FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies asking for face pics with the first message.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

I've considered what you say. And i think I'll continue not wasting time getting to know someone and then discovering i don't find them physically attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

No .. I request a face pic .. if you cba to send one that's your lookout but you won't get very far without it ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's funny is the amount of women that send a message without a face pic but state on their profile that they want one sent with every first message! Must be thst old double standard things going on.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Don't want to send a face pic then don't, just don't be surprised that your message gets deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buyers market guys, don't like it well nothing you can do about it. I delete any messages with no face pictures on profile or a profile picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

You need to think about this OP..

you should keep your face pic private and attach to a message.. it shouldn't be plastered over your profile if you want to be discreet .... doh!

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

We have that as a requirement, particularly telling to remove those people that don't read profiles.

Which is a lot.

So - Send a face pic with your message- what have you got to lose?

You will end up a lot higher on the considerations than someone else.

There are way too many single men who do spoil it for everyone else.

So, you've got to do something to raise yourself above most of the idiots in the pond.

Just one of those tough facts of swinging.

(And I say that as someone who spent years on here as a single male...)

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's funny is the amount of women that send a message without a face pic but state on their profile that they want one sent with every first message! Must be thst old double standard things going on.

Not all.

And yes, why would I waste time chatting with someone it eventuality turns out I don't find physically attractive? Especially when for every one that refuses to send a picture (what am I going to do, report you to your boss for doing exactly what I'm doing?), they're are 30 that do.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

If I don't get a face pic with the first message or if there isn't one public on their profile I will delete the message. Purely because I don't like awkward situations and in the past when I've asked for a face pic and not been attracted to them I've been met with abuse. So you're free to think that women are unreasonable but I'm free to run my profile exactly the way I fucking like it and you have no right to say otherwise. So if you don't like profiles that ask for a face pic, ignore them.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Do not see the problem....

Ladies choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send first messages.. and if I did I would still not bother as most men don't care what we look like in their pursuit of clunge

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

This old chestnut?

Get with the program or get off the pot.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

We all have jobs etc to consider and no its not unreasonable to ask for a face pic with a first message. Would you really meet someone sight unseen?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

When we are actively looking for new people and our proper profile text is on display, we ask for a face pic in the first message.

If people aren't happy with that they can easily pass us by.

We always include one if we make first contact with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask for a face pic with a first message.

It seems pointless to chat for ages, then when you see a face pic and realise you're not attracted to them, you then have to tell them that and all your conversation was a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i will chat to guys without a face pic but if they approach me for sex without one i will ignore them.

sorry but i don't fuck anything and it's rude of men to presume i will.

and no your personality is highly unlikely to win me over for an NSA fuck, that kind of shit is for relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all.

I'm not knocking people's choices, but I'm just pointing out that a woman that expects a face pic sent her then messages a guy without sending one.. like we have no right to see who we are chatting to, we just need to take what's on offer? Why is it just ok for a woman to want to see who she is chatting to? If you're not prepared to send a face pic with a first message then personally I think you'd be a twat to expect one

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "
so you wear a gimp mask for all meets so no one knows who you are at all?..not impossible but unlikely..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies have the upper hand in here, many women who have very few pics do you ask yourself why is anyone messaging me? Are all the guys who are messaging me prepared to play with any woman? Because without pictures that represent you physically then that must be the case eh? And desperate enough to send a face pic before establishing at least some minimal chat!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

1. I wouldn't say more common, I'd say common.

2. It's mainly messages without a face pic that get deleted. And those with face pics that the recipient doesn't find hot enough to have a conversation with.

3. Think about some good women who might have careers to think about!

OP it's the nature of the site, men 'go' first in the face pic game. If a guy doesn't want to send one that's fine. We've got a ton more messages in our inbox from guys who will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask for a face picture when speaking to somebody. If they really want to get to know me they'll attach one. I get hundreds of messages a day and I'm not going to waste my time replying to a silhouette who may or may not be my type.

I show my face because I really couldn't give one iota who knows I'm on here

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

Interesting stats on response rate. Single guys outnumber women about 10 to 1. I don't demand a face pic. Not at first. But then I have time to figure out if I want to meet someone when I'm not too busy in my own career. And if he comes across even remotely petulant then I wouldn't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you message someone, I'm guessing you generally are attracted to them ans to meet them at some point, so providing a face pic to see if the feeling is mutual makes sense, right? Other wise they'll be branded "time wasters" for getting to know someone and the finding out they don't float their boat!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Your choices are;

a. send a face pic.

b. don't send a face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ask for a face pic with a first message.

