FabSwingers.com forum: Weak in the presence of beauty

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here's a scenario.

Say you're in a bar, and there you see, drinking alone, the most staggeringly beautiful person you've ever laid eyes upon (could be male or female, depends on you). They're so enchanting that you feel your pulse race and your mouth dry just looking at them.

But do you have the confidence to approach? Would someone like that ever be interested in you, and what would give you the confidence to think they you might be in with a chance?

Or couldn't you do it, would your nerves and the fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Would you take your shot, or would you walk away, knowing you could never have someone like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I burst out laughing cos I realise its my own reflection in the mirror,,,silly me,,this is my last drinkypoo I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't I have a chance with her? Apart from her looks why should I place her on a pedestal? But yeah I'd have the confidence to approach her, she's only a person after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have the confidence to go and talk.

I'm quite shy in real life, so I'd do my usual trick of having a few drinks for courage, getting too d*unk then going home to cry into a cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

faint heart ner won fair maid

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"faint heart ner won fair maid

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"I burst out laughing cos I realise its my own reflection in the mirror,,,silly me,,this is my last drinkypoo I think

Haha Ha that's what i was gonna type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

The most staggeringly beautiful woman in the world you say? I actually ended up marrying her!

(Oh yes, back of the net, high 5s everyone

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On the other hand, my, err, 'friend' would say he wouldn't give her a second glance. He learnt early on that very attractive people often have unattractive personalities

Mr ddc

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yeah, I usually am, even if it's just to position myself next to them at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve! (that was the Robert Redford lookalike)

Of course proper dancing, and getting good at it, is a brilliant excuse to walk up to anyone you like the look of and just smile and hold out your hand!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

There isn't anyone that 'stunning' or that famous that i wouldn't feel ok in conversing with whilst respecting their personal space and the circumstances etc..

we are all just people..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Go on Courtney, supposing you were the girl in this scenario, would I be in with a chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go up to them.

If they're that good looking, they probably get hit on all the time when they're out and they are probably sick of it so I'd leave them be to enjoy a drink without being hassled by strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would t approach, they could be attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Go on Courtney, supposing you were the girl in this scenario, would I be in with a chance?"

The first time Marc tried to talk to me in public I, apparently, walked right past him like he didn't exist. I say apparently because I don't even remember it happening. He said he almost didn't try again

So, as I alluded to, I think my awkwardness would prevent anyone from being in with a chance.

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Never have been good at starting conversations in a crowded room full of people I don't know and not sure I ever will be. That said I know it's something I need to work on if *this* world is ever going to work for us so perhaps finding the courage to try and break the ice is something I'd just have to do. After all what's the worst that could happen?

Mr G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a scenario.

But do you have the confidence to approach? Would someone like that ever be interested in you, and what would give you the confidence to think they you might be in with a chance?

Or couldn't you do it, would your nerves and the fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Would you take your shot, or would you walk away, knowing you could never have someone like that?"

No chance if she is very sexy then most likey out of my leauge so i leave well alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Go on Courtney, supposing you were the girl in this scenario, would I be in with a chance?

So, as I alluded to, I think my awkwardness would prevent anyone from being in with a chance.

That was a clever way to get around saying 'No sexybrain because you ming'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the rare occasions that I have overcome my shyness, any attempt at engaging with the lovely lady has brought on a sudden case of bloated tongue and extreme dryness of mouth, resulting in a stream of unintelligible garbled noise and embarrassed coughs followed by a hasty retreat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange question,,they would approach me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Go on Courtney, supposing you were the girl in this scenario, would I be in with a chance?

So, as I alluded to, I think my awkwardness would prevent anyone from being in with a chance.

That was a clever way to get around saying 'No sexybrain because you ming'

You already know that isn't true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be too scared of what the woman is like the fear of rejection would kick in I do feel like I'm a beautiful person and any woman would be lucky to be with a person like me (well that's what I've been told) but In this situation I'd still feel like I'm not good enough

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I'd smile and approach.

my thought process will not allow me to do any different .

I believe in nothing ventured nothing gained philosophy.

plus I also believe positive energy and out look lead more often than not to positive outcomes and positive responses .

but I'm not shy nor am I scared of a negative response because like I said a positive thought a positive move I believe leads to positive results in the long run and most of time .

knowing that means I worry not about the odd negative out come of any of my actions including approaching a stunning woman thinking

my thinking over a negative out come will be . oh well I will have more success next time.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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Have you been listening to too much Alison Moyet Mr Brain

Weak In The Presence Of Beauty - Alison Moyet www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9_BlD3bssg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the annoying person who talks to everyone at the bar. So,chances are I'd chat to him while I'm getting a drink anyway. I don't go out to pull,so it would just be a friendly chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've got the confidence to approach this hypothetical Adonis...why should anyone be out of anyone else's league?

