FabSwingers.com forum: Is it possible to fall for someone you haven't met yet

By *roticGoddessXX OP Woman
over a year ago

Richmond

*Note--fall for, not fall in love with!

Once in a while, you start chatting with someone and "the click" happens. For me, all attachments have to start mentally, then it happens emotionally; the physical follows.

I know, this is a site for the physical, and I'm not denying that's where it's at, at times.

But sometimes the connection begins, and...it just happens.

There've been several posts recently where one or the other of a pair admits to it, and the bunny boiler comments inevitably follow.

Falling for someone does not automatically mean it'll progress to love, or possessiveness, though it often seems to lead to at least one party getting hurt.

Do you agree, that you can fall for what you get to know of someone, even before you meet? Or are you of the opinion that only insecure, desperate people end up finding that route?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I wouldn't

I think slightly vulnerable and people looking for someone to care for might.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess you can I mean even by talking you don't really have to meet the person to find out whether you love them or not you can have them certain feelings even by speaking on the phone or chat getting to know more about the person

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look up catfish the tv show ... People are doing it alllll the time and don't even know who is on the other end of the computer / phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did ages ago. he was a really nice guy and we were just friends on a gaming site but talked to each other a lot and things developed from there. i never actually met him but he was really sweet and it was a shame he was miles away in india. hope he's happy now.

it took months to develop though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't rule it out. The guy I was with for 7 years started off talking online.

We just got talking one day past all the gaming and stuff and the more we got to know each other the more started liking each other. Then we just met and well things fell into place.

I haven't had something like that again but I do believe it's possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

No......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to me so its a no here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most."

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves."

I had this with my first ever meet. Was so glad it happened early on and was an eye opener. Have avoided the type since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves.

I had this with my first ever meet. Was so glad it happened early on and was an eye opener. Have avoided the type since. "

first year i was on here i had mostly good meets with guys who were friendly but also loved me fucking other guys.

dunno what's happened lately but i seem to fuck up a fair bit.

i'm not gonna stop meeting again though, just gonna keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a friend

. It's true ....

My friend told me he'd been talking online to a girl, and as a throw away comment he said 'wow, I love you'. After a pause she smtold him she was relieved, as she had feelings for him. She told him she loved him too. They have never met, and probably never will. They live in different countries.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most."

how cynical of you but understandable .

I for one would never offer a compliment unless I genuine meant it.

for one simple reason I don't like it when someone tries to compliment me and I know its a fake compliment so I choose to only offer a honest compliment what I offer one not a fake one designed to get me what I want .

I'd rather just lay my cards on the table instead of offer fake compliments by say I want you which would be honest and a compliment to boot .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves."

Precisely what happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves.

I had this with my first ever meet. Was so glad it happened early on and was an eye opener. Have avoided the type since.

first year i was on here i had mostly good meets with guys who were friendly but also loved me fucking other guys.

dunno what's happened lately but i seem to fuck up a fair bit.

i'm not gonna stop meeting again though, just gonna keep trying."

I don't think it's you that's fucking up. I have noticed a slight change in the site itself and the people over the past three years. Keep trying and I'm sure it will happen.

I think more so it's cos of the whole cuckold thing. When I was looking for such a relationship I found it was hard work and most men were just clingy which isn't what u want.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I don't really understand your post OP as you say, 'not fall for and not fall in love with but click with' in messaging, which I agree with but later on you then go on to say you can in fact fall for them in a deeper way??

With some you can certainly click with and be on the same wave length well before any meet happens, others it's a physical attraction that just needs to be settled I'd say.

As far as; can you fall in love without meeting, you probably can, though I am not sure about how long these relationships would last once the romance of on line has worn off and met the reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves.

I had this with my first ever meet. Was so glad it happened early on and was an eye opener. Have avoided the type since.

first year i was on here i had mostly good meets with guys who were friendly but also loved me fucking other guys.

dunno what's happened lately but i seem to fuck up a fair bit.

i'm not gonna stop meeting again though, just gonna keep trying.

I don't think it's you that's fucking up. I have noticed a slight change in the site itself and the people over the past three years. Keep trying and I'm sure it will happen.

I think more so it's cos of the whole cuckold thing. When I was looking for such a relationship I found it was hard work and most men were just clingy which isn't what u want. "

exactly. why want a cuckold relationship if you're jealous?

i think i'm just a dickhead magnet these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as for falling in love with someone online i do think it's easier to do than in person because anyone can say anything to you and they don't even have to back it up because you've not met yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens. Not with me though. I've spoken to men and thought this is going to be great sex,and been right,but it's just sex for me.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

if i start dreaming with someone..its a strong connection that means there is more to it..i follow the signs and my guts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can definitely click with someone

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No ,i think you can fall in love with the idea of them .

In reality it might be much different.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I'd fall for someone on here. Most just tell you what you want to hear and sincerity is lacking in most.

yeah on here isn't where i'd expect that. guys who are everything you want... then they become controlling and jealous yet are still continuing to look for fucks themselves."

Not all guys are like that, however your point is completely valid, and I see where you're coming from with this one. My lady friend's boyfriend is controlling and jealous and I keep telling her to finish with him as she deserves so much better, but she just won't cut him off. I hate seeing her being treated the way she is but there's nothing I can do about it sadly; it's ultimately up to her to take that step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is possible.

Yes people have met online (even on here) and fallen for each other.

Yes those relationships can work even when the first few months are solely online and/ or phone calls.

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Met an ex and had a 4 year relationship and a kid because of online chatrooms so yeah feelings can blossom before any physical interaction.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Of course it's possible, I certainly have. You have to bite your lip until you meet to make sure it's not an delusion or a con, but certainly I have made deep connections with people that turned out to be very real

What I am far more wary of is guys that say they love me after one night without any such connection - then I go home, call my chums and say 'Uh-oh!!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No ,i think you can fall in love with the idea of them .

In reality it might be much different.

Miss"

I think this is a great point. People online are very different than when you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, has happened, still together 14 years later.

But we often wonder if we're the exception that proves the rule.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't see why not at all, and in some cases getting to know someone without meeting them could be benifical, if of course that person is who he/she says they are.

If you fall for a face or a body that may not last long at all, but if you fall for a person you speak with constantly day in day out and get to know them well before you meet them I think that can be a good thing.

Stops the lust of a one night stand and then waking up to a nightmare doesnt it?

Dont get me wrong I think it would be pretty silly to start arranging a wedding before you actually meet someone but as for feelings go, we can help who we fall for can we ??

I think over one third of marragies start online nowadays....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, has happened, still together 14 years later.

But we often wonder if we're the exception that proves the rule. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my husband playing an online game. We talked for months and we definitely fell for each other before we met. I was in an abusive relationship at the time and he gave me the courage to leave.

Even though I didn't leave *for* him, I left for my own health - we'd been through so much together before we'd even met, so by the time we did meet, it just fell into place. He was my rock.

I miss him dearly every single day.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm pretty sure I wouldn't fall for anyone on here, however there is one particular guy who I've chatted to loads who I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met online and clicked instantly, but met for real only 6 days later.

I think the longer the relationship remains virtual, the greater the discrepancy is likely to be between the person you have created in your imagination and the reality, particularly if you are lonely or in some way vulnerable.

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

"Yep, has happened, still together 14 years later.

But we often wonder if we're the exception that proves the rule. "

15 years here! But I think it only really works if you are honest with each other from the beginning .

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Of course.

Technology these days makes it so much easier to.

Skype and FaceTime are like being in the same room with each other.... you just can't touch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me once, fairly recently

It will never happen again

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