It seems pointless to chat for ages, then when you see a face pic and realise you're not attracted to them, you then have to tell them that and all your conversation was a waste of time.

Pretty fair as you have face pics in your profile

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By *anB451Man
over a year ago

Reading

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

I'm the same as you here, I don't demand.

I very rarely send out face pics. Some guys are cool with that, others get all bratish and badger (without sending one of themselves, I might add)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message Women who have that in their profile, And if they send a message asking for one I just reply with you send one first

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By *anB451Man
over a year ago

Reading

Just don't send face pics....and then start a thread about how women never read or reply to your messages....

Seriously, yes it's double standards sometimes. But there's 10 guys to every girl. They call the shots on fab.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

They can ask, doesn't mean you have to follow the request.. their profile their choices, your choice whether you do.,

If I send an introductory message that I hope might lead to a meeting I include my face picture even if they've not specifically requested it...

Those who message me first off with a view to a meeting I d like to see theirs in an early message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the day, when I was meeting new people, I asked on my profile that a face pic be attached to any first messages. However, if I sent a first message I always attached a face pic, and if someone sent me one I always sent one back even if it was attached to a 'no thank you' message.

It's just common sense to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

How isn't is double standards? A woman expects a face with with every first message, but wont do the same herself? That's exactly what it is... not that I give a flying fart about me sending a face pic as I'm hiding nothing, I just don't think you should have the right to expect something you're not prepared to do yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Back in the day, when I was meeting new people, I asked on my profile that a face pic be attached to any first messages. However, if I sent a first message I always attached a face pic, and if someone sent me one I always sent one back even if it was attached to a 'no thank you' message.

It's just common sense to me

This...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a face pic when messaging first can't see anything wrong with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

Nope - disagree entirely! On the rare occasion that I message a guy first I attach a face pic - I simply expect the same in return!

As a site supporter you have the option of deleting the pic once it's been seen if you have a really 'sensitive' job - though I find this practice irritating as I save a face pic if I'm interested so I can look back sporadically during future conversations to remind myself what they look like! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just common sense to me

This...

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message?

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I have no problem sending a face pic on request! Despite being back of the queue for looks!

I also offer my face pic as a 'burglar deterrent!'

If the conversation continues and goes well, a reply with a face pic sometimes happens naturally!

To me it just means a degree of interest but no guarantee of anything further happening..... but at least it has been a genuine, adult conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Who decided that women as a whole don't send face pics first? You wouldn't be tarring us all with the same brush would you? ....which i believe us women aren't allowed to do because the single genuine guys always complain about it

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

OP no one is forcing you to send a face picture if you don't want to send one pass on by the profiles asking for one .

I to am not comfortable with the idea of sending out a face picture due to small business I own that means I have the potential to be recognised by a couple of thousand people .

But if I really like the profile in question I will send a picture this works for me because that way I'm being picky and taking a calculated risk that I'm happy with .

May I suggest you adopt the same approach as this in regards to your situation .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just common sense to me

This...

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message? "

Yes of course! She sends one with the first message because she expects the same in return, she doesn't have double standards! I agree with the way this woman works on here

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By *teve80321Man
over a year ago

newport

It's just common sense to me

This...

love your pics miss tissington.x

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh op I don't ask for face pics up front only because a organise group socials so I take my pic from them.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just common sense to me

This...

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message?

Yes of course! She sends one with the first message because she expects the same in return, she doesn't have double standards! I agree with the way this woman works on here "

But a man shouldn't have to send a face pic with a first message because some women don't???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

Well done mate, most of the "princess" don't have face pic or after you send them they're too proud of themselves to sending you even message back. That's why I'm here just for fun and forum.

Take care mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just common sense to me

This...

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message?

Yes of course! She sends one with the first message because she expects the same in return, she doesn't have double standards! I agree with the way this woman works on here

But a man shouldn't have to send a face pic with a first message because some women don't??? "

No a man should send one if he wants to same as a woman, I'm referring to those that expect one sent but wont send one themselves when they message first, as stated way above in the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message! "

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

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By *uzzieguyMan
over a year ago

London

I would decide based on the ladies verifications. If she has a few "meeting in person" veris then I would send as requested. Otherwise - beware!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow I've really started something here!

