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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is it just me or do others request a friend invite and then never ever reply to a message that you send....what's up with that? or is it just the effect i have on people lol (none of your sarcasm please)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done. "

surely that defeats the object of becoming friends in the first place...obviously just with the knowledge of what dirty pics they have on fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done. "

our profile says we'll do that and we still get sent invites from people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done.

our profile says we'll do that and we still get sent invites from people"

and mine x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done.

surely that defeats the object of becoming friends in the first place...obviously just with the knowledge of what dirty pics they have on fab lol "

Well you can look and decide if you want to keep them as friends. If not, they will never know you looked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have chatted to some people I'd like to befriend in order not to blind request and they show initial interest and chat back and reply with nice emails then nothing more from them so its difficult to know which way to play it on this site. I think a "Fellow Chatterbox" flag next to the verified flag and member medals might help!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Well you can look and decide if you want to keep them as friends. If not, they will never know you looked. "

hmmmm, i still don't understand y people keep you as a friend, but still never attempt to make contact or reply. are these the ones that just waste other's time? either way, i've just deleted some on my friends list that have been there for over a month. pffft, whats it like eh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have chatted to some people I'd like to befriend in order not to blind request and they show initial interest and chat back and reply with nice emails then nothing more from them so its difficult to know which way to play it on this site. I think a "Fellow Chatterbox" flag next to the verified flag and member medals might help!!!"

i've never heard of this "fellow chatterbox" thing....what is it? how do you get it? x

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"Wait till their off line, accept invite....perv all you like then delete as a friend.

Job done. "

Oh you do that too eh

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I have chatted to some people I'd like to befriend in order not to blind request and they show initial interest and chat back and reply with nice emails then nothing more from them so its difficult to know which way to play it on this site. I think a "Fellow Chatterbox" flag next to the verified flag and member medals might help!!!"

Can I join the Fellow Chatterbox Club please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have chatted to some people I'd like to befriend in order not to blind request and they show initial interest and chat back and reply with nice emails then nothing more from them so its difficult to know which way to play it on this site. I think a "Fellow Chatterbox" flag next to the verified flag and member medals might help!!!

i've never heard of this "fellow chatterbox" thing....what is it? how do you get it? x "

I just suggested it. As a way to show if someone displays it they like chatting and exchanging mails. If they dont have it they like to add friends for future reference or to show they are interested but don't expect any mails in the meantime....

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I get randomers adding me as a friend and I do what Vic advises.

Perve them first thing in the morning then delete! Or not as the case may be

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I get randomers adding me as a friend and I do what Vic advises.

Perve them first thing in the morning then delete! Or not as the case may be "

Well I must be doing something right cos you not deleted me yet

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


" (none of your sarcasm please) "

awww spoilsport

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"I get randomers adding me as a friend and I do what Vic advises.

Perve them first thing in the morning then delete! Or not as the case may be

Well I must be doing something right cos you not deleted me yet"

Like I would do that sexy bum x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" (none of your sarcasm please)

awww spoilsport"

or u could do what most do and ignore that lol be as sarcastic as u like (providing it doesnt demoralise me and send me back on my medication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotlisting is my preferred method of stalking and perving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting."

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x "

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list "

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x "

Just saying - its easier for me to work out who on my flist I need to tick off than on my hotlist.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say. "

Busted!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say.

Busted!! "

haha, gutted

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say.

Busted!!

haha, gutted "

What you on about? Its you he's talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say. "

Oh yeah mr platinum who sees all - I challenge you to describe three people on my hotlist....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Busted!!

haha, gutted

What you on about? Its you he's talking about"

really??? i thought he was talking about u! like the above states, bet he can't tell anyone 2 profiles on our friends list

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We started the same sort of thread in the other forum.

Basicly fed up of invites and no messages, even though we send them ourselves.

So we have adopted this practice.

Accept invite.

Reply with message.

No answer from the invitee within 4 days, they get deleted and blocked.

Not replying to a message obviously means they don't want to meet at any point, so why have them as friends??

Our friends list is for people we have met or are going to meet.

Our hotlist is for watching people who we believe could be potential meets for us in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*correction....hotlist!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"I think some people use it in place of hotlisting.

ummmm, y not just hotlist?! can silver and gold members see if they've been hotlisted? x

Nope Im pleased to say. Couldnt cope with the rejection....

And yep I do this too. My friends list is for people Ive actually met and are friends with. My hotlist is my stalker list

As a Platinum member I can see your Hotlist, there's some interesting people on there I have to say.

Oh yeah mr platinum who sees all - I challenge you to describe three people on my hotlist....

"

He's right the invitation only Platinum membership allows you to see private pictures, hot lists and read other peeps unread messages.

You have View, Vic and me on your hotlist Durrrr!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We started the same sort of thread in the other forum.

Basicly fed up of invites and no messages, even though we send them ourselves.

So we have adopted this practice.

Accept invite.

Reply with message.

No answer from the invitee within 4 days, they get deleted and blocked.

Not replying to a message obviously means they don't want to meet at any point, so why have them as friends??

Our friends list is for people we have met or are going to meet.

