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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?"

For Me Personally God though I'm No Angel as God knows!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?"

My usual method is to lock them away and get on with it. Not everyone can do that though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tried that but time to get on with things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By getting out of bed and getting on with it. What's done is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change Accept and Let Go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try focusing on the good times and memories. Maje sure you keep this to the forefront of your mind as these may eventualky displace the bad ones.

I would recommend you keep talking to others and let them support you. Bottling stuff up and hiding can only lead to making you a prisoner in your own self. You have nothing to fear and allow others in to help you as I know this worked for me.

Good luck my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. The things that happened here can reach out down the years like icy fingers, i think a total fresh start somewhere could be coming on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did others overcome bad times?

For Me Personally God though I'm No Angel as God knows!

Running away from reality won't help in the long run. You can drink alcohol, take drugs or pray to fictional beings but the issues will still be there. Dealing with the issues directly is the best option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try focusing on the good times and memories. Maje sure you keep this to the forefront of your mind as these may eventualky displace the bad ones.

Good luck my friend."

Totally agree with the above, I've just wanted to hide away, but forcing myself to note down just one positive thing every day has helped. If I find myself regressing,the notebook comes out and I start the notes again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also never realised how it shaped my life up until this point.

Feeling quite reflective at the mo

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Talk to someone.. I write things down.. I scream and I rant at times.

Try and work out your triggers and the deal with them.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

How did others overcome bad times?

For Me Personally God though I'm No Angel as God knows!

Correct, but not everyone has the strength of mind, the possibility or the situation to do that.

Some people's pain is so far gone that they can't see beyond it and the oblivion they seek to escape from it.

It's one thing to say "stop", it's quite another thing to do it...

You quite often find with addicts that they transfer their addiction to something else once they've quit it - and religion is something many turn to.

A3 - Cocaine (Killed My Community)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6r4qBkozGqU

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?"

I sold everything I had and moved to South Africa.

Best move in ever made.

It's not until you've seen someone murdered by stoning for supporting the wrong political party , or helped a woman bury her dead baby coz she didn't have the energy to bury it herself, you realise that actually my life isn't that bad.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Thanks. The things that happened here can reach out down the years like icy fingers, i think a total fresh start somewhere could be coming on "

You can't leave the feelings and memories by leaving an area. Whatever the issue is will still have those icy fingers waiting to tickle you.

Personally, I have locked it away, run away, talked about it, taken medication, put on a jolly face... the list goes on. I spent all of my savings on therapy recently to deal with the root cause and it seems to have helped. For now.

Different things work at different times. It depends how receptive we are and what work we are willing to put in.

Good luck with your journey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thinking of moving to a new area, no ties and just getting on with it but sometimes have low energy

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many using these threads have questioned there own beliefs ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future....."

Changing, Accepting and Letting Go

It's essential for a more assertive positive outlook on life

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future....."

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Put it in a box and lock it away. Although for the first time in about 30 years im having a little look round in the box, its emotional. But i seem to know when to put the lid away. But a lot of the reason mine are locked is ive never found anyone to tell who would understand and i wouldnt just say that stuff to anyone

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By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD

Look forward towards tomorrow,not backwards to yesterday. I used to tend towards self destructive behaviour but managed to change.there are many suggestions on here,I wrote songs,which seems to have exorcised my own demons. Whatever you decide I hope it all works out for you.

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By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD

"How many using these threads have questioned there own beliefs ? "

All the time.

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By *inja 636Man
over a year ago

Grays

For me I feel to face your demons is the way forward as this allows you to be free and move on in life but as life in general we are not all able to do this

my first hand experience was losing the use of my legs and sexual functions due to an accident on 2008 spinal life now days

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Demons - Fat Boy Slim

www.youtube.com/watch?v=dins1tqcoAw

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the suggestions so far

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also think I might suspend fabs for a bit or at least a while as missing friends and companionship more than needing a fuck.

The 2 are not the same

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Demons - Fat Boy Slim

www.youtube.com/watch?v=dins1tqcoAw"

Do it again and do it properly :P

Steppenwolf - The Pusher

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XqyGoE2Q4Y

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally think velvet revolver's

'Fall to Pieces" is more apt

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Demons - Fat Boy Slim

www.youtube.com/watch?v=dins1tqcoAw

Do it again and do it properly :P

Steppenwolf - The Pusher

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XqyGoE2Q4Y"

Cool track Joe, I'm liking your style

Try this one then Fantasy - Aldo Nova

www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPQgfaB3S1c

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Hold your head high and face things as you're able. I'll defer for a while but prefer to get stuff dealt with, even with some small knocks along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i stopped using sex to ignore my problems and started looking for answers.

took me 11 months to do it, and i'm probably not there yet, but things have improved a lot for me.

some people will never be able to sort themselves out though, i might be one of them, but so long as i'm coping alright i'm ok.

but you need to do it yourself. no-one else can fix you.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Whoo hoo, I was waiting for Ms Affectionate to return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whoo hoo, I was waiting for Ms Affectionate to return

who are ya though?

and i didn't leave...

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

Ok"

You know what I'm sayin'

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

You know what I'm sayin'

Yeah

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

You know what I'm sayin'

Yeah"

I'm pleased you agree

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"My past can't hurt me, everything I do today shapes my future.....

For whatever reason you refuse to feel this space we're in,

To know its insanity, really know it,

Whatever your particular anaesthetic is, that you hold onto so desperately,

The thing I mean that makes you think you know who you are,

Whatever that thing is that you allow to keep you sane,

Your ace in your hole,

The psyche that keeps you from trying to guess what your pimp has in store for you,

Whatever keeps you from screaming out at this very moment in absolute and sheer horror,

Whatever you fuck your brain with, whatever that is,

Whatever that is,

It's a lie,

It's a lie.

You know what I'm sayin'

Yeah

I'm pleased you agree

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a small box. Write them down. Put them in the box..........

Leave them there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did others overcome bad times?

For Me Personally God though I'm No Angel as God knows!

God Isn't fictional!!!I Ain't running away Either!!!I Am dealing with My issues directly and I'm Very Happy with the Gender God has Given Me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?"

Depends what they are

Even when I found out my mother way dying after having no contact for many years I couldn't bring myself to go see her, I just couldn't face her again

Some things just can not be over come

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?

Depends what they are

Even when I found out my mother way dying after having no contact for many years I couldn't bring myself to go see her, I just couldn't face her again

Some things just can not be over come "

Sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just back in an area where I had some dark times. But the passage of time hasn't diminished the ability of various good and bad memories to resurface.

How did others overcome bad times?"

Buried, hid and pretended long enough that they fade away enough to ignore

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