Thanks for your opinions it's especially great to hear a girls point of view. I take the point that you are all swamped with messages so as people have said its a good differentiator.

I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into.

I guess I'll just have to suffer the lower success rate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

What does my head in is when ask for a face pic yet they have none and when you ask I can't show face as of job or partner family etc well send in private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP send a face pic or don't send a face pic...your choice. But don't bitch about it when your messages are overlooked in favour of guys that do!

I don't engage with anyone I'm not attracted to hence why I ask for one straight off. And since I'm not proactive in sending messages I never send a pic first either.

My profile, my rules. Feel free to pass me by if you can't meet my requirements

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't send a face picture with a first message so I don't demand the same from a man. It does need to be shared quite early on in the messaging though.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I have no issue with not being sent one, it's the message and profile itself that either interests me mentally or not however good looking or not someone might be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted."

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just common sense to me

This...

Did you read the bit about her sending a face pic with the first message?

Yes of course! She sends one with the first message because she expects the same in return, she doesn't have double standards! I agree with the way this woman works on here

But a man shouldn't have to send a face pic with a first message because some women don't???

No a man should send one if he wants to same as a woman, I'm referring to those that expect one sent but wont send one themselves when they message first, as stated way above in the thread "

Its only happened to me once, A Woman asked to see my face pic, I replied with as you sent the message you send me your pic, The stand off lasted a couple more messages until she stopped messaging me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I just don't think you should have the right to expect something you're not prepared to do yourself "

Nobody has a right to anything on here. I don't demand a face pic, I ask politely and if a man chooses to send one that is his choice entirely.

Having rights to things is a trait of the entitled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile just asks that I'm not sent a cock pic with a first message. Still happens. Block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one or two on my profile and don't send messages first. Stunned I get meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to them, I always ask for education history before proceeding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site"

Have you offended admin?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't send a face picture with a first message so I don't demand the same from a man. It does need to be shared quite early on in the messaging though. "

I agree Ruby. Very sensible attitude! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see this from both sides really. I completely empathise with those who want to know who they're talking to. However, I think those who request a face pic must be equally willing to send one back, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like getting face pics with the first message....I think I'm in the minority...find it a bit shallow and superficial x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you need to understand OP, is that even the most pig-faced, rancid swamp donkey on here, still receives at least 10,000 messages per minute (and that's at off-peak times) from single guys. The ratio of single guys to women on here is somewhere in the region of 786,000,000:1 and with all those facepic-less messages flooding their inboxes minute upon minute, hour upon hour, day after day; they just don't have time to reply to every message. I mean imagine the amount of time it takes to respond to an initial message with a short but concise sentence indicating whether it is worth your while replying and sending a face picture! The women just don't have the time for it! Would you waste 20-30 seconds of your time replying to someone who had just sent you a message but was too damn lazy to even send a picture of their face? What if they were ugly? You would never get that time back, would you? And then you'd lose even more time grieving over the time you had lost to some lazy oik, who couldn't even be bothered to attach a picture of their face! Now there are only 2 possible reasons why the single male subhuman scum wouldn't attach a face picture with their messages. Either they are ugly, or even worse they MUST be cheating on their wife or partner! How disgusting!

Also they are well within their rights to make such a simple request, and if they message first (this almost never happens), why the fuck should they have to send one to you? After all you are but a worthless single male, completely disposable and very easily replaceable! Whereas they wouldn't want their privacy invaded by sending their face to a complete stranger who might not even be interested in them...

I hope that clears up the issue for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin? "

No I'm referring to the single women that think they call the shots, not all single women mind.. just the arrogant ones that expect and demand because they are the minority on here, so if you have on your profile that you expect a face pic with the first message but then when you message someone first you won't send a face pic then I'm referring to you! Please feel free to be offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you need to understand OP, is that even the most pig-faced, rancid swamp donkey on here, still receives at least 10,000 messages per minute (and that's at off-peak times) from single guys. The ratio of single guys to women on here is somewhere in the region of 786,000,000:1 and with all those facepic-less messages flooding their inboxes minute upon minute, hour upon hour, day after day; they just don't have time to reply to every message. I mean imagine the amount of time it takes to respond to an initial message with a short but concise sentence indicating whether it is worth your while replying and sending a face picture! The women just don't have the time for it! Would you waste 20-30 seconds of your time replying to someone who had just sent you a message but was too damn lazy to even send a picture of their face? What if they were ugly? You would never get that time back, would you? And then you'd lose even more time grieving over the time you had lost to some lazy oik, who couldn't even be bothered to attach a picture of their face! Now there are only 2 possible reasons why the single male subhuman scum wouldn't attach a face picture with their messages. Either they are ugly, or even worse they MUST be cheating on their wife or partner! How disgusting!

