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A truth game

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No, this isn't actually a forum game, just a curious thought I might share...

If you had the opportunity to stand in a room with all the people who know you best, and tell them that every one of them must tell you the absolute truth, of how they feel about something they don't like about you, holding nothing back to spare your feelings...(oof that was tricky to describe )

Would you be brave enough to go through with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but i blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. I think it would be really interesting. I can handle hard truths, and my family and friends are good at dispensing them

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Just another Christmas in my house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah of course I'd do it if there is some things they don't like about me then yeah let me hear them. There's always room for change. Always remain teachable is my motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd do it because curiosity would get the better of me.

I can almost guess some of the responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk in the park, my family and friends have never held back telling me how they feel about me. Some good, some bad but all things taken on board.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, why would I want to do that? My opinion is that hearing only the bad about yourself is not useful in any way at all and serves no purpose.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I reckon I know already!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"No, why would I want to do that? My opinion is that hearing only the bad about yourself is not useful in any way at all and serves no purpose."

Correct.

And it presupposes that the information given will be bad.

I'm already comfortable with telling people where to get off when necessary.

Who knows, I might have something nice to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just another Christmas in my house "

Haha this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard, isn't it.. listening to home truths. But sometime forceful people don't do it in a gentle way with suggestions and comments and to be quite frank... they make me go nuclear!

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Pointless. Everybody loves me.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Pointless. Everybody loves me. "

I ya.

I'm at the stage in my life where I can translate my parents to each other in a cheeky way and say the things that they would like to say but don;t or won't. It's exquisite watching them squirm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, why would I want to do that? My opinion is that hearing only the bad about yourself is not useful in any way at all and serves no purpose.

Correct.

And it presupposes that the information given will be bad.

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So the question is not in the question itself, but in the questioning of why ask the question?

Profound...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm about as honest as they come. No sugar coating, no bullshit and I expect the same in return.

So yes. It would be fine

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm at the age where I pretty much know my faults and my virtues and I've lived long enough to know that they almost balance each other out...which way the balance tips depends on whether you like me or not. Other peoples opinions of us aren't useful taken in isolation.

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

We have a large family,, this happens on a daily basis

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I'm about as honest as they come. No sugar coating, no bullshit and I expect the same in return.

So yes. It would be fine "

That's me. I could totally do it as I surround myself with honest people. The sort of people that would tell me my faults anyway with promting.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm about as honest as they come. No sugar coating, no bullshit and I expect the same in return.

So yes. It would be fine

That's me. I could totally do it as I surround myself with honest people. The sort of people that would tell me my faults anyway with promting. "

But why would you do it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose it could be described, as briefly placing yourself in a 'The Intervention of Lying' type scenario.

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I'm about as honest as they come. No sugar coating, no bullshit and I expect the same in return.

So yes. It would be fine

That's me. I could totally do it as I surround myself with honest people. The sort of people that would tell me my faults anyway with promting.

But why would you do it?"

I'd not be worried about doing it as I know what they think butility I'd much rather say nice things to be honest. Too much negativity about already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because then you can decide if you want to change that thing or you can decide to ignore them

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I could probably guess most of what they'd say.

I'm well aware of my faults and bad bits already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family and friends are not shy about telling me what they think so would be a normal day at the office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because my family know my faults and they don't want or expect me to be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask away or mail me directly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No , we know we have faults don't need it reinforced , I'm far from perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to take any mails and will be 100% honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I am who I am and people need to take me warts and all, I'm not changing to fit their requirements.

And then they'd probably ask for the same in return and some people really don't take anything other than positive feedback well, however well meaning and constructive it is.

So I wouldn't want to risk upsetting anyone unnecessarily.

What about you OP? You posed the question but haven't told us your perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just another Christmas in my house "

Yes. I'd do it Op. as long as I can retaliate tomorrow and throw it right back. You know, when I've let it fester inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd do it out of curiosity more than anything. And I don't think anyone is more critical of me than myself so I'm sure I could handle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just another Christmas in my house "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'd do it,, they couldn't possibly have anything bad to say about me I'm great everyone loves me

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

No!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also what one person perceives as a bad point another might see as a good character trait.

Take intelligence for example, a lot of people feel threatened by it and see it as a bad thing while many will see it as a good trait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't. What would be the point? The people who know me best are the people who love me for what I am including my flaws.

I wouldn't participate in the equivalent the other way round either.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm happy to be challenged by those I know love me though, I would hope to carry on growing my entire life, so very willing to self-examine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, this isn't actually a forum game, just a curious thought I might share...

If you had the opportunity to stand in a room with all the people who know you best, and tell them that every one of them must tell you the absolute truth, of how they feel about something they don't like about you, holding nothing back to spare your feelings...(oof that was tricky to describe )

Would you be brave enough to go through with it?"

Real friends are up front without asking them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm a curious thing

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