FabSwingers.com forum: Why? Why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prepared to be shredded...

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Its personal preference op,we all like what we like.

Just move on from those profiles you deem as strict .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because people have specific things they want when meeting someone

Maybe

Just sayin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think - now don't quote me on this - but it may be the ability to have that thing.. oh what's it called.. personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think - now don't quote me on this - but it may be the ability to have that thing.. oh what's it called.. personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's my fantasy fun. I'm not running a charity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its not build.m a bear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

is it possible you are not what they are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Build a bear *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not build.m a bear "

build a bear is expensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Build a bear *"

Is it not .... ohhhh shucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's my fantasy fun. I'm not running a charity."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never understood build a bear as a product.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Its not build.m a bear

build a bear is expensive "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So....we should just go with any old munter then?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Its not build.m a bear "

I wish it was. I may actually get someone who was reliable for a change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plus if we as humans didn't have preferences, what would that make us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not build.m a bear

build a bear is expensive "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dam those women with preferences who won't just shag anybofy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

How many criteria do you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strict in what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"plus if we as humans didn't have preferences, what would that make us?"

Humans without preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never understood build a bear as a product. "

Hadnt realised how expensive it was when choosing the bear and deciding on what noise to put in .. queue was huge ..ended up putting it back and leaving it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Although I do see the OPs point. I request tall and dark on my profile, but I've shagged short baldies. I like to do social meets to see how we get on and am willing to negotiate some of the less important criteria.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

OP ive just had a look at your profile and you have set certain perameters for people you want to meet, why?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

That's right OP, show us how it's done, lighten up your criteria so the bi guys can meet you. Lead by example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, does this basically boil down to you not getting meets because your messaging people whose preferences you don't meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

That's brave of you

Believe it or not just because we are swingers doesn't mean we shag everything that moves. As in real life, people have standards that are as unique and as individual as they are - it's not always about a pulse and a heartbeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never understood build a bear as a product. "

Wish I'd bloody well thought of the idea though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

Some you think people should forget what they like and just shaggy anyone?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

Some you think people should forget what they like and just shaggy anyone?

Seems so doesn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think - now don't quote me on this - but it may be the ability to have that thing.. oh what's it called.. personal preference

^^This.

I do think I am probably much stricter with my criteria on here than say in a club where I chat to someone face to face and their personality comes through. Height is none negotiable tho!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Its not build.m a bear "

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

So what are you saying?

People are not allowed a choice?

We understand your frustration about not having any success yet, but surely people can choose their own criteria for the fun that they want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

Some you think people should forget what they like and just shaggy anyone?

Seems so doesn't it."

If being on here meant I was supposed to drop my knickers for anyone who asked I'd leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not build.m a bear

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

What noise would they make when you squeezed their hand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean "it's not build a bear"?

Please explain that comment....

We are not free prostitutes doing it for a living with any punter with a couple of quid.

We are not here to service men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets"

I totally agree with you.

But I know I have nothing in common with them and don't waste my time mailing them.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets"

Then you need to step back and look at how you're approaching this. It's clear to me that you think you can fuck anything that you want to, without taking the preferences of the other person into consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

Some you think people should forget what they like and just shaggy anyone?

Seems so doesn't it.

If being on here meant I was supposed to drop my knickers for anyone who asked I'd leave.

It seems that some people think that is EXACTLY what you are here for.

It is clear to us that the perception of a lot if single guys joining here is that swingers will have sex with anyone.

Simply not the case as they soon find out.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets"

To be fair, arranging such an intimate encounter probably needs more than a quick drink beforehand. Us women do need to be happy about who we're inviting into our beds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Its not build.m a bear

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

What noise would they make when you squeezed their hand?

Ooh good question,something that lustfully screams 'take me woman take me'. What kinda sound that is I'm not entirely sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not build.m a bear

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

What noise would they make when you squeezed their hand?

Ooh good question,something that lustfully screams 'take me woman take me'. What kinda sound that is I'm not entirely sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets

To be fair, arranging such an intimate encounter probably needs more than a quick drink beforehand. Us women do need to be happy about who we're inviting into our beds."

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm strict because it stops me ending up with something or someone I don't want. I'm strict when I have coffee......definitely no sugar. Why should I be different on here.

Already knocked a couple back this morning. They sent pics of her....I had to say thanks but no thanks.

We all have preferences....accept it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

Maybe they just don't want that connection?

Have you ever thought about that?

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Now im messing with sequenced thread titles.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

brace yourself..

loosen up a little and meet a bi or gay guy..

after all if its good for the goose, or is that good to be goosed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

Hmmm.

Dis, dat, deez and doze does mean something dough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not build.m a bear

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

What noise would they make when you squeezed their hand?

Well mine would sound like Tarzan, I'll supply the vine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now what are you a grammer teacher lol. Get outa here. What makes you think i have to prove i can use my 'spell check' to spell right lol

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Its not build.m a bear

I wish it was I'd have the perfect person for me

What noise would they make when you squeezed their hand?

Ooh good question,something that lustfully screams 'take me woman take me'. What kinda sound that is I'm not entirely sure

I thought it would simply just vibrate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

Many women on the forums claim publicly that they only meet men they have a connection with. Yet the reality is very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

Yes, but if the first message or profile is shit, or the guy is not someone I'm physically attracted to, out side my age range, etc, then I don't want to spend my time talking to them on the off chance. Fab is a small part of my life, not the be all and end all.

