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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondering on peoples preference on telling friends or family about their fab/swinging life, are you open about it and care free or is it something you keep to your self/ between you and your partner, and how do friends/family react if you tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering on peoples preference on telling friends or family about their fab/swinging life, are you open about it and care free or is it something you keep to your self/ between you and your partner, and how do friends/family react if you tell them "
I wouldnt tell my family fee of my friends know and dont react badly! But woukd never tell my family ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My family and friends are not aware that I am on here. Though if they were to find out, they would not be so disgusted as to disown me. I'm not ashamed to be on here, hence the pictures. I just see my fab life, as my business, and nobody else's x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends and family think I'm pretty much certifiable just by virtue of being 41, unmarried and childless.

I think if they had an inlking that I very much enjoy all girl orgies and standing chatting with strangers in a club wearing little more than a smile, before doing the rude thing with Number One Chap infront of people I don't know; they would probably ship me off to the nearest asylum quicker than you could say strap on!

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

All my family and friends know what I get up to on here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats it you cant make everyone happy as long as you are thats all that counts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol at least you'd be smilling on the way to the asylum after a good session, as long as you're smilling thats all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats it you cant make everyone happy as long as you are thats all that counts"
majority of people are very judgemental but as you said as long as your happy with who you are is the main thing!

But I know my family woukd judge have a old school Irish mother tge wooden spoon woukd be out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats the thing some family/friends can be narrow minded and sometimes its not worth the hastle people knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats the thing some family/friends can be narrow minded and sometimes its not worth the hastle people knowing"
well my friends are ok with it iam a single guy who doest want a relationship due too a bad one a year ago!

Famiky are just old school so wouodnt agree and I already disappoint them enough ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was publicly outed on a social media site a couple of years ago by someone trying to embarrass me and all it did was confirm what people were already thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on your friends and family and there personalities

I tell some friends and some family and haven't had an issue in fact the majority of the time they have asked me to sort a meet for them lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my lot know. I'm an awful liar and it only takes a glass of wine for me to spill the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very much open about my swinging life, I never use to be it was always my little secret now I don't care who knows you only live once and I tend to enjoy it, I have nothing to hide. my friends and family arnt that shocked tbh lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who know me well, know.

My mother queried the tab top that was showing on the lap top when I was showing her something else.

Got told if I can't be good, be careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told 1 friend who is male but there's no way I could tell any of my other friends, and def not my family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All friends and family know. I tell my mum who I'm meeting etc for security

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone outed me to my mum a few weeks ago following a group social. There's no-one else that knows we do this.

Mrs SnT

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

My mother and youngest son and a few close friends know - everyone else thinks I'm internet dating! Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think if you're single its a good idea that someone knows, I'd think that just for dating too. Otherwise we don't tell anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, my family do not know and it is something that I think is private and I keep it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three of my friends know, one of which I have lured on here but he's taking a wee break. The women of Fab have ruined him.

My family don't know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my friends or family know and I intend to keep it that way

My fab life is my guilty pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't tell my friends and family if I meet a women on a night out, I'm sure they wouldn't really care, so other than a couple of close mates, my fab life is private.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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We are not at all ashamed however we know some of our friends and family would judge us. The reason we don't tell anyone is it's our little secret, our secret little life that only we know about and share together. We often chuckle and throw each other a little smirk we people ask us why we go away for weekends and don't we find it boring! If only they knew.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've got friends, family and neighbours who know but am selective. For safety alone it's worth having others who can look out for you, without them becoming shocked etc. You can be surprised who opens up and tells you of their swinging too.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Semi private / public

A lot of my friends are ex swingers so a lot know that I am still in scene

I might say I am going to a club and leave it at that

In terms of non swing friends they might joke when was the last time I went and I tend to shrug it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a couple of trusted friends know but generally its my secret - and i like it that way - adds to the 'naughtiness and fun'

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"None of my friends or family know and I intend to keep it that way

My fab life is my guilty pleasure "

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Have always been a very private person bot not bothered about certain people knowing, only one work colleague knows though

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"None of my friends or family know and I intend to keep it that way

My fab life is my guilty pleasure

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Same here

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I don't talk with family and friends about my vanilla sex life, so would never mention my meetings from here either. Having been raised a Catholic, I know all sex is dirty anyhow!