I hope that clears up the issue for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

No offence taken here. I've never demanded anything from anyone. I'm just amazed that people are bothered that some people choose to run their profiles in such a way. Seems like a waste of energy getting your knickers in a twist about it. That's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pig-faced, rancid swamp donkey,

Did someone mention me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hope that clears up the issue for you...

That certainly clears things up! Very amusing and sadly accurate message. It just comes down to basic supply and demand - GCSE economics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

My face is plastered over my profile, it doesn't bother me who sees my face, I dont even ask for a face pic myself, I was just highlighting something I found funny! Then knickers got twisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

i don't demand anything either. when not hidden i have pics to show everything, including face, and i don't ask for pics either but do expect them.

i think it's a lot more frustrating for single men on this site so things that don't bother us women do bother them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

My face is plastered over my profile, it doesn't bother me who sees my face, I dont even ask for a face pic myself, I was just highlighting something I found funny! Then knickers got twisted"

Just don't give yourself a wedgie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

If I send the first message, then I'd send face pics first

If someone else messages me first, then I'd expect them too

I have a profile, with pics showing, that at least give an impression of who i am, enough for someone to have an idea they might be interested in me

I message those with profiles of a similar nature

That's how fab works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

My face is plastered over my profile, it doesn't bother me who sees my face, I dont even ask for a face pic myself, I was just highlighting something I found funny! Then knickers got twisted

Just don't give yourself a wedgie

I've stopped wearing thongs for that reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have maltesers

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You have a choice, if you like them send it, if don't want to send it move on to the next profile, quite simple, no angst involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have maltesers

I'll bring hot chocolate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have chocolate hobnobs, you're more than welcome to lick the chocolate off and pass me back the hobnob?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if everyone's requesting stuff then can i request someone comes round and makes me something to eat as i've not eaten yet today and feeling a bit dizzy but cba to make anything.

where's that guy that keeps offering me free pizzas when i need him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have maltesers

I'll bring hot chocolate!

I'd rather have prosecco

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have maltesers

I'll bring hot chocolate!

I'd rather have prosecco

You're on! But I'm sticking with the coco! I'll bring you a bottle to yourself! (No kissing emoji either - we need more emojis!

) xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into."

I got your point about that but, like others have said above, if we gave every guy who messages us the change to chat we'd have no time to ourselves.

Plus who wants to chat to a man, think he's worth meeting and then discover you don't fancy him? And then have to reject him once he thinks he's getting somewhere. That would be awful

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Same rant, different day?

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/541756

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into.

I got your point about that but, like others have said above, if we gave every guy who messages us the change to chat we'd have no time to ourselves.

Plus who wants to chat to a man, think he's worth meeting and then discover you don't fancy him? And then have to reject him once he thinks he's getting somewhere. That would be awful

Yeah point taken. I might rethink my position which has to be a first for me! X

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ok! I don't care now! I just want chocolate! Who's got chocolate!

It's my sex substitute during the school hols! Im just going to hijack every thread with chocolate requests until I get some!!!

( why is there no stamping feet emoji??? )

I have maltesers

I'll bring hot chocolate!

I'd rather have prosecco

You're on! But I'm sticking with the coco! I'll bring you a bottle to yourself! (No kissing emoji either - we need more emojis!

) xx"

I've got a giant Toblerone going spare.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

And for the record, I don't demand face pics, nor do I send first messages to men

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into.

I got your point about that but, like others have said above, if we gave every guy who messages us the change to chat we'd have no time to ourselves.

Plus who wants to chat to a man, think he's worth meeting and then discover you don't fancy him? And then have to reject him once he thinks he's getting somewhere. That would be awful

Yeah point taken. I might rethink my position which has to be a first for me! X "

Can't see your face but you do look potentially quite yummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess if you don't like someone's demands you don't message them.

Make the most of the site in the way that suits you.. you will meet people, patience and clicking with the ones that you can click with. Of course some people appeal to all and jump through hoops. But if that isn't you or you don't do that. There's still someone out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't demand anything in a message but I see little point chatting to someone only to think 'oh crap they're not my type' X amount of messages later.

Also it's really easy to bypass any profile that you think is demanding, no one is forced to comply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into.

