FabSwingers.com forum: Why get aggressive if you don't get a reply?

By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

After hearing the same scenario again and again from different women on here , I would really like to know how and why people think it's im to get aggressive with someone when they don't reply? When has ever someone being nasty or aggressive on fab got them the person they desired? Why do they it?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

It's probably people throwing their toys out of the pram to get the feeling they get the "last word". childish and immature to be honest and only reinforces the reason the person didn't reply in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I deserve a 'yes'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

How dare you turn them down.. What's wrong with you man?

Have you got standards or something!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Because they fucking can right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understood it myself.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

doubly so if its allied with a massive sense of entitlement and they find out to their chagrin that for some this is not shag city..

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Here endeth the lesson, said the white knight.

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

My latest aggressive reply to a very polite thanks but not for me was "Ha, ha, says the fat minger!#IRONIC. Oh, and I'm way brighter than you love..."

When I first started getting them they actually bothered me, now they just make me hit the block button and I feel sorry for them. I mean, clearly I am fat but how they've determined I'm a "minger" without having seen any pictures is beyond me. There are some incredibly sensitive people in the world, who probably shouldn't be on sites like this if they can't handle the rejection, because that's all it is, an immature reaction, trying to cause some of the hurt back that you've caused them by saying no.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

desperation......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they're abusive and enjoy abusing people, really is as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the short time we've been here we've had two abusive replies so I'm not complaining as I've sent more abusive replies to some of the shit opening messages we receive.

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"they're abusive and enjoy abusing people, really is as simple as that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They paid their site supporters fee and now feel all women should fall at their knees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't answer a message and was added to a guys naming and shaming "time waster" list on his profile. I wouldn't have even noticed if i hadn't mentioned to a friend about his ranty message and then she checked out his profile. Must have had 25/30 names on it. Obviously reported and admin have dealt with it quickly. Beggars belief

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

is this the bad men again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

The female ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

The female ego."

I can vouch for that comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this the bad men again

Those terrible bad men at it again View, what are we gonna do about them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

The female ego.

I can vouch for that comment

Egos should be banned.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I didn't answer a message and was added to a guys naming and shaming "time waster" list on his profile. I wouldn't have even noticed if i hadn't mentioned to a friend about his ranty message and then she checked out his profile. Must have had 25/30 names on it. Obviously reported and admin have dealt with it quickly. Beggars belief

I'm sorry but that's so funny bless him

I'm laughing my arse off here thank you for sharing

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"is this the bad men again

Those terrible bad men at it again View, what are we gonna do about them?

everyday

those bad, bad men.

yet people keep coming back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but that's so funny bless him

I'm laughing my arse off here thank you for sharing

Glad I could brighten your day

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I'm sorry but that's so funny bless him

I'm laughing my arse off here thank you for sharing

Glad I could brighten your day

no thank you

that's a absolute classic one of the best stupid guy stories I've heard in a long long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a

Guy writes supportive post sympathising with women to gain points type thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this the bad men again

Those terrible bad men at it again View, what are we gonna do about them?

everyday

those bad, bad men.

yet people keep coming back

Have you noticed, when a man starts a thread about a bad woman, it's always the man's fault. People tell him he must have done or said something to make her react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this the bad men again

It's a bloody good thing all these other guys showed up that are nothing like them.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"is this the bad men again

Those terrible bad men at it again View, what are we gonna do about them?

everyday

those bad, bad men.

yet people keep coming back

Have you noticed, when a man starts a thread about a bad woman, it's always the man's fault. People tell him he must have done or said something to make her react.

yup, that is how this river flows.......

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"is this the bad men again

It's a bloody good thing all these other guys showed up that are nothing like them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this a

Guy writes supportive post sympathising with women to gain points type thread?"

To be fair, I've spoken to a lot of men who have told me things about women on here.

I wholeheartedly support any man who says the place is full of crazies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"is this the bad men again

It's a bloody good thing all these other guys showed up that are nothing like them."

