FabSwingers.com forum: Liar!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine how you feel and especially if you are christian as its a sin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

Your profile says you meet Tvs and your last veri was a bi man .....erm this is a sign.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry to hear that. don't know what you can do about it but i've been lied to and it tends to ruin everything.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

That's pants,I hate lies

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

Talk to him about it. I dont think its a good idea to air young R dirty laundry here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bummer. Fancy a revenge fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I'm sorry for the shock it may have caused you but what's the drama? Your bi or bi - curious, if he's bi too then it looks like lots of sexy winter nights ahead.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

I'll never get why people need to do that on a site like this - be open, be damned!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i thought we were open and honest. when i asked him about men when we joined the site he sneered and said i was ridiculous.

the lying cheating scumbag caused arguments to get out to do this.

I am leaving this site having already changed the password so he cant log in.

Never trust anyone again, he has destroyed everything we ever had

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Dignity at all costs

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"i thought we were open and honest. when i asked him about men when we joined the site he sneered and said i was ridiculous.

the lying cheating scumbag caused arguments to get out to do this.

I am leaving this site having already changed the password so he cant log in.

Never trust anyone again, he has destroyed everything we ever had"

Sort it out with him rather than on here. My partner is openly bi and I have no problems .... ask yourself why he couldn't tell you. Personally if I felt the relationship was worth anything, I would make sure we worked it out. I don't know why you are still on here to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i asked him if he wanted to try with men he said definately NO.

although he has done this he refuses to speak to me, shows no sign of guilt.

I deserve much better, his loss

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Gutted for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didnt you know us men are all lying cheating bastards?

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

You can still have fun on here without him like you his lost. Hopefully you will come back when you are ready all the best Hun

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

*Like you said

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By *ustMe06Woman
over a year ago

...the naughty spot.

I've been where you are..

Things will be ok. Good luck whatever you decide. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs for you, nothing any of us can say that will help but hopefully you can talk to a close friend away from fab about it. Please take care xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion only sweet....

If you love each other you can move forward.

If this is now an issue for you with regard to trust then care for yourself and move forward.

It's not the site, and it's not your responsibility if he wanted to play outside of your arrangement.

You now have choices after a period of mourning the loss of trust and possibly the relationship.

After you work through the loss - you will have a lovely freedom to invite others into you life, and if you want - you can choose to tell them you have some trust issues now.

Remember how wonderful you are.

Get yourself tested - so be practical.

And most of all be ladylike through this so you can feel good about your actions when you look back.

Be kind to yourself.

Hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i asked him if he wanted to try with men he said definately NO.

although he has done this he refuses to speak to me, shows no sign of guilt.

I deserve much better, his loss"

You do. Every one deserves honesty.

Without it it's all pointless.

Kick him into touch and find someone that does respect you.

Good luck hunny xx

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I wouldn't say find someone else because you are in a raw place right now. Take time for you (I took seven years, not off the back of anything bad, just to find myself and be able to be myself) .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i asked him if he wanted to try with men he said definately NO.

although he has done this he refuses to speak to me, shows no sign of guilt.

I deserve much better, his loss"

It's quite clearly no ones loss.

Move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thankyou for all of your comments.

i posted it as i have no one away from the site who knows what we were into and therefore cant speak to anyone about this.

Im looking as we speak to move out of our home, the sooner the better for me x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"thankyou for all of your comments.

i posted it as i have no one away from the site who knows what we were into and therefore cant speak to anyone about this.

Im looking as we speak to move out of our home, the sooner the better for me x

I would be getting some legal advice first before you move out.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

Sounds like you're not blowing him off right...

...sorry ignore that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thankyou for all of your comments.

i posted it as i have no one away from the site who knows what we were into and therefore cant speak to anyone about this.

Im looking as we speak to move out of our home, the sooner the better for me x

I would be getting some legal advice first before you move out.

good luck"

this! Once you have left the home you lose rights. I had this with my ex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thankyou SSSassy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

Sounds like you're not blowing him off right...

...sorry ignore that.

"
aww bless honesty the best policy and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My opinion only sweet....

If you love each other you can move forward.

If this is now an issue for you with regard to trust then care for yourself and move forward.

It's not the site, and it's not your responsibility if he wanted to play outside of your arrangement.

You now have choices after a period of mourning the loss of trust and possibly the relationship.

After you work through the loss - you will have a lovely freedom to invite others into you life, and if you want - you can choose to tell them you have some trust issues now.

Remember how wonderful you are.

Get yourself tested - so be practical.

And most of all be ladylike through this so you can feel good about your actions when you look back.

Be kind to yourself.

Hugs

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"That's pants,I hate lies

Exactly this, if you can't be open and honest then what's the point in having any sort of relationship at all.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I really feel for you as I've been there.

I was seeing a guy ten years and found out the same as you (and about other women too) 3 years in..... To say it hurt was an understatement, particularly as I've have had no issue with him being bi!

He lied to me for several years afterwards though and from what I know still lies just as much to his partners now. You are probably best off out and away from it if my experience is anything to go by.

All the best OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

GAME OVER

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

I feel for you being lied to is just awful..heartbreaking even.

You need to talk to him maybe he was embarrassed to tell you , maybe it was part of the thrill. Until you talk to him ypu won't know.

Big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have just found out that my supposedly straight longterm partner has been meeting men off here and at carparks for oral sex.

We agreed to join the site together and thought we had an honest relationship.

He has never suggested meeting bi men. Im not sure how long this has been going on.

He has destroyed everything and i feel completely numb.

Your profile says you meet Tvs and your last veri was a bi man .....erm this is a sign."
....this..

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Sorry to read what he has done. Big hugs and you take care. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thankyou, yes it hurts like crazy, but i cant live with "what ifs".

I am better off on my own than with someone who has abused my trust and care

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

As he is also a member on here he might not appreciate having all his private business discussed in the forums so Im closing this sorry

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