I got your point about that but, like others have said above, if we gave every guy who messages us the change to chat we'd have no time to ourselves.

Plus who wants to chat to a man, think he's worth meeting and then discover you don't fancy him? And then have to reject him once he thinks he's getting somewhere. That would be awful

Yeah point taken. I might rethink my position which has to be a first for me! X

Can't see your face but you do look potentially quite yummy

Thanks, you too. Why do you and those lovely boobs have to be all of the way down in Grantham?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can let you all know that the OP is very good looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

You have a great smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

You have a great smile

As do you M'Lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

I like a photo whore

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

I like a photo whore

Me too

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yep OP is my kind of hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that clears up the issue for you...

V Funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

I've considered what you say. And i think I'll continue not wasting time getting to know someone and then discovering i don't find them physically attractive."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't demand anything in a message but I see little point chatting to someone only to think 'oh crap they're not my type' X amount of messages later.

Also it's really easy to bypass any profile that you think is demanding, no one is forced to comply

I don't the OP is on about exchanging loads of messages before sending a facepic. I think he (and many other people) don't like the idea of sending a facepic to someone who may not even be interested in them without seeing it. Ie they want to meet people taller than you, or with a different build.

Also if you bypass every profile that is demanding, it doesn't leave many left...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

I've considered what you say. And i think I'll continue not wasting time getting to know someone and then discovering i don't find them physically attractive."

I agree if not physical attractive to me then wasting both our time. I don't always ask for face pic right away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over!

I've considered what you say. And i think I'll continue not wasting time getting to know someone and then discovering i don't find them physically attractive.

This!

To be fair, you can get away with demanding a face pic with the first message as you have plenty of them visible to the public!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone sends me a message without a facepic and asks me for one?..I'll weigh up if I can be bothered..

I might even politely point out who contacted who first.

honestly..I'm not that desperate or afraid I've missed out on a possible shag.

*and a good feature is the delete after read feature

*worried about your job?-best idea is not to have something sexual within the facepic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I don't bow to pic demands... unless it's for tie Tuesday, or face pic Friday, or suit tuesday, or actually I am a pic whore... Damn

I like a photo whore

Me too"

well, it's always nice to be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you might get 2 out of 10 messages replied to if you attached a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't demand anything in a message but I see little point chatting to someone only to think 'oh crap they're not my type' X amount of messages later.

Also it's really easy to bypass any profile that you think is demanding, no one is forced to comply

Also if you bypass every profile that is demanding, it doesn't leave many left...

Ah okay

In that case you do still have a choice but it is a case of supply & demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the thing is if you get maybe 50 messages a day you have to decide who your going to keep talking to, a face pic helps you decide quicker. If I was going to message someone first I would always attach a pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very visible face pic, so I expect one in an opening message. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ask for a face pic with a first message.

It seems pointless to chat for ages, then when you see a face pic and realise you're not attracted to them, you then have to tell them that and all your conversation was a waste of time.

This for me too... after all they can see me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah okay

In that case you do still have a choice but it is a case of supply & demand."

More a case of demand. The supply is all but dried up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you might get 2 out of 10 messages replied to if you attached a photo

Both of them will say, "Thanks, but you're not for me. Happy Fabbing"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me."

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon

Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago

gillingham

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

I request face pic and in return will send one back. I have to be attractive to someone otherwise it's time wasting on both parties.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

If we get messages without face pics then we don't bother to reply . It's common sense that it's the first thing someone is going to ask for and boring to have to reply asking for face pics .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

Can I see a face pic please

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me."

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Funny as aint it but tells all you need to know. A one way persona will be one way on a few fronts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A face pic with first message ensures that it isn't a faimily member ect .as nobody knows who's on here .and if .I want to chat to them yea it's poilte to send one back.also if u don't fancy each other than saves all that chatt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

Can I see a face pic please

I was going to send you one as I can't seem to resist that fluttering eyes emoji but it appears you've blocked my sex in both senses of the word x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

Can I see a face pic please

I was going to send you one as I can't seem to resist that fluttering eyes emoji but it appears you've blocked my sex in both senses of the word x "

I've blocked everyone so don't take it personally OP. Here, have a flutter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

Can I see a face pic please

I was going to send you one as I can't seem to resist that fluttering eyes emoji but it appears you've blocked my sex in both senses of the word x

I've blocked everyone so don't take it personally OP. Here, have a flutter

I didn't. Thanks for the flutter. I'll look forward to spamming you when you unblock us all xx

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon

"Wow !!!! Somethings never change !!!

