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How it is possible? I am lucky at clubs but not on fabs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think I go to clubs? Easier to talk to people, easier to get across your personality.

Easier to meet new people, easier to arrange meets or even play at the time.

It's where most of my meets have come from, I do occasionally meet people off here, but until they're stood in front of me, I take nothing for granted or claim it as a dead cert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not only that, consider the ratios of women to men?

Consider your profile compared to others, all these things are a huge contributing factor in whether you get meets on here.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Because in clubs people can see more than just your cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are good at making themselves stand out in the online world through their words and photos and attract a lot of attention. Others are not, and people will need to see them in the flesh to notice them. If clubs are working for you why not stick to making contacts there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not only that but my humble opinion, and being shot down before on it, there's a lot of women on fab who have no intention whatsoever of meeting etc and are on here to to "play at it" and possibly either just what their egos massaging or are just prick teasers.

To be honest I'm not bothered about either, I just wish they were also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?"

Because on here, your profile matters - text and pictures. That is the basis upon which you will be judged.

I have yet to warm to men who think that an open toilet in a picture is a welcoming sight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not only that but my humble opinion, and being shot down before on it, there's a lot of women on fab who have no intention whatsoever of meeting etc and are on here to to "play at it" and possibly either just what their egos massaging or are just prick teasers.

To be honest I'm not bothered about either, I just wish they were also."

Lots of us can't meet often, or without planning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not only that but my humble opinion, and being shot down before on it, there's a lot of women on fab who have no intention whatsoever of meeting etc and are on here to to "play at it" and possibly either just what their egos massaging or are just prick teasers.

To be honest I'm not bothered about either, I just wish they were also."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you think I go to clubs? Easier to talk to people, easier to get across your personality.

Easier to meet new people, easier to arrange meets or even play at the time.

It's where most of my meets have come from, I do occasionally meet people off here, but until they're stood in front of me, I take nothing for granted or claim it as a dead cert. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you think I go to clubs? Easier to talk to people, easier to get across your personality.

Easier to meet new people, easier to arrange meets or even play at the time.

It's where most of my meets have come from, I do occasionally meet people off here, but until they're stood in front of me, I take nothing for granted or claim it as a dead cert. "

This for me too. It's so much easier to meet at a club. You get to have the social and the fun all at once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?"

You're there (real).

You're age and relationship status are irrelevant as you're there.

Your height and ethnicity may be irrelevant as you're there.

Your willingness to perform, smell and hygiene are assessed, possibly unconsciously.

It's like physically shopping - if you're after something but something else is there instead just as suitable, you're probably just as happy.

If you're online shopping, the choice is overwhelming. To reduce this, filters are put into place to assist your search. You'll probably miss something just as suitable but you're making the task easier for yourself.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

In a club you can see the person, maybe start chatting if you think mmm..

On here it is your profile that I see and tbh there would be nothing there to make me go mmm... I wonder.

I'm not sure what your introduction messages are like but this is the reality between here and clubs.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?"

I am a great believer in that you only get one chance to make a great first impression....

if you think your "shop window" is delivering that great first impression... then i think you need to go back to the drawing board.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?

You're there (real).

Your age "

I hate typos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The photo with the loo in it is SUCH a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cornflakes, I'm blaming everything on cornflakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It's like physically shopping - if you're after something but something else is there instead just as suitable, you're probably just as happy.

If you're online shopping, the choice is overwhelming. To reduce this, filters are put into place to assist your search. You'll probably miss something just as suitable but you're making the task easier for yourself."

That's a really good analogy.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Are we talking swingers clubs or vanilla clubs

If it's a vanilla club (hey even a swingers club with the rules some have) you probably don't approach the women with a bag over your head and your dick hanging out do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, it's far easier establishing chemistry when you're already face to face and in the mindset for play in a club.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It's like physically shopping - if you're after something but something else is there instead just as suitable, you're probably just as happy.

If you're online shopping, the choice is overwhelming. To reduce this, filters are put into place to assist your search. You'll probably miss something just as suitable but you're making the task easier for yourself.

That's a really good analogy. "

It was originally my analogy for dating, real life v online dating, but it works nicely here too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Your pics may not do you justice or someone may not have turned up to the clubs, so there's less competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big gulf in numbers male to female, my wife is on here to and we view each other's site. When I first was on first time round I was annoyed about the time I was putting into a message,good profile,face pic etc and most never got read and never Evan viewed my profile but then looking at it from the wife's profile when logging in females are faced with lots of yellow boxes and bye the time they read one there's 4-5 New so it is hard but it's near impossible to read 25% of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because in a club with real life face to face chat and banter there's a significant chance that people will know a little more about you outside of the fact that you are the proud owner of a penis which isn't exactly a USP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because humans are social beings and are not designed to effectively communicate without face to face contact. In a club you can say something and your body language and intonation lets people know the meaning and motives behind it whereas on a computer screen it is just flat, bare and uninteresting. Just think of the amount of ways you could say to someone "nice bum" for instance.

You are obviously great at social situations so perhaps stick to your strengths? There are plenty of different clubs out there if you want variety and many don't need a membership

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I have a genuine question and I am very honest. When I attend to Swing Clubs I get loads of attention. And I don't have to do much effort either. How come I am very unlucky on here? )

I do want to meet people who different places but I feel like I am stuck to members club

Any guess?

I am a great believer in that you only get one chance to make a great first impression....

if you think your "shop window" is delivering that great first impression... then i think you need to go back to the drawing board....."

This - I'm afraid your pics are rubbish and your profile overall is poor

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