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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A family member of mine promised me that when she was getting rid of her welsh dresser i could have it,i already have one but i collect china and wanted another,she rang a couple of weeks ago and said she was moving in September and come and fetch it.I rang her this morning and said i was coming to pick it up and she said,ive sold it,i couldn't believe my ears ,I'm just so upset as i would have paid for it if that's what she wanted,but as i was promised it i feel hurt and upset that she would do this to me,to me a promise is a promise and its not like she needed the money anyway.How would you react in this situation.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'd start a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pfffft.... family eh! Tell em to get knotted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A family member of mine promised me that when she was getting rid of her welsh dresser i could have it,i already have one but i collect china and wanted another,she rang a couple of weeks ago and said she was moving in September and come and fetch it.I rang her this morning and said i was coming to pick it up and she said,ive sold it,i couldn't believe my ears ,I'm just so upset as i would have paid for it if that's what she wanted,but as i was promised it i feel hurt and upset that she would do this to me,to me a promise is a promise and its not like she needed the money anyway.How would you react in this situation."

I would have made firm arrangements with her weeks ago when she confirmed she was moving. moving house is difficult enough, i'd have assumed you were no longer interested if you hadn't got in touch for weeks

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By *uddlybear2015Man
over a year ago

BEDFORD

Is arson an overreaction??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pfffft.... family eh! Tell em to get knotted. "
Wish i was that type,

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'd put some shelves up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A family member of mine promised me that when she was getting rid of her welsh dresser i could have it,i already have one but i collect china and wanted another,she rang a couple of weeks ago and said she was moving in September and come and fetch it.I rang her this morning and said i was coming to pick it up and she said,ive sold it,i couldn't believe my ears ,I'm just so upset as i would have paid for it if that's what she wanted,but as i was promised it i feel hurt and upset that she would do this to me,to me a promise is a promise and its not like she needed the money anyway.How would you react in this situation.

I would have made firm arrangements with her weeks ago when she confirmed she was moving. moving house is difficult enough, i'd have assumed you were no longer interested if you hadn't got in touch for weeks"
She said i had until September to pick it up and ive been in touch

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

If it had sentimental value to me I'd be angry and see if I could find who she sold it to, as well as having words and not trusting her in the future.

If it didn't, and was any old dressers I'd just make a mental note of what she did then go and buy another if that's what I needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be upset, I probably wouldn't speak to them for a very long while. It would have been polite for her to tell you she wanted to sell it and give you the opportunity to buy it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of life the older you get you become battle hardened to things like this and become a duck and let it slide. No point building the blood pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can understand you being upset by this OP, unfortunately the sad reality is there's nothing you can do about it now.

Just move on, but remember that they may be a time when that family member may need a favour off you sometime in the future.

Karma......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can understand you being upset by this OP, unfortunately the sad reality is there's nothing you can do about it now.

Just move on, but remember that they may be a time when that family member may need a favour off you sometime in the future.

Karma......"
Its sad as shes my aunt and we've always been very close

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would be upset, I probably wouldn't speak to them for a very long while. It would have been polite for her to tell you she wanted to sell it and give you the opportunity to buy it. X"
Exactly .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most things on here, we are only hearing one side of the story of the Welsh dresser.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

i guess you could take a trip to Ikea.. they may have a Swedish dresser

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like most things on here, we are only hearing one side of the story of the Welsh dresser."
I dont lie lol ive told it exactly how it went.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me the Welsh Dresser is not the issue but more importantly it the breech of a promise.

I share your sentiments OP and would feel so let down. All I can say is that it seems not everyone shares your thoughtfulness in fealing with similar issues. You seem better than this so rise above it and dont let it annoy you. Put it down to experince and sustain your moral high ground.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

this is the sort of thing my family would do so i wouldnt be surprised. my gran said my brother could have a painting then sold it, dont know why but she must of had her reasons. people change their minds all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be upset, I probably wouldn't speak to them for a very long while. It would have been polite for her to tell you she wanted to sell it and give you the opportunity to buy it. X"

I don't quite get this....what would not speaking to them for a long while achieve??

Have an adult conversation saying you appreciate that she might have had a reason for selling it but you would have liked the opportunity to buy it from her

Is a piece of furniture worth falling out over?

#First World Problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like most things on here, we are only hearing one side of the story of the Welsh dresser. I dont lie lol ive told it exactly how it went."

Maybe she did need the money, not necessarily for herself but for someone else. Maybe she was hoping you'd offer to buy it but when you didn't she sold it to someone who did. Why can't you just buy one or were you just expecting to get one for free?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell her that I was disappointed she didn't keep her word because that would mean much more to me than the material item.

I'd mean it too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like most things on here, we are only hearing one side of the story of the Welsh dresser. I dont lie lol ive told it exactly how it went.

Maybe she did need the money, not necessarily for herself but for someone else. Maybe she was hoping you'd offer to buy it but when you didn't she sold it to someone who did. Why can't you just buy one or were you just expecting to get one for free?"
No i certainly wasn't.it was promised to me years ago, not a free loader if she wanted money i would have paid her.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would thank god I had my health, wealth and happiness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To me the Welsh Dresser is not the issue but more importantly it the breech of a promise.

I share your sentiments OP and would feel so let down. All I can say is that it seems not everyone shares your thoughtfulness in fealing with similar issues. You seem better than this so rise above it and dont let it annoy you. Put it down to experince and sustain your moral high ground. "
Thankyou,its not the dresser its the promise she made.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would thank god I had my health, wealth and happiness "
I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like most things on here, we are only hearing one side of the story of the Welsh dresser. I dont lie lol ive told it exactly how it went.

Maybe she did need the money, not necessarily for herself but for someone else. Maybe she was hoping you'd offer to buy it but when you didn't she sold it to someone who did. Why can't you just buy one or were you just expecting to get one for free? No i certainly wasn't.it was promised to me years ago, not a free loader if she wanted money i would have paid her."

people get old, forgetful,

forgive your family member and move on, life is too short for grudges

treat then well and with kindness, if they feel guilt they will feel more guilty that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would probably feel disappointed but I would feel more disappointed if I fell out with family because of it. Some things we just have to take on the chin and move on from, deep breaths and happy thoughts. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would probably feel disappointed but I would feel more disappointed if I fell out with family because of it. Some things we just have to take on the chin and move on from, deep breaths and happy thoughts. X "

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