Genuine ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's nothing as fragile as the male ego!

The female ego."

Not sure about the op but on the while we have had more problems that way with couple then single guys

Most although not all guys that have messaged us have been great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think we've had anyone get agressive with us on Fab. Quite a few that were a bit pushy (couples and singles men) thus making it difficult for us to politely decline. But not rude or agressive. Thankfully that hasn't happened yet.

Mrs

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I don't think we've had anyone get agressive with us on Fab. Quite a few that were a bit pushy (couples and singles men) thus making it difficult for us to politely decline. But not rude or agressive. Thankfully that hasn't happened yet.

Mrs"

and long may that continue as you are a lovely couple

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is this a

Guy writes supportive post sympathising with women to gain points type thread?"

No it's a why do people think bein abusive when they ain't getting nowhere with the person is Gonna get them laid kinda thread ...

Pretty much says it all in my first statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the many years we have been on fab we have only had one nasty message in reply to our thanks but no thanks message. We actually found it amusing and just blocked, the majority of people thank us for replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hilarious part is when they've described themselves as a "nice guy"......

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"In the many years we have been on fab we have only had one nasty message in reply to our thanks but no thanks message. We actually found it amusing and just blocked, the majority of people thank us for replying "

Im glad you haven't had to deal with people that don't know how to take no for an answer , long may it continue

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"The hilarious part is when they've described themselves as a "nice guy"......"

I'd never describe myself as a nice guy debauched yes nice never you hear me never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont send messages or even search i always reply if someone messages me though saves been ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be interested in how much of k issue this actually is. I know it happens but most people aren't arseholes and do respect others wishes without getting abusive or aggressive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not convinced this happens as much as people make out, not on an unprovoked basis anyway. I've only ever had one or two shitty responses to a 'no thanks' message. If I don't reply it's more because I can't be arsed than because I think I'm going to get aggro.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady once had a go and blocked me for thanking them for a thanks but no thanks

#canteffinwin

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support........."

As cynical as this is, I agree totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be interested in how much of k issue this actually is. I know it happens but most people aren't arseholes and do respect others wishes without getting abusive or aggressive.

Most of they nasty meggages I've had have been if I've answered when they've said 'why not?' to a thanks but no thanks. Now if I'm not interested in just block and avoid the problem.

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By *rchie_p OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm not convinced this happens as much as people make out, not on an unprovoked basis anyway. I've only ever had one or two shitty responses to a 'no thanks' message. If I don't reply it's more because I can't be arsed than because I think I'm going to get aggro. "

Hell hath no fury like a man ignored ay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support........."

Since being on Fabs & _iewing what appears to go on, the expression "like attracting like" springs to mind on a regular basis.

In all the time I've been on here I've received very few rude / abusive messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support.........

Since being on Fabs & _iewing what appears to go on, the expression "like attracting like" springs to mind on a regular basis.

In all the time I've been on here I've received very few rude / abusive messages."

I think I've only had 2 and that might have been because I was in a bit of a sarcastic mood. Ended up having a laugh with one of them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the women and couples being aggressive in their response. "You ugly fucker I wouldn't fuck you if you were the last man on earth!!!" and similar type mails no doubt have a knock on effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support.........

Since being on Fabs & _iewing what appears to go on, the expression "like attracting like" springs to mind on a regular basis.

In all the time I've been on here I've received very few rude / abusive messages."

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

They probably get so sexually frustrated from being rejected time and time again, that eventually it turns to anger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support.........

Since being on Fabs & _iewing what appears to go on, the expression "like attracting like" springs to mind on a regular basis.

In all the time I've been on here I've received very few rude / abusive messages."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's an attraction tool some use, they declare they have been abused and the floodgates open with messages of support.........

Since being on Fabs & _iewing what appears to go on, the expression "like attracting like" springs to mind on a regular basis.

In all the time I've been on here I've received very few rude / abusive messages."

We've never had an abusive message (apart from a couple of weird responses to forum posts)

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