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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does it bother people on here that the person is meeting discreetly because they have a partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother people on here that the person is meeting discreetly because they have a partner?

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It doesn't bother us but we'd not meet with them if it was the arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

?nope only because most of the time you never know- we go to a club join in the playtime without even knowing a name never mind anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"?nope only because most of the time you never know- we go to a club join in the playtime without even knowing a name never mind anything else"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m not keen to meet people in a relationship, I don't fancy getting a wallop off their OH and I also don't host so it would not be practical x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does it bother people on here that the person is meeting discreetly because they have a partner?

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Not our business but we don't knowingly meet people in a relationship where the other person doesn't know.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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We are all grown ups, do as you wish

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By *uicyJay1Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish "
big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging originated with couples. Swapping partners and sex with other couples. It has evolved to include a vast array of sexual adventures with multiple partners. Of course there must be trust and respect for that to work well.

Q: Why the fuck would anyone think that it would be ok to blatantly disregard and disrespect that level of trust?

A: People that don't understand what Swinging is.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences "

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are all adults,it,s upto the individuals I geuss,if it upsets you they are married or have a partner,i would say don't meet?

it,s more excititng for me if they do have a partner/married

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By *uicyJay1Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny "
I'm liking the last bit... I feel inspired

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny I'm liking the last bit... I feel inspired "

Miss Honey- motivational speaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like you say it's their choice to cheat but they should also allow their meet to have an informed choice by being honest.

It's also my choice not to want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not for me because I want a boyfriend. Chances of anyone becoming that are slim if they've already got a bird.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny "

Well you're not really because other people's actions also influence it.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Like you say it's their choice to cheat but they should also allow their meet to have an informed choice by being honest.

It's also my choice not to want to meet them "

I get this, but if its nsa and you'll never see them again does that change your mind?

Also, what about guys that happily take ladies home after a night out- knowing they aren't single and vice versa?

(I totally said I wasn't getting into a debate didn't I )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are discreet it doesn't bother me. If they whine and make a big issue of it then it bothers me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's NSA but I suppose I'm a bag of conscience and know there's some lady at home being deceived by a bloke, whilst she is washing his undies and cooking his tea thinking he's at work he's really balls deep in me in a travelodge. I just don't wanna be a purposeful part of that.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather not but if they re in a swinging club that's their choice so if anything happens their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will put some people off you, it will encourage others to you, some people couldn't give a shit either way and a lot of people will say one thing to the forum masses and another entirely in private messages. Or at least that's my experience.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

I just like to know one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just like to know one way or another. "

This. At least if you get a screaming banshee on your doorstep you can be prepared for it

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I know it's NSA but I suppose I'm a bag of conscience and know there's some lady at home being deceived by a bloke, whilst she is washing his undies and cooking his tea thinking he's at work he's really balls deep in me in a travelodge. I just don't wanna be a purposeful part of that.

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny I'm liking the last bit... I feel inspired

Miss Honey- motivational speaker "

until saturday when hell will be unleashed

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny I'm liking the last bit... I feel inspired

Miss Honey- motivational speaker

until saturday when hell will be unleashed "

Friday...at around 8pm.

Weather warning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother people on here that the person is meeting discreetly because they have a partner?

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It doesn't bother me if they have been honest to me about it, it's when they lie saying they are single when actually they are married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own I say. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors. It's the men/woman who are unfaithful just for the sake of sex that I don't understand , if I found out my OH was on here with pictures verifications etc I'd be gutted but they their conscience not mine hey.

Good morning lovelies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are discreet we have no problems with it.

Also when we meet men I tend to prefer the slightly older guy and I find that most are in a relationship. The only things I ask is that they are upfront about it to us.

Happily meet married woman too.

The only exception we have to the rule is we don't like meeting fuck buddy couples where one or both are married to someone else. Yeah that probably makes no sense but when we meet couples we prefer couples that have been together some time or are married to each other as we just feel the dynamics work better that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny "

And this is one of the biggest problems with today's world. The self entitlement of some beggars belief.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It makes me uneasy yes,i wouldnt meet them but its not for me to judge why they are here.

Miss

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yes

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

What others do is their business. Not mine.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I find it more interesting that you are focusing on what other people are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will bother some and not others. Stick to those who have no issue with it.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging originated with couples. Swapping partners and sex with other couples. It has evolved to include a vast array of sexual adventures with multiple partners. Of course there must be trust and respect for that to work well.

Q: Why the fuck would anyone think that it would be ok to blatantly disregard and disrespect that level of trust?

A: People that don't understand what Swinging is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"We are all grown ups, do as you wish big enough to cheat, big enough to accept the consequences

Well yeah I guess

I'm not getting into a debate about it.

I just think people should be allowed to do as they please- whatever that may be.

You are keeper of your own destiny

And this is one of the biggest problems with today's world. The self entitlement of some beggars belief. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking if I knew someone was in a relationship I wouldn't meet them. I could do without the hastle if they got caught and don't fancy a angry husband banging at my door.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally speaking if I knew someone was in a relationship I wouldn't meet them. I could do without the hastle if they got caught and don't fancy a angry husband banging at my door.

X"

That should of said in a relationship and playing away. If there both swingers then it's fine with me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it's NSA but I suppose I'm a bag of conscience and know there's some lady at home being deceived by a bloke, whilst she is washing his undies and cooking his tea thinking he's at work he's really balls deep in me in a travelodge. I just don't wanna be a purposeful part of that.

xx"

Brilliantly put!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I don't knowingly meet people who are attached. It goes against my moral code.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother people on here that the person is meeting discreetly because they have a partner?

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yes. I try not to meet those that are cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd only meet someone who had a partner as long as their partner was OK with it. I am in a happy loving open relationship and I tell her about everyone I message and meet. Each to their own and that but I prefer complete and open honesty.

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