them again.

It used to piss me off when folk dont reply as i think it is good manners...unfortunately too many folk dont have such manners and i dont have the time or inclination to rebuke their oversight

However a nice reply will always have my thanks

xx"
The sites own FAQ,s say it's not rude to not reply so it's hardly an oversight it's a choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means not interested. If someone doesn't reply I don't take offence and just block them so I never message them again.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.

Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.

Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.

Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.

Seems you can't win, whatever you do."

you'll be damned if you do... and damned if you don't.... so welcome to the wonderful world of fab!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a perfect rejection situation I would like - I send a message, they reply to say 'thanks but no thanks' and then I can reply to that to say 'thanks and good luck'.

Three messages, goodwill and politeness all round and we can then both block the other so that we don't have to bother each other again.

But - given the bloke to women ratio here - I accept it can't be a perfect world or women would spend their whole time send no thanks replies.

So you have to go with what works for you and if that involves delete and immediate block then go for it and don't look back. No one is owed a reply especially if all they have sent is 'can I cum on yr tits'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.

Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.

Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.

Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.

Seems you can't win, whatever you do."

Just block the Muppets with this attitude. Too many of them on the site at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply if I'm not interested, I don't see the point in it. If people are bothered by that or if they want to berate me for having no manners then so be it.

Similarly if I message and I don't receive a reply I'm not bothered by it. Its obvious people are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't reply if I'm not interested, I don't see the point in it. If people are bothered by that or if they want to berate me for having no manners then so be it.

Similarly if I message and I don't receive a reply I'm not bothered by it. Its obvious people are not interested. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends for me, If it's a 'I'm free, let's Fuck' instant delete. If they put some effort in and actually hold a conversation then I'm happy to talk to anyone, at which point if play is mentioned, and they're not for me then a polite no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do our upmost to reply to all messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think they deserve a reply either way. Some people don't mind a straight delete. Either can cause abuse to be sent. I personally try and be polite and say no thanks but if the message is rude I normally just delete it.

Just do what ever you think works best for you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I reply to all my messages, not always without a bit of sarcasm.

If they turn nasty I block.

Once I've said no thanks and they've told me they hope I find what I am looking for

, I block

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If I were to message guys and not get a reply it would not bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems you can't win...a profile may state a simple polite no thanks is appreciated only to get abuse

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