FabSwingers.com forum: The Tsunami has been cancelled

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Due to a very sudden change in circumstances, I will no longer be playing. My freedom to meet has been completely curtailed

Im not asking for sympathy. I don't want or welcome a lecture from cheat haters.

I just want to say what a blast it's been and that I'll be hanging round the forae/forii

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Nothing too serious, I hope. It's been fun.

(* fora)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of luck to you Tsue.

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By *ed cjMan
over a year ago

oldham

Sometimes real life does get in the way good luck going forward colin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck sweet sexy tsue hope all well tho ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not off to exciting pastures new. My hysband has quit his job so I can no longer go out. Heaves big sigh :'-(

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Take care, lovely xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not off to exciting pastures new. My hysband has quit his job so I can no longer go out. Heaves big sigh :'-("
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The swine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be me soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might be me soon

Your husband is quitting his job?

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon

We need to find husband a new job then!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Might be me soon

Your husband is quitting his job?"

Big row with the boss and walked out so my free time is gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not off to exciting pastures new. My hysband has quit his job so I can no longer go out. Heaves big sigh :'-("

Mines been on long term sick for 18 months, trust me there are ways and means, especially if 2 people really want to meet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Want people to be honest, won't happen but worth a try...if the OP had been a man having to stop "meeting" because his wife had quit her job and wouldn't be able to get out would people be sympathetic or be sating good for being a cheat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might be me soon

Your husband is quitting his job?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, won't you have any free time whatsoever, you're not joined at the hip?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind yourself

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

What would the resulting thread have been like if the op was male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

glad youre hanging around still xxx and you never know whats around the next corner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Want people to be honest, won't happen but worth a try...if the OP had been a man having to stop "meeting" because his wife had quit her job and wouldn't be able to get out would people be sympathetic or be sating good for being a cheat?"

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!"

It's true though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to see your not jumping ship and going UNLOS. And

to year your news.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glad to see your not jumping ship and going UNLOS. And

to year your news.

**Hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, won't you have any free time whatsoever, you're not joined at the hip?!"

Sadly it really does mean no free time. I dont go out alone. No friends that arent "our" friends and never see them individually.

If I am not in work..he is there with me. This is not new..we've been married 38years and fir the last 15 as his medical predicament has worsened, the noose has tightened.

Its not his fault he doesnt function. So much of his controlling behaviour is tied up with his situation, i cant blame him for it. Hes frightened ill leave but i never would.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!"

It's true though would have been a different thread entirely and unfairly so

And you've posted on a public forum your warning is irrelevant, as people can post whatever they like within the rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, won't you have any free time whatsoever, you're not joined at the hip?!

Sadly it really does mean no free time. I dont go out alone. No friends that arent "our" friends and never see them individually.

If I am not in work..he is there with me. This is not new..we've been married 38years and fir the last 15 as his medical predicament has worsened, the noose has tightened.

Its not his fault he doesnt function. So much of his controlling behaviour is tied up with his situation, i cant blame him for it. Hes frightened ill leave but i never would. "

Well whatever you choose to do I wish you well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No chance of you both having an honest conversation?

Express your needs to him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds quite a stifling situation, OP.

Hope all resolves itself.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!

It's true though. "

Could be just the right time to sit down and chat and fingers crossed you can sort your issues out and start from now with everything.out in the open......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was thinking the same as a few on here! Why not just sit done and tell him you need the odd fuck now and then? And that you are not looking to leave him or replace him.

And maybe even offer him the oportunity to find something he really would enjoy doing as well.

After all what's good for one is good for the other

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If he was sociable on the fora and known here, with friends, it might be a bit different from someone we don't 'know' posting to moan about the loss of his opportunity to cheat.

It helps that the tone of the OP isn't moany.

A lot of the shit men get is to do with the way they phrase their posts. They often come across as though they are entitled to cheat and they get defensive about it. They also usually sound like they think they are the victims and it's all their partner's fault.

But yes, men cheating and women cheating do tend to be regarded differently on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds quite a stifling situation, OP.

Hope all resolves itself."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was thinking the same as a few on here! Why not just sit done and tell him you need the odd fuck now and then? And that you are not looking to leave him or replace him.

And maybe even offer him the oportunity to find something he really would enjoy doing as well.

After all what's good for one is good for the other"

Life is never that simple. Relationships are never that simple and emotions are never that simple.

The OP knows her husband. She has made her decision based on that.

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By *ouple4biMMFCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Pop a couple of sleeping tablets in his cocoa before bed then you can tootle off out for a quick shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy some rope,introduce him to bondage and leave him tied to the bed while you pop out for a couple of hours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No chance of you both having an honest conversation?

