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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have read at least 12 posts this week all asking the same question.

"Why am I not getting anywhere on this site?"

I will try to give some tips.

1. get a fecking pic up!!

2. Not of your cock!!

3. If it's your room try to edit out the dirty pile of clothes.

4. Write something down in your profile. One sentence is not enough!

5. Write to your strengths. But try to pad it out. The "I can fuck for hrs doesn't really sell you!"

6. Work on your messaging skills. If all you want to put is "I wud like to fuk u n lik ur pussy!"

At least try to write it better! At the very least don't use txt language.

7. If she says no! It means no. It doesn't mean "I'll try again in 15 mins but a bit more forceful this time!"

8. The ratio is roughly 100 men to 1 lady. Best get used to the fact that it's a sausage fest!!

9. Mostly a lady likes to be stimulated by her mind! Try to be funny and charming. "Nice tits love!" Although a compliment, is sadly two a penny!

10. At no point and I can't stress this enough!!! DO NOT GET ABUSIVE!! She is not into you. Move on!

11. If your married. Put that into your profile! I should imagine the ones that don't care would appreciate the honesty. Remember a lie is still a lie!

12. Go to the socials. I can't over state this. This is where you put a face to the name! This is where you can shine!

13. When at a social. Don't stand there against the wall. Get talking! Most of the people there will still say hello to you and maybe chat a little. You might not get laid. But you might get an all important verification.

14. Get on the Web cam! I myself don't like them, but it can work for you.

15. Try not to moan that this site isn't working! It does belive me!!

Now ladies I'm trying to help the men on here. I have tried to not assume your thoughts. But I have only used what you ladies have said to me and on forums chat.

If anyone can add to this please do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all of the above becomes standard, how does anyone stand out?

By sending cock pics and all the other stuff you said.

So really, they're just getting in there first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ta

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"If all of the above becomes standard, how does anyone stand out?

By sending cock pics and all the other stuff you said.

So really, they're just getting in there first. "
nice pants TT..couldnt resist

yeah we say it loads of times..fed up with repeating myself about getting out to places. some do listen, some don't..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could also add..

Have some solo time before you message anyone. Seriously.

Nobody wants to see 6 pictures of another woman sucking you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If all of the above becomes standard, how does anyone stand out?

By sending cock pics and all the other stuff you said.

So really, they're just getting in there first. nice pants TT..couldnt resist

yeah we say it loads of times..fed up with repeating myself about getting out to places. some do listen, some don't.."

I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"If all of the above becomes standard, how does anyone stand out?

By sending cock pics and all the other stuff you said.

So really, they're just getting in there first. nice pants TT..couldnt resist

yeah we say it loads of times..fed up with repeating myself about getting out to places. some do listen, some don't..

I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me? "
the

(fifty shades of )grey ones with the black waistband

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ? "

He's advising that all the shit whiney blokes should copy his posts, pics and profile to become successful with the laydees

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ? "

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases. "
dont apologise, youve done a very nice thing..i hope the single guys read it, and appreciate your effort xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me? the

(fifty shades of )grey ones with the black waistband "

Ah yes, I went back to my first ever profile pic after I spotted another profile had shown an old favourite.

Thanks Suzy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases. "

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business "

I only that was true!! But it can't hurt to advise those that keep asking for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you could have a totally blank profile and still get verifications and meets from going to clubs. Your verifications come from going to a club on a singles night, which obviously works.

Removing thst from the equation, where had your success come from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business "

Some people get slated just cos their face don't fit. What the OP wrote was just the type of advice any one of you forumites offer on a regular basis but as he's not a lounge regular then his opinion couldn't possibly count for anything.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me? the

(fifty shades of )grey ones with the black waistband

Ah yes, I went back to my first ever profile pic after I spotted another profile had shown an old favourite.

Thanks Suzy "
they nicked your pants????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business

Some people get slated just cos their face don't fit. What the OP wrote was just the type of advice any one of you forumites offer on a regular basis but as he's not a lounge regular then his opinion couldn't possibly count for anything."

No, he's being treated like everyone else. We are all wankers.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business "
no it doesnt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me? the

(fifty shades of )grey ones with the black waistband

Ah yes, I went back to my first ever profile pic after I spotted another profile had shown an old favourite.

Thanks Suzy they nicked your pants???? "

Another profile was showing one of their old profile pics from when I first joined!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advise OP. Its a shame these basic principles aren't just common sense though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wisdom lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please expand on these point op.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I'm having a lunchtime coffee and a read of the forums at work, so my images are off. So, I actually don't know what my profile pic is! Can you describe them for me? the

(fifty shades of )grey ones with the black waistband

Ah yes, I went back to my first ever profile pic after I spotted another profile had shown an old favourite.

