I go out in public. The easiest things are evening socials like LFF at lgbt friendly venues. You can glam up as much as you like. People aren't surprised to see you in such places and it is easy to feel relaxed and enjoy yourself in what is considered to be our natural environment as it were.
Next easiest are evening things like going to a gig, in a dark venue where you are expected to wear heavy make up, people are not expecting us, and have a distraction of a band to watch. They therefore have neither the time nor the inclination to people watch closely.
Hardest is the daytime. Natal women dress down a lot these days unfortunately. Most women out shopping don't wear heavy make up and that can be a problem for us as many of us need heavier foundation. Also most natal women do not wear high heels to shop, the rotten sods, nor do they wear short skirts, the miserable bastards!
So to truly blend in you should avoid heavy make up, high heels and short skirts. But where is the fun in that for a transvestite!
I am lucky with my skin so I don't need heavy make up. I refuse to not wear a short skirt and show off my legs. That in itself gets people noticing me. High heels I avoid when shopping as they are killers to wear for any length of time. Also, I'm quite tall so get looked at for that anyway, but with high heels I would be well over 6 foot and everyone would stare. Flats are no fun so I tend to do mid heels.
I do get looked at, but people are too busy and preoccupied generally to stare or even take a second glance. Women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and degrees of masculinity anyway. What you have to do do everything you can to blend in and don't make it obvious.
Which brings me to the most important part. How you look is less than 50% of it. By far the most important thing is body language.
This is not easy to get right. Women don't just walk and sit differently, they gesture differently, they carry things differently, they smile more, they engage in conversation more. Everyone of them has a grace and inner beauty that is just natural. In my _iew you can't fake it, you have to truly feel as comfortable with your own femininity to get near that.
It isn't easy. You will be nervous. I am still a bag of nerves every time I stand at the big threshold that is the outside world. It takes me 30-40 minutes to settle down once out. It is that nervousness that draws more eyes. Avoid looking shifty. Don't lurk in doorways. Be confident. Tell yourself you belong there and walk accordingly.
If you look like you belong then even if you look a little odd people will gloss over that.
None of this is meant to put you off, they are just tips about things often overlooked.
Because I would say, with all my heart, go out and do it. Be yourself. There is no greater feeling. No greater relief. No greater moment that something is finally right and in sync as when you first go out proudly in public. You have every right to be who you are. |
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Enjoy xx
Another thing is, if you haven't already, practice your walk. In general, ladies move with grace and fluidity and it can be jarring to see a girly walking as if she is carrying a sack of coal.
Generally you'll discover three things when out.
1, the Great British public are equally great at minding their own business and will ignore you.
2, groups of chaps, if they clock you, will out do each other in having to appear straight, even if statistically 1 will fancy you sober and another couple would if they thought no one would ever know.
3, if you have huge fake porn star sized boobs, then people will look twice at you anyway 
Have fun 
