FabSwingers.com forum: Intimidated

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time.

So need to find that self confidence, anyone seen it while out and about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes, all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess everyone compared themselves with others. However everyone has their good points, nobody is perfect!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find that I talk myself out of meeting alot because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was playing with my ex I always made sure it was me who chose who'd join us... So I could make sure he wouldn't fancy them more than he fancied me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

ll yes! I so want to ffm play. But iv pretty much ruled out everyone as think every female i find attractive if far more attractive and has a better body than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes won't message someone if I think they are to far out of my league ie to pretty to hot ect but suprise suprise I have had some awesome meets and the hidden beauty of female forms amaze me still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's natural for everyone! But if we get a compliment we tend to dismiss it as it doesn't fit with our own thoughts of ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intimidated isn't necessarily the right word, but there are plenty of people I wouldn't meet for this sort of reason. I'm mostly straight anyway, but I won't meet men if all the other women they seem to meet are really small, or really thin, or have enhanced breasts - because I'm not up for that sort of negative comparison even if it's only in my own head and no one else's. Life is too short to make yourself feel shit if there's someone else you can meet instead.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't. I am what I am and I've learned to accept it. I don't compare my life to other people's in general.

I wasn't always like this but I've learned a lot and worked on myself a lot over the years to be at peace with who I am, what I look like and what I've got.

It makes life a lot easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Swinging is just for fun. I wouldn't want to restrict my wife's fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel intimidated but I wouldn't bother contacting a couple if the Male was a 6ft plus bodybuilder type or after reading a woman's veris they are mainly from Men similar body types or gym type bodies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't. I am what I am and I've learned to accept it. I don't compare my life to other people's in general.

I wasn't always like this but I've learned a lot and worked on myself a lot over the years to be at peace with who I am, what I look like and what I've got.

It makes life a lot easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all do this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we all do this...."

Most might. Certainly not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't ever feel this way. There are very few i like enough to meet as it is without talking myself out of it. Beautiful people with beautiful bodies don't intimidate me. They excite me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to let myself go down this route as I probably wouldn't end up meeting anyone!

Generally I seem to meet men who meet a variety of women, all shapes, sizes & looks.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

..everyone is unique in their own right..i dont understand women's competitive insecurities. i live my life, noone can take who i am away from me, i made me..thats it and i dont get joy from putting other down, unless they are bullies. i dont feel the need to compete, in fact i cant stand the drama, too much stress...some people like fretting over things..im not one of them..

i recognise i am a strong woman, however i am a natural introvert. i own that as my deal and work on it...not sure where people learn all this stuff from, but if you want change, you got to be the change you want to see..that makes everyone equal in my eyes x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No, never. I questioned something once to a guy but it wasnt about my body.

If i was going to start comparing myself to other women id give my head a wobble

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

No. But if I am meeting someone really traditionally good looking I feel I need to make sure they are totally clear that I am not. In advance. Just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not at all, my confidence level is very high, it is all about having fun, variety is the spice of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for the actual men I'm attracted too, I feel we're on the same playing field, no one is a higher league than the other.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

Never. I know I'm not the youngest, most toned bod, muscle bound, perfect dream type of guy but it's never stopped me from aiming high, batting out of my league (online or in real life). If someone finds you attractive, they find you attractive for their reasons. It could be anything from a great personality, to a connection through chatting, to an extremely attractive person finding that some lookers can be very shallow & think that's enough to get by on. Don't try & second guess what someone else may think of you, but have the confidence that they are attracted to YOU for THEIR reasons. Not everyone can be Adonis or Aphrodite, but you can find attraction in most folk.

The only thing you are doing by being intimidated is giving in to negativity & allowing yourself missed opportunities to meet someone interested in you, maybe even leaving them wondering what's wrong with them, allowing negativity to multiply. So challenge those thoughts, banish them & enjoy life's opportunities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for the actual men I'm attracted too, I feel we're on the same playing field, no one is a higher league than the other."

It's about a mutual match! Usually comes down to personality for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to when I was much bigger, but not now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't do this. I'm here to meet people I find really attractive so this would be counterproductive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

Yes of course, think its only natural....there are some stunningly gorgeous people on here and its difficult not to compare yourself, but I know I'm not perfect, with lumps & bumps & curves (some of which are NOT in all the right places!) but I know I'm a good person with a good heart & good company...and I wouldnt want to meet anyone who was so shallow as to only look for "perfection". Oh and OP your pics are lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to, I had such low self esteem, that I found it hard to talk to women, in any situation.

But I got over it by forcing myself to get out of my comfort zone at least once every day.