Thanks Suzy they nicked your pants????

Another profile was showing one of their old profile pics from when I first joined! "
they had the presence of the 'pants' lucky them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business

Some people get slated just cos their face don't fit. What the OP wrote was just the type of advice any one of you forumites offer on a regular basis but as he's not a lounge regular then his opinion couldn't possibly count for anything."

I thought he spoke a lot of sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Please expand on these point op. "

Lol No!!! I've been told off for being to long winded!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business

Some people get slated just cos their face don't fit. What the OP wrote was just the type of advice any one of you forumites offer on a regular basis but as he's not a lounge regular then his opinion couldn't possibly count for anything.

I thought he spoke a lot of sense "

Me too, especially the bit about guys at socials. The OP attended 3 in as many days ( one lunchtime, one singles and an evening one) and obviously noticed the amount of guys who turn up and stand alone with no effort to mingle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business

Some people get slated just cos their face don't fit. What the OP wrote was just the type of advice any one of you forumites offer on a regular basis but as he's not a lounge regular then his opinion couldn't possibly count for anything.

I thought he spoke a lot of sense "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here is my tips lol

16. Dont expect to much

17. Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here is my tips lol

16. Dont expect to much

17. Patience is the key

"

Well said and thanks for posting in the spirit of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here is my tips lol

16. Dont expect to much

17. Patience is the key

Well said and thanks for posting in the spirit of it all.

"
I had a discrete meet today in fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot the most important one.

Be yourself.....unless you can be the kinky butler, then always be the kinky butler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"8. The ratio is roughly 100 men to 1 lady. Best get used to the fact that it's a sausage fest!! "

That's optimistic.

I would wager your waaaaaaay under the mark there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read at least 12 posts this week all asking the same question.

"Why am I not getting anywhere on this site?"

I will try to give some tips.

1. get a fecking pic up!!

2. Not of your cock!!

3. If it's your room try to edit out the dirty pile of clothes.

4. Write something down in your profile. One sentence is not enough!

5. Write to your strengths. But try to pad it out. The "I can fuck for hrs doesn't really sell you!"

6. Work on your messaging skills. If all you want to put is "I wud like to fuk u n lik ur pussy!"

At least try to write it better! At the very least don't use txt language.

7. If she says no! It means no. It doesn't mean "I'll try again in 15 mins but a bit more forceful this time!"

8. The ratio is roughly 100 men to 1 lady. Best get used to the fact that it's a sausage fest!!

9. Mostly a lady likes to be stimulated by her mind! Try to be funny and charming. "Nice tits love!" Although a compliment, is sadly two a penny!

10. At no point and I can't stress this enough!!! DO NOT GET ABUSIVE!! She is not into you. Move on!

11. If your married. Put that into your profile! I should imagine the ones that don't care would appreciate the honesty. Remember a lie is still a lie!

12. Go to the socials. I can't over state this. This is where you put a face to the name! This is where you can shine!

13. When at a social. Don't stand there against the wall. Get talking! Most of the people there will still say hello to you and maybe chat a little. You might not get laid. But you might get an all important verification.

14. Get on the Web cam! I myself don't like them, but it can work for you.

15. Try not to moan that this site isn't working! It does belive me!!

Now ladies I'm trying to help the men on here. I have tried to not assume your thoughts. But I have only used what you ladies have said to me and on forums chat.

If anyone can add to this please do. "

wow thanks for the help Casanova but I think I'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here is my tips lol

16. Dont expect to much

17. Patience is the key

Well said and thanks for posting in the spirit of it all.

"
Yes, it is all fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the original post doesnt apply to my profile. If i message a woman i always introduce myself rather than "lets fuck" so being yourself doesnt always work. Id love to go to a social but they arnt advertised anywhere unlike the sex fest meets at swingers clubs so im sorry ive never read such a load of bollox in all my life. It depends what the woman wants and it depends what the man wants they are all totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eni berd wanna fk tnite eh? Mail ck 4 higher! Berds wiv pussies ownlie!

Fool, I've a tool with a stool on a mule! Yo! I'm so the hippest stud in the world man! Don't call me Ali F for nuffin, no wot I meen fans?! Waggywooooo!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Most of the original post doesnt apply to my profile. If i message a woman i always introduce myself rather than "lets fuck" so being yourself doesnt always work. Id love to go to a social but they arnt advertised anywhere unlike the sex fest meets at swingers clubs so im sorry ive never read such a load of bollox in all my life. It depends what the woman wants and it depends what the man wants they are all totally different. "

If you actually read the original post it wasn't aimed at EVERY guy on here just the ones who regularly whinge about not getting any meets.

