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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't meet couples, only singles

We always have sex when we go to a club and would be far more likely to invite a single guy to join us rather than a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons...."

Have you actually been to a club?

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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons....

Have you actually been to a club?"
yes of course... And no I Don,t go with a forgone expectation that sex is deffinate. I stating what I have observed and experienced.. and of course there are exceptions .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my new profile sums it up rather well

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By *isKinkedKuntsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I think my new profile sums it up rather well "

You have too much time on your hands haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my new profile sums it up rather well

You have too much time on your hands haha"

At the moment that's true. What's your point?

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By *isKinkedKuntsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I think my new profile sums it up rather well

You have too much time on your hands haha

At the moment that's true. What's your point? "

Haha nowt I'm just jealous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons....

Have you actually been to a club? yes of course... And no I Don,t go with a forgone expectation that sex is deffinate. I stating what I have observed and experienced.. and of course there are exceptions ."

I didn't think you did go with a foregone conclusion that sex was definite. I was just surprised with how you seem to think single men at clubs are seen.

I go to a club, during the day at the weekend, and there are normally quite a few other single women there too, and we all love single men coming along.

Of course you get the odd guy who doesn't understand the etiquette but the majority of single men are polite, friendly, chatty and often very sexy too

I just don't want you thinking that single men are looked down on at clubs. They are definitely not by me xxx

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By *ifferent69 OP   Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons....

Have you actually been to a club? yes of course... And no I Don,t go with a forgone expectation that sex is deffinate. I stating what I have observed and experienced.. and of course there are exceptions .

I didn't think you did go with a foregone conclusion that sex was definite. I was just surprised with how you seem to think single men at clubs are seen.

I go to a club, during the day at the weekend, and there are normally quite a few other single women there too, and we all love single men coming along.

Of course you get the odd guy who doesn't understand the etiquette but the majority of single men are polite, friendly, chatty and often very sexy too

I just don't want you thinking that single men are looked down on at clubs. They are definitely not by me xxx"
thanks for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. the best way forward for single men is to go to clubs that are frequented by fab members. Be nice be polite have a nice social and get to know people.

Next step on here to the forums share the banter and then maybe the meets will start coming.

Too many guys think this site is click n fuck and its not.

At the end of the day swinging was started by couples. Natural evolution means that the singles have got involved and there is nothing wrong with that just be prepared to do the leg work.

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By *isKinkedKuntsMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I agree. the best way forward for single men is to go to clubs that are frequented by fab members. Be nice be polite have a nice social and get to know people.

Next step on here to the forums share the banter and then maybe the meets will start coming.

Too many guys think this site is click n fuck and its not.

At the end of the day swinging was started by couples. Natural evolution means that the singles have got involved and there is nothing wrong with that just be prepared to do the leg work."

This was almost the best way, just forget the forums on here. They have no bearing at all on getting meets but depending on the day can be good for advice. In fact they can actually be damaging to getting meets due to the perceived snobbery of forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"frequently reading threads of frustration from single guys (i,m one ) about lack of meets .

I,ve been on here for a while and it took me a while to understand. Nodoubt i,ll just get messages of " mind your own" or "SAD".

Truth is, realistictly from a couples point of view why invite a single guy when theres plenty of choice with coulpes. IF he or she is already with someone its a form of validation, at least they must be sane(ish) ,honest(ish) and off course the curiuosity of wonder what they have that we can learn from not to mention the social aspect.

Only slim chance you may have is if your Bi....

Going to swingers clubs is best to mingle. However single guys are only really tolerated cos they are a good cash generator, mostly a porn movie playing and a few polite conversations and possible voyeurg of other having fun is the norm.

My advice , and this disgusts majority find clubs that have hostesses... 2 in Birmingham/ Wallsall.

Even if you don,t wish to make use of there services you have that option. They are equally attende by couples,and occasional single lady swinger. Now if they are there and know the set up,and are unphased by it, i expect the odds are more generouse.

Even when couples do attend clubs its not exclusivesly to to have sex !!!!

They enjoy the heightened expectation and being admired from a distance in a safe env normally by us happless singletons...."

What about bombarding people with increasingly angry and abusive messages til they either meet or block you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree. the best way forward for single men is to go to clubs that are frequented by fab members. Be nice be polite have a nice social and get to know people.

Next step on here to the forums share the banter and then maybe the meets will start coming.

Too many guys think this site is click n fuck and its not.

At the end of the day swinging was started by couples. Natural evolution means that the singles have got involved and there is nothing wrong with that just be prepared to do the leg work.

This was almost the best way, just forget the forums on here. They have no bearing at all on getting meets but depending on the day can be good for advice. In fact they can actually be damaging to getting meets due to the perceived snobbery of forum users. "

I dunno...I've met met seven or eight people..well..more if you count both halves of the couples through the forums and I've never found it to be a bother whatsoever..just talk to folk and some you'll get on with. Some you won't. Just like anywhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before this profile I was a single male for 2 years, I understand your frustration OP but some people are successful and do meet, it's a question of putting the effort in and being yourself. Some couples do see solo males a certain way and some clubs treat men as cash cows and expect them to jump through hoops etc, my advice is to rise above it.

As Fabio said (and probably still does) the only person you're in competition with is yourself, be the best 'you' that you can be. Some single guys act like idiots, some don't. If people are going to judge you by others behaviour then maybe you don't want to meet those people anyway

Beard

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