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By *workout OP   Man
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

So what is the generally accepted rule of the friend invite around here?

I've sent a couple to people I've had private message chats with as I would like to chat more and see if we get on.

I'd hate to cause offence by jumping the gun so how do you guys decide when a friend invite is appropriate?

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham


"So what is the generally accepted rule of the friend invite around here?

I've sent a couple to people I've had private message chats with as I would like to chat more and see if we get on.

I'd hate to cause offence by jumping the gun so how do you guys decide when a friend invite is appropriate?"

Not sure if there's one to be honest. I don't accept any friends or verifications on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend invites without any chat I find to be rude especially when in our profile we ask to chat before sending one. I often think is it just to see your friends only pictures??

Betty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you have been chatting it's perfectly acceptable to send friend requests, especially if you have an intention of hopefully meeting with them.

However ones which are sent without chatting first is to me not, i find it quite rude and makes me think whoever sent it is just after private pictures or wank material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally have to have either met or plan to meet them imminently x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm requesting then I ask first within the private message, accepting the person may say no or not yet. Only send the request once permission has been given.

I prefer the same in return. But that's just me and everyone's different.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

When we have actually chatted and the subject has come up

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

My solution is

" Would you like to add me as friend"

If I'm added then good if not then good

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I generally have to have either met or plan to meet them imminently x"

This for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After chatting and exchanging face pics we generally accept them. We dont tend to send them though

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If you have been chatting and they seem interested then sent a request.

Don't send them to someone who doesn't even know you exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after chatting a few messages we usually ask if it s ok to send invite - good manners and all that

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I ignore random friend requests and will sometimes block the sender, i do state this on my profile.

I only accept from people who i have actually met in person or we have been chatting and they ask if its ok to send one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have friends who I have met or chat to from the forums. I don't want a huge friends list full of people I'm never going to interact with. Any friend requests from people I've never spoken to are ignored. I currently have a long list of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The right time to send a friend invite is never. I just wait until I receive it from the other person, it's easier this way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ignore random friend requests. After we've been chatting it's OK if people want to send one, prefer they ask first. We always ask first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"after chatting a few messages we usually ask if it s ok to send invite - good manners and all that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will only accept friend invites after we have met normally. There's been the very odd occasion where it's happened before but meeting was a dead cert anyway and arrangements have been made.

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By *workout OP   Man
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

Thanks for the feedback, some great advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to send one if it's looking likely we'll meet. Sometimes people accept, sometimes they don't.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I used to add people I chatted to on the forum or as other have said people I was interested in meeting, unsolicited friends requests have always been deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

"

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess when it feels right for both parties. No hard and fast rules.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'"

See, you're getting the hang of this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'

See, you're getting the hang of this!"

Always call them a cunt first too, you forgot that one, Joe!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'

See, you're getting the hang of this!

Always call them a cunt first too, you forgot that one, Joe! "

That's just rude.

The idea is that only those who really want it will put up with that treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'

See, you're getting the hang of this!

Always call them a cunt first too, you forgot that one, Joe!

That's just rude.

The idea is that only those who really want it will put up with that treatment.

"

Do now have this image of a queue of men outside of our house with:

2 black combat pants

2 black underwear

2 black t shirts

2 black socks

Sleeping bag

Funeral money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The right time to send a friend invite is never. I just wait until I receive it from the other person, it's easier this way ."

Oooooo can I send you a friend request please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally if we've been chatting, I ask if they mind me sending a friend request

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"Friend invites without any chat I find to be rude especially when in our profile we ask to chat before sending one. I often think is it just to see your friends only pictures??

Betty"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The right time to send a friend invite is never. I just wait until I receive it from the other person, it's easier this way .

Oooooo can I send you a friend request please? "

But I don't know you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The right time to send a friend invite is never. I just wait until I receive it from the other person, it's easier this way .

Oooooo can I send you a friend request please?

But I don't know you "

I've made you blush now. My apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The right time to send a friend invite is never. I just wait until I receive it from the other person, it's easier this way .

Oooooo can I send you a friend request please?

But I don't know you

I've made you blush now. My apologies "

No need for apology

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Don't generally send an invite before any contact. I've had just a couple this week without knowing them, despite asking people not to do it - it used to be tons and a pain.

Discuss with them your friends idea - including why you'd like it.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"All right, if the applicant is young, tell him he's too young. Old, too old. Fat, too fat. If the applicant then waits for three days without food, shelter, or encouragement he may then enter and begin his training.

Classic.

'and you! You're too fucking..... blonde!'"

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Just ask if it is ok to send an invite, every person will be different.

No matter how long we have talked our answer will always be the same no unless we are about to meet or have met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll accept anyone as a friend. My friends only pics are not anything special. If people want to let me see their pics then that's fine by me. I used to only accept friend requests from people I'd met but stopped. My real friends go on my hot list.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I don't send friend invites, I say it in my profile if you wish to send one.ask away if you're a couple or single female I'll accept .. folk I chat to often ask and again I'm happy to accept..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"after chatting a few messages we usually ask if it s ok to send invite - good manners and all that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what is the generally accepted rule of the friend invite around here?

I've sent a couple to people I've had private message chats with as I would like to chat more and see if we get on.

I'd hate to cause offence by jumping the gun so how do you guys decide when a friend invite is appropriate?"

I just sent one to someone I've exchanged messages with only to realise I missed in her profile that she won't accept it.

D'oh

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Tend to only add people who we are planning on meeting or have already met. Nothing in our friend pics that's much different to our public pics anyway.

Annoys the hell out of us when we get friend requests from people we've not even chatted to or from people who live 300 miles away.

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