The result is I've enjoyed meeting so many interesting people, that wouldn't have been possible before, I even went on a couple of dates with a glamour model, who I would have never approached before I gained my confidence.

Confidence is sexy, it doesn't matter if you are a size 8 or size 28, have a six pack or a barrel, without confidence, you're only living half a life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess somehow everyone does this subconsciously, even the model types I'm sure. So best is we all relax and just enjoy each other for what we are....beautiful human beings, everyone different and everyone interesting. Isn't this what the swinging world is about in the end....the variety and that there is something for everyone? So be happy and go out there and have fun...without worrying about a bit too much flesh here, some hair there or no hair at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always, OP.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think we all do this....

Most might. Certainly not all. "

Correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

All the time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Good god no, I am what I am and if I wasn't happy with something I would do my utmost to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

I think it's natural, I always compare myself to the women in the couples that we look at or meet. And always think does Mr NbN think she's prettier than me etc.

Mrs NbN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've backed out on a few threesomes as the wife / woman is much hotter than me- even though the man likes me!

We all have a tendency to compare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's natural for everyone! But if we get a compliment we tend to dismiss it as it doesn't fit with our own thoughts of ourselves "

It's not for me. I don't get intimidated or think anyone is out of my league. That's not me being big headed I just know my self worth and very body confident so if I get a knock back it doesn't bother me as there's plenty more to choose from. Also I'm not a the type of person to check my sent box. Yes I do get a bit of girl envy I'm only human but it wouldn't put me off messaging them. If anything it would incourage me. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find that I talk myself out of meeting alot because of it

Yes I do this a lot. My confidence isn't what it used to be I'm always putting myself down x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Has anyone ever thought that just maybe the person they think looks perfect in pictures might think exactly the same about them? We are our own worst critics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever thought that just maybe the person they think looks perfect in pictures might think exactly the same about them? We are our own worst critics..."

Yep

that's why i don't give it any thought. If someone's contacted me it's because they've seen something they like. I'm not gonna argue with them over that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever thought that just maybe the person they think looks perfect in pictures might think exactly the same about them? We are our own worst critics..."

Absolutely. But I don't care, because once something is in my head it's not shifting, so there's no point subjecting myself to it. And things like height or surgical enhancement aren't subjective, or clever angles, they just are what they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ita nice to know Im not the only person feeling the same

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Nope. I don't ever feel this way. There are very few i like enough to meet as it is without talking myself out of it. Beautiful people with beautiful bodies don't intimidate me. They excite me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone ever thought that just maybe the person they think looks perfect in pictures might think exactly the same about them? We are our own worst critics..."

I sometimes feel inferior but mostly I just feel different. I can't compete so I don't. I know that sometimes I do have something they want and that works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a persons attitude would put me off more than they way they looked...although I have turned down someone that I thought was too buff..but that's just my personal choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. My confidence this time last yr was probably the highest it's ever been, now it's vanished. It's a big part of why I'm not meeting, I'm back to being so self conscious that I'd not enjoy play.

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

I'm highly critical of myself most of the time,and i have prob said in the past I try to be positive a heck of a lot, im always aware of how I must look to others,but then I always think to myself...never judge a book by the cover,it's always nice to check the contents.

Weidly I get tongue tied a lot when trying conversations

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I frequently feel that I don't "see" what people see when they are _iewing my profile or physically me

I get intimidated by "bi"

It makes me feel the person is so much more accomplished than me being curious

I assume things when I should accept it don't know what's in others heads

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

The very reason my wife stopped swinging twenty years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slowly recovering my body self confidence to its original state through working out.

It's not the other person's fault if I feel shy of my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my singles profile I never felt intimidated by my meets other meets. I assumed that if someone showed interest in me it's because they found me attractive, and that was enough. I didn't feel in competition with anyone else as life is too short, and there's always someone younger and prettier around.

However, I'm a contradictory creature as I can't apply that logic to other scenarios. I feel intimidated by a person's wit and intellect. I'm shy with new people and rubbish at small-talk and can't help comparing my social skills to others and finding them lacking. I feel bland and uninteresting when around witty clever people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good god no, I am what I am and if I wasn't happy with something I would do my utmost to change it

Valid point.

A lot of people answering yes are referring to body issues which we do have to a certain amount, but generally it's not a big deal.

With us it's more about personality and socialising. We see the cliques forming on the club and social scene and are therefore intimidated breaking into that.

Yes you can do things to change your body. But changing who you are fundamentally? That can maybe be damaging to ones self esteem.

So there's the rub. It's not about confidence, it's about getting along with others.