I can handle rejection without my ego being crushed

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"Have you been listening to too much Alison Moyet Mr Brain

Weak In The Presence Of Beauty - Alison Moyet www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9_BlD3bssg"

P.s. I'm a slag and I'll talk to any fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"faint heart ner won fair maid

Fair Maid did you say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance, I wouldn't be able to chat anyone up in a bar regardless of how they looked. It's not even a fear of rejection, it's just being shy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly. "

Honestly heels, for many I believe you'd actually be the woman x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you been listening to too much Alison Moyet Mr Brain

Weak In The Presence Of Beauty - Alison Moyet www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9_BlD3bssg

P.s. I'm a slag and I'll talk to any fucker

I call that being sociable. I've never had anyone ignore me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly. "

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"Have you been listening to too much Alison Moyet Mr Brain

Weak In The Presence Of Beauty - Alison Moyet www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9_BlD3bssg

P.s. I'm a slag and I'll talk to any fucker

I call that being sociable. I've never had anyone ignore me

Being as you are "under construction", I feel compelled to put ma Hi-Vis vest on and search out some Village People tunes on You Tube

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Go on Courtney, supposing you were the girl in this scenario, would I be in with a chance?

So, as I alluded to, I think my awkwardness would prevent anyone from being in with a chance.

That was a clever way to get around saying 'No sexybrain because you ming'

You already know that isn't true.

Next time, I'll give your thigh a squeeze

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way I'd approach them and if they were to approach me I'd think they were taking the Micky

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

Quick, Hard Hats everywhere. Mikki's on the rampage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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My usual style is to suss someone out, make eye contact and get stuck in by chatting. Someone will fairly quickly be fairly clear that they're friendly, open or have poor taste.

Op - how are you for picking up signals from others - I recall you're on the autism spectrum, so was unsure if this affected your approaching and reading others well.

I'm generally helpful to others and wouldn't like to think of the most stunning person I've seen from missing out on fantastic sex with me - I'm generous to a fault.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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Just wanted to add that it's awesome to see the DDCs back in the forum - total forum stunners! It's made my week. And worth returning from the USA for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op - how are you for picking up signals from others - I recall you're on the autism spectrum, so was unsure if this affected your approaching and reading others well."

Terrible, I'm oblivious to things like body language and face expressions unless they're very direct and obvious, so I can't tell if someone is urging more from me, or if I'm making them uncomfortable.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a good socialiser and conversationalist, I'm not shy, but I struggle to bring people who are out of themselves, this means I can end up doing all the talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post

In a ber situation I would not ha e the confidence to approach and would end up leaving and kicking myself for it

I hate myself sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't approach them as I would probably think they were too good for me and just admire them from afar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great post

In a ber situation I would not ha e the confidence to approach and would end up leaving and kicking myself for it

I hate myself sometimes"

A lot of people don't understand why I post these kind of things, or why I feel my emotions so deeply in these kind of situations, I just do.

I don't want to spend my life with my face against the window looking in, seeing all those things I want, just out of reach. I want to understand the window, and how to get past it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Op - how are you for picking up signals from others - I recall you're on the autism spectrum, so was unsure if this affected your approaching and reading others well.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a good socialiser and conversationalist, I'm not shy, but I struggle to bring people who are out of themselves, this means I can end up doing all the talking."

Thanks for coming back. I'd assumed you'd a high chance of it being that way for you. At least many love you here, including myself.

Perhaps you could put a huge alarm clock down in front of them - if they've not spoken by the time the jack in the box alarm goes off, you wish them well and move along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never approached someone on a night out, whether I was attracted to them or not. So in reality, I suppose my answer would have to be that no, I wouldn't go up to him.

I wouldn't say that is because I don't think I have a chance, its more just that I think I'm pretty awkward and I don't need to subject others to that awkwardness. I will admire from afar.

Same here. I'd admire from afar then cry into my Babycham when someone else chats them up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

LOL,,PMSL

Ya silly sausage,,just shurup n buy me a drink,x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be too terrified, a case of the shy paralysis. Whilst rationally I know it's ridiculous and I'm also actually very strong and perfectly happy to be rejected if I'm not their preference, I have a terrible anxiety regarding first meets. Once met, all is good (whether the outcome is attraction or rejection), I simply get mental block/self sabotage shenanigans prior to approaching/meeting initially -- it is a real problem. Stopped a potential meet from fab due to this recently, and I would have loved to have done it. *sighs*

I'm also clumsy, so if I did brave it I would undoubtedly fall over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live by "the worst they can say is no!" I've realised that if I stop worrying about the rejection I gain a lot more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live by "the worst they can say is no!" I've realised that if I stop worrying about the rejection I gain a lot more!

