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By *isaB45 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

...invariably ask the same two questions when they message you?

How are you finding the site/much success? (does this mean 'are you fucking the whole of Fab'?)

What are you looking for? (ypu would know if you read my profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you like them to ask you? X

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By *isaB45 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"What would you like them to ask you? X"

Just to be a bit more original in their approach...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never asked either of those questions myself, my messages tend to be a mixture of a little about myself, personal compliment to the profile I'm messaging. And asking if they'd like to chat sometime and maybe meet socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just a way to begin conversation.

You do say on your profile to "just ask" maybe that's part of the reason they are asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you like them to ask you? X

Just to be a bit more original in their approach..."

Example??? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence but you have a 2 line profile and one line is what you don't like....don't know what your expecting when your profile is half hearted and shows nothing about you and what you want x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

What you up to? Used to really annoy me lol

Obviously i'm on here;)

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's just a way to begin conversation.

You do say on your profile to "just ask" maybe that's part of the reason they are asking? "

In fairness. You do say 'just ask'.

I read your page bits short, it felt like it was 2 sentences long.

Those 2 questions are not my first thoughts. But, 9/10 times men don't get answered anyway, so I don't think it matters what they ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to say it's not just guys that message those things a lot of couples do too, even if that does mean it's the guy out the couple messaging it still makes them both look as bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's just a way to begin conversation.

You do say on your profile to "just ask" maybe that's part of the reason they are asking?

In fairness. You do say 'just ask'.

I read your page bits short, it felt like it was 2 sentences long.

Those 2 questions are not my first thoughts. But, 9/10 times men don't get answered anyway, so I don't think it matters what they ask.

"

I agree with this its not what's in the message its invariably what's on your profile and your pics that will prompt a reply.

What are you meant to say to a 2 line profile?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"...

(ypu would know if you read my profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't ask me that. The opening message usually links to something on my profile, a photo, or a status.

I'd say arguably their opening messages when they're messaging you are entirely based on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...invariably ask the same two questions when they message you?

How are you finding the site/much success? (does this mean 'are you fucking the whole of Fab'?)

What are you looking for? (ypu would know if you read my profile)

"

Well I suppose they are trying to gage your availability, women get a lot of attention, plus most women are looking for a friend with benefits, and not just a string of casual encounters. You don't give any indication on your profile about this.

The second question comes back to the first really. Guys are approaching you with the aspiration of fucking you. So they are asking are you really available and are you actually up for it.

A little more information on your profile may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't ask me that. The opening message usually links to something on my profile, a photo, or a status.

I'd say arguably their opening messages when they're messaging you are entirely based on your profile "

I can see why men often reference your photos, because wow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm contacting someone for the first time it will be because of something on the forums.

Either or a simple "Here's twelve pics of my cock. Fancy a fuck?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first question would be '. Have you ever ridden a unicycle holding a flaming torch between your teeth and juggling chainsaws - establishes whether we would be compatible xx

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

i dont usualy bother to reply to those messages, to me they are pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello! Do you think the frequency of receiving the second question maybe partly because you do say that you're up for most things and to just ask on your profile? Thankfully I receive very few messages just a daily message from a particular forumite with 12cock pics attached asking if I fancy a fuck. (!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...invariably ask the same two questions when they message you?

How are you finding the site/much success? (does this mean 'are you fucking the whole of Fab'?)

What are you looking for? (ypu would know if you read my profile)

"

It beats 'fancy a fuck!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello! Do you think the frequency of receiving the second question maybe partly because you do say that you're up for most things and to just ask on your profile? Thankfully I receive very few messages just a daily message from a particular forumite with 12cock pics attached asking if I fancy a fuck. (!)

"

Sorry, should I stop sending that message?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I'm inventive when they ask this, sometimes the response puts them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they lack imagination. They never read profiles .

Unlike the fine fellows who grace the forums

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

"I'm working in Bristol fancy a fuck" is my pet hate....I usually reply "yeah so am i don't think my boss would be Impressed if I started Fucking in the office"

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By *heCuriousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Costa Del Sol

We generally read the profile, veris and status. Then we check out the pics.

If we like but don't have anything to work with we'll move on.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax


"What would you like them to ask you? X

Just to be a bit more original in their approach..."

Don't you just hate how much a pack of crisps are nowa days? 55p it's a rip off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny that most messages I get from women, unless they are coming through the forum are of the "hi there, nice pics" variety.

OP how can you expect any sort of different approach when there is zero opportunity for an opening on your profile.

The opening message is usually an invitation to look at the profile, then hopefully chat and get to no the person. Ever tried having a conversation with someone, who just gives yes/no answers? Well that's a bit like your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello! Do you think the frequency of receiving the second question maybe partly because you do say that you're up for most things and to just ask on your profile? Thankfully I receive very few messages just a daily message from a particular forumite with 12cock pics attached asking if I fancy a fuck. (!)

