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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Just wondering, people's preference on meets? We have mainly done private but considering trying just club meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private meets for us, we just found we didnt really enjoy the club scene.

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Been to a couple of clubs, but we didn't think they weren't that great but seen other clubs that look much better so going to try those soon.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We used to do mainly private meets. Then we got let down a couple of times and as our playtime is restricted we decided to look at clubs.

We had a look at one or two and then found the vanilla alternative. Using their hotel it gave us the choice of playing in the club or going back to our room for something more intimate. Now we sometimes a range to meet at the club but if we get let down we still have a club night ahead of us. We do still do the private meets but generally with people we have already met on a night out so we have a better idea that they are genuine and grief free lol

We have found that the clubs very much depend on what club you pick and what night you go on.

Go on a couples night to a club like VA, if you're prepared to step and chat to people you should have a great night!

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Depends on the club I suppose. I used to frequent a well known one in Bham with a partner and we both loved it. Not as intense as private as we could swan off and do our own thing when we wanted. Private meets you're always with the others I'd suppose. X

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Xtasia has a fab free night coming up in Oct, we are going as not been there before.. May be worth a try and see how you feel??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are ok...too limited though in that you have to work around them time wise, their opening hours etc..have to finish when they shut..use their rooms, wait for others to finish in there and stuff. No conrol over who else is in the place etc..

much prefer private meets where everything is under private control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have nothing against clubs but we have always preferred private meets in the past as it gives us chance to see if we click with people beforehand and if we do then we meet them, we have always thought if you are at a club then you don't get the time to get to know people and see if that connection is there, we're not ones for playing with random people in the spare of the moment (not saying that everyone who goes to clubs is into that btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found clubs to be more talk and less play

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I tend to prefer club meets as my time is limited and as a single guy If people don't want to meet me then I know others around that I can meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private only...I don't meet random strangers and I'm not an exhibitionist, so have no interest in clubs

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"We used to do mainly private meets. Then we got let down a couple of times and as our playtime is restricted we decided to look at clubs.

We had a look at one or two and then found the vanilla alternative. Using their hotel it gave us the choice of playing in the club or going back to our room for something more intimate. Now we sometimes a range to meet at the club but if we get let down we still have a club night ahead of us. We do still do the private meets but generally with people we have already met on a night out so we have a better idea that they are genuine and grief free lol

We have found that the clubs very much depend on what club you pick and what night you go on.

Go on a couples night to a club like VA, if you're prepared to step and chat to people you should have a great night!"

Sounds like what we have been thinking. Have looked at VA a couple of times, but been told the odd story of the openness of play area's. Although you hear stories about everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also only do club meets now...and like many visit clubs with hotel facilities...so a choice of private or club rooms...at least if they didn't show your not left wondering what to do...

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"We have nothing against clubs but we have always preferred private meets in the past as it gives us chance to see if we click with people beforehand and if we do then we meet them, we have always thought if you are at a club then you don't get the time to get to know people and see if that connection is there, we're not ones for playing with random people in the spare of the moment (not saying that everyone who goes to clubs is into that btw) "

This was our thoughts originally, and our meets have been great, been let down couple of times recently though which made us think of trying clubs more.

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"We also only do club meets now...and like many visit clubs with hotel facilities...so a choice of private or club rooms...at least if they didn't show your not left wondering what to do..."

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

we started off with private meets and got let down to many times, at least with a club if anything else you can make some new friends for future play down the line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering, people's preference on meets? We have mainly done private but considering trying just club meets."
prefer club meets for a variety of reasons... dont mind private if its a hotel that we can use after... but if we are visiting... then nope.. much prefer clubs. Meets tend to be quicker and lots of variety. And find it less pressure.

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Xtasia has a fab free night coming up in Oct, we are going as not been there before.. May be worth a try and see how you feel??"

Oh will take a look to see when that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both, love the clubs for the social side and voyeurism and the private to be extra naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both and do both

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Clubs for me. But then that's just me. And I have had private meets from people I have meet at the club

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Clubs.

Did private meets years back but found them awkward. Clubs I find simpler and when the bloke lasts a grand total of 2 minutes leaving me frustrated it is easier to find someone who can finish the job properly in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also only do club meets now...and like many visit clubs with hotel facilities...so a choice of private or club rooms...at least if they didn't show your not left wondering what to do..."

Never had a no show yet, i'm confident enough in my choices for meets that i don't need a back up plan

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

We've only met in clubs so far with the exception of one couple who we met privately having already met them previously in a club.

We're fairly regular at VA and the social area there allows time to get to meet and chat to people before playing, even though neither of us are particularly great at breaking the ice in that respect!! We actually quite like the openess of the play areas there as for us it adds to the whole experience being able to catch glimpses of others at olay while we're playing ourselves.

Mr G

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"We used to do mainly private meets. Then we got let down a couple of times and as our playtime is restricted we decided to look at clubs.

We had a look at one or two and then found the vanilla alternative. Using their hotel it gave us the choice of playing in the club or going back to our room for something more intimate. Now we sometimes a range to meet at the club but if we get let down we still have a club night ahead of us. We do still do the private meets but generally with people we have already met on a night out so we have a better idea that they are genuine and grief free lol

We have found that the clubs very much depend on what club you pick and what night you go on.

Go on a couples night to a club like VA, if you're prepared to step and chat to people you should have a great night!

Sounds like what we have been thinking. Have looked at VA a couple of times, but been told the odd story of the openness of play area's. Although you hear stories about everywhere."

The play areas are more open there. But if you stay away from the beds into he same room as the hit tub which are considered communal you may be asked if someone can join in or invited to join others but nothing else. The management are very very quick to sort out any issues.

There is also a quieter area between the two main play areas at the back and the main room without the hot tub in has an area you can curtain off if you choose.

It is a very different vibe to most clubs. Don't listen to rumours just go have a look lol

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By *onkeyandBones OP   Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Clubs.

Did private meets years back but found them awkward. Clubs I find simpler and when the bloke lasts a grand total of 2 minutes leaving me frustrated it is easier to find someone who can finish the job properly in a club."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chams on Saturday? ha ha xx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Only club meets for me until I get to know him well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer private meets I tend to use clubs more because it's just easier to get a taxi and go to my local club that arrange a meet when you don't drive or accommodate

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon


"Xtasia has a fab free night coming up in Oct, we are going as not been there before.. May be worth a try and see how you feel??

Oh will take a look to see when that is "

October 21st.....

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Private for me, largely because I'm awkward in groups, never liked the party scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club meets only for a variety of reasons - love the club atmosphere, safety as a single fem , lots of choice of who to play with and great social scene. Can't think of a positive reason to have a private meet.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Private meets.

Tried the club scene a couple of times but it wasn't for us.

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By *ilthyDebaucheryWoman
over a year ago

Telford


"We used to do mainly private meets. Then we got let down a couple of times and as our playtime is restricted we decided to look at clubs.

We had a look at one or two and then found the vanilla alternative. Using their hotel it gave us the choice of playing in the club or going back to our room for something more intimate. Now we sometimes a range to meet at the club but if we get let down we still have a club night ahead of us. We do still do the private meets but generally with people we have already met on a night out so we have a better idea that they are genuine and grief free lol

We have found that the clubs very much depend on what club you pick and what night you go on.

Go on a couples night to a club like VA, if you're prepared to step and chat to people you should have a great night!"

Private meets are all well and good if it's someone you've met before but clubs better for first meets as like you say if you're let down still got a club night ahead Looking forward to showing my FB off at VA nearer xmas

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