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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain." Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. | |||
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"Don't justify yourself to anyone. You do what you want for whomever you want. If someone doesn't like that, fcuk 'em (not literally ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Post on a Friday night........... Wanted, a small team of bathers, dressers and make-up artists, to include a cute man delivered on completion. A girl can ask ![]() I like it ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. " It's really hard at times I know but try not to let the buggers grind you down. x | |||
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"I certainly understood you and know exactly what you mean. A couple of the posters on that thread clearly had issues of some sort but everyone else got it. Yes, I've posted before about sometimes wanting to do spontaneous meets but not being/feeling able to because it takes me at least a few hours to feel adequately groomed and prepared for a meet. I have sleep issues and other health problems that also leave me tired a lot of the time, which doesn't help. I don't keep myself as maintained as I would like as a result. Some days I struggle even to do the basics and I'll neglect to do things for myself so I can take care of my cats." You got it, thank you | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. " Don't take other people comments to heart, some people have no voice in the real world and this is the place they can have a voice on an equal footing with everyone else ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. Don't take other people comments to heart, some people have no voice in the real world and this is the place they can have a voice on an equal footing with everyone else ![]() ![]() I guess they got what they are after. Serves me right for rejecting them ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. " It's not your fault people misunderstood. People often don't read threads properly or misunderstand. Your thread made perfect sense. I'd think lots of women would agree that they can't often be bothered and would rather do without. You're certainly not alone. xx | |||
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"P.S. I mentioned your thread on the 'Memorable threads' thread because it was an example of utter madness and misunderstanding. The nuttiness that makes this forum unique. Not because of your OP. " Love you xxx | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. Don't take other people comments to heart, some people have no voice in the real world and this is the place they can have a voice on an equal footing with everyone else ![]() ![]() ![]() Yes many people do take rejection badly! Don't worry about it, they soon scamper back to there sad little lives, much love to you xx | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Thank you. Feeling pretty upset at how deliberately, unnecessarily unkind some can be. It's not your fault people misunderstood. People often don't read threads properly or misunderstand. Your thread made perfect sense. I'd think lots of women would agree that they can't often be bothered and would rather do without. You're certainly not alone. xx" I believe at least one person on that thread had a vested interest in misunderstanding and was trying to turn it into something else. | |||
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"... I'm pretty sure Ive turned down one guy that has now tried to turn it back on me by trying making me feel this is unacceptable, I couldn't give a shit. " I forgot this bit you said. Don't ever let anyone else make you feel shit. If they turn on you for whatever reason it just means you were right to turn them down. Why would you feel bad for not meeting someone like that? ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain." Exactly this. I know it's flippin annoying when a man can have a refresh shower, stick on a suit and is ready. But believe me, we understand the time, effort, money and pain that ladies go through. It's appreciated. And if anyone says anything other than this they are being disingenuous or deliberately mean. | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Exactly this. I know it's flippin annoying when a man can have a refresh shower, stick on a suit and is ready. But believe me, we understand the time, effort, money and pain that ladies go through. It's appreciated. And if anyone says anything other than this they are being disingenuous or deliberately mean. " Or genuinely knows absolutely fuck all about women and may not even have been intimate with a real one. ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Exactly this. I know it's flippin annoying when a man can have a refresh shower, stick on a suit and is ready. But believe me, we understand the time, effort, money and pain that ladies go through. It's appreciated. And if anyone says anything other than this they are being disingenuous or deliberately mean. Or genuinely knows absolutely fuck all about women and may not even have been intimate with a real one. ![]() Yeah, I'll give you that. I hadn't even considered that because I don't have to deal with the lads online when school is out ![]() | |||
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"At least you don't have to get up too early in the morning, eh? ![]() 06.30am isn't early ![]() | |||