Haven't been around for a bit and this was the kind of question being asked all the time.

Answer is simple .... If the lady wants a face pic either give her one or don't and forget about it. Your choice really so move on my friend you have missed opportunities while you were busy ranting

Can I see a face pic please

Gwan then since you asked nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic with first message ensures that it isn't a faimily member ect .as nobody knows who's on here .and if .I want to chat to them yea it's poilte to send one back.also if u don't fancy each other than saves all that chatt"

That is surely a very good reason as to why you wouldn't want to send a facepic to someone that you don't know...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That is surely a very good reason as to why you wouldn't want to send a facepic to someone that you don't know...

Exactly! How awkward would that be!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is surely a very good reason as to why you wouldn't want to send a facepic to someone that you don't know...

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but u wouldn't know till U got a pic .cause u u knew them u wouldn't need to send one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is surely a very good reason as to why you wouldn't want to send a facepic to someone that you don't know...

Exactly! How awkward would that be!!

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that's why if the guy .or girls sends one .and its somebody u know then u can say naw not my type and leave it at that

..no embarising

Oh I know u scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? How you know the amount of women? I certainly don't send first messages!And yes I would like to know if I fancy the guy! Before I waste my Latin!

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

It's just common sense to me

Nice to see common sence and fair play in action from lovely women like you. Kudos to you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? How you know the amount of women? I certainly don't send first messages!And yes I would like to know if I fancy the guy! Before I waste my Latin!"

I'm referring to the amount of women that message me first without adding a face pic but on their profile insist on one with an opening message from a male! Read the whole thread it was explained in it! I'm not against sending or receiving face pics, I'm just against double standards! Don't expect people to do what you're not prepared to do yourself!

I'd say you just wasted your "Latin"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is surely a very good reason as to why you wouldn't want to send a facepic to someone that you don't know...

Exactly! How awkward would that be!!

that's why if the guy .or girls sends one .and its somebody u know then u can say naw not my type and leave it at that

..no embarising

Oh I know u scenario "

Until it's your sister or mother that you've sent it to... That'll be fun at the next family get together!

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London

Seriously? How you know the amount of women? I certainly don't send first messages!And yes I would like to know if I fancy the guy! Before I waste my Latin!

I'd say you just wasted your "Latin" "

Well said !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? How you know the amount of women? I certainly don't send first messages!And yes I would like to know if I fancy the guy! Before I waste my Latin!

I'd say you just wasted your "Latin" "

I ask guys to send face pics first if I message them and I don't attach face pictures. 9 times out of 10 they aren't what I'm looking for so it's pointless showing them what they could've had only to dash their hopes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me."

boohoo

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Tell that to the numerous guys on here that seem to think anal sex with a woman is their right, but start saying things like "my arse is exit only" when I mention my strap-on.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Quite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a woman who wants a face pic with the first message and you don't want to maybe this woman is not for you. On here its a woman's world just try to be yourself but respect what over people want

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Bloody hell there's a lot of beating around the bush going on here by woman and a lot of white lies being told .

Let's put the record straight not my type means sorry mate your to ugly to be considered for a fantasy one off fuck .

Send a face picture with your first message basically means this look I'm going to make my initial judgement about you on your looks if you don't pass this first hurdle there's no point in talking to you to see if you will pass the rest .

That's what's going on here plan and simple shallow judgements based off of looks which i i am totally OK with if all you want is a good looking warm body for a quick one off .

The numbers game means woman can behave in this way regardless of there own looks which sadly means guys if your average looking your going to face lots and lots of rejection but hay let's be honest here average men if the rolls were reversed and you were just looking for a warm body for a quick one off you'd be picking the hottest girl out of your sack full of messages to .

It is what it is bed hoppers are only after a quick bunk up so with a full mail box they can be as picky as they like just like any guy in the same situation would be after all there's no reason not to be when you have a steady unrelenting stream of offers coming your way minute after minute .

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Yes i would expext a woman to want to see my face pic & i expect the same from them otherwise i don't take it any further, it s out time wasters & gives insight to who you are actually meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women in 'want to see if they fancy you before they agree to shag you' shocker"

Bloody women. Think they rule the world. Don't they know it's instashag?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People can ask for whatever they wish, subject to site rules.

Op and the rest of us are at liberty to jump through those hoops that we select to, otherwise move on to the next profile.

