FabSwingers.com forum: Dodged a bullet there! (Sorry it's long)

By *ureTemptation OP Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Has anyone discovered stuff about an previous liaison/relationship and realised they dodged a bullet?

A couple of decades ago(!) there was a guy I was only seeing for a few weeks, but he was LOVELY. Ticked all the right boxes, and I'm a picky cow so that's rare!

He was in the navy and went away a lot, obviously. He had two kids but was separated from his wife. He asked me to wait for him when he went away on exercise. That same day he left, one of his close mates talked to me. He said "You have to ask yourself why he goes back to xxxx every weekend." "To see his kids" I replied. "Yeah but where does he sleep, that's what you have to ask yourself."

The guy had also told me he'd be in touch (phone calls n stuff) while he was away and even took my address to write to me? And I heard nothing.

I did barely know the guy I was seeing, and it's not like we'd announced our undying love for each other. So I had some fun and I thought, if he comes back, he comes back and we'll go from there.

Anyway, he came back off exercise and knew I'd been seeing someone else as someone had told him.

He told me his mates only said that about seeing his wife because they fancied me and wanted to split us up.

He said he couldn't write or contact because he was on a boat. (Umm that's not what he said when he went away.)

And then he said he'd met someone else and was now engaged to her!

At the time I remember thinking that was fast, and maybe I did dodge a bullet with him!

Anyway, despite that, for a long time I did kinda kick myself over it.

I'm married now to another forces guy and we have kids, and the experience taught me early on to wait for a guy in the forces, even if it feels like they aren't coming back. Just wait and see.

It's probably why me and my husband got together, so it worked out well.

Anyway... I got bored the other day and found this guy on a certain social media site.

He's still married to the same woman (he had tattoos of his kids and wife's names). His kid just had his 18th birthday, so from what I can work out his wife was either heavily pregnant or had a young baby when he was shagging me.

I'm glad I got myself out of that one!

And what a twat for accusing me of not waiting around when he had a wife and kids with him.

Anyway... anyone else with "thank fuck I dodged that bullet, that would've been messy" hindsight stories?