Sorry, should I stop sending that message? "

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"...invariably ask the same two questions when they message you?

How are you finding the site/much success? (does this mean 'are you fucking the whole of Fab'?)

What are you looking for? (ypu would know if you read my profile)

"

Okay - non standard question asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A half arsed profile might attract half arsed efforts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner gets up at 4:30 to go to work, he has a quick look on fab, and before you know it some guy pops up saying "how's your day going?" Errm it's 4:30 in the morning,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying"

Because they're not free tonight

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By *heCuriousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Costa Del Sol


"My partner gets up at 4:30 to go to work, he has a quick look on fab, and before you know it some guy pops up saying "how's your day going?" Errm it's 4:30 in the morning, "

Haha if you're up at 4:30 assume your day isn't going well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the guy above. Your profile is half arsed and probs incites little effort.

l get it too from gay guys. We all get it. l've started blocking as my profile clearly states l'm straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying"
I'm free next Thursday week at 11.17am how does that suit you..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying

Because they're not free tonight "

So why even mentioned the meet? Why not just say I am free tomorrow?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying

Because they're not free tonight

So why even mentioned the meet? Why not just say I am free tomorrow?"

To show that they read the post don't know really,maybe just to interest you. It would be better to write hi,I am very interested bla bla,but can't do tonight,if you're interested for some other time feel free to msg me...I think that this type of msg shows both interest and respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the guys that would/may have something interesting to say wouldn't message a two-line profile.....

You reap what you sow

Now I know that's going to get me in trouble, but.....

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Maybe the guys that would/may have something interesting to say wouldn't message a two-line profile.....

You reap what you sow

Now I know that's going to get me in trouble, but..... "

You *do* have a teeny-weeny point there Pauly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoyingI'm free next Thursday week at 11.17am how does that suit you..? "

Sorry we are only free 11.00 to 11.15 that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the guys that would/may have something interesting to say wouldn't message a two-line profile.....

You reap what you sow

Now I know that's going to get me in trouble, but.....

You *do* have a teeny-weeny point there Pauly "

Since when has that matter on this forum Joe?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Why do single guys message you when you have a meet request up saying, hi, see you are looking to meet tonight, i am free tomorrow?

Now that is annoying"

This is annoying and when you arrange to meet someone on a certain day and time they then message you to say they can come today or should they come earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always answered the what are you looking for question with someone who can read my profile (my last profile had it very clear in plain English what I was looking for)!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Maybe the guys that would/may have something interesting to say wouldn't message a two-line profile.....

You reap what you sow

Now I know that's going to get me in trouble, but.....

You *do* have a teeny-weeny point there Pauly

Since when has that matter on this forum Joe? "

Oh yeah... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9PiqCeLEmM

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

And today's award for single guy bashing thread goes to...

I say it often the same basic principles apply to all genders and demographics on here as were all looking to inform and attract..

Top tip...

If you're unhappy with the messages you're receiving use the tools the site provides (filters etc).and do the messaging yourselves

This top tip was brought to you by johnsoda0204.. other top tip suppliers are available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And today's award for single guy bashing thread goes to...

I say it often the same basic principles apply to all genders and demographics on here as were all looking to inform and attract..

Top tip...

If you're unhappy with the messages you're receiving use the tools the site provides (filters etc).and do the messaging yourselves

This top tip was brought to you by johnsoda0204.. other top tip suppliers are available "

Exaclty what I do, works perfectly and I get no hassle or crap messages as I send them!! No point moaning about things you can control.

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

You get out what you put in, put little effort in and you get little out. You have a 2 line profile, so don't expect a lot.

Put more into your profile and give guys something to talk to you about. I wouldn't message you because you've given me nothing to comment on xx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

This hasn't gone the way it was intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1st world problem lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get out what you put in, put little effort in and you get little out. You have a 2 line profile, so don't expect a lot.

Put more into your profile and give guys something to talk to you about. I wouldn't message you because you've given me nothing to comment on xx "

Haha, just read the OP's profile and it states just ask. Well............you did say just ask so they did!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I've just read the OP's profile and can only assume the thread is some kind of joke.

No photos (worth looking at), two lines of poor text.

What do you expect people to message you about?

If I was looking at your prfile, I wouldn't bother at all because you haven't given me anything to actually message you about.

"Hey, there, you allude to the fact that you are female on your profile. I like females. You may or may not be the kind of female that I would want to have sex with"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st world problem lol "

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you like them to ask you? X

Just to be a bit more original in their approach..."

I always get the 'your far to pretty to be on here like do you have to be physically unattractive to sign up on here? Wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1st world problem lol

Patience is the key lol"
That is right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would you like them to ask you? X

Just to be a bit more original in their approach...

I always get the 'your far to pretty to be on here like do you have to be physically unattractive to sign up on here? Wtf "

Damn it,being attractive is a curse not a blessing if only people would understand.

Think of the poor fitties!

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