And having issues possibly connected to a 'disability' doesn't always help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. If someone has messaged me to meet then i figure they must find me attractive. Ive plenty of pics for people to see what i look like.

I dont worry if theyre thinner than me or i think theyre prettier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

Not about other mens bodies the more ripped and toned the better for me it's more pleasing to me visually to see Mrs l with a pissed guy

But when couples message us i do look at the woman sometimes and think she is not going to want to meet me i am a tubby old man so don't reply sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this???

Not about other mens bodies the more ripped and toned the better for me it's more pleasing to me visually to see Mrs l with a ripped guy

But when couples message us i do look at the woman sometimes and think she is not going to want to meet me i am a tubby old man so don't reply sometimes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good god no, I am what I am and if I wasn't happy with something I would do my utmost to change it

Valid point.

A lot of people answering yes are referring to body issues which we do have to a certain amount, but generally it's not a big deal.

With us it's more about personality and socialising. We see the cliques forming on the club and social scene and are therefore intimidated breaking into that.

Yes you can do things to change your body. But changing who you are fundamentally? That can maybe be damaging to ones self esteem.

So there's the rub. It's not about confidence, it's about getting along with others.

And having issues possibly connected to a 'disability' doesn't always help. "

I'm severely disabled. I use a wheelchair or crutches as an incomplete paraplegic for the last 25 years. It has never prevented me from getting laid or made me feel less attractive than the next person. If anyone doesn't find me attractive because I can't walk properly, or have scars, I wouldn't want to be anywhere near them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I'm not intimidated by anyone - male or female...I'm very self-assured. If a super hot guy messages me and wants to meet it's because he likes what he's seen

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

I tend not to worry about my looks or body shape nor do I get intimidated by the looks or body shape of other men that includes cock size.

my reasons for thinking this way are very simple really if another person wants to meet me and have fun with me they obviously see something of value in me because of this fact I see no reason to worry about my looks body shape or cock size in comparison to others they have met are still meeting or who maybe there on the met .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just never know what the other person might think of you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

Yes definitely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was playing with my ex I always made sure it was me who chose who'd join us... So I could make sure he wouldn't fancy them more than he fancied me

This is why I won't meet couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes most definitely I look at some of these men and actually think I'm trying to win a losing battle here over a woman I'm like FFS how can I compete with that certain person when the woman is all over him. I try to run on faith now around women on here because you never know what they truly want until you start speaking maybe they're just flirting on here just a bit of banter maybe it's something serious going on i dont know you never know with women until you speak to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Never judge a book and all that. It's how you click that's important. Looks are superficial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was playing with my ex I always made sure it was me who chose who'd join us... So I could make sure he wouldn't fancy them more than he fancied me

This is why I won't meet couples."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Never judge a book and all that. It's how you click that's important. Looks are superficial

It's easier to click if you can look at each other without a grimace though

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

The older I get, the less shits I give

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They want me or they don't - I'm a little different to many women, so if others like me, then it's all systems go. I'm fairly confident, though I struggled meeting after my dad died suddenly, as I was more shaky in my wellbeing.

If in doubt, it can be great of you to do it, for the hell of it and to move on - or recognise if it's a time to look after yourself in a different way and to not meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Had messages from some gorgeous guys, and instantly thought 'you're way out of my league' so made up some excuse.

Even the ones I do meet (and have repeatedly met) I still wonder why they're meeting me.

First time I've said that out loud...damn Vodka!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I also look at their previous meets and if I see they have only met skinny pretty girls then I will just remind them to read my profile as I'm not a pretty skinny Minnie and won't want to waste their time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol "
You should of seen my ex then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? "
I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao "

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

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Yeah true lol

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

Yeah true lol

In the words of sir mix-a-lot... This baby's got back! Lol

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

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I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

Yeah true lol

In the words of sir mix-a-lot... This baby's got back! Lol "

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

"
Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though "

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing..

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. "
Yeah i can try give you that experience again

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl "
Lmao everything is worth a try

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl Lmao everything is worth a try

Surely not... A big burly rugby playing cross dresser with a day old stubble who calls himself Suzanne can't be worth a try?!

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl Lmao everything is worth a try

Surely not... A big burly rugby playing cross dresser with a day old stubble who calls himself Suzanne can't be worth a try?!

"
Let me rephrase that some things are worth trying lmao

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl Lmao everything is worth a try

Surely not... A big burly rugby playing cross dresser with a day old stubble who calls himself Suzanne can't be worth a try?!