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Private for me as i'm not Chris and i'm not being straight! Closeted on both fronts but at least my partner knows thats whats important to me xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of different answers, i like the fact that single people especially females have at least one person who knows for security reasons, but also like the fact of it being a naughty personal secret, if only no one would judge.. They dont know what they're missing out on

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

My closest friends know and have been out on glam nights with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hide it...all my important people know and they are ok with it...and I don't really care if anyone else isn't...have only met one person that wasn't tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of our friends or family have any clue about what we get up to, if we were singles then maybe it would be different but I'm certain that they wouldn't understand why we do what we do!, I reckon they'd think we're unhappy with each other or something, couldn't be further from the truth...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody knows about me swinging other than the people i've fucked, some have stayed friends. I was in a long unhappy marriage until last year, where i was faithful to the same man for over 14 years, and I only discovered swinging when I left him. I'm pretty sure my friends and family would think I'm having some kind of mid life crisis and putting my health and safety at risk.

I'm having fun. I deserve fun. And I don't need anyone to put a downer on it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends know I made sure after someone came up to me while I was out socialising! I made the decision after that to tell those who are important to me . The person thought they could have a position of power over me so I took it away from them . My friends weren't surprised and are supportive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private. This world and our "real life" world are completely different.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Same, we have 2 worlds. The 'real' world and this fab fantasy world. Never the two shall meet.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just wondering on peoples preference on telling friends or family about their fab/swinging life, are you open about it and care free or is it something you keep to your self/ between you and your partner, and how do friends/family react if you tell them "

It's called "private" life for a reason. I don't share the details of my bank account, the frequency or consistency of my stools or who I have sex with, among other things...and thankfully my friends don't feel the need to share every detail of their lives either.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"My family and friends are not aware that I am on here. Though if they were to find out, they would not be so disgusted as to disown me. I'm not ashamed to be on here, hence the pictures. I just see my fab life, as my business, and nobody else's x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Private. It would still be private if I was single or on here as a couple too. I have no desire to tell people about my sex life, it's none of their business.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No, my family do not know and it is something that I think is private and I keep it that way "

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

my parents know i date non exclusively and that includes staying out over night ( they arent stupid people)

my older kids and my friends know what i do and that im on here..plus someone always knows where i am going for safety reasons.

for the nosy peeps who ask about my love life..i cheekily say 'which one?' and then refuse to talk about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of different opinions, i suppose different people have different opinions on private, some comparing sex to bank accounts, and some not caring who knows because they are having too much fun, its sad hearing about people trying to use it as power over people and im glad everyone who had that used against them stuffed it right back in their face and continued to do what they love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its a private life to some people thats why i asked it, as we can see its not private to quite a few people but im sure they still wouldnt share their bank details, if they have open minded friends and family and they arent embarrased or ashamed why not tell people, this is a big part of some peoples lives, some people live for this, if you live for football or dancing you'd tell everyone surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no choice in the matter, a girl I met on my last profile spotted me on a night out in Manchester and came over talking about the site while I was with my mates haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol couldnt swing it and pretend it was an online casino? Suppose its better in a club in front of friends i stead of at a family meal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol couldnt swing it and pretend it was an online casino? Suppose its better in a club in front of friends i stead of at a family meal "

Yeah that's true! Haha every cloud and all that haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friends know I made sure after someone came up to me while I was out socialising! I made the decision after that to tell those who are important to me . The person thought they could have a position of power over me so I took it away from them . My friends weren't surprised and are supportive x "

Hey you never told me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends, family and neighbours know.

I don't meet much these days,but tend to use a club once a month.

My family are fine with it, friends find it curious and ask questions, as do my good neighbours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a fuck to be fair. I don't talk to anyone about it but if they found out I wouldn't care like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as my mum is concerned I've not had sex since 2011

As for everyone else? Well nobody has ever asked...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I have one friend who knows, she knows everything.

I wouldn't tell anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't told my family that L loves sucking my cock before I slip it into her wet pussy yet, so telling them that she likes to lick other women's pussy while I fuck her doggy fashion is probably a bit too much information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering on peoples preference on telling friends or family about their fab/swinging life, are you open about it and care free or is it something you keep to your self/ between you and your partner, and how do friends/family react if you tell them

It's called "private" life for a reason. I don't share the details of my bank account, the frequency or consistency of my stools or who I have sex with, among other things...and thankfully my friends don't feel the need to share every detail of their lives either.

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I try to avoid the types that tell the whole world every aspect of their sex life as we're not compatible. Plenty of those types on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody's business but mine. I'm open when I've been found but never tell first.

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