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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let me just say not us.

Has anyone ever experienced this from anyone they have met??!

We have experienced it when meeting males not so much females males have a tendency to be more apprehensive we have found Wether it be either nervousness or Penis size compared to male half of us (he's average nothing gigantic) even in one case had a male unable to perform he was that nervous

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet those with lots of verifications....they tend to be more experienced chilled and relaxed when it comes to getting down to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me just say not us.

Has anyone ever experienced this from anyone they have met??!

We have experienced it when meeting males not so much females males have a tendency to be more apprehensive we have found Wether it be either nervousness or Penis size compared to male half of us (he's average nothing gigantic) even in one case had a male unable to perform he was that nervous

Thoughts?"

I'd be inclined to think it's nerves. I had a meet where he couldn't perform as he was so nervous, he couldn't apologise more and was very annoyed with himself but I found it quite endearing that he opened up to me and told me the reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a guy who had been v good in bed but a hour or so later in the club would it stand to attention, not for quite a while! And he had been to clubs quite a bit so yes nerves do affect even the experienced, its the nature of the beast!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet those with lots of verifications....they tend to be more experienced chilled and relaxed when it comes to getting down to it "

Yes , this would be the answer .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly? I'd be nervous meeting anyone new. That's what a social is for isn't it? To both relax.

One night stands or spontaneous sex is different, being horny and 'lustfull want' feels great and produces great sex.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It terrifies me. But I am rational so I just suck it up and get my kit off when necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understandable, especially for the single male meeting a couple, we generally only go for males who are verified as having play meets with couples previously, it may sound harsh and I would be sympathetic if it happened, but our time for meets is rare so we wouldn't bother risking someone inexperienced.

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By *omliteMan
over a year ago

Waterside

Originally , a long time ago, It was a worry but with experience you realise that if you get to the clothes off stage you probably look ok to who you are with, whatever insecuritys you may have about yourself.

If its any consolation I have yet to be in the situation where I get my kit off and either..

A) She laughs hysterically and with tears in her eyes puts her kit back on and says " No..Sorry.. I couldn't"

or B)

Looks at you in horror and runs to the loo to get sick before running out the door.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We have had one guy who just couldn't perform, it was cool with us. I did get fucked by my partner which is always fantastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting naked doesnt bother me in the slightest, im a bit of a naturist anyway.

But nervousness has got the better of me in the past. That's life. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly "

this is me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting naked doesnt bother me in the slightest, im a bit of a naturist anyway.

But nervousness has got the better of me in the past. That's life. Lol "

You delicious devil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At times, yes. But it's mainly because of my excessive body hair.

But if I know that a person likes a hairy bod, then that gives me the confidence to flaunt it if you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It terrifies me. But I am rational so I just suck it up and get my kit off when necessary."
you go girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

this is me too "

Its the worst isn't it although from your pics i think you have a lovely figure and im sure anyone who meets you will think the same. But its hard to ignore your insecurities xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever happened to the art of seduction?....give 'em a good passionate kiss and help them with their clothes.x

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By *ali 69Man
over a year ago

jersey


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

this is me too "
You look divine and no real man would ever be put off by you . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sympathise with this. My last meet I was incredibly nervous, eased off once things started moving but I still was pretty nervous. Never been in front of another guy for an mmf so that'll be an interesting one if it happens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let me just say not us.

Has anyone ever experienced this from anyone they have met??!

We have experienced it when meeting males not so much females males have a tendency to be more apprehensive we have found Wether it be either nervousness or Penis size compared to male half of us (he's average nothing gigantic) even in one case had a male unable to perform he was that nervous

Thoughts?"

Nope... never had an issue with it, as regards performing again no issues, when it comes to penis size I am also average but even if the other guy is huge (which I've encountered) it makes no difference to me... but I accept that there are guy's who are nervous or uncomfortable...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting naked doesnt bother me in the slightest, im a bit of a naturist anyway.

But nervousness has got the better of me in the past. That's life. Lol

You delicious devil "

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I am nervous meeting anyone, that's socials or meet..

Nervousness, the anticipation, excitement all play their own part.

Don't like the term perform as that not why I'm there otherwise I may of just joined the circus. Never had a problem with my appendage working as he should!

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By *xploringThisWorldMan
over a year ago

collier row

I always seem to be the first person naked at at meets or after any dates? Haha

. . I reckon im just a perv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

this is me too

Its the worst isn't it although from your pics i think you have a lovely figure and im sure anyone who meets you will think the same. But its hard to ignore your insecurities xx"

Thank you raspberry...it's something I'm working on.

