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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Opinions on how to start talking to people I'm new on here and get ignored when I message someone all help is welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you say in your messages?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Well it helps if you create some sort of profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums is as good a place as any to start

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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"What do you say in your messages?"
I just introduce myself and also send a face pic

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

When i receive a message i look at the senders profile first. If i looked at your profile i would probably delete your message without reading it.

If you make yourself sound interesting in your profile you might have some more luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never got this right... but some things I have learned;

1. Messages have no context, be careful what you write

2. Make a judgement based on the persons profile; there are many sorts of swingers; tailoring a response requires you to think about what the person has written; not just read it

3. Don't tell people what you are going to do to them, unless they ask you too, it can offend

4. Be YOURSELF, if they don't like YOU then they probably won't like being deceived because you are what they want for a moment

5. Be patient once you have sent a message and don't chase; its unattractive

I get accused of being too "dating site" when I write; it's something I take on the chin and yes it has people running, but the people I meet are people I have at least an elementary understanding of and therefore we usually have a good time.

I am not very good at "sex talk" not massively keen on building up weird expectations (cos I am such a let down ) but I am genuinely interested in people that I message.

Watch out for nutters; they come across as nice and genuine and then flip out.... this can happen quite often (maybe I just make people flip out(?!) and suggest a social first (if thats what a persons profile alludes too), its easier to arrange a liaison over a coffee than it is a message system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i receive a message i look at the senders profile first. If i looked at your profile i would probably delete your message without reading it.

If you make yourself sound interesting in your profile you might have some more luck."

That's an interesting insight, is this common practice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you say in your messages? I just introduce myself and also send a face pic "

And is it a copy and paste message?

And do you just message anyone who's looking for a single man your age, or where you fit the above criteria & you feel that you can bring something unique to the party?

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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"When i receive a message i look at the senders profile first. If i looked at your profile i would probably delete your message without reading it.

If you make yourself sound interesting in your profile you might have some more luck."
do you have some ideas how I could do that?

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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"What do you say in your messages? I just introduce myself and also send a face pic

And is it a copy and paste message?

And do you just message anyone who's looking for a single man your age, or where you fit the above criteria & you feel that you can bring something unique to the party?"
no its not a copy and paste and sometimes yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you say in your messages? I just introduce myself and also send a face pic

And is it a copy and paste message?

And do you just message anyone who's looking for a single man your age, or where you fit the above criteria & you feel that you can bring something unique to the party? no its not a copy and paste and sometimes yes"

Don't make it sometimes, make it all the time.

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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"What do you say in your messages? I just introduce myself and also send a face pic

And is it a copy and paste message?

And do you just message anyone who's looking for a single man your age, or where you fit the above criteria & you feel that you can bring something unique to the party? no its not a copy and paste and sometimes yes

Don't make it sometimes, make it all the time."
ok thanks for your advice

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"When i receive a message i look at the senders profile first. If i looked at your profile i would probably delete your message without reading it.

If you make yourself sound interesting in your profile you might have some more luck.

That's an interesting insight, is this common practice?"

Most women I know on here do this. Myself included.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

OP Why do you feel it necessary to send a face pic when the recipient will already have seen your face pic avatar ?

Sally

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By *radders99 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"OP Why do you feel it necessary to send a face pic when the recipient will already have seen your face pic avatar ?

Sally"
I never actually thought about that haha I really don't know thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i receive a message i look at the senders profile first. If i looked at your profile i would probably delete your message without reading it.

If you make yourself sound interesting in your profile you might have some more luck.

That's an interesting insight, is this common practice?

Most women I know on here do this. Myself included."

and me.

if the pics gain my initial interest but the message is bland if i can see we have some sexual/social compatibility then i'd reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please take bored off your status.....nobody wants a boring bastard x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send your best cock pic along with a winky face emoticon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Opinions on how to start talking to people I'm new on here and get ignored when I message someone all help is welcome "

Tell you how we see it .

Whenever we are contacted by anyone the first thing we do is look at their profile.

If we see a short profile we completely ignore them as it stinks of a lack of effort.

Hope that helps you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we get a message we look at profile first.

If no face pics we tend not to reply.

But if we get a nice hello message, with smiley face pic and accompanied with a chatty profile, we would say hello back.

Your profile is your "Shop window" Make it work for you.

x

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