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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"No"
weird though thinking the clue that it could be either of us is the word 'couple'lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello hun,in answer to your question I'm afraid I draw a blank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noweird though thinking the clue that it could be either of us is the word 'couple'lol"

I guess it's cos that's who they're interested in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was the other way round

I find cpls very difficult to talk to

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

Simples really as there are however times more men than women on here the interest tends to be in the lady not the man as they are 10 a penny so to speak - therefore rightly or wrongly it's the lady who gets the attention and messages - if you don't want that just make it clear in your profile that it's usually the man who reads messages or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

Oh by the way this actually is female half talking on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair nine times out of ten when we have messaged a couple it's been the guy that is chatting X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's to do with how you word things ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder that too, when ever we get messages on our couples profile the guy assumes it's just the female chatting, I have to let them know pretty sharpish that it's the male they're chatting to

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

Maybe us ladies are naturally more chatty??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be, because most pics of some couples profiles are of the woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep always get that . Usually remarks such as "stunning ", gorgeous, beautiful etc. I take great pleasure in responding from a male point of view and saying I am flattered- usually stops them in their tracks

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"It could be, because most pics of some couples profiles are of the woman lol."
we have both by the way....I love haribos

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By *hatHappensNextCouple
over a year ago

Essex, near basildon

Have to say, it's similar with us, often it is me Mrs who is writing yet assumptions it's hubby talking, this why I often have to explain it is the woman talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep always get that . Usually remarks such as "stunning ", gorgeous, beautiful etc. I take great pleasure in responding from a male point of view and saying I am flattered- usually stops them in their tracks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They'll have a shock when he replies bluntly and not me

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"I thought it was the other way round

I find cpls very difficult to talk to "
really??

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over a year ago

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"They'll have a shock when he replies bluntly and not me "
lol

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"Yep always get that . Usually remarks such as "stunning ", gorgeous, beautiful etc. I take great pleasure in responding from a male point of view and saying I am flattered- usually stops them in their tracks"
lol so do I x

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time"

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more??

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? "
I think you are probably right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

I suppose it's an easy mistake to make and maybe 50% of the time they will be correct! It's also very easy to let the person know who has messaged you that they are chatting to the male. No real harm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? I think you are probably right"

and we chatter better -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It could be, because most pics of some couples profiles are of the woman lol.we have both by the way....I love haribos"
That is good and same here, the cola bottles are my favourites mmmmm

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Its the female on the forums and we tell ppl which one has messaged.

We both read the messages.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? I think you are probably right

and we chatter better - "

I can confirm this fact x

As you have probably noticed we end posts, messages with our initial & usually an instruction to read our profile for the guys

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

Hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make it clear that it's the male half on here that does the talking . Never a problem .

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

My couples profile states it's usually me who does the messaging. Yet we still get messages talking to the male half as if I don't exist and congratulating him for fucking me.

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? I think you are probably right

and we chatter better - "

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"My couples profile states it's usually me who does the messaging. Yet we still get messages talking to the male half as if I don't exist and congratulating him for fucking me. "
we get it the other way round they think Tomsy's non existent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

To paraphrase Samuel Johnson ...."The triumph of hope over reality!"

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I have to admit when I was in a couple it really was me who did most of the searching /messaging and replying

Very rare he would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to write to both, keeping it non-gendered and equally flattering. That is unless the conversation is going and I know which I'm talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

Because usually couples profiles are plastered with pictures of the female, so naturally the guy assumes it's the female they're chatting with.

Also, if the message is "hey, nice pics ' again you'd assume it's the female.

If im contacted with the couple I always ask whom I'm speaking with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it's always the guy who talks to me... Which makes me wonder how genuine they are!

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell

Thanks for all your posts it's interesting and has certainly made me think xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

Do they?? We usually get the "oi mate your misses is well tasty can I get a go?" (That was genuinely a message we received) Which is promptly followed up by a no lol

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!!

Do they?? We usually get the "oi mate your misses is well tasty can I get a go?" (That was genuinely a message we received) Which is promptly followed up by a no lol "
lol we get a few of those

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

It's always me(fem) on here, as hubby is dyslexic!

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By *heCuriousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Costa Del Sol


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!!