Let me rephrase that some things are worth trying lmao "

Phew... Had me worried there! Lol

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

I try to reach my goal my ex never complained anyway

Big bottoms are a curse... Certain positions can't be done which is annoying for me

Beauty to some though for the touching grabbing pulling

bet it is annoying though

Very.. Only been one occassion where he was big enough to enter when I was able to be stood upright and facing the wall with him behind me or laid on my

Front with legs closed... Which was amazing.. Yeah i can try give you that experience again

Try... You sure.. Wouldnt wanna put you out or anything! Pmsl Lmao everything is worth a try

Surely not... A big burly rugby playing cross dresser with a day old stubble who calls himself Suzanne can't be worth a try?!

Let me rephrase that some things are worth trying lmao

Phew... Had me worried there! Lol "
Lmao good job i rephrased it then lol

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

I do all the time. Can't sleep because I'm overthinking

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over a year ago

The only reason I won't meet couples is because I will compare myself to this woman who would be a million times better than me in every way (in my head anyway)

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over a year ago

i used to as past experiences left me lacking in confidence - but the last few years have been with someone who makes me realise i am sexy and so not anymore -

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over a year ago

Almost everyone at some point in their life must have felt that way. Especially on fab.

Depending on the situation you find yourself in.

I know I had and still do time to time.

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over a year ago

I used to be

Now I am confident in the body I am in and with the man I am.

Never compare yourself to some one else , we all have flaws .

So, celebrate the person you are

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over a year ago

"I used to be

Now I am confident in the body I am in and with the man I am.

Never compare yourself to some one else , we all have flaws .

So, celebrate the person you are "

Absolutely.

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over a year ago

"I used to be

Now I am confident in the body I am in and with the man I am.

Never compare yourself to some one else , we all have flaws .

So, celebrate the person you are "

Damn right

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

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Nope

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over a year ago

I don't get intimidated but I have had people reject a meet with me for this reason. It's frustrating.

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over a year ago

"I don't get intimidated but I have had people reject a meet with me for this reason. It's frustrating. "

Frustrating but probably for the best. Confidence is a very sexy attribute. I wouldn't want to meet someone who constantly compares themselves to others or worries how they compare to others.

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over a year ago

Yes we both do this. It's just human nature, but I will say that I've been looking at profiles as I've been reading the posts and can honestly say that I think all of the ladies here are stunning

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't get intimidated but I have had people reject a meet with me for this reason. It's frustrating.

Frustrating but probably for the best. Confidence is a very sexy attribute. I wouldn't want to meet someone who constantly compares themselves to others or worries how they compare to others."

Same here.

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"I don't get intimidated but I have had people reject a meet with me for this reason. It's frustrating.

Frustrating but probably for the best. Confidence is a very sexy attribute. I wouldn't want to meet someone who constantly compares themselves to others or worries how they compare to others."

Yeah I agree 100%.

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over a year ago

"Most defo...With guys and girls too.

I do this too

Don't get me wrong.. I am a confident person.. I just don't wanna be a test for someone to try out a big bird.

I want someone with experience with us curvier and meatier girls! Lol You should of seen my ex then

Lol... You like the bigger girl I guess? I like a bit of meat you know what they say more cushion for the pushing lmao

On the other hand.. Too much cushion.. Especially in the bottom region like I have... Can be an issue is someone is only average.... If you get my drift.

Lol, yes, Mrs agrees with you on that one.

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over a year ago

No.

I'm not as tall, good looking, well-built, endowed, experienced, funny, or young as most of the men on fab.

If I compared myself to anyone else I'd find something about them which I didn't measure up to.

So I don't do that.

I know the people I meet want to meet me, so I let them meet me; not a version of me that is trying to be something else.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

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"No.

I'm not as tall, good looking, well-built, endowed, experienced, funny, or young as most of the men on fab.

If I compared myself to anyone else I'd find something about them which I didn't measure up to.

So I don't do that.

I know the people I meet want to meet me, so I let them meet me; not a version of me that is trying to be something else. "

Let's meet

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over a year ago

"No.

I'm not as tall, good looking, well-built, endowed, experienced, funny, or young as most of the men on fab.

If I compared myself to anyone else I'd find something about them which I didn't measure up to.

So I don't do that.

I know the people I meet want to meet me, so I let them meet me; not a version of me that is trying to be something else.

Let's meet

MrsSB

See! A bit of self-belief works

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over a year ago

"Good god no, I am what I am and if I wasn't happy with something I would do my utmost to change it

Valid point.

A lot of people answering yes are referring to body issues which we do have to a certain amount, but generally it's not a big deal.

With us it's more about personality and socialising. We see the cliques forming on the club and social scene and are therefore intimidated breaking into that.

