FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters how many strikes?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Since joining up on here I have read and heard so much about timewasters. So far I am yet to encounter what i would call timewasters.

Do people have a number of strikes (sorry for the Americanism) they allow people before blocking them etc.

Me personally it would vary if I arranged a meet and they don't show without contacting me then they can do one, however if they messaged me to cancel I would give them the benefit of the doubt. Too trusting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If they arranged and didn't turn up or contact: no chances

If they did contact: another chance

No 3 strikes ever. Then it's more fool me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block. "

This

MrsSB

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No show or whatever appeared wrong, such as inconsiderate behaviour would be that one chance only. Decent people with reasonable life circumstances could get another chance.

Future dates would be to a very clear and specific arrangement that would include full communication - if this went wrong, it would be goodbye.

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

It's once for us as we spend time chatting on kik beforehand. We arrange a time that's suitable for both of us so if they cancel or don't show then that's it

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

On arranging with new meets, ive never had a no show... If I did, they wouldn't get another chance.

I once met a guy at a pub for a social drink.. We chatted outside for about 15 mins.. He went in to get us a drink.. 15 mins later he hadn't returned. I looked in the pub that was not busy..but he was nowhere to be seen. I guess he had legged it out the other door. That resulted in instant block.

On the other hand...a guy I have been meeting for 2 years suddenly thought it was acceptable to arrange and no turn up...then not log on for a week.. This has happened about 4 times now.. Needless to say I've now washed my hands with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on what why and wherefore - some no second chance some 2 or 3 -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"depends on what why and wherefore - some no second chance some 2 or 3 - "

saying that weve never had a no show - but one or two have had to cancel more than once before we evenmet them but with good reason we thought and proved right in the end so all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two, as I've had to cancel a meet once at the last minute for family reasons so I think you can forgive one cancel. Not if they don't tell you though.

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By *arkman69Man
over a year ago

Erdington

If it's a legit reason then two strikes.

If someone has 'family problems' on the day, disappears for weeks without even telling you, then their ass is gone asap!

Yes that did happen to me. The cheeky cow even tried to add me as a friend again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances. A no-show is an automatic block, it's only happened once though. If they were to let me know beforehand then I'd give them a second chance. But nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block.

This

MrsSB

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By *izbitMan
over a year ago

St Helens

'Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me'.....

So twice as a rule of thumb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters how many strikes ?

till my knuckles start to hurt

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If they arranged and didn't turn up or contact: no chances

If they did contact: another chance

No 3 strikes ever. Then it's more fool me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No shows don't get another chance. Has happened to me once and it won't be happening again.

If someone cancels in advance that's fine, I've had to cancel before too. So they get another shot.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Once, no second chances. Too many offers to give second chances on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block. "

This...although it does depend on the reason for cancellation, and I can usually tell if it's bullshit.

I've only ever had one no-show, and that was from a guy I'd met previously. Luckily he was quickly and easily replaced so no great shakes. He was swiftly reported and blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they arranged and didn't turn up or contact: no chances

If they did contact: another chance

No 3 strikes ever. Then it's more fool me."

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If they arranged and didn't turn up or contact: no chances

If they did contact: another chance

No 3 strikes ever. Then it's more fool me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I listen to their excuses. If I decide afterwards they are timewasters i tell them and block. Sometimes it is one fail and out and sometimes they get a second chance.

In my experience there are as many timewasters on here as genuine. Filtering at least reduces the number of no shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block.

This

MrsSB

Us to xxx

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

My rule of thumb is three strikes and you are out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice. There may be a genuine emergency in regards to the first meet. But I would only give them a second chance if they contacted me. A no show would be a report and block. "

Absolutely this!

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