Over the past I've had hurtful comments.

a just now received a hurtful message. .. does hurt a bit

I hope you find confidence in having a tummy...it's one minor part of an entire being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a nervous meet really unsettling. Personally I think a little nerves are normal when meeting someone new but if they're like a rabbit in the headlights I wouldn't go any further. I like a confident guy. A nervous wreck doesn't appeal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a nervous meet really unsettling. Personally I think a little nerves are normal when meeting someone new but if they're like a rabbit in the headlights I wouldn't go any further. I like a confident guy. A nervous wreck doesn't appeal. "

I enter the bar by kicking open the door, walk over to your table shouting the order to the barkeep, "your best champaign over here for this gorgeous woman.'. I sit down and ask ' why were you early, a woman as beautiful as you shouldn't wait for anything!'

this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a nervous meet really unsettling. Personally I think a little nerves are normal when meeting someone new but if they're like a rabbit in the headlights I wouldn't go any further. I like a confident guy. A nervous wreck doesn't appeal.

I enter the bar by kicking open the door, walk over to your table shouting the order to the barkeep, "your best champaign over here for this gorgeous woman.'. I sit down and ask ' why were you early, a woman as beautiful as you shouldn't wait for anything!'

this?"

*swoon*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

this is me too

Its the worst isn't it although from your pics i think you have a lovely figure and im sure anyone who meets you will think the same. But its hard to ignore your insecurities xx

Thank you raspberry...it's something I'm working on.

Over the past I've had hurtful comments.

a just now received a hurtful message. .. does hurt a bit

I hope you find confidence in having a tummy...it's one minor part of an entire being."

Your welcome sweets and people only throw hurtful comments around to cover their own insecurities or because they're jealous. So love yourself for you and ignore the negativity xx

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I am scared to be naked full stop lol

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I'll have to get back to you on this one..

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Probably, once upon a time.

But it's been a career of aversion therapy and now I'm immured to embarrassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do naked ever..always have my stomach covered.

Perish the thought of someone seeing me totally naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been scared to get naked but perhaps that's cos of my rugby culture background

Naked miles after away games in winter are great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be very self concious about it, (too skinny), but once i built up the self confidence (or beligerence) to post body shots on my profile I reasoned that people know what I look like naked and still want to meet me... and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite shy...and not keen on some of my wobbly bits, but once I know things are going well and I am naked I tend to become much less so...apparently the bits I don't really like, don't bother anyone else, so naked me tends to be alot more confident...who knew

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I don't get naked on meets and at clubs - I keep some lingerie on to cover the squidgy, wobbly bits that I think are a total turn off.

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

No issues getting me kit off, if I could get away with it I'd never wear clothes.

1st meet nerves had that happen though luckily the couple I met were awesome and she started to play with her partner while talking dirty to me as I played with her. Didn't take long to get relaxed, get it up and get things going lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah not an issue for me.... I get too horny just from thoughts and it maked me just wanna get my clothes off....

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

I used to be very shy but with experience I am getting over this. I am sure many others are the same.

Get to meet people and keep trying, closing your eyes and pretending no one else is there helps !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate it! I worry my meet will be put off by my belly

this is me too

Its the worst isn't it although from your pics i think you have a lovely figure and im sure anyone who meets you will think the same. But its hard to ignore your insecurities xx

Thank you raspberry...it's something I'm working on.

Over the past I've had hurtful comments.

a just now received a hurtful message. .. does hurt a bit

I hope you find confidence in having a tummy...it's one minor part of an entire being.

Your welcome sweets and people only throw hurtful comments around to cover their own insecurities or because they're jealous. So love yourself for you and ignore the negativity xx"

You're a star.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be very shy but with experience I am getting over this. I am sure many others are the same.

Get to meet people and keep trying, closing your eyes and pretending no one else is there helps !!!"

haha can I quote you this when i do my first mmf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Phoebe) very rarely get fully naked infront of our meets ( especially on a first meet, so I can understand guys not being comfortable with it too.

Have also had a fair few guys who couldn't perform, some with verifications a-plenty some we met at clubs so don't know if they do or not. But it usually seems to be had a couple of drinks for courage can't get it up after rather than nerves themselves causing the problem. But I could be wrong, it could be both

We just do other things and if it comes up it does if not then it doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm not very shy in front of meets. Let's face it if you're getting down to fucking then I do find naked is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do naked. Lingerie stays on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do naked. Lingerie stays on."

I'm actually an uber fan of the lingerie. Keeps the imagination guessing and looks fabulous anyway! Never know why some people rush to get it off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do naked. Lingerie stays on.

I'm actually an uber fan of the lingerie. Keeps the imagination guessing and looks fabulous anyway! Never know why some people rush to get it off lol "

I make such an effort to put everything together nicely too. Harness bra, bra, nice panties to match, stockings or crotchless tights. Getting naked ruins all the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had much of a problem getting naked. If people are happy having this face looking at them, I have no worries about my body!

I think everyone has something they don't like about themselves, but the majority of others don't see it, take no notice as it's simply not an issue for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I make such an effort to put everything together nicely too. Harness bra, bra, nice panties to match, stockings or crotchless tights. Getting naked ruins all the fun "

I love you for all that you've just written :P

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I insist on staying clothed. If I was asked to undress I would be a cross undresser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I insist on staying clothed. If I was asked to undress I would be a cross undresser "

Don't get cross, get even

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