Think I'd go weak by the sight of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

LOL,,PMSL

Ya silly sausage,,just shurup n buy me a drink,x"

Cocktail for the Queen of Pout barman, make it two I need a gossip with this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live by "the worst they can say is no!" I've realised that if I stop worrying about the rejection I gain a lot more!

You've been rejected? Were they blind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never approached anyone to chat them up in my life, I see no reason to start now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never approached anyone to chat them up in my life, I see no reason to start now."

Oh I'd definitely go weak with you miss ruby woo

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Egged on by my friends and after a glass or two of wine I probably would approach a handsome lone stranger. If it all went wrong I'd just go back to my friends and have a giggle about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Egged on by my friends and after a glass or two of wine I probably would approach a handsome lone stranger. If it all went wrong I'd just go back to my friends and have a giggle about it

Alcahol definitely helps lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

LOL,,PMSL

Ya silly sausage,,just shurup n buy me a drink,x"

I can see you being a cheap date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a scenario.

But do you have the confidence to approach? Would someone like that ever be interested in you, and what would give you the confidence to think they you might be in with a chance?

Or couldn't you do it, would your nerves and the fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Would you take your shot, or would you walk away, knowing you could never have someone like that?"

Can't I just have a cheeky wank under the table?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

LOL,,PMSL

Ya silly sausage,,just shurup n buy me a drink,x

I can see you being a cheap date

ha,,wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you been listening to too much Alison Moyet Mr Brain

Weak In The Presence Of Beauty - Alison Moyet www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9_BlD3bssg

P.s. I'm a slag and I'll talk to any fucker

I call that being sociable. I've never had anyone ignore me

Being as you are "under construction", I feel compelled to put ma Hi-Vis vest on and search out some Village People tunes on You Tube

You can't say I'm not inspirational

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't have the confidence to go and talk.

I'm quite shy in real life, so I'd do my usual trick of having a few drinks for courage, getting too d*unk then going home to cry into a cup of tea. "

^^^^^ this!lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually wouldn't approach.

I'm a confident person but just because someone is beautiful it wouldn't make me want to speak to them.

Someone has to have something more about them to make me want them, they could be stunning but cold as ice.

If however they were stunning, vivacious, full of life and good at commanding a room I would maybe say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

First person I'd head for,I do like a fellow good time girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, I'd explain how attractive I thought she was, offer my phone number then move on with my day

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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"Nope. I wouldn't, I'm far too cowardly.

don't be sooooooooooooo shy,,its only me

If I saw you in a bar I'd almost be tempted to ask for your autograph.

LOL,,PMSL

Ya silly sausage,,just shurup n buy me a drink,x

I can see you being a cheap date

ha,,wrong

*puts on his best Jawdee accent and whisks Mikki off to Derby where we all talk like normal people. Ey up mi duck

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

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"Here's a scenario.

But do you have the confidence to approach? Would someone like that ever be interested in you, and what would give you the confidence to think they you might be in with a chance?

Or couldn't you do it, would your nerves and the fear of rejection stop you in your tracks? Would you take your shot, or would you walk away, knowing you could never have someone like that?"

By closing time bar's are full of staggeringly beautiful people..only problem by then I'm so pissed they'd probably not understand a word i was saying if i approached them anyway

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

My kinda guy would be shy too

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"faint heart ner won fair maid

That's one of my favourite quotes

Closely followed by "fortune favours the bold".

Having said that, I probably wouldn't approach

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

I wouldn't approach

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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You wouldn't find me at the bar, I'll be on the dancefloor.

Apart from this one time- where I looked hot and he already knew he was onto a winner.

Fix those drinks squire, we'll take them upstairs

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Just wanted to add that it's awesome to see the DDCs back in the forum - total forum stunners! It's made my week. And worth returning from the USA for. "

Ty Sophie, I'm really only a bit player though, there are loads of people better than me. Besides, we didn't even get listed in the "Forum Clique" thread!

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By *artletWoman
over a year ago

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"I'd be too terrified, a case of the shy paralysis. Whilst rationally I know it's ridiculous and I'm also actually very strong and perfectly happy to be rejected if I'm not their preference, I have a terrible anxiety regarding first meets. Once met, all is good (whether the outcome is attraction or rejection), I simply get mental block/self sabotage shenanigans prior to approaching/meeting initially -- it is a real problem. Stopped a potential meet from fab due to this recently, and I would have loved to have done it. *sighs*

I'm also clumsy, so if I did brave it I would undoubtedly fall over.

Same as. All though I describe myself as socially awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also clumsy, so if I did brave it I would undoubtedly fall over.

Same as. All though I describe myself as socially awkward

Solidarity in social awkwardness

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