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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To find a normal, sane, attractive ( yes it's in the eye of the beholder) girl?

I've been on here ages, hammered the swiping app and been on countless socials but approaching 36 with no obvious defects or mental illness problems current it's beginning to make me jaded slightly.

Unless I'm missing something - which is quite likely with Aspergers- i'm doing something very wrong.

Without wanting to sound needy how did others meet their partners?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's seriously starting to affect my confidence

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

You need to be patient. I still haven't found mine but then I'm rather picky

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Partners? How do you mean ?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Fast approaching 48 and pretty much given up on the whole happy ever after thing. All together now awww poor blade

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Fast approaching 48 and pretty much given up on the whole happy ever after thing. All together now awww poor blade "
Unless you're a Disney Princess no such thing as happy ever after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered importing a Thai wife?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Fast approaching 48 and pretty much given up on the whole happy ever after thing. All together now awww poor blade Unless you're a Disney Princess no such thing as happy ever after "

Now you tell me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well it's quite a long an in depth story that needn't concern us here but quite literally i struggle to meet women even for dates.

I'm able to speak to their face, not chest, and don't think I'm boring but there's an ingredient missing that means not one of the girls over the last 10 years has shown interest even as friends.

The thing that springs to mind is the grey man effect.

I'm not desperate but trying to figure out why that interest isn't there.

It's beginning to change my personality not for the better.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Well it's quite a long an in depth story that needn't concern us here but quite literally i struggle to meet women even for dates.

I'm able to speak to their face, not chest, and don't think I'm boring but there's an ingredient missing that means not one of the girls over the last 10 years has shown interest even as friends.

The thing that springs to mind is the grey man effect.

I'm not desperate but trying to figure out why that interest isn't there.

It's beginning to change my personality not for the better. "

What's the gray man effect

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You effectively become invisible and become part of the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you say sane? Nope, defo not sane and that's how I like it!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"It's seriously starting to affect my confidence"

The second it starts to impact you, stop.

Good luck

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well it's quite a long an in depth story that needn't concern us here but quite literally i struggle to meet women even for dates.

I'm able to speak to their face, not chest, and don't think I'm boring but there's an ingredient missing that means not one of the girls over the last 10 years has shown interest even as friends.

The thing that springs to mind is the grey man effect.

I'm not desperate but trying to figure out why that interest isn't there.

It's beginning to change my personality not for the better. "

You're going to have to be more specific. Could there be aspects of your Aspergers that people aren't understanding or possibly misinterpreting, could it be that you aren't picking up on things that other people might?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your meet rate is one person per month. What more do you want?

Keep meeting folk and life will just do what id does. Try and force it and you'll just frustrate yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your meet rate is one person per month. What more do you want?

Keep meeting folk and life will just do what id does. Try and force it and you'll just frustrate yourself "

I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not having a picture on your profile doesn't really help I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes, thinking a break is in order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is more chance to meet tony blair at nandos lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 meetings in 5 months ? You're a legend here actually............ !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some are socials and club meets.

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