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Frustrating Saturday no one wants to meet locallish

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have had 11 meets this year

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes but if you look closer they all hullish way and I'm scunny way and also roughly 2/3 weeks apart love toeet more regular my way

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You have had 11 meets this year "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know that?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Yes but if you look closer they all hullish way and I'm scunny way and also roughly 2/3 weeks apart love toeet more regular my way"

Heaven forbid you have to make an effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but if you look closer they all hullish way and I'm scunny way and also roughly 2/3 weeks apart love toeet more regular my way"

Wouldn't everyone, stop being such a wingebag and be grateful for the meets you do get, a lot of men on here would jump at chance of a meet not local XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe just maybe you've to travel

Maybe locals are busy with real life

Things / just don't drop in people laps like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try adding a meet and see if you get any interest OP?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"You have had 11 meets this year "

i think "someone" is about to find out that there experience of the site is a lot different to most single men..... because a lot of them are probably thinking "why is he complaining, he is doing well!!!"

some people don't realise how good they have it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why limit your options to people local?

That's just bonkers. There's a whole world of naughtiness out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I do make an effort I travel a lot just saying it would be nice to meet someone more local it's frustrating when u see people so close you would like to meet only to find they won't play locally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have had 11 meets this year

i think "someone" is about to find out that there experience of the site is a lot different to most single men..... because a lot of them are probably thinking "why is he complaining, he is doing well!!!"

some people don't realise how good they have it...."
Trust me lol

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

you may also find that a lot close to you socialise in a non swinging way, so if you have upset one locally chances are they may have talked about it.

beside your a guy so appreciate everything and expect nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I never upset people I try to be polite non pushy and do appreciate the meets I attend but being in rural Linc's find local meets rarer than if I was in the city

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No OP, I didn't check out the location and distance of your published meets.

So you want more meets than 2/3 weeks ? You want them more local ? Short of publishing your address, to enable people to knock on your door, and save you the trouble of looking and waiting, I'm not sure how you can improve on your success so far

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep"

How very unreasonable of them to want to meet the people that appeal to them, and to be willing to travel to do so, when there are men who live closer who want a shag.

They should meet local people, whether they're what they are looking for or not.

I quite agree, OP, how dare they live near to you and not be willing to shag you whenever you happen to feel like it.

Do you really expect to appeal to people just because you're local?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just frustrated I guess as I always seem to head over to East riding beautiful as it is I wish more round me would say fuck it let's see who is local who wants to play hang the fact we might bump into them in public

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I realise all have own preferences so that's life but just hoping to find one or two who willing so the search continues

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"No I never upset people I try to be polite non pushy and do appreciate the meets I attend but being in rural Linc's find local meets rarer than if I was in the city "

Well if you're in a less populated, rural area surely you should expect to have to travel a bit for meets? That's just common sense, I'd have thought.

Fewer people nearby, lower chance of finding someone with whom there is a mutual interest in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But regularly shows 200 or more in search so surely one must want to meet lol but question was not entirely about me but has slowly come about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men aren't allowed to whinge on here OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But regularly shows 200 or more in search so surely one must want to meet"

That may be right but those 200 may not necessarily want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But regularly shows 200 or more in search so surely one must want to meet lol but question was not entirely about me but has slowly come about me"

Because your opening post said 'why the fuck do I bother', 'I' as in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people won't just fuck anyone local simply because they're local...?

I'd far rather go for someone further afield who I'm better suited to rather than someone who's local who I'm not really into. Quality beats quality IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why not lol "

coz look at what happens when you do...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But do u never wish someone local would fit your needs and you there's and maybe just maybe things would develop

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not moaning as such just asking a question but being persecuted for asking a question in forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But do u never wish someone local would fit your needs and you there's and maybe just maybe things would develop "

If that's in reply to me (the quote & reply button is a god sent) not really. I live in a small town.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"But regularly shows 200 or more in search so surely one must want to meet lol but question was not entirely about me but has slowly come about me"

Well clearly they don't want to meet you if they say no or don't reply, or if they don't seek you out and contact you.

You'd expect at least one or two people in every couple of hundred to find you attractive, want to have sex with you and be available when you are?

People have preferences and also lives.

Are you willing, honestly, to meet absolutely anyone local just because they're local? You find every single one of the 200 or so attractive and want to have sex with them?

It seems to me you're doing pretty well. A lot of men would be delighted with that many meets in 7 months, even if they had to travel a bit.

Isn't meeting people you're actually attracted to worth some travelling? Clearly it is for a lot of those around you.

Setting aside the issue of not wanting to meet anyone too close in case you bump into them in public, (which is something that bothers me), I wouldn't want to meet someone who is only interested because I'm local and less of an inconvenience.

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

hate to say it , it does sound like your moaning a little, most comments and insight given to you seemed like they where met with a defensive reply.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep"

Maybe they know you

That's a joke by the way..lots of humour bypasses lately on here

S

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I'm not moaning as such just asking a question but being persecuted for asking a question in forum"

The "why do I bother" attitude sounds like moaning. It comes across as huffy and petulant because you're having to travel rather than having exactly what you want on your doorstep and available when you want it.

Fabs isn't a convenience store.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not convenience I'm looking for and yes I do travel to meet people who I find attractive and vice versa and yes not all the locals on here are attractive to me and vice versa but on the other hand every now and then it would be nice to find someone local who you can go for a drink with have a play and not have to worry about the drive home and maybe if lucky they want to see you again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didn't think fab was and not moaning sorry if it reads that way x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"But regularly shows 200 or more in search so surely one must want to meet lol but question was not entirely about me but has slowly come about me"

i think it has turned into your expectations against what most would call the reality of swinging....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went through a spell of travelling monthly to a club in the Midlands, weird thing was we often played with a couple from Bristol when we got there.

Travel is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wish more people with goats would meet us. Where are all the goatherds? You'd think that us being so set and all, the goat owners would be tripping over themselves to meet us but no - barely a goat has few tured in our hot meets.

Is there something wrong with goat owners on this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wish more people with goats would meet us. Where are all the goatherds? You'd think that us being so set and all, the goat owners would be tripping over themselves to meet us but no - barely a goat has few tured in our hot meets.

Is there something wrong with goat owners on this site? "

Yes, all goatherds have to be alone, it says in the song...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you know that?

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look in verifications lol x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I live in a small town, about 7000 people, but everyone seems to know someone who knows someone...... if you understand my meaning.

I Never meet close to home, no-one within about 30 miles. My kids don't need some knobhead with a big mouth letting it be known that their mum is a slut who fucks around.

That is my reason for not meeting locally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That I understand but if u meet someone genuine u would hope they would have the good grace to be discrete I would never advertise I know u from a sex site as ar end if the day what happens behind closed doors should remain there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep"

Hey, chin up OP!

I've been to Scunthorpe. If I lived there, I'd do my very best to travel at the drop of a hat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning as such just asking a question but being persecuted for asking a question in forum"

You're not being persecuted. People are making sensible suggestions as to how to answer the question you posed.

Because you don't like the answers does not equal persecution.

My answer to your question?

Attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Technically I live outside Scunthorpe lol but if I could plonk myself somewhere more populated I think I'd opt for larger town or city lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep"

never shit on your own doorstep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever think fuck why do I bother when all the locals would rather travel miles than have fun on their doorstep

never shit on your own doorstep "
This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never shit on doorstep as I will have to clean it up next morning lol

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