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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

was there a third meet ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and no, I don't do clingy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use Fab for NSA fun. But if things develop into more there's nothing wrong with that. Life is fluid. She probably thought it was worth asking. If you don't feel the same way about her, or are not in a position to change what you had original set out for, then just tell her that you are unable to offer her more. No harm done.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a few times. A swift block follows

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?"

We met on here and from the first meet, we both knew it would develop into a relationship, but neither of us asked the other out, as it were, it just evolved naturally because we wanted to spend time together, had similar values and interests and laughed so much. Both of us were after nsa at that stage .... and I think any developing relationship has to be mutual

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes happens fairly often from the tone of the messages I get it mainly due to the fact the guys actually don't like the idea of sharing you as it could mean they loose a regular fuck, as opposed to actually wanting a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I never led her on or anything and I wasn't horrible about saying no, it just shocked me ha, but to be honest I bet you ladies have it far more often and probably weirder to ha!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?"

No-one has ever asked me for a second meet. Show off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get asked for other meets but nobody, except one bloke, has ever declared undying love. He was batshit crazy so i had to decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never led her on or anything and I wasn't horrible about saying no, it just shocked me ha, but to be honest I bet you ladies have it far more often and probably weirder to ha!"

I'm sure you didn't lead her on. Just take it as a compliment and let her down in a kind manner.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few men suddenly flop it on me that they want a monogamous relationship; only me being monogamous though, they still wanted mff 3somes.

Strange, I thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a marriage proposal, but I think he was already married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em......... "

Adapting to the terrain?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em......... "

Us women aren't daft you know . I have had that though and don't believe anyone on here,you guy's are rubbish at bullshitting

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em.........

Us women aren't daft you know . I have had that though and don't believe anyone on here,you guy's are rubbish at bullshitting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy once want to move him and his daugher in with me after a couple of meets

He was an unemployed single dad

Like that was going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em......... "

I'd be off out the door if I guy I met said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?"

Yes happened before some clingy lot!

But saying that I did meet an amazing guy from here! I wouldn't ask him out but he is a catch , a gentleman outside and naughty in bedroom!x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em.........

I'd be off out the door if I guy I met said that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a really weird one last wk. Been chatting on and off for a while and we were in the process of arranging a social. Out of the blue he states that within 5 yrs we'll be married I laughed it off but the final straw was him booking a hotel room and assuming I was free and up for it. Blocked

Some people do like to jump the gun. OP if you don't want more just explain to her that it's not what you're looking for atm

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I get asked for other meets but nobody, except one bloke, has ever declared undying love. He was batshit crazy so i had to decline."

Went for a coffee with someone and when I was leaving he declared much the same

Oh ok thanks...byebye

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met a few guys who wanted more but I didnt and vice versa. I think as long as you stipulate its nsa and nothing more then you will attract the right people.

There are some people who like the social side as well as the friendship and dont want just a quick fuck (im one of them) again you have to be clear what you want on you profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k"

You must be quite a catch

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I just turn up in a veil now. I just know what they are going to ask........ sigh.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I just turn up in a veil now. I just know what they are going to ask........ sigh."

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"People use Fab for NSA fun. But if things develop into more there's nothing wrong with that. Life is fluid. She probably thought it was worth asking. If you don't feel the same way about her, or are not in a position to change what you had original set out for, then just tell her that you are unable to offer her more. No harm done.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k

You must be quite a catch "

Lolz you made me laugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, once or twice. I've ever met a women I'd have considered a more graffiti onl relationship with.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k

You must be quite a catch

Lolz you made me laugh! "

These kinds of post are hilarious in my opinion if it was a woman say this it would be totally OK .

But as soon as a bloke makes such a statement well its met with this sort of thing .

Every woman in here telling a similar story is not getting this sort of post hypocrisy at work maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is with feelings is they are unique to you at any one time. None of us are mind readers, though some of us are good at guessing. Talking about is good for everyone, feelings are allowed to change and so long as you discuss it so it happens then nobody should get hurt too badly.

Its when you lie, or are closed off and don't talk. That's when the pain and misunderstanding happens.

I'd say man up, listen to her properly and be honest. Not brutally so if you know it's going to hurt. Honest enough for her to know how you feel about a relationship with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I'm quite annoying though, so once or twice is generally enough for people.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Nope. I'm quite annoying though, so once or twice is generally enough for people. "

I can believe that lack of stamina on there part maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On an old profile I had one guy ask me to run away with him after one meet and one marriage proposal

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"and no, I don't do clingy"

I thought it was George Burns there for a minute View.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that people generally sell their house after I have met them... I would like to think it's because some of the super great financial advice I give them....

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k

You must be quite a catch "

Well maybe you should find out.. Yes I'm being a flirt x

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London


"I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?"

Yes. Several times. More than one wanted to be mutually exclusive. Attempts have been made to drag me to the vanilla side. Stuff like that just makes me feel trapped.

I hate that.

I'd LOVE to comment further, but out of respect of these persons who are fellow fabbers, I will just leave this comment and tippy toe out of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. My first fab meet with a woman. Instant clingyness, i haven't met a single girl since.

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By *morousgentMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

I've had this from friends met on here. One didn't like me chatting to others but suggested going dogging

And I recently had amazing chemistry and fun with a friend from fab and started to think we could be an item when she told me she was married!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing with singles can be a bit like "Russian roulette".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok people by the look of it we can get abit of a money maker here il set up fake weddings pretend to marry these nut cases and we'll split the cash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was asked to date properly before. He was smitten. But I didn't feel the same. These things happen I guess

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I met a girl on here a couple of times on my old profile I blatantly made it clear N.S.A but after the second meet she kept asking about getting into a relationship... Anyone else experienced this ?

We met on here and from the first meet, we both knew it would develop into a relationship, but neither of us asked the other out, as it were, it just evolved naturally because we wanted to spend time together, had similar values and interests and laughed so much. Both of us were after nsa at that stage .... and I think any developing relationship has to be mutual"

This for me too.

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By *av big oneMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I usually say before the first meet that I am looking for something more than just sex, then once I have shagged em......... "

Lool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.....found this a few times. Strangely the younger the woman the more often it seems to happen! Hence I generally avoid those under 25.....too many bunny boilers out there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Twice a had girls refuse to see me again unless it was going to be a serious thing : k

You must be quite a catch

Lolz you made me laugh!

These kinds of post are hilarious in my opinion if it was a woman say this it would be totally OK .

But as soon as a bloke makes such a statement well its met with this sort of thing .

Every woman in here telling a similar story is not getting this sort of post hypocrisy at work maybe "

You maybe be a sexist but I am not an hypocrite but I am a woman ,and never ever would say such thing once ! How can people commit to a serious relationship before meeting? Is funny because is crazy and surreal! This doesn't have nothing to do with genders ,if was another way around I would think the same!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Would be nice to get a meet occasionally

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