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"At least you don't have to get up too early in the morning, eh? ![]() Yeah, it's not like she has to do anything difficult, like inject a boar, eh? Such a load of moaning about nothing! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Exactly this. I know it's flippin annoying when a man can have a refresh shower, stick on a suit and is ready. But believe me, we understand the time, effort, money and pain that ladies go through. It's appreciated. And if anyone says anything other than this they are being disingenuous or deliberately mean. Or genuinely knows absolutely fuck all about women and may not even have been intimate with a real one. ![]() ![]() I've found it's the older men who expect the works when they ask to meet. They want sexy lingerie, stockings,short skirt,cleavage,a face full of make up and want a fumble under a pub table. | |||
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"At least you don't have to get up too early in the morning, eh? ![]() ![]() For him, no. He's one of those farmer types. | |||
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"At least you don't have to get up too early in the morning, eh? ![]() ![]() I think it's possibly considered early by some. I work part time and on those days, I'm in work for 4.45. When I'm working for myself, I'll have a lie in until 5-5.30.... | |||
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"I think the majority completly understood what you meant. Please don't feel you need to explain. Exactly this. I know it's flippin annoying when a man can have a refresh shower, stick on a suit and is ready. But believe me, we understand the time, effort, money and pain that ladies go through. It's appreciated. And if anyone says anything other than this they are being disingenuous or deliberately mean. Or genuinely knows absolutely fuck all about women and may not even have been intimate with a real one. ![]() ![]() Glad I'm not old yet then ![]() | |||
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"At least you don't have to get up too early in the morning, eh? ![]() ![]() Yeah, but they have little afternoon naps ![]() | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. " Baby growlers (growlets) feel soft and nice under fingertips ![]() | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. Baby growlers (growlets) feel soft and nice under fingertips ![]() I don't mean a growlet, I mean literally half a growler. And the other half bald ![]() | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. " Epilator ![]() | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. Epilator ![]() I have a high pain threshold | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. Epilator ![]() I've had a bad experience with an epilator on more than one occasion, which may be colouring my view. I'm um rather um fleshy down there ![]() | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. Epilator ![]() ![]() I know the pain - I've nipped a fleshy bit many a time but have got more adept at holding bits taught and other bits out of the way. I did love my lycon waxes, but it grows back so quickly on me I felt like I was spending a fortune and only getting a week smooth. | |||
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"My September resolution is to keep on top of my grooming so it's a series of small jobs rather than a mammoth, Herculean task. Half an hour with the epilator and I now have only half a growler. It's a good look. Epilator ![]() ![]() If I ever decide to use a different method of hair removal there, I can guarantee it won't be my epilator. I'd rather try a flame thrower. I reckon it would be less painful and do less damage to my skin! | |||
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"Hi, Just a thought but an exgf rode someone's horse for free, The owner was too busy during the week to do it with work & other stuff taking up her time. So my gf would muck him out, groom, change straw whatever during the week & was allowed to ride him Tues/Thurs. She could go for a bit of a walk anyday but a proper ride/gallop only on the above days. The owner would ride & do the jobs at the weekend.. Wondering if this would work with yourself? Best Wishes & do what you need to do, bollox to anyone that has a pop..x H" Thank you, I can't let others ride him. It's complicated but basically it's excellent physio for me and we compete, so we need to train together, but thank you | |||
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"Although..I can't think of a time when I had a meet with soneone who'd put on lingerie... Unless pants are 'lingerie'..." Jeeze...thought you would be buried under a pile of thongs and stockings and suspenders!!!! ![]() | |||
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"I don't think it's an uncommon thing that the OP is feeling. Sometimes i'd love to meet but by the time i get home, i'm beat. I work twelve hr shifts. If i'm on days, i'm up at 5am and don't get back from work until 7.30. That's if i come straight home after. If i'm on nights, i'm up at 4 or 5pm and back next morning around 7.30am. Then into bed! Although, i would like to meet. I just don't have the time to give to someone else. When there are more important things to me, that i want to spend my free time on. Like family, friends and me. I know we all get ourselves spruced up for a meet but i wouldn't think that the OP needs any makeup to look pretty. From your pics, you have a natural beauty that doesn't require any. Just an observation. Nothing else and no offense intended. " That's really nice of you, thank you | |||