As a point of note, it makes sense for those who face the strongest competition, to have a profile that very clearly shows how they look. These prevents the need for photo requests to get the most basic visual details out of the way, before discussions commence. If messages aren't replied to, then it suggests that someone else is delivering a more attractive proposition - whether this is immediate photo access, more of a convenient pleasure to interact with or they're a WOW for the recipient.

Loads of guys have open access to their face and body photos. You'd see the same in clubs, so use the site as if you were at a swinging venue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

problem is a lot of people dont have the manners you have, some dont even reply when face pics are sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me.

boohoo"

Sarky much? Some of us have proper careers.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

Being on Fab isn't obligatory.

You join with your criteria of who you'll meet and how you go about finding said playmates. You browse profiles, if they don't meet what you're looking for in anyway shape or form, you move onto the next one as you're not compatible.

Result: no drama, no angst, no rant.

Honestly, it really is that simple. It's worked for me, never needed to rant about how others run their profiles in seven years.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If I don't get a face pic with the first message or if there isn't one public on their profile I will delete the message. Purely because I don't like awkward situations and in the past when I've asked for a face pic and not been attracted to them I've been met with abuse. So you're free to think that women are unreasonable but I'm free to run my profile exactly the way I fucking like it and you have no right to say otherwise. So if you don't like profiles that ask for a face pic, ignore them. "

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Your choices are;

a. send a face pic.

b. don't send a face pic."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send first messages.. and if I did I would still not bother as most men don't care what we look like in their pursuit of clunge

Ha ha!! Well must say I always think a face pic for both to see is always important!! Got to like looking at the mantle piece if you're poking the fire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Women in 'want to see if they fancy you before they agree to shag you' shocker"

Bloody women. Think they rule the world. Don't they know it's instashag? "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"They can ask, doesn't mean you have to follow the request.. their profile their choices, your choice whether you do.,

If I send an introductory message that I hope might lead to a meeting I include my face picture even if they've not specifically requested it...

Those who message me first off with a view to a meeting I d like to see theirs in an early message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Don't be so naive. There would be career implications for a lot of people. There certainly would for me.

boohoo

Sarky much? Some of us have proper careers."

Congratulations

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"OP send a face pic or don't send a face pic...your choice. But don't bitch about it when your messages are overlooked in favour of guys that do!

I don't engage with anyone I'm not attracted to hence why I ask for one straight off. And since I'm not proactive in sending messages I never send a pic first either.

My profile, my rules. Feel free to pass me by if you can't meet my requirements

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have no issue with not being sent one, it's the message and profile itself that either interests me mentally or not however good looking or not someone might be. "

This for me too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

How is that funny? It's not even double standards. It's just how the Fab 'game' works.

The one in a million odd men who feel entitled to things happening the way they want isn't going to get them very far

Sorry did I state women as a whole? I'm referring to those that request a pic but don't send one themselves when they send the first message!

So what's the problem then? Don't converse with those who behave in such a way. Sorted.

I was just highlighting some irony that I've come across on here that was relative to the post, I should keep my thoughts to myself so I don't offend those that "run" the site

Have you offended admin?

I don't get it either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

1. I wouldn't say more common, I'd say common.

2. It's mainly messages without a face pic that get deleted. And those with face pics that the recipient doesn't find hot enough to have a conversation with.

3. Think about some good women who might have careers to think about!

OP it's the nature of the site, men 'go' first in the face pic game. If a guy doesn't want to send one that's fine. We've got a ton more messages in our inbox from guys who will

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

I work for a trade union in employment law. I wouldn't have a job if that were the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us exchange of face pics are essential at earliest communication. I find it unnatural to chat to someone when I don't know they look like, and we certainly would not expect someone to chat to us if they don't know what we look like. If we get to know someone for the first time at a club or a party, the face and clothed body is what we see before chatting. But with the Internet it seems more normal to know what someone's genetalia looks like before any other information is exchanged! Are we not getting our priorities wrong here?

Secondly I do like to avoid awkward situations, and to me there is nothing more awkward that to chat to someone, to later find that I don't fancy him. It's not about whether they are ugly or not. I've rejected men who are total players on the scene and are considered very attractive. But if they don't do anything for me, there's not much I can do. I've also played with men who are more average in appearance, but I fancy them and that's what matters. At the end of the day I know who I'm capable of fancying and who I could never fancy. Admittedly it's a bit unfair, because those who are considered good-looking by most people's standards will always find it easier, but thats the same in vanilla life.