Our hotlist is for watching people who we believe could be potential meets for us in the future."

well said....thats what i use both for! although, a couple of my friends i will never meet, but they are cool to chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!"

i'm sure there are plenty of guys like that out there hun...gotta keep looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!"

ahem

oh shit..forgot about the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!"
You ownly get what you give

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!

i'm sure there are plenty of guys like that out there hun...gotta keep looking "

You keep making statments I want names and addresses and a good egg joke.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!You ownly get what you give "

So I need to turn into a forty something fella with a twentysomething bod... ok Ill try anything once...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my chatmates are hunky twentysomethings that I will never meet for sex. I just realAte to them a lot more than men of my own age. Same sense of humour and love of rock music does it for me. I wish there was a blend of the two types of bloke!!!!!You ownly get what you give

So I need to turn into a forty something fella with a twentysomething bod... ok Ill try anything once..."

lol....ur just not searching hard enough...and an egg yoke is on its way don't u worry ur pretty lil head x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I dont search at all. I fraternise with the in front of my eyes. Browsing involves effort lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I dont search at all. I fraternise with the in front of my eyes. Browsing involves effort lol!!!"

Besides Im not whinging just mulling - subtle difference I love my twentysomethings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always getting friendship requests from people i dont know and finally after being here for 17 months i have worked out why.

The majority of requests are in the morning so i reckon they wake up with a hard on, typical bloke, need something sexy to look at whilst they wank, see private and think there is more on offer than those displayed as public. I just delete as i am not accepting anyone that i havent chatted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always getting friendship requests from people i dont know and finally after being here for 17 months i have worked out why.

The majority of requests are in the morning so i reckon they wake up with a hard on, typical bloke, need something sexy to look at whilst they wank, see private and think there is more on offer than those displayed as public. I just delete as i am not accepting anyone that i havent chatted to "

That seems a bit of a long winded way to go around getting some porn to look at. Signing on. Making a friends request in the hope the private pics arent of the object of their affection on holiday in the lakes... then awaiting a response for entrance to the private pics. They can just click onto any porn site and get guaranteed wank material.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i so badly wanted to argue in favour of us males with the "typical bloke" statement, but it's true lol although....who says us men don't put any effort into sexual gratification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never looked at my friends/winks until threads like this appear then I go and delete en masse!

I'm a simple gal, I don't see the point in someone sending me a friend request without even talking to me - this isn't Facebook...yet!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never looked at my friends/winks until threads like this appear then I go and delete en masse!

I'm a simple gal, I don't see the point in someone sending me a friend request without even talking to me - this isn't Facebook...yet!!! "

isn't that a lil unfair for those that wanna speak as you have hidden your profile!?! doesn't it reduce the conversation options lol therefore they might just add u hoping to find out a lil about urself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your on someones friends list...you can still mail even if they are hidden .

I used to have loads on and it was simply wasted time. I think some do it in order to look at ya pics.

So now only normally add those i have either met in person, spoken to...saves a lot of hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never looked at my friends/winks until threads like this appear then I go and delete en masse!

I'm a simple gal, I don't see the point in someone sending me a friend request without even talking to me - this isn't Facebook...yet!!!

isn't that a lil unfair for those that wanna speak as you have hidden your profile!?! doesn't it reduce the conversation options lol therefore they might just add u hoping to find out a lil about urself "

My profile is hidden, because I'm no longer single and meeting - but I like the forums...if that's ok with you that is?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My profile is hidden, because I'm no longer single and meeting - but I like the forums...if that's ok with you that is?!! "

well considering u asked nicely lol i'll let u off this once i think everyone has a reason for every action on here, people just need to bare that in mind before opening their mouths (my previous comment was a prime example of that lol) x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile is hidden, because I'm no longer single"

Something nice to read on a Thursday??? *faints*

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"My profile is hidden, because I'm no longer single

Something nice to read on a Thursday??? *faints*

"

Wafts paper over to help with recovery

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"is it just me or do others request a friend invite and then never ever reply to a message that you send....what's up with that? or is it just the effect i have on people lol (none of your sarcasm please) "

We send people on our firneds list a general 'hello how you doing? etc'' messenger once in a while...if they cant be arsed to reply we just delete them as they obviously have no interest in us...

Its as easy as that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always getting friendship requests from people i dont know and finally after being here for 17 months i have worked out why.

The majority of requests are in the morning so i reckon they wake up with a hard on, typical bloke, need something sexy to look at whilst they wank, see private and think there is more on offer than those displayed as public. I just delete as i am not accepting anyone that i havent chatted to

That seems a bit of a long winded way to go around getting some porn to look at. Signing on. Making a friends request in the hope the private pics arent of the object of their affection on holiday in the lakes... then awaiting a response for entrance to the private pics. They can just click onto any porn site and get guaranteed wank material.

"

I know that but its the only reason i can come up with as most requests are there in the morning when i get up, so if im wrong, im more confused now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be something wrong with me, I never send friend requests without chatting a few times and getting to know people first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must be something wrong with me, I never send friend requests without chatting a few times and getting to know people first."

Yes there is something wrong with you.

Anyway re the friends requests..... I can't seem to keep any......

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