Telling others how they should behave is going to get you no where. Make sure your profile, pics, and 1st messages are decent, make sure you read profiles, and only mail those whose outlined criteria you match, that doesn't mean that you are what they want, but gives you a far better chance. If I get mail from guys with cock pics attached, despite the 1st line of my profile being a request not to, then I block. If a guy wants to ignore my profile, then he's only wasting his own time. Mines precious to me, I'll spend it how I wish, with who I wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

Then maybe do more to make people want to talk to ypu?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think - now don't quote me on this - but it may be the ability to have that thing.. oh what's it called.. personal preference

Thanks! I was struggling to come up with an answer to the op!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a connection to the underground.

Screw ya if you live close to the tube on the Victoria line.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

is it possible you are not what they are looking for? "

What?!! You sign up on a sex site and won't meet everyone who asks?!!

ADMIN!!!

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

If aspects of that are what I thought after reading someone's profile or speaking to them I'd conclude. They aint for me and leave it there.

Other than that people can be as selective, choosy or not so as they want. Similar to life outside of fab, some people are for you, some aint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

Do you know how many single men there are out there?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

You still don't get it. Keep reading and open your narrow conceptions of what you think this is and what other people think this is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

That's brave of you

OP has confused 'swingers' with the free love hippy commune

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"
op people have standards

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Use it as a filter, they have a long list on their profile - don't bother mailing them. Just like I ignore profiles with 20 pics of their cock, it makes them seem like all they are is a cock..... normally right though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's my fantasy fun. I'm not running a charity."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

Perhaps you should "loosen" up on being straight and meet a few guys then?

No?

Thought not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yu dont find someone attractive kool. But jus cause this person has dat or dat person has this doesnt mean nothing lol. People need to talk to find the connection."

It may mean a lot to the other person.

Ladies in particular have a vast choice of who they can chat with. You're obviously peeved that they are not picking you.

Instead of moaning, perhaps you should reconsider your approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now what are you a grammer teacher lol. Get outa here. What makes you think i have to prove i can use my 'spell check' to spell right lol"

You're making the same mistake as many have made before you and many will keep on making the same mistake well after you are UNLOS

This is not Instashag, never has been & never will be.

People "women" in your case have personal preferences, looks, profile, spelling, location, ethnic origin, hair colour, hair length, tatoos, pictures on profiles, previous meets if any......

the list can be endless, and if you don't hit the spot for what a women is looking for then you ain't going to dip that wick of yours anywhere near them.

Good luck & enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone

Some you think people should forget what they like and just shaggy anyone?

Seems so doesn't it.

If being on here meant I was supposed to drop my knickers for anyone who asked I'd leave.

It seems that some people think that is EXACTLY what you are here for.

It is clear to us that the perception of a lot if single guys joining here is that swingers will have sex with anyone.

Simply not the case as they soon find out.

This is it in a nutshell

The misconception is that swingers are highly sexed and always available. All you have to do is join and you can expect an abundance of sex anytime you feel like it.

By the time this type of thread surfaces the reality is just starting to sink in

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Just read the OP profile and I'm not slutty and only take the lead when I'm with Paul so I don't meet the criteria.....these preferences are a bugger aren't they.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why does it seem people are really strict on here lol. People need to loosen up and enjoy themselves more rather thanhaving this massive criteria to go against when just messaging someone"

I enjoy myself by being strict. I have my own standards because I wouldn't enjoy myself with anyone, just anyone. Strangely enough its taken me half a century and I do know what I want and like ... and I don't like people who presume they can tell me what I shoulder shouldn't do or like because its based on the assumption that they think they know better. Saves a lot of bother and time wasted by the other party. Why would someone else be able to tell me how to enjoy myself and why would their standards need to be enforced on me?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Dam fancy people having preferences, let's see now you want slutty sex (we don't), you have an age range (we are outside it, dam how unfortunate) how fussy are you, surely you should want to fuck anybody regardless of age just like you expect other on the site to go with you.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Im just say this feels like im try to enroll for a job of some sort not to have meets"

Having read your profile You would not meet my requirements.

The main downside:

You work nights

That alone will severely limit your pool of potential people :/

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Now what are you a grammer teacher lol. Get outa here. What makes you think i have to prove i can use my 'spell check' to spell right lol"

Because the connection you mention wouldn't happen if your message was

Kool

Dat

Dis

Or anything along those lines!

A lot of people like good communication skills.

Stimulate the mind first show intelligence, intellect and interest.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Because it's my fantasy fun. I'm not running a charity."

Indeed.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Assume people with experience know what they want and how to deter what they don't.

Saving wasted effort is best for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now what are you a grammer teacher lol. Get outa here. What makes you think i have to prove i can use my 'spell check' to spell right lol

Because the connection you mention wouldn't happen if your message was

Kool

Dat

Dis

Or anything along those lines!

A lot of people like good communication skills.

Stimulate the mind first show intelligence, intellect and interest.

Tru' dat

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Aw bless, he's hidden his profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't put a list of criteria a man has to meet on my profile, but I have one in my head. I'm not going to shag just anyone lol. I'm on here for myself. Nobody else. This is not a pity shag website. We as women, and men also are perfectly within their rights to choose who they have sex with.

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