And yes I agree, it can also depend on the woman as some really go for those FAF msgs.

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By *he SeductionistMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Yea I get all of that message..I just keep trying and someone out there will reply I just find it interesting how women will agree with it all but yet we follow the advice given and still get no hits..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea I get all of that message..I just keep trying and someone out there will reply I just find it interesting how women will agree with it all but yet we follow the advice given and still get no hits.."

You're still in the lower age bracket for men on here,once you're old you can let yourself go,pop up some socials,chit chat and fawn over the older ladies and you'll be well in,I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read at least 12 posts this week all asking the same question.

"Why am I not getting anywhere on this site?"

I will try to give some tips.

1. get a fecking pic up!!

2. Not of your cock!!

3. If it's your room try to edit out the dirty pile of clothes.

4. Write something down in your profile. One sentence is not enough!

5. Write to your strengths. But try to pad it out. The "I can fuck for hrs doesn't really sell you!"

6. Work on your messaging skills. If all you want to put is "I wud like to fuk u n lik ur pussy!"

At least try to write it better! At the very least don't use txt language.

7. If she says no! It means no. It doesn't mean "I'll try again in 15 mins but a bit more forceful this time!"

8. The ratio is roughly 100 men to 1 lady. Best get used to the fact that it's a sausage fest!!

9. Mostly a lady likes to be stimulated by her mind! Try to be funny and charming. "Nice tits love!" Although a compliment, is sadly two a penny!

10. At no point and I can't stress this enough!!! DO NOT GET ABUSIVE!! She is not into you. Move on!

11. If your married. Put that into your profile! I should imagine the ones that don't care would appreciate the honesty. Remember a lie is still a lie!

12. Go to the socials. I can't over state this. This is where you put a face to the name! This is where you can shine!

13. When at a social. Don't stand there against the wall. Get talking! Most of the people there will still say hello to you and maybe chat a little. You might not get laid. But you might get an all important verification.

14. Get on the Web cam! I myself don't like them, but it can work for you.

15. Try not to moan that this site isn't working! It does belive me!!

Now ladies I'm trying to help the men on here. I have tried to not assume your thoughts. But I have only used what you ladies have said to me and on forums chat.

If anyone can add to this please do. "

Rant over.... you never broke any of your list...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wunse showted that in a club yeah and this berd cums up and tells me she finks I'm being ironic yeah! No, I explayned, I'm Joe not Ron! Ha!

She sed it agen really lowdly yeah so I got wot she sed yeah! No, I get it I sed! But no, me mum duz me ironing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have fucked men with no verifications,one line of text and one pic. Some of the best oral I got too.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

So if all the guys take all of the advice that'll be the last of the posts.

Or maybe the moderators could step in and just ban them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op is talking sense sadly ,..., i have no cock pics on my profile , usually in chat ,..,,and im no adonis lol ,.,,but im having a great time on here ,..,, just carry on doing what youre doing guys ,..,...us respectful singles will pick up where you fail. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP is a good post and a great idea. Though sadly 90% of single guys wouldn't read it, let alone impliment it.

This is a free prostitution site isn't it?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

It's been said before if you give the blue print to all of the single guys , how does anyone stand out...

I've often thought if someone can't figure out the what and the how ..then they need to figure it out themselves.. most of the successful guys girls and couples had to. It's not rocket science.

Making it easier helps only those that can't help themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op is talking sense sadly ,..., i have no cock pics on my profile , usually in chat ,..,,and im no adonis lol ,.,,but im having a great time on here ,..,, just carry on doing what youre doing guys ,..,...us respectful singles will pick up where you fail. Lol"

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"The OP is way too long..can someone abbreviate it for us ?

Sorry just trying to cover all bases.

Would of been better coming from a woman.

It reads.

You're all wankers and I'm the business "

Couldn't be more wrong if you tried

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The intent was well meant

The audience lesser so

The people you are trying to influence, won't benefit.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's been said before if you give the blue print to all of the single guys , how does anyone stand out...

I've often thought if someone can't figure out the what and the how ..then they need to figure it out themselves.. most of the successful guys girls and couples had to. It's not rocket science.

Making it easier helps only those that can't help themselves. "

I'm just so tired of reading the same bloody questions!!

But it's all good.

Mine is far from perfect.

Got to be honest that some thought I was lording it about made me laugh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been said before if you give the blue print to all of the single guys , how does anyone stand out...

I've often thought if someone can't figure out the what and the how ..then they need to figure it out themselves.. most of the successful guys girls and couples had to. It's not rocket science.

Making it easier helps only those that can't help themselves. "

The men I like meeting stand out a mile and would regardless of generic profiles abound on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's have a "Why am I..." Forum for the whiners.

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