Yes you can do things to change your body. But changing who you are fundamentally? That can maybe be damaging to ones self esteem.

So there's the rub. It's not about confidence, it's about getting along with others.

And having issues possibly connected to a 'disability' doesn't always help.

Well yes, hopefully without sounding patronising, respect to you on that. But I wasn't talking about physical attractiveness.

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over a year ago

"I don't get intimidated but I have had people reject a meet with me for this reason. It's frustrating.

Frustrating but probably for the best. Confidence is a very sexy attribute. I wouldn't want to meet someone who constantly compares themselves to others or worries how they compare to others."

Morning beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a lightbulb moment. Nobody contacts me because I'm far too good looking, way out of everyone's league!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this??? "

There will ALWAYS be someone younger, slimmer, prettier than me: fact!

This is no strings sex so I could care less about previous women potential meets have fucked.

There has only been one exception and that was my last one on one meet in November 2013. I got chatting to a man off here. Our telephone conversations went on for hours. He was Dutch, spoke six languages, had his own business, had lived in France for ten years, his girlfriends had been blonde, leggy and younger. I was short, fat, black and older. When I saw his picture, think Bruce Willis/Jason Statham I thought why are you wasting your time: you have no chance. When he saw my picture and still called me I panicked.

I was more surprised at myself as I've never compared myself to anybody or felt insecure but I had serious concerns, he'll think me too fat...too old!

He said we should meet for a date. He phoned to say he was stuck in traffic, then he'd gone to the wrong entrance, I thought he'd stood me up until I saw him running towards me. He dropped to his knees and begged forgiveness for being late, much to the amusement of the people in the museum.

We've not been apart since. He's downstairs making coffee...that said, he could be on a flight to Columbia for the beans the time he's taking!

We all have insecurities, if we compare ourselves to others and beat ourselves up we'd never get out of bed. I still look at Ben and think wtf?!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just had a lightbulb moment. Nobody contacts me because I'm far too good looking, way out of everyone's league!

you too eh? It's a cross we have to bear

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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We won't meet anyone who thinks they're better than us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah if they are really fit I send a message anyway, obviously I don't get a reply

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over a year ago

"We won't meet anyone who thinks they're better than us."

How do you assertain that? Do you ask them to score you and themselves out of 10?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time!

I think it's human nature to compare yourself to others - though not a very healthy habit!

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over a year ago

"Myself and a female friend were having a chat about meeting couples and single women .and she asked if I ever got intimidated by the womans figure or looks ...

After thinking about it all last night I have to admit that yes I do ..

I think on a subconcious level I automatically rule out a meet with them because I feel theyre prettier and thiner than myself ..

I also tend to do the same with some guys

My question is does anyone else do this???

There will ALWAYS be someone younger, slimmer, prettier than me: fact!

This is no strings sex so I could care less about previous women potential meets have fucked.

I was more surprised at myself as I've never compared myself to anybody or felt insecure but I had serious concerns, he'll think me too fat...too old!

We've not been apart since. He's downstairs making coffee...that said, he could be on a flight to Columbia for the beans the time he's taking!

We all have insecurities, if we compare ourselves to others and beat ourselves up we'd never get out of bed. I still look at Ben and think wtf?!!

That's beautiful.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Generally I don't

Don't get me wrong I have my own insecurities (I don't like my nose) but I also know that the people mailing me or that I'm mailing will have there's. I can sometimes think "oh I wish I had her legs" etc but I wouldn't say that's me being intimated by the person in thinking that, I'm merely just thinking to myself those legs look nice it's a complement to the other lady really

As long as there's mutual attraction these things shouldn't be an issue

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over a year ago

"Good god no, I am what I am and if I wasn't happy with something I would do my utmost to change it

Valid point.

A lot of people answering yes are referring to body issues which we do have to a certain amount, but generally it's not a big deal.

With us it's more about personality and socialising. We see the cliques forming on the club and social scene and are therefore intimidated breaking into that.

Yes you can do things to change your body. But changing who you are fundamentally? That can maybe be damaging to ones self esteem.

So there's the rub. It's not about confidence, it's about getting along with others.

And having issues possibly connected to a 'disability' doesn't always help.

Well yes, hopefully without sounding patronising, respect to you on that. But I wasn't talking about physical attractiveness. "

So what did you mean by issues possibly connected to a disability?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it sad to observe how so many people let their insecurities get in the way of having a good time. At least they are honest about it though.

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over a year ago

"We won't meet anyone who thinks they're better than us."

I would. I'm fucking someone I fancy. They are the loser- fucking the person they think is a scummy minger.

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