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"Although..I can't think of a time when I had a meet with soneone who'd put on lingerie... Unless pants are 'lingerie'... Jeeze...thought you would be buried under a pile of thongs and stockings and suspenders!!!! ![]() It wasn't a criticism though... "posh pants" are not high on my list of stuff that I care about. | |||
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"I'm meeting guys, when I have the energy to make myself look and feel as good as I can/want to. So, ergo, I'm not meeting right now because I'm knackered. I'm knackered because I work full time and I have a horse who doesn't groom, feed, exercise himself or turn himself out (fortunately I don't have to muck him out). These things mean I am rarely home before eight at night, and I still have to feed myself and do all the household stuff that we all do. Being disabled, most things take me probably at least three times as long as someone non - disabled. I'm not whinging that's just life. If I want to meet during the week, I need to really motor, and getting up at six thirty means the meet won't last long simply so I can get a decent nights sleep to do an effective job. So that means weekends only for meets. I still have the house and horse to do though and I want/need a lie in as well as seeing my friends and family. So shoot me. I have several meets lined up, but they're in the future and I'll build in the time to make myself as presentable as possible. Unfortunately unlike some women, I need make up snd ask the other beauty things, to look and feel good about myself enough to hope the guy I'm meeting will want to fuck me. I'm not looking for pity, I was merely wondering if anyone else feels similarly, wanting to look ones best, to feel as desirable as possible, but despairs at not having the energy or time to give ones best to a potential guy they're meeting for the most successful outcome. I'm pretty sure Ive turned down one guy that has now tried to turn it back on me by trying making me feel this is unacceptable, I couldn't give a shit. " My motto is if they don't appreciate you at your worst they don't deserve to see you at your best ![]() | |||
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"I don't think it's an uncommon thing that the OP is feeling. Sometimes i'd love to meet but by the time i get home, i'm beat. I work twelve hr shifts. If i'm on days, i'm up at 5am and don't get back from work until 7.30. That's if i come straight home after. If i'm on nights, i'm up at 4 or 5pm and back next morning around 7.30am. Then into bed! Although, i would like to meet. I just don't have the time to give to someone else. When there are more important things to me, that i want to spend my free time on. Like family, friends and me. I know we all get ourselves spruced up for a meet but i wouldn't think that the OP needs any makeup to look pretty. From your pics, you have a natural beauty that doesn't require any. Just an observation. Nothing else and no offense intended. That's really nice of you, thank you " It's my pleasure. I was a little taken aback with you saying... "Unfortunately unlike some women, I need make up snd ask the other beauty things, to look and feel good about myself enough to hope the guy I'm meeting will want to fuck me." When i first looked at your profile, I thought you were absolutely stunning. I haven't changed my thought on that either. There are so many women on Fab. Being on and off the site for about three yrs now, i've done my fair share of perving! But i have not seen any that would compare to just how lovely you look. I'm just very sorry that i have not presented myself in a more gentlemanly and understanding manner in the past. | |||
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"I'm meeting guys, when I have the energy to make myself look and feel as good as I can/want to. So, ergo, I'm not meeting right now because I'm knackered. I'm knackered because I work full time and I have a horse who doesn't groom, feed, exercise himself or turn himself out (fortunately I don't have to muck him out). These things mean I am rarely home before eight at night, and I still have to feed myself and do all the household stuff that we all do. Being disabled, most things take me probably at least three times as long as someone non - disabled. I'm not whinging that's just life. If I want to meet during the week, I need to really motor, and getting up at six thirty means the meet won't last long simply so I can get a decent nights sleep to do an effective job. So that means weekends only for meets. I still have the house and horse to do though and I want/need a lie in as well as seeing my friends and family. So shoot me. I have several meets lined up, but they're in the future and I'll build in the time to make myself as presentable as possible. Unfortunately unlike some women, I need make up snd ask the other beauty things, to look and feel good about myself enough to hope the guy I'm meeting will want to fuck me. I'm not looking for pity, I was merely wondering if anyone else feels similarly, wanting to look ones best, to feel as desirable as possible, but despairs at not having the energy or time to give ones best to a potential guy they're meeting for the most successful outcome. I'm pretty sure Ive turned down one guy that has now tried to turn it back on me by trying making me feel this is unacceptable, I couldn't give a shit. " You've taken the time to write this in order to explain what was blindingly bleeding obvious from your initial post? I've not read through the responses in this thread, but I reckon I can guess. Supportive, empathetic and understanding. As it says in Desiderata; ignore the dull and the ignorant, they are vexations to the soul. | |||
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