Do they?? We usually get the "oi mate your misses is well tasty can I get a go?" (That was genuinely a message we received) Which is promptly followed up by a no lol "

This genuinely made us laugh out loud. We've had some good ones but not that good lol

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

When I used to look for couples, the photos used to largely consist of the female. So maybe that's it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to assume it's the male unless otherwise indicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say most couple profile avatars are of the woman. Looking at forum couples it's mainly the woman who posts.

Easy assumption to make on a site where the picture is probably the part of the profile that caught their attention enough to message.

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By *jxxxxCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

bang on!

We tell them upfront in our profile and then at least have an excuse to say sorry didn't read profile - block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

Agreed, always getting "hey babe" messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply or if I am mailing first I address it the both of you I think this is only polite

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Most single men ask first who is doing the chatting when emailing us, strangely it is normally couples or single females who assume it is always the female chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH has had many guys message asking to meet alone. Strangely when he agrees and tells them it's Mr Iconic they don't reply to his messages anymore.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

Yes.

For some reason many couples use a pic of the woman as an avatar. When I read a question seemingly posed by the picture of a woman's face, is the assumption not natural?

(For the same reason I feel uncomfortable talking to a cock Avatar, I mean, who talks to a cock?)

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get more addressing Paul than me which irritates the hell out of me. We both read and reply to the messages but I'm the only one on the forum

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By *eliaknight OP   Couple
over a year ago

St Austell


"My OH has had many guys message asking to meet alone. Strangely when he agrees and tells them it's Mr Iconic they don't reply to his messages anymore. "

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By *retty_damagedCouple
over a year ago

coventry

It's usually me who replies to messages (female) but I always say it's me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

If only you could write in pink or blue... Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao I made that mistake yesterday

There I am sharing the banter and said how cute she was and got the reply

Btw this is Dave lmfao

All good fun though

Just a case of establishing who you are actually talking to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simples really as there are however times more men than women on here the interest tends to be in the lady not the man as they are 10 a penny so to speak - therefore rightly or wrongly it's the lady who gets the attention and messages - if you don't want that just make it clear in your profile that it's usually the man who reads messages or something "

Doesn't make any difference,we make it clear it's mostly me,grey,on.guys tend to ignore what we say and stumble on in their own clumsy way.it works as a good filter for us.the private note facility pays for itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it. I like it when guys tell me they want me to suck their dicks. Then I tell them I like to wank myself off at the same time. They soon realise there's 2 of us in our relationship...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? I think you are probably right

and we chatter better -

I can confirm this fact x

As you have probably noticed we end posts, messages with our initial & usually an instruction to read our profile for the guys

S"

this was my new years resolution to sign off Sx - but i failed you saying i ne'er shut up

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Is it because they largely didn't post enough photos of the guy in the profile - thus thinking they'd engineer the female in other couples to make contact for me?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not for me but for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it was the other way round

I find cpls very difficult to talk to really??"

Really

Always have

Weirder is that if I actually meet a cpl in a club and get talking

9/10 we end up good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it was the other way round

I find cpls very difficult to talk to really??"

Really

Always have

Weirder is that if I actually meet a cpl in a club and get talking

9/10 we end up good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think it's the guy talking, don't know why I think that I just do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just say which of us it is they're chatting to.

Sarah

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"we often get get messages saying hope the fem likes blah as well as you - it is me the fem who writes most of the time

Same here, always me the fem who replies and writes on the forum....

I guess we enjoy the flirting and social side of it more?? I think you are probably right

and we chatter better -

I can confirm this fact x

As you have probably noticed we end posts, messages with our initial & usually an instruction to read our profile for the guys

S

this was my new years resolution to sign off Sx - but i failed you saying i ne'er shut up "

Me? Never!

S

(See that's how you do it )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!!

I suppose it's an easy mistake to make and maybe 50% of the time they will be correct! It's also very easy to let the person know who has messaged you that they are chatting to the male. No real harm done. "

On the forums I often assume it's the female half when the avatar and 90% of the photos are of her. Unless stated otherwise, obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do most men always assume that it's always the female talking to them? Can anybody answer this??!! "

I never try to assume anything and when speaking to a couple I try to keep it gender neutral for the initial few messages and then simply ask who I'm chatting with, which leads me nicely into - so who am I replying to ?

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to write at the end of a message or a forum post who's actually online at the time but we each have access to the account so it could be either of us or both online.

Kinky

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By *razysexysingleWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

We used to have it all the time. Was super annoying

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