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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long would you stay with someone you loved if they didn't love you back?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy. "

When to people get together they don't necessarily fall in love with each other at the same time. So was meaning how long would you give it to see if they fall in love with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long has it been so far?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How long has it been so far?"

We've been together 8 months

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I wouldn't wait!

If you both felt the same way initially, then your partner seemed to change, then you should at least give it some time, everyone has bad times...

It is easy to walk away too early, but when it gets to the point where you stop being yourself and start to lose some self respect then walk away asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not a two way thing then move on, you can't get over something while your hanging around waiting for them to feel the same. Pride and dignity and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long has it been so far?

We've been together 8 months"

I guess it depends if you are happy as it is? Or move on in the hope you find love.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I stayed far too long, putting in the effort while he didn't give a fuck about our marriage.

In the end I joined fab, realised what was missing in my life and left him for another man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know it's unrequited? Has he just not said the three little words?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"How long has it been so far?

We've been together 8 months"
8 months, it would take me a lot longer than 8 months to fall in love with someone

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

It took me about 9'years to convince him and now I'll wait however long it takes.

Its soul destroying at times though. I hope it works out for you x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"How long would you stay with someone you loved if they didn't love you back? "

I stayed because we had children together big mistake I know better now.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy.

When to people get together they don't necessarily fall in love with each other at the same time. So was meaning how long would you give it to see if they fall in love with you? "

I would stay as long as I was happy. I've been in relationships where I was told I was loved, but their actions said something else....hence they are exes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stayed far too long, putting in the effort while he didn't give a fuck about our marriage.

In the end I joined fab, realised what was missing in my life and left him for another man"
this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you know it's unrequited? Has he just not said the three little words? "

Bit more to it but yes this is it more or less. I know he definitely cares.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy.

When to people get together they don't necessarily fall in love with each other at the same time. So was meaning how long would you give it to see if they fall in love with you?

I would stay as long as I was happy. I've been in relationships where I was told I was loved, but their actions said something else....hence they are exes. "

Good point. Mostly his actions shows he cares.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How long has it been so far?

We've been together 8 months8 months, it would take me a lot longer than 8 months to fall in love with someone"

Thank you, I do worry sometimes that I'm being an eager beaver. Think I need to just take each day as it comes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"How long has it been so far?

We've been together 8 months8 months, it would take me a lot longer than 8 months to fall in love with someone

Thank you, I do worry sometimes that I'm being an eager beaver. Think I need to just take each day as it comes. "
if hes showing all the signs of of liking you and wanting to be with you give him time. Some can fall in love quickly some take time. Some people are fireworks and some a slow burner. Im a slow burner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy.

When to people get together they don't necessarily fall in love with each other at the same time. So was meaning how long would you give it to see if they fall in love with you?

I would stay as long as I was happy. I've been in relationships where I was told I was loved, but their actions said something else....hence they are exes.

Good point. Mostly his actions shows he cares."

If he shows he cares then this says it all. People can tell you they love you until they are blue in the face, and then in the next breath hurt you.

I'd rather be shown I was loved than be told it daily only for it to be a lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't. If someone doesn't love you after 8 months they arnt going to start suddenly loving or respecting you from there on.

Life is far too short to waste it on the wrong People.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I wouldn't. If someone doesn't love you after 8 months they arnt going to start suddenly loving or respecting you from there on.

Life is far too short to waste it on the wrong People. "
she didnt say he didnt respect her she said he definetly cares.

Im just curious on the time limit for falling in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me ages to tell Mr I loved him. Even though we were pregnant and living together.

He told me all the time, but I would just reply with I know.

I needed to make sure I meant it before I said it, if that makes sense.

We've now been together nearly 19 years and I tell him all the time.

He waited as he knew I cared, so only you can decide how long your willing to wait x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't. If someone doesn't love you after 8 months they arnt going to start suddenly loving or respecting you from there on.

Life is far too short to waste it on the wrong People. she didnt say he didnt respect her she said he definetly cares.

Im just curious on the time limit for falling in love"

Admittedly I only read the first post.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Once i realized i loved jay it was like a never ending pot and after 10 years i still love him more each day. But if he had left me because i hadnt fallen in love within a time scale we wouldnt have that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few months I guess. Depends on how our dynamic was, how close we were etc. Only you know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't stay. What's the point. It's going to end up messy. "

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By *arzan4jayneCouple
over a year ago

rochdale

Thanks all for your replies x

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By *oenickmanMan
over a year ago

Hatfield

What you saying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"30 years. "

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By *occerstar579Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Shouldn't need to wait to find out. You would instantly know!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Thanks all for your replies x"

I guess this is the couples profile for you both lol

Hope it all works out for you OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't need to wait to find out. You would instantly know! "

This

That 'in love' feeling happens straightaway, pretty much.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Shouldn't need to wait to find out. You would instantly know!

This

That 'in love' feeling happens straightaway, pretty much.

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However there is a difference from the initial falling "in love" (for many, the infatuation phase) & a far deeper love that endures when you truly learn about each other (good & bad). Personally, I would go for the latter every day of the week - that's true love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't need to wait to find out. You would instantly know!

This

That 'in love' feeling happens straightaway, pretty much.

However there is a difference from the initial falling "in love" (for many, the infatuation phase) & a far deeper love that endures when you truly learn about each other (good & bad). Personally, I would go for the latter every day of the week - that's true love "

Or just borne from familiarity and habit?

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Something like love you can fall out of just as easily as you fall in love....sometimes the spark disappears and it can be rekindled. It takes time, effort and patience on both part, but both haveto want it....this is where communication plays its part. Talk and find out kf its worth working at or if its time to cut ties

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"How long would you stay with someone you loved if they didn't love you back? "

Until I'd finished my drink, then I'd sod off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are left handed... forever

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