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Checking members out via veris

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?

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No. Sounds like indiscreet tittle-tattle to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.

Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.

She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nope. The only reason i check out veris is to see if they meet people of my body type i.e large/bbw.

If all their veris are from much slimmer people i am suspicious as to why they are suddenly interested in bigger. Am i a last resort? etc. I want to be someone's first choice not the only one who will have them lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There are a couple of other bits that have made me prick my ears up but dont want to blow the whole thing in case she is real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.

Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.

She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"

I don't tend to leave one unless asked to but best to always go with you gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.

Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.

She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"

If you think something is dodgy then move on. I'd never dream of contacting someone who had verified a member I was interested in meeting. As another poster has said, its a little indescreet and its not fair on them to be messaged because of a veri they left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I see the point thank you for that. Just a bit confused on this one

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Why not just meet and find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know some one on here who has made fake female profiles on here then verified them off his male profile (that has a couple of genuine verifications) then verifies his male profile off the fake female profile.

I know he does this because he has told me and he enjoys using the female profiles to waste people's time.

I have reported this to admin and guess what ... The profiles still exist.

So potentially your asking some one to verify that they themselves are ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im trying to arrange it.

Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

They might not display them for a start off so no point in trying to cross reference. If you think it's iffy just move on

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've come across someone who's veris looked suspicious. There were actually 4 profiles who had all verified each other, one had a cam veri too.

The veris were all almost identical, as were the profiles. Pretty much a copy and paste job with just a few words changed.

I just blocked all of them.

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I've had hate mail from women jealous of my veris....get over it they fucked me not you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im trying to arrange it.

Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"

Ask to speak to her, that's not an unreasonable request. If he declines then say thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut op. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys

Think gut instinct is going win this one.

Question is do I report concerns to admin or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No o dont mean it as kiss and tell more to check if said member is actually real.

Im smelling a rat with someone im talking to but cant be quite sure.

She has veris but cross referencing doesnt appear that she has left any for anyone"

Erm... if you look at my veris it'll look I haven't verified any of them in return. That doesn't indicate fakery

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

sometimes i swap veris and sometimes i write one for someone who doesnt reciprocate and sometimes we dont at all.

and remember not all veris have to be shown on the profile..

they give me an idea of the person, not the full picture. but no, i wouldn't ask someone else, about a person they have met..if i've verified them, then read it, if i haven't, it might mean they didnt want a veri, which is fair enough.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd not contact someone unless an extremely close friend had written a veri. It's not particularly goo form.

It's not brilliant really to post in here, as it could unsettle anyone that you're currently communicating with.

I'd have a phone chat/skype and determine the perceived level of honesty from that.

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"I've had hate mail from women jealous of my veris....get over it they fucked me not you!"

Ha ha, Love it!

I'm gonna write that down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always check veris...but never contact them...that's just weird?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

One of the reasons my veris are hidden. Although I have to admit I'm guilty of it myself but I was a nervous newbie at the time!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Erm... if you look at my veris it'll look I haven't verified any of them in return. That doesn't indicate fakery "

Sorry I wasnt implying that anyone sho doesnt leave veris was fake.

I will leave this now as im making a mess of trying to explaon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im trying to arrange it.

Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"

Undoubtedly iffy

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"One of the reasons my veris are hidden. Although I have to admit I'm guilty of it myself but I was a nervous newbie at the time!!!"

arh that's so sweet I'm glowing inside

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"One of the reasons my veris are hidden. Although I have to admit I'm guilty of it myself but I was a nervous newbie at the time!!!

arh that's so sweet I'm glowing inside "

Are you??

It did get me a block though which now I get why. It's most annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We're capable of making up our own minds about people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Im trying to arrange it.

Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets"

And that doesn't sound a little dodgy to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats where the alarm bell is

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Im trying to arrange it.

Its hard to explain as I dont want to cause any offence to the member but im talking to her partner rather than her as he doesnt play but arranges her meets

Ask to speak to her, that's not an unreasonable request. If he declines then say thanks but no thanks. "

Yeah sounds a little suspicious

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?

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Never. But I have been contacted by people asking questions about people I've verified. In which case I go straight to the person I verified; them I know. Some stranger who might have valid but also nefarious reasons for asking me about someone will always come second to someone I've actually met.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Thats where the alarm bell is"

Then sadly only you can decide how much you are prepared to gamble on whether or not they will turn up. I really feel for swingles in this respect, at least for us couples if we're dressed to the nines and someone doesn't turn up, we can still enjoy each others company.

Yes to the cross-referencing, but no to contacting someone. I don't mind playing Colombo, but I gave up the playground years ago

Mr ddc

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

If someone asked about a couple or female I would normally if they have verified me say that they are a nice couple and leave it at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats where the alarm bell is"

Stop fucking around and ask for a phone number

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thats where the alarm bell is"

We never go beyond a message or two if there is no contribution from one partner, on the one occasion we did insisting that she messaged us it was clear she didn't want to be involved.

I think it would be perfectly acceptable for you to ask to speak to the lady.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Telford


"Has anyone here contacted another member who has verified someone i order to check out the validity of the person you actually want to meet?

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I check out soneone's pics, then their veris, then the people who have veried them If they've shagged anything with a pulse forget it and if their veris aren't imoeccably complimentary forget it too

I'm very picky

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

No I simply follow the rule of if it seems to good to be true it likely is, if you smell a rat look no further

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