Express your needs to him?

This took place a few times over the first 5 years of "famine". The conversations, the therapy, the counselling have all been had. He is selfish, that's just it.

That aside, why do I stay ? Well, funny as it may seem, I love the miserable sod. He is a whole parcel of issues that Ive grown up with. Married 38 years, together for 43

I dont need to justify myself to anyone on here but for what its worth, I do what I do, because the lack of sexual frustration means I am more tolerant of his ways, and nicer to live with. He's an old git but he's MY old git

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance of you both having an honest conversation?

Express your needs to him?

This took place a few times over the first 5 years of "famine". The conversations, the therapy, the counselling have all been had. He is selfish, that's just it.

That aside, why do I stay ? Well, funny as it may seem, I love the miserable sod. He is a whole parcel of issues that Ive grown up with. Married 38 years, together for 43

I'd have replied in private so I'll say only this here.

I've got a fair understanding of your situation.

I wish you happiness in what ever way you can seek it.

Look after yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance of you both having an honest conversation?

Express your needs to him?

This took place a few times over the first 5 years of "famine". The conversations, the therapy, the counselling have all been had. He is selfish, that's just it.

That aside, why do I stay ? Well, funny as it may seem, I love the miserable sod. He is a whole parcel of issues that Ive grown up with. Married 38 years, together for 43

Your story is echoed accross so many marriages. It is a sad and painful situation for you to be in.

Interestingly, because you are a woman, the holier than though haters have generally stayed at home.

As time goes by the frustration will either build and break you or you will become a shell of your true self resigned to the situation. Whichever way, I wish you peace and the strength follow your chosen path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance of you both having an honest conversation?

Express your needs to him?

This took place a few times over the first 5 years of "famine". The conversations, the therapy, the counselling have all been had. He is selfish, that's just it.

That aside, why do I stay ? Well, funny as it may seem, I love the miserable sod. He is a whole parcel of issues that Ive grown up with. Married 38 years, together for 43

1st rule of fab club, never justify yourself to a bunch of random strangers.

Makes a pleasant change to have an open discussion regardless of people's opinions so thanks for sharing your story.

I hope you find a resolution along the way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck Tsue. You come across as a very nice and genuine person and I hope things work out well for you. Hopefully he will find another job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you lovely fabbers. Its true, guys do seem to get a harder time on here. Thank you for your well wishes. I went 7 years on complete celibacy before cracking last time. Maybe I'll take up jigsaws

Porn ones

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!

It's true though. "

I'm not going to lie and say i didn't have the same thought as well...... I absolutely think what he said was fair comment.....

there is also another thought i had... but i am sure someone else will bring that up, eitherwise i'll just be called a hater....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!

It's true though.

I'm not going to lie and say i didn't have the same thought as well...... I absolutely think what he said was fair comment.....

there is also another thought i had... but i am sure someone else will bring that up, eitherwise i'll just be called a hater...."

Spit it out. I'm shit at guessing games.

Is it "advertisement feature"?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Enjoy the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dont start. I WARNED cheat haters to back off!

It's true though.

I'm not going to lie and say i didn't have the same thought as well...... I absolutely think what he said was fair comment.....

there is also another thought i had... but i am sure someone else will bring that up, eitherwise i'll just be called a hater...."

So what if you are ? Its a public forum. Come on Fabio let's have your twoppence worth. I might not agree. I might not like it but its your thought. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you lovely fabbers. Its true, guys do seem to get a harder time on here. Thank you for your well wishes. I went 7 years on complete celibacy before cracking last time. Maybe I'll take up jigsaws

Porn ones

At the end of the day, you private life is nothing to do with anyone on here. Everyone will have opinions but at the end of the day you do what's right for you. Don't take up jigsaws though, they drive you crazy!!

Tell hubby that you've joined a weekly knitting club and you sanity will remain intact. I'm not here to judge and no-one else has the right to judge although some think that they can. We do what we do for reasons known to ourselves. Hope you manage to sort something.

Mrs SnT xx

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By *i_coupleCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Mrs SnT xx"

Not sure how you can say someone's private life is nothing to do with anyone on here when they have made the decision to post about it on this public forum. Or am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you slapntickle. I think the point was people might comment all they want but in the end the decisions are not theirs to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you slapntickle. I think the point was people might comment all they want but in the end the decisions are not theirs to make. "

And they don't know you.

Hope you find a way to be happy.

Totally unrelated but I always thought you were over the hills near me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ill try. Unrelated.. cotswold hills lovely Scarlet Stars

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