This is possibly something men find harder to understand, as I've had men requesting some fun just from seeing our public pictures where my face is partially obscured. The impression I get is that they don't need to see my face to make that decision to go bed with me. Women I guess are a bit different and a face is very important.

The OP says that by women being rigid about this sort of thing potentially means missing out. Yes that's true, and I've no doubt we have passed by numerous quality men, because there is insufficient information at first glance for my interest to be piqued. However, we don't feel we are really missing out because we have enough to be getting on with on the swing scene and else is a bonus. You could turn that the other way, in that this men are fishing in a much smaller fish pond, reducing the likelihood of having some fun with the lady of their choice.

Us, we are an open book. We have a comprehensive profile text, we display all our relevant verifications, our partial faces are in our public gallery and full clear faces in 'friends only' gallery. We send face pics if we make the first move, and we return face pics to anyone we are interested in. In short we provide as much information as possible for soneone to make a judgement as to whether we are for them. And that's all we ask in return.

With regards to jobs, I've never really understood what people are worried about. We both have professional jobs. But I'm not sure what I should be worried about happening to our facepics. They could just as easily have come from Facebook. Should I be worried that someone is going to copy these pictures to my boss? Even if they knew where I worked, it's just a face, it doesn't prove anything.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Wow I've really started something here!

Thanks for your opinions it's especially great to hear a girls point of view. I take the point that you are all swamped with messages so as people have said its a good differentiator.

I think a few people misunderstood my point about face pics. I would expect to exchange them once chatting and certainly before a meet its just sending one out speculatively that I'm not into.

I guess I'll just have to suffer the lower success rate

I neither do that nor demand it - I swap face pics only if I think I may be interested in meeting after a few messages, l like the privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheeky they are !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over!

I've considered what you say. And i think I'll continue not wasting time getting to know someone and then discovering i don't find them physically attractive."

Nail on the head, also it's a good filter for men who do message and don't include a picture you know they haven't read your profile so double block, (platinum membership)

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Also the whole career thing is bullshit. There is nothing you do in your spare time that would affect your job that much, unless you was some kind of public figure.

Plus what secret job do you have that they would be monitoring a poxy site like this.

Its not a question on monitoring - I have my own business and I would not want my clients knowing I was on here, nor people in my social circle to be honest, so I choose not to share my face pic with people I know I do not want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a fair comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ask for a face pic if the initial convo has interested me. I don't send out my face pic to everyone so don't expect anything different from others.

Having said that some of the best sex has come from ordinary looking blokes. Perhaps they have to try harder?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"For us exchange of face pics are essential at earliest communication. I find it unnatural to chat to someone when I don't know they look like, and we certainly would not expect someone to chat to us if they don't know what we look like. If we get to know someone for the first time at a club or a party, the face and clothed body is what we see before chatting. But with the Internet it seems more normal to know what someone's genetalia looks like before any other information is exchanged! Are we not getting our priorities wrong here?

"Thankfully" that naivety keeps me employed.

People lose their jobs from comments they've made on social media, WhatsApp groups, posing in lingerie on adult sites etc. The people I represent are governed by a code of ethics and conduct they sign up to on employment, bringing said employment into "disrepute" could and does lead to dismissal.

Personally, I think what I do behind closed doors is my business, but if I had a job where my employer thought otherwise I wouldn't chance it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Just a bit of a rant I suppose as it's not going to change anything. It seems to be more and more common that girls will say messages will be deleted if you don't include a face pic.

Given the nature of the site and the fact that probably only about 1 in 10 messages actually gets a reply I think it's unreasonable to expect guys to send a face pic with their first message.

Would people agree or is it just me? Ladies think twice as you are missing out on some good guys who might have careers to think about!

Rant over! "

No one is forcing you to do anything.it's your choice whether you send or not,just as its their choice to ask for one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask for face pics but always get asked for mine.

I do like to see pics that are of the non cock variety but not necessarily face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankfully" that naivety keeps me employed.

Personally, I think what I do behind closed doors is my business, but if I had a job where my employer thought otherwise I wouldn't chance it. "

I hear what you're saying. It's a shame that in a world of political correctness and equal opportubities, those who legally enjoy their sexual freedom, can still be subject to prejudice in certain work places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't send a face picture with a first message so I don't demand the same from a man. It does need to be shared quite early on